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"Absolutely disgusting! I hope he gets banned and please share his username with anyone who messages you privately. Please keep the faith that there are genuine respectful males on here." | |||
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"I have calmed down a little now......Hubby is the issue. He feels really guilty about being downstairs while it was happening not realising what was going on. I am just glad we got out and home before he found out..... " probably safer to have same room fun until you feel you can trust someone | |||
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"I know we can't name and shame but just had a very nasty meeting with a local single guy. Fortunately my rule of having hubby around for a first meet proved sensible and kept me safe. Came away bitten, bruised and rather shaken from the threats of what he wanted to do to me at a future meeting. When I called a halt to the meeting, having Hubby there meant I felt safe in making it stop and his high level of aggression ended knowing he was downstairs. He went from zero to 100 in a few minutes...and then back to zero!! Reported him to Admin and hope they ban him, nothing stopping him rejoining though. Didn't tell Hubby until we got home otherwise he would have beaten the crap out of him....he is fuming!! Don't think I will meet any man alone again..... " My god..that truly is disgusting and I sincerely hope you are ok...and your hubby is too!! Big hugs to you both!! | |||
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"To the two men whining that this makes it “worse for the good guys” - get some perspective. A woman has been assaulted and all you can think about is whether it’ll make it harder for you to get meets? Can you see the problem with that attitude? OP, I’m sorry this happened to you, and I’m very glad you got away before it got worse. Please remember neither of you is to blame, and look after each other while you get over the shock." Fact - 1 - I was not whining one bit just showing an opinion. (Obviously not allowed on here anymore). Fact - 2 - That opinion did not have any attitude attached to it at all. Fact - 3 - Assumptions are the mother of all fuckups. | |||
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"To the two men whining that this makes it “worse for the good guys” - get some perspective. A woman has been assaulted and all you can think about is whether it’ll make it harder for you to get meets? Can you see the problem with that attitude? OP, I’m sorry this happened to you, and I’m very glad you got away before it got worse. Please remember neither of you is to blame, and look after each other while you get over the shock. Fact - 1 - I was not whining one bit just showing an opinion. (Obviously not allowed on here anymore). Fact - 2 - That opinion did not have any attitude attached to it at all. Fact - 3 - Assumptions are the mother of all fuckups. " Unfortunately seems you can't say a lot here without someone taking offence. Obviously a very traumatic experience and sincerely hope the OP is okay. I can well imagine hubby is more than annoyed but equally relieved she's okay. I didn't see anything wrong with your post! | |||
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"To the two men whining that this makes it “worse for the good guys” - get some perspective. A woman has been assaulted and all you can think about is whether it’ll make it harder for you to get meets? Can you see the problem with that attitude? OP, I’m sorry this happened to you, and I’m very glad you got away before it got worse. Please remember neither of you is to blame, and look after each other while you get over the shock. Fact - 1 - I was not whining one bit just showing an opinion. (Obviously not allowed on here anymore). Fact - 2 - That opinion did not have any attitude attached to it at all. Fact - 3 - Assumptions are the mother of all fuckups. Unfortunately seems you can't say a lot here without someone taking offence. Obviously a very traumatic experience and sincerely hope the OP is okay. I can well imagine hubby is more than annoyed but equally relieved she's okay. I didn't see anything wrong with your post!" Thank you Daddyslittlecumslutx And it goes without saying that I sincerely hope the op and hubby are now safe and secure and hopefully calming down after that obvious stressful event for both of them. | |||
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"I know we can't name and shame but just had a very nasty meeting with a local single guy. Fortunately my rule of having hubby around for a first meet proved sensible and kept me safe. Came away bitten, bruised and rather shaken from the threats of what he wanted to do to me at a future meeting. When I called a halt to the meeting, having Hubby there meant I felt safe in making it stop and his high level of aggression ended knowing he was downstairs. He went from zero to 100 in a few minutes...and then back to zero!! Reported him to Admin and hope they ban him, nothing stopping him rejoining though. Didn't tell Hubby until we got home otherwise he would have beaten the crap out of him....he is fuming!! Don't think I will meet any man alone again..... " Sorry to hear that you went through this Hope you recover soon as possible and don’t let it get in to you | |||
