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By *wtchyman78 OP   Man
over a year ago

Llantrisant

Really keen to try Chams for the first time. Any hints or tips for a nervous first time club visit?

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just relax. Don't worry about talking to people. Every club I've been to in the UK, there has been someone that will talk to you.

Have a wander around and take in the layout of the club and the sights. You may even get shown around.

From there on in you do what takes your fancy.

Don't follow people around, and don't be pushy. It will happen if it's meant to, not just because you want it to.

I often get chatting to people when I'm having a look around rather than the bar or lounge.

There is always something for everyone at a club and even if you don't get to play, you may find you get future opportunities to meet after.

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By *wtchyman78 OP   Man
over a year ago

Llantrisant


"Just relax. Don't worry about talking to people. Every club I've been to in the UK, there has been someone that will talk to you.

Have a wander around and take in the layout of the club and the sights. You may even get shown around.

From there on in you do what takes your fancy.

Don't follow people around, and don't be pushy. It will happen if it's meant to, not just because you want it to.

I often get chatting to people when I'm having a look around rather than the bar or lounge.

There is always something for everyone at a club and even if you don't get to play, you may find you get future opportunities to meet after.

"

Thank you, very good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same advice for a never been before solo woman? x

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By *ackieSteveCouple
over a year ago

Newbridge


"Same advice for a never been before solo woman? x"

Come with us, we'll show you the ropes and then the world is your oyster.

I'll even bring a submissive to get us some drinks at the bar

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By *wtchyman78 OP   Man
over a year ago

Llantrisant


"Same advice for a never been before solo woman? x"

Could go in together, appreciate we may not stay together once in....I am am 6ft 1 and have broad shoulders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a solo woman who has been to chams plenty of times here is my advice;

Don't worry! It is so much friendlier than you'd think.

There are always plenty of really interesting people that will chat to you and make you feel welcome - talk to them!

Hang out by the bar for a while and you'll find conversation.

Ask someone for a tour, most of the regulars would be more than happy to show you around.

There's loads of fun to be had, but the bar/smoking area is fantastic for socialising.

Go with the flow, if it feels right go for it and have fun. If it doesn't you're under no obligation to play with anyone - you can say no and it is respected.

Just do it!

(Advice applicable to any first timers really, not just solo women)

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By *untiWoman
over a year ago

Newport


"Just relax. Don't worry about talking to people. Every club I've been to in the UK, there has been someone that will talk to you.

Have a wander around and take in the layout of the club and the sights. You may even get shown around.

From there on in you do what takes your fancy.

Don't follow people around, and don't be pushy. It will happen if it's meant to, not just because you want it to.

I often get chatting to people when I'm having a look around rather than the bar or lounge.

There is always something for everyone at a club and even if you don't get to play, you may find you get future opportunities to meet after.

"

Thank you for this. I've not been to chams for nigh on 15 years but hoping to revisit soon. Doesn't stop the nerves kicking in though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to read some advice for the solo women, it's a nerve wracking thought

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By *inkfluffyunicornWoman
over a year ago

newport


"As a solo woman who has been to chams plenty of times here is my advice;

Don't worry! It is so much friendlier than you'd think.

There are always plenty of really interesting people that will chat to you and make you feel welcome - talk to them!

Hang out by the bar for a while and you'll find conversation.

Ask someone for a tour, most of the regulars would be more than happy to show you around.

There's loads of fun to be had, but the bar/smoking area is fantastic for socialising.

Go with the flow, if it feels right go for it and have fun. If it doesn't you're under no obligation to play with anyone - you can say no and it is respected.

Just do it!

(Advice applicable to any first timers really, not just solo women)"

I love giving a tour! Just follow the glass dildo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a solo woman who has been to chams plenty of times here is my advice;

Don't worry! It is so much friendlier than you'd think.

There are always plenty of really interesting people that will chat to you and make you feel welcome - talk to them!

Hang out by the bar for a while and you'll find conversation.

Ask someone for a tour, most of the regulars would be more than happy to show you around.

There's loads of fun to be had, but the bar/smoking area is fantastic for socialising.

Go with the flow, if it feels right go for it and have fun. If it doesn't you're under no obligation to play with anyone - you can say no and it is respected.

Just do it!

(Advice applicable to any first timers really, not just solo women)"

Thank you so much. This is so very helpful! Thank you x

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By *hirstyGingerMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Biggest challenge on your first ever club visit is walking in the club.... After that it's easy.

Good luck

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By *carlett AllureWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


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I love giving a tour! Just follow the glass dildo "

I’m following

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By *inkfluffyunicornWoman
over a year ago

newport

We might not make it far round the club

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By *rigend hot wifeCouple
over a year ago

ocala fl usa not in the uk

We would like to go. Would be our first time going. Do you have to have a membership to go? How much is it for a couple? I have read and heard conflicting information on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

£25 to join as a couple, plus £30 entry. At least that's what it was at Darlaston a couple of weeks ago.

