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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So guys. I popped over to Swansea for the social. Unfortunately I was unable to walk over to the fab group as I struggle with social anxiety badly.. I'm how struggling with my mental health. I'm teary all the time. Convenience is shoot to hell.. Not sleeping. Thought I could do it. But I feel inlet people down..

Sorry for my rambling. Just needed to read something down.

Stay sexy Jo xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not alone

I've suffered a really bad flare up of anxiety for the last week. I've struggled for years but usually manage to keep it in check enough so I can function "normally".

I've been a total write off for the past week, am just starting to feel a bit better today now.

I hope you feel better soon.

Just wanted you to know you're not alone

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

You sound like you need to see a health professional. Its horrible and I've been there. X ms

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You sound like you need to see a health professional. Its horrible and I've been there. X ms"

Hi both. Thanks for replying.

I've tried the medical route just turned me into a zombie.

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By *hunkeeMonkeyMan
over a year ago

Clydach

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By *hunkeeMonkeyMan
over a year ago

Clydach


"So guys. I popped over to Swansea for the social. Unfortunately I was unable to walk over to the fab group as I struggle with social anxiety badly.. I'm how struggling with my mental health. I'm teary all the time. Convenience is shoot to hell.. Not sleeping. Thought I could do it. But I feel inlet people down..

Sorry for my rambling. Just needed to read something down.

Stay sexy Jo xx"

I know how you feel, I've struggled with the same on and off for the last two years.

I found joining a running group has helped me, forced myself to get out there, its helping slowly but its that initial bit where you're joining an established group with their own clique.

Hope you're better soon

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By *iverredMan
over a year ago

Aberystwyth

Been there myself. 3 of my friends have committed suicide in the last few years. All of them in the agricultural industry which I am in too. Was so bad with anxiety/depression that I was not eating or sleeping. Just want to be invisible. Had the courage to go to the doctor who arranged me to see someone about it. Went to see the psychiatrist. Waste of time, told that I needed to loose weight and that I would feel better!!! A few months had passed and went back to see the doctor. He then referred me to see someone else who immediately put me under the crisis team. Was meeting up with them 3 or 4 times a week. That helped a lot and with their help and tablets, in a much better place now than I have been for years. Stay strong and take one day at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst we would have loved to have had your company Jo, you didn't let us down by not being able to join in with us.

Maybe next time we have a strategy of meeting up with you outside.

Speak more soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst we would have loved to have had your company Jo, you didn't let us down by not being able to join in with us.

Maybe next time we have a strategy of meeting up with you outside.

Speak more soon x "

Having company to go in with makes all the difference, Although I've yet to go anywhere without Ch3wy, I can't even go to the shops atm but I don't dwell on it too much because I know once my heads in the right space I'll get out there again. I think though OP if your update is correct you might need to reconsider Fab for a bit, if in doubt take a break & come back to it with a fresh outlook X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Whilst we would have loved to have had your company Jo, you didn't let us down by not being able to join in with us.

Maybe next time we have a strategy of meeting up with you outside.

Speak more soon x

Having company to go in with makes all the difference, Although I've yet to go anywhere without Ch3wy, I can't even go to the shops atm but I don't dwell on it too much because I know once my heads in the right space I'll get out there again. I think though OP if your update is correct you might need to reconsider Fab for a bit, if in doubt take a break & come back to it with a fresh outlook X"

I think you maybe right. Think I need a break from most things. Even dressing up is losing it appeal at the minute.

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By *PARTAN99Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Try and stay positive. You will get through it - you have made a start by opening a dialogue.

Good food, hydration and exercise will help.

Always availed to talk if needed.

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By *oolprinceMan
over a year ago

chester

I dont know if this helps but there is a great book called The Chimp Paradox which explains how to manage the part of our brains which create the paranoid black and white thoughts that often rule our lives. Its sure changed my life so I thought I would suggest it here. Any questions please ask

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By *igerkittyCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Wtf...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst we would have loved to have had your company Jo, you didn't let us down by not being able to join in with us.

Maybe next time we have a strategy of meeting up with you outside.