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"To the two men whining that this makes it “worse for the good guys” - get some perspective. A woman has been assaulted and all you can think about is whether it’ll make it harder for you to get meets? Can you see the problem with that attitude? OP, I’m sorry this happened to you, and I’m very glad you got away before it got worse. Please remember neither of you is to blame, and look after each other while you get over the shock." 100% this. You’re not a “good guy” if you see this through the lens of damaging your standing. I do hope OP and hubby are ok x | |||
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"To the two men whining that this makes it “worse for the good guys” - get some perspective. A woman has been assaulted and all you can think about is whether it’ll make it harder for you to get meets? Can you see the problem with that attitude? OP, I’m sorry this happened to you, and I’m very glad you got away before it got worse. Please remember neither of you is to blame, and look after each other while you get over the shock. Fact - 1 - I was not whining one bit just showing an opinion. (Obviously not allowed on here anymore). Fact - 2 - That opinion did not have any attitude attached to it at all. Fact - 3 - Assumptions are the mother of all fuckups. " Here here and it seems some single women have an attitude with most of the single guys on here and try to tar them all with the same brush | |||
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"To the two men whining that this makes it “worse for the good guys” - get some perspective. A woman has been assaulted and all you can think about is whether it’ll make it harder for you to get meets? Can you see the problem with that attitude? OP, I’m sorry this happened to you, and I’m very glad you got away before it got worse. Please remember neither of you is to blame, and look after each other while you get over the shock. Fact - 1 - I was not whining one bit just showing an opinion. (Obviously not allowed on here anymore). Fact - 2 - That opinion did not have any attitude attached to it at all. Fact - 3 - Assumptions are the mother of all fuckups. Here here and it seems some single women have an attitude with most of the single guys on here and try to tar them all with the same brush " Or should it be hear hear. | |||
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"Please could you message me with username of this man please? I’m so paranoid atm about meeting single guys I’d rather not risk it. It’s why I’ve only been meeting in groups with a trusted Fwb present. I hope you’re okay! Xx" Cannot message you unless you message me first.....I am too Old!! | |||
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"Thank you to all those that have messaged me and expressed concern in this thread. It is appreciated..... Feeling better today, had to spend most of last evening convincing Hubby to stay away from him, he knows he doesn't have the self control to pay him a visit!! We sat last night reviewing what we could have done differently. I did the normal messaging, all was fine, Hubby reviewed it, I got his phone number, address and had a social at his home with Hubby first before any play. It wasn't until we got into the bedroom and 30mins into playtime did it start to go wrong. I felt the best option was to just stop and get out without escalating the situation. I would have called Hubby if I felt I was in serious harms way. We have now worked out a way of alerting Hubby I want out of a situation and to get me out of a bedroom without the guy realising what is happening....I don't want Hubby sitting on the bottom of the bed with a baseball bat.... Having to wear a top today that covers my bruised and tender boobs, everytime Hubby catches a glimpse of the marks he gets rather sullen and angry.... We really enjoy our lifestyle and I am not going to let one arsehole ruin it for us......but it was a wake up call of how risky what we do can be. Any guy not multi varified, whos vari's we can check, will have to put up with Hubby lurking in the backgound for a few meetings until we are convinced he is not an animal.... " Thank you for highlighting OP, I'm very pleased that your hubby is looking after you. It has brought to light how I can keep safe doing this well and being aware of get out plans in case things go sideways. Take care of yourself xx | |||
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"Disgusting, shocked should he banned and reported to higher authorities....no.place for abuse of any sort" it matters not how many times you report someone admin do nothing about it anyway,even more so if they have site supporter,they dont wanna reduce their income.thats what they care about most | |||
