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"I suppose as well why dont they say so. Anyway it's cool just that its a hook up site without much hooking up. ??" It’s a swingers site not a hook up site..: you want t*nder for that. Swinging is so much more than just sex. I would suggest if you are really intrested in swinging get yourself to a social and meet people. | |||
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"It’s a swingers site not a hook up site..: you want t*nder for that. Swinging is so much more than just sex." It really really is. Some of my very best friends are people I've met through swinging. It's a safe space for us, isn't it? A little world where we can talk about everything without anyone judging. When I'm with swinging friends, it's like taking a pair of tight shoes off. "I would suggest if you are really intrested in swinging get yourself to a social and meet people. " Always, always the socials. x | |||
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"I would reply back explaining "you're not my type" or "you live too far away" and I get a response of "What is your type" and "Distance isn't an issue for me". I've had insults for saying no thank you and I've had a couple of lovely replies saying "Thanks for letting me know." I've got my inbox below 100 once because it's ridiculous the amount of messages women get. I had a delightful message of being called a "c*nt" then blocked because I took too long to reply (even though I had given him my kik!) Fab can be a great place, but it can also be vile at times. I'd suggest update your profile a little bit if you would like a reply from women and couples. x" We completely agree with this. We often reply to thank someone for the message and give a brief polite reason why its a no but it often leads to further messages and we have to resort to blocking them. Like we said before though, make a bit of effort with profile text and you may be surprised how many more replies you get to messages. | |||
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"I would reply back explaining "you're not my type" or "you live too far away" and I get a response of "What is your type" and "Distance isn't an issue for me". I've had insults for saying no thank you and I've had a couple of lovely replies saying "Thanks for letting me know." I've got my inbox below 100 once because it's ridiculous the amount of messages women get. I had a delightful message of being called a "c*nt" then blocked because I took too long to reply (even though I had given him my kik!) Fab can be a great place, but it can also be vile at times. I'd suggest update your profile a little bit if you would like a reply from women and couples. x We completely agree with this. We often reply to thank someone for the message and give a brief polite reason why its a no but it often leads to further messages and we have to resort to blocking them. Like we said before though, make a bit of effort with profile text and you may be surprised how many more replies you get to messages." This is our experience too. | |||
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"Is it just me or everyone else. If i'm interested I'll send a message with the expectation of receiving I'm interested or sorry thanks no. Seems weird that when no limit on messages people don't bother. Not being big headed but I'm pretty good looking, decent sized tool and a gentleman. Anyway Thought I'd ask the question why women dont respond b4 iGive up on this site" Guys outnumber females and couples here 100-1. Your inbox may be empty but theirs are not. A stream of one line 'hey how are you today?' messages and the like every single day. Do you really expect them to answer you just because you contacted them? The site rules are there for that purpose ie a no reply should be interpreted as a polite no thank you. Nearly all of the messages we get every day are from guys who clealry didn't bother to read our profile and don't remotely match what we're looking for. Why should we waste our time replying to them? | |||
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"I suppose as well why dont they say so. Anyway it's cool just that its a hook up site without much hooking up. ??" That one statement explains a lot. You seem to expect hookups for sex with minimal effort, even with your own profile? If you're going to try socials, I assume you'll make an effort to present yourself nicely, look good, be polite and respectful etc. Does your profile and attitude here do the same thing? | |||
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"I suppose as well why dont they say so. Anyway it's cool just that its a hook up site without much hooking up. ??" Haha you nailed your coffin with these words right here.. I am a single guy and I agree it’s much easier in person to strike up a conversation with people but I have met some great couples and women on here so it’s worth it in the end. | |||
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"I simply can't be arsed. Rude I know, but us single ladies are inundated on times. " Exactly this! I feel bad though when I'm in the forums commenting but ignoring my inbox x | |||
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"Perhaps take a look at your profile. I never respond to anyone who hasn’t set a profile picture. Also you have no text content - which again wouldn’t get a reply from myself. Women on here are often subjected to a barrage of abuse when no matter how politely we say no thank you so it’s far easier to either just delete or some choose to block to. " Exactly if I say no thanks I have abuse so it’s easier to just not reply x | |||
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"Perhaps take a look at your profile. I never respond to anyone who hasn’t set a profile picture. Also you have no text content - which again wouldn’t get a reply from myself. Women on here are often subjected to a barrage of abuse when no matter how politely we say no thank you so it’s far easier to either just delete or some choose to block to. Exactly if I say no thanks I have abuse so it’s easier to just not reply x" I've then had messages "Can't even read my message and delete it. (Insert Insult of being a bitch, inconsiderate, you think you're better)" | |||