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By *ittleLillyTV/TS
over a year ago

Pontypool

The Greenhouse on Saturday is one of the friendliest nights you’ll attend. Always a lovely bunch of people! And there’s a party there this Saturday!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The Greenhouse on Saturday is one of the friendliest nights you’ll attend. Always a lovely bunch of people! And there’s a party there this Saturday! "

Sounds like a lovely place! Do you need to book or can you just show up? x

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By *carlett AllureWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"We might not make it far round the club "

I’ve been accused of flirting with you! Will you put that man of yours in a cage please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We might not make it far round the club

I’ve been accused of flirting with you! Will you put that man of yours in a cage please "

Well if the shoe fits!

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By *inkfluffyunicornWoman
over a year ago

newport


"We might not make it far round the club

I’ve been accused of flirting with you! Will you put that man of yours in a cage please "

I will leave him at home if he isn’t careful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We might not make it far round the club

I’ve been accused of flirting with you! Will you put that man of yours in a cage please

I will leave him at home if he isn’t careful "

As if you would

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

Don’t be worried, if you’re on Fab, you’re clearly open minded and looking to learn and enjoy the company of others. When we first visited, we were given a little tour and met some really interesting people whilst wandering around and in the bar area. There was no obligation to play but plenty of opportunities should you choose and remember, no means no, if you are/aren’t interested in somebody you can easily let them know ‘not tonight thank you’ or ‘Hell yeah.” Also, we quickly got to meet the regulars and the first timers alike. Like you, we were nervous, but now we enjoy visiting new places and seeing the differences that the various clubs offer.

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

We enjoyed both the Friday nights (sometimes themed) and the Saturday Bi-nights. There’s something there for everyone at Chams/Greenhouse and always a friendly atmosphere

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By *wtchyman78 OP   Man
over a year ago

Llantrisant

Thank you everyone for the advice, looks like a few others have the same nerves and apprehension so good to see I'm not on my own. Will dip my toe in soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morning All,

We’re in the same boat as some of the other posts and would love to try a club for the first time but very apprehensive about it. Some of the advice above is really reassuring.

On a practical point - what do men and women tend to wear in clubs?

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women tend to dress sexily in lingerie but by half way through the night are just in a towel like the gents. Men it's boxers or towel. Towels are provided on entry.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are the entry rules regarding solo males ?

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By *lonkyMan
over a year ago

penarth

I would love to try it but far too nervous about just going in !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning All,

We’re in the same boat as some of the other posts and would love to try a club for the first time but very apprehensive about it. Some of the advice above is really reassuring.

On a practical point - what do men and women tend to wear in clubs?

Thanks x "

There are different types of clubs.

Cams is a wet club so towel for the men and sexy underwear for the fems.

Other clubs you wear smart clothes and some you can do either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are heading to the club tonight. I went for my first time as a single female and met some Fantastic people. Really friendly. If anyone wants to pm us if going tonight feel free x

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By *inkfluffyunicornWoman
over a year ago

newport


"We are heading to the club tonight. I went for my first time as a single female and met some Fantastic people. Really friendly. If anyone wants to pm us if going tonight feel free x "

Ah yay will be great to see you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are heading to the club tonight. I went for my first time as a single female and met some Fantastic people. Really friendly. If anyone wants to pm us if going tonight feel free x "

Want me to show you how to fold towels?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are the entry rules regarding solo males ?"

It's £80 membership for a single male for 12 months and £30 entry

I believe couples are £25 lifetime membership and entry fee which I can't remember lol

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By *uvrockyhorrorMan
over a year ago

Ebbw Vale

I would love to return, only ever been to clubs as a couple, but now I'm single I would find it difficult to settle, maybe one day with a bit more courage.

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By *ittleLillyTV/TS
over a year ago

Pontypool


"The Greenhouse on Saturday is one of the friendliest nights you’ll attend. Always a lovely bunch of people! And there’s a party there this Saturday!

Sounds like a lovely place! Do you need to book or can you just show up? x"

Just show up on a Saturday night. No membership needed. £16 on the door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has been really helpful. It’s given me confidence. I think I’ll be loosing my Chams virginity in the next few weeks. Any first timers like me drop me a message and maybe we can go together

Very friendly people here

Xx

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By *inx and ViperCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

We attended our first night on Saturday and it was very friendly, all the regulars made us feel comfortable and we were soon sipping our toes into the rooms

Hardest part is just getting the balls to walk through that door, but definitely recommend it!

We’ll be back soon

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