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"Anyone know the username of this animal?" OP will let you know if you message her. Otherwise message me as she let me know and I’m happy to pass it on. | |||
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"Anyone know the username of this animal? OP will let you know if you message her. Otherwise message me as she let me know and I’m happy to pass it on. " Could you let me know, so I can avoid as well please x | |||
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"Thank you to all those that have messaged me and expressed concern in this thread. It is appreciated..... Feeling better today, had to spend most of last evening convincing Hubby to stay away from him, he knows he doesn't have the self control to pay him a visit!! We sat last night reviewing what we could have done differently. I did the normal messaging, all was fine, Hubby reviewed it, I got his phone number, address and had a social at his home with Hubby first before any play. It wasn't until we got into the bedroom and 30mins into playtime did it start to go wrong. I felt the best option was to just stop and get out without escalating the situation. I would have called Hubby if I felt I was in serious harms way. We have now worked out a way of alerting Hubby I want out of a situation and to get me out of a bedroom without the guy realising what is happening....I don't want Hubby sitting on the bottom of the bed with a baseball bat.... Having to wear a top today that covers my bruised and tender boobs, everytime Hubby catches a glimpse of the marks he gets rather sullen and angry.... We really enjoy our lifestyle and I am not going to let one arsehole ruin it for us......but it was a wake up call of how risky what we do can be. Any guy not multi varified, whos vari's we can check, will have to put up with Hubby lurking in the backgound for a few meetings until we are convinced he is not an animal.... " So sorry to read this, hope ur both ok. Also if future meets can’t deal with hubby being there after this then they are not worth meeting. Take care xx | |||
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"I know we can't name and shame but just had a very nasty meeting with a local single guy. Fortunately my rule of having hubby around for a first meet proved sensible and kept me safe. Came away bitten, bruised and rather shaken from the threats of what he wanted to do to me at a future meeting. When I called a halt to the meeting, having Hubby there meant I felt safe in making it stop and his high level of aggression ended knowing he was downstairs. He went from zero to 100 in a few minutes...and then back to zero!! Reported him to Admin and hope they ban him, nothing stopping him rejoining though. Didn't tell Hubby until we got home otherwise he would have beaten the crap out of him....he is fuming!! Don't think I will meet any man alone again..... " I'd of punched him the throat!! | |||
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"Just to confirm the above message was posted using our couples profile in case it causes any confusion....hadn't realised Hubby had left the laptop logged on....DOH!!! " First time I have done that.....busted now!! | |||
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"Terms of Service, points 11.2 and 11.3, people who are calling for the "ban" of the person described in the OP should go read those. Because that's why there is no ban and never will be. Without some criminal record checks that cause the user to be prevented from using such a website, then pretty much all are welcome above the age of 18. That's not me condoning the behaviour described in the OP, that's just me stating why the person described in the OP is allowed to continue to be a member. Also, please note, that whilst it is okay to collectively 'shun' the person described, it is against website rules to message them negatively etc. " Unfortunately behaviour like this is going to end in a criminal record at some point. By refusing to act on reports from members the site is condoning it. If in the future someone who is assaulted decides to go to the police the fallout will be interesting. | |||
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"You don't need to name or Shame. As he hasn't given his side story. I do agree you should be safe. Share name of your last meet here. You should never free frightened on meet hope you ok " What side of the story does he need to give. Physically assaulting someone when they say no has no story. Its unacceptable. | |||
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"Can anyone who has the profile name please let us know. Gayle has just started the hotwife game, first last week. This information is to protect women. Personally, I don't care about clause 11. The company has a legal duty of care to ensure safety within reasonable efforts. I think removing someone for a violent attack would seem reasonable. Leaving this unpunished yet temporarily banning some who says show me your arse in the wrong chat room shows a malfunctioning moral compass....." Just messaged you x | |||
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