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"Perhaps take a look at your profile. I never respond to anyone who hasn’t set a profile picture. Also you have no text content - which again wouldn’t get a reply from myself. Women on here are often subjected to a barrage of abuse when no matter how politely we say no thank you so it’s far easier to either just delete or some choose to block to. Exactly if I say no thanks I have abuse so it’s easier to just not reply x I've then had messages "Can't even read my message and delete it. (Insert Insult of being a bitch, inconsiderate, you think you're better)"" Yep that’s the ones or ‘your fat/ugly/tramp/slut............ x | |||
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"Perhaps take a look at your profile. I never respond to anyone who hasn’t set a profile picture. Also you have no text content - which again wouldn’t get a reply from myself. Women on here are often subjected to a barrage of abuse when no matter how politely we say no thank you so it’s far easier to either just delete or some choose to block to. Exactly if I say no thanks I have abuse so it’s easier to just not reply x I've then had messages "Can't even read my message and delete it. (Insert Insult of being a bitch, inconsiderate, you think you're better)" Yep that’s the ones or ‘your fat/ugly/tramp/slut............ x" Or "I wasn't interested in you anyway!" Lmao. | |||
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"Perhaps take a look at your profile. I never respond to anyone who hasn’t set a profile picture. Also you have no text content - which again wouldn’t get a reply from myself. Women on here are often subjected to a barrage of abuse when no matter how politely we say no thank you so it’s far easier to either just delete or some choose to block to. Exactly if I say no thanks I have abuse so it’s easier to just not reply x I've then had messages "Can't even read my message and delete it. (Insert Insult of being a bitch, inconsiderate, you think you're better)" Yep that’s the ones or ‘your fat/ugly/tramp/slut............ x Or "I wasn't interested in you anyway!" Lmao. " lol yes xx | |||
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"I simply can't be arsed. Rude I know, but us single ladies are inundated on times. " I totally concur. | |||
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"I suppose as well why dont they say so. Anyway it's cool just that its a hook up site without much hooking up. ?? Haha you nailed your coffin with these words right here.. I am a single guy and I agree it’s much easier in person to strike up a conversation with people but I have met some great couples and women on here so it’s worth it in the end. " Well said | |||
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"I don't reply to everyone and I'm not receiving hundreds or thousands of messages a day. I had a one word message last night, didn't really make me want to reply. " Why not? What was the word? | |||
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"I simply can't be arsed. Rude I know, but us single ladies are inundated on times. Exactly this! I feel bad though when I'm in the forums commenting but ignoring my inbox x" The thing is, you answer one message, and in the time you've done that, another 10 appear. I dont know anyone who has time for that shiz. Its easier to just pick through and answer the messages that stand out | |||
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"I don't reply to everyone and I'm not receiving hundreds or thousands of messages a day. I had a one word message last night, didn't really make me want to reply. Why not? What was the word? " Hi | |||
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"I simply can't be arsed. Rude I know, but us single ladies are inundated on times. Exactly this! I feel bad though when I'm in the forums commenting but ignoring my inbox x The thing is, you answer one message, and in the time you've done that, another 10 appear. I dont know anyone who has time for that shiz. Its easier to just pick through and answer the messages that stand out " I wish there was a way to hide when you're online. x | |||
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"I would personally remove the ‘expectation‘ when you send a message! Trust me, if you don’t expect a response then it doesn’t hit you when you don’t get one! I also send messages to ladies and get nothing back, and that’s ok as I’m clearly not for them! Happy fabbing " Yup this is definitely our approach, I delete initial messages we send so I can't check if they've been read or deleted etc. And then sometimes you get a happy surprise | |||
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"I I wish there was a way to hide when you're online. x" There is, you can hide your profile. Check your messages then unhide | |||
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"I don't reply to everyone and I'm not receiving hundreds or thousands of messages a day. I had a one word message last night, didn't really make me want to reply. Why not? What was the word? Hi " Stop being fussy I get longer messages but they normally just say "your site support is ending" | |||
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"Perhaps take a look at your profile. I never respond to anyone who hasn’t set a profile picture. Also you have no text content - which again wouldn’t get a reply from myself. Women on here are often subjected to a barrage of abuse when no matter how politely we say no thank you so it’s far easier to either just delete or some choose to block to. " I totally agree with this. L Pictures and profile content is a must for me and if your message says something like "hi" or "I'd love to fuck you" and nothing else then it's a no from me | |||
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"I don't reply to everyone and I'm not receiving hundreds or thousands of messages a day. I had a one word message last night, didn't really make me want to reply. Why not? What was the word? Hi Stop being fussy I get longer messages but they normally just say "your site support is ending" " I had one of those lovely messages last week | |||
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"Is it just me or everyone else. If i'm interested I'll send a message with the expectation of receiving I'm interested or sorry thanks no. Seems weird that when no limit on messages people don't bother. Not being big headed but I'm pretty good looking, decent sized tool and a gentleman. Anyway Thought I'd ask the question why women dont respond b4 iGive up on this site" I think the big issue is speaking from experience of an old couples account. If you reply stating why you aren't interested it dents the men ego and they can get border lone abusive. I'd imagine this is even worse for women as apposed to couples. | |||
