There’s an awful lot to unpack here but I’ll do my best - and I’m only speaking for myself, not for the other women on here.
"For ladies it literally is like shooting fish in a barrel so to speak because your inundated with messages "
Personally, I am not inundated anymore. Currently I don’t even have a single filter on, and I only get 10-20 messages a day. Even today, uploading a new photo hasn’t increased that by much. If I use filters, it can be virtually nothing. Which means I have no difficulty reading every message, and the profile of the person sending it. Having said that though:
"(understandably your all beautiful) and can pick and choose because there is a massive difference of numbers of the opposite sex, you can literally pluck a male that you fancy, "
No, not really. I very, very rarely get a message from a man I fancy. And sometimes even when the man is objectively attractive, his message or profile puts me off. I’ve obviously fancied some of the men who have messaged me in my two years here, because I’ve met them. But it’s very rare now that I find a man interesting enough to reply to.
"and dictate when & where, For us men it’s pot luck you catch the attention of anyone to read your message let alone a meet for a verification or even a camchat. "
We can often tell when all a man wants is to use us for a veri. It’s not very attractive. I’m personally not all that concerned about whether someone is verified already, because a man can have lots of veris and still stand you up or be a terrible meet. But someone who doesn’t have a veri but it’s obvious that’s all he wants? No thanks.
"From my observations: "
"Couple’s 80% of the time tend to stick to other couples they are already friendly with, they also tend to stick with couples that are seasoned swingers. Rare it is a couple will venture out to new inexperienced couples, and even rarer will they give single guys a chance, most couples are more accepting of single females for Bi-female Fun. If your a Bi-male you have a better chance of success than a single straight male."
"Single ladies tend to focus more on couple’s from what I have observed (because of safety fears), they avoid single men within the local area to avoid awkwardness and possible bumping into them in town, and we tend to get placed into the minority shit lists because some men can’t behave in a civilised manor when their dented ego’s get offended by rejection or a non reply, so it is doubly hard to get verified under any description."
Arguably, and in my opinion, a couple is twice as risky to be alone with if I don’t trust them, as I’d be outnumbered. As with men, trust is the key point there. I certainly wouldn’t prefer couples over men for safety reasons alone. I also find it very much harder to find compatible couples. I’ve met far more single men than couples or single women. Also the bad behaviour of a percentage of men doesn’t tar the good ones with the same brush, it makes the good ones stand out.
"There’s also many fake accounts here, some are Bot generated you can easily spot those as there is no photo and a one liner “I’m a single female and I am here to meet men”, then there’s fake accounts and sometimes revenge accounts. "
That’s literally just the default profile text, it doesn’t automatically mean someone’s fake.
"There are posers here that are attached, try their luck but don’t have the balls or flaps to follow through on a meet, that’s not their intention although intimated, they just want and crave the attention and love to exhibit their parts for ogling over, but that’s part of parcel with all types of sites like this. "
"I look around profile’s, I read them, if I don’t match I move on, I make polite complimentary messages to those who I do message, I make sure to include what ever instructions they have in their profile, out of all the messages I’ve sent 95% are unread and deleted within 10 minutes of them being sent, 1% your blocked instantly and 1% are rude and take piss out if you, 1% read and no reply 1% reply no sorry 1% you get a conversation but very rarely anything more."
You may know this already, but a lot of women and couples view profiles in ninja mode so we don’t show up on “who’s looked at me”. Many will read the profile before opening the message, and if they don’t like what they see, will delete the message unread. I don’t, I read the message then the profile, and THEN I delete it. But a lot do it the other way around.
"By the time us decent respectful single men get climb the number stacked against us slippery mountain getting a meet or camchat is like winning £100,000 on the lotto but the odds are better winning the lotto. "
Again, this is just my experience, and it will be different for everyone. But it does go to show that not all women are swamped, and often if men don’t get a reply it’s quite simply that the woman has read their profile and message and decided she’s not interested; not because she’s unable to manage her inbox. |