Speak more soon x

Having company to go in with makes all the difference, Although I've yet to go anywhere without Ch3wy, I can't even go to the shops atm but I don't dwell on it too much because I know once my heads in the right space I'll get out there again. I think though OP if your update is correct you might need to reconsider Fab for a bit, if in doubt take a break & come back to it with a fresh outlook X

I think you maybe right. Think I need a break from most things. Even dressing up is losing it appeal at the minute. "

It’s never good when you ‘can’t be bothered’ with the things you normally love, I recognise that all too well. There’s no magic cure, but well done to you for opening up here. Feel free to pm any time, it really does help.

Personally I found getting out as much as possible helped - just walking with my ear buds in listening to favourite tunes made a difference. Good luck and chin up - you can beat this.

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By *r LovecraftMan
over a year ago

RCT/Swansea/Cwmbran


"I dont know if this helps but there is a great book called The Chimp Paradox which explains how to manage the part of our brains which create the paranoid black and white thoughts that often rule our lives. Its sure changed my life so I thought I would suggest it here. Any questions please ask"

I've had two long periods off work with anxiety and depression and have to agree that this book helped me too. I was also able to see a very good counsellor (I can give details in PM if you want them).

I still get the occasional panic attack and feelings of intense loneliness which my young Don especially recognises and helps me manage.

Try and get some fresh air, eat well and spend some time doing the things you love. Speak to a friend, talking us never a bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for the reply.. I have read the chimps paradrox. Found it a read the first time. So read it twice.

I do try to eat well. Although that not always possible. Life gets in the way.

As for the things I love to do. I'm a biker at heart. Not been out on the trumpet for a couple of weeks. Because of the lovely weather we have here in Wales.

Cheers again Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You sound like you need to see a health professional. Its horrible and I've been there. X ms"

Unfortunately health care for this illness are about as available as rocking horse droppings, it's a long hard road but we have done it

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By *imandHer9396Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

Oh sweetheart, I know this feeling well.

I've recently had to take some time off work due to my anxiety. I've had to go back onto my medical which for me is a huge step back, but it's just a chemical imbalance.

It's ok to not be ok.

Sometimes admitting these feelings can be a massive help. Knowing they are there, knowing what they are. Then we can start looking at next steps.

Having a support network is so important, you are more than welcome to message us.

You've made a massive step, you tried to go. You got ready, you went, and if that's all you could have done that day, it's still huge. You'll get there. I understand it's disappointing, but take every win you can.

I don't have any proactive tips, I'm still struggling, all I can say is it's good to talk. If you don't have anyone you feel comfortable to do so, then please message. If you do, and you just want to add to your network, then message us.

Take things at your pace. We'll get there, and that's ok.

Wishing you all of our love,

Her x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh sweetheart, I know this feeling well.

I've recently had to take some time off work due to my anxiety. I've had to go back onto my medical which for me is a huge step back, but it's just a chemical imbalance.

It's ok to not be ok.

Sometimes admitting these feelings can be a massive help. Knowing they are there, knowing what they are. Then we can start looking at next steps.

Having a support network is so important, you are more than welcome to message us.

You've made a massive step, you tried to go. You got ready, you went, and if that's all you could have done that day, it's still huge. You'll get there. I understand it's disappointing, but take every win you can.

I don't have any proactive tips, I'm still struggling, all I can say is it's good to talk. If you don't have anyone you feel comfortable to do so, then please message. If you do, and you just want to add to your network, then message us.

Take things at your pace. We'll get there, and that's ok.

Wishing you all of our love,

Her x"

Thank you for your kind words and understanding. Can't message you though. But thanks anyway

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry everyone i can't do this anymore. I have to look after me. Fab has not been fab for me.

Ceriwen, Ruby, sammytv88. Please forgive me

Jo xx

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Whilst we would have loved to have had your company Jo, you didn't let us down by not being able to join in with us.

Maybe next time we have a strategy of meeting up with you outside.

Speak more soon x "

I think this is a great offer, walking in can be daunting x

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Glad to hear I'm not alone with the anxiety

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By *atKat-xoxWoman
over a year ago

Neath,united kingdom

Anxiety is an awful thing to go through. I've only recently felt ok to go to social events on my own,however I usually have to bring one or both of my partners in tow for security. Sending love X

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