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"Perhaps take a look at your profile. I never respond to anyone who hasn’t set a profile picture. Also you have no text content - which again wouldn’t get a reply from myself. Women on here are often subjected to a barrage of abuse when no matter how politely we say no thank you so it’s far easier to either just delete or some choose to block to. " | |||
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"Perhaps take a look at your profile. I never respond to anyone who hasn’t set a profile picture. Also you have no text content - which again wouldn’t get a reply from myself. Women on here are often subjected to a barrage of abuse when no matter how politely we say no thank you so it’s far easier to either just delete or some choose to block to. " Messaging is a pointless exercise. If you want to meet people and have fun you need to get off your ass and get to a club or social. People will see you for who you really are then. And no good giving excuses that you can't get there etc as plenty of others bust their gut getting to them. It grips my balls that we continue to get these sort of threads from single males that expect results but don't want to put in the effort | |||
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" Messaging is a pointless exercise. If you want to meet people and have fun you need to get off your ass and get to a club or social. People will see you for who you really are then. And no good giving excuses that you can't get there etc as plenty of others bust their gut getting to them. It grips my balls that we continue to get these sort of threads from single males that expect results but don't want to put in the effort " I concur, get yourself to a social. I did and now I'm drowning in pussy. Honestly mate you wouldn't believe it. All joking aside, a social is a good idea. I did my first the other week, shit my self but met some great people. A lovely lady held my hand. Definitely going to another. | |||
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"Perhaps take a look at your profile. I never respond to anyone who hasn’t set a profile picture. Also you have no text content - which again wouldn’t get a reply from myself. Women on here are often subjected to a barrage of abuse when no matter how politely we say no thank you so it’s far easier to either just delete or some choose to block to. Messaging is a pointless exercise. If you want to meet people and have fun you need to get off your ass and get to a club or social. People will see you for who you really are then. And no good giving excuses that you can't get there etc as plenty of others bust their gut getting to them. It grips my balls that we continue to get these sort of threads from single males that expect results but don't want to put in the effort " Not sure we entirely agree with this. Don't get us wrong, socials and clubs are a great way of meeting people and getting your faces known. Messaging isn't a pointless exercise at all though. We have met multiple single guys and each of them started with a well written message and were followed up by us being impressed by the effort they had taken on their profile. Obviously attraction and interests have to also be there but the message and profile and the two start points. The meeting at social events approach wouldn't work for us as we don't attend any events or clubs in our local area. | |||
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"Perhaps take a look at your profile. I never respond to anyone who hasn’t set a profile picture. Also you have no text content - which again wouldn’t get a reply from myself. Women on here are often subjected to a barrage of abuse when no matter how politely we say no thank you so it’s far easier to either just delete or some choose to block to. I disagree I message people before meeting x Messaging is a pointless exercise. If you want to meet people and have fun you need to get off your ass and get to a club or social. People will see you for who you really are then. And no good giving excuses that you can't get there etc as plenty of others bust their gut getting to them. It grips my balls that we continue to get these sort of threads from single males that expect results but don't want to put in the effort " | |||
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"I suppose as well why dont they say so. Anyway it's cool just that its a hook up site without much hooking up. ?? It’s a swingers site not a hook up site..: you want t*nder for that. Swinging is so much more than just sex. I would suggest if you are really intrested in swinging get yourself to a social and meet people. " This | |||
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"I would personally remove the ‘expectation‘ when you send a message! Trust me, if you don’t expect a response then it doesn’t hit you when you don’t get one! I also send messages to ladies and get nothing back, and that’s ok as I’m clearly not for them! Happy fabbing " That's insane. You're absolutely gorgeous | |||
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"Is it just me or everyone else. If i'm interested I'll send a message with the expectation of receiving I'm interested or sorry thanks no. Seems weird that when no limit on messages people don't bother. Not being big headed but I'm pretty good looking, decent sized tool and a gentleman. Anyway Thought I'd ask the question why women dont respond b4 iGive up on this site" I would suggest you look at what you want. This isn't a hookup site. Like what the ladies are saying you have to be courteous for starters. I would certainly suggest having a think about your profile if ypu do stay and want to live this lifestyle properly. It isn't necessarily about sex, it's about the connections, the learning from one another and the fact we are all able to talk about our lives without the fear of being judged. If someone doesn't reply, leave it and move on. Try going to a club and talking to people face to face. Not just asking for a quickie but have a full blown conversation with people. It's just my advice and I have made some great friends on fab because I don't push and I don't it for the right reasons. Good luck tho whatever you choose to do. | |||
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