FabSwingers.com forum: Abuse when rejected

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seeing more and more statuses about men getting abusive towards women when being rejected on here. Sad to see. Being on a swingers site does not make you entitled

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By *konCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Not our experience . We find it extremely rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was first joined, I had horrific messages when I politely declined offers. But, I know its not me its their insecurity and their way to assert power.

I just block and move on

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By *rs-sensual-meWoman
over a year ago

gwynedd

Yeah unfortunately over the years I've had some vile messages back. I always used to think a polite no thanks but good luck on your search would be ok. But nope never doing that again.

Not just the name calling. Its the begging for a chance or being offered money that really riles me.

So now if its obvious they havnt read my bio, I just delete. Feels horrid doing it but its not worth risking again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There’s just no need for it. It’s like they’re trying to feel the need to get one over for having their ego dented. Just accept it and move on and don’t be a needy entitled spoilt kid over it. The joys of fab at times hey

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

"Seeing more and more statuses about men getting abusive towards women when being rejected on here. Sad to see. Being on a swingers site does not make you entitled "

Hello matey. Not seen you for a while. I miss our ludicrous dances at the Newport social.

Yep. A simple "No problem. Hope you find the fun you're after" costs absolutely nothing and doesn't make you look like a bell.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’d give anything to be dancing like a maniac all night at the Newport social again. Think the first one back may well be a busy one. Hope you are keeping ok matey

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

It will be busy, raucous and d*unken. Mind you, they usually were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had someone grab miss hoolie by the arm forcefully at a social i wasnt there. We left the social and made sure we remember his name for the future. It knocked miss hoolie for a while. He has not come near us since. If he did there would be words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or they post needy, nasty statuses to try and shame you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or they post needy, nasty statuses to try and shame you... "

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

"Or they post needy, nasty statuses to try and shame you...

The needy posts come from both sides. Needy, money or Snapchat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or they post needy, nasty statuses to try and shame you...

The needy posts come from both sides. Needy, money or Snapchat.

Yep, totally agree x

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

" He has not come near us since. If he did there would be words"

To be fair, nobody's been near anyone for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well he will always be remembered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish we could name and shame them

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By *oxy babeWoman
over a year ago

gower

I’ve had abusive messages when I’ve not even messaged anyone, just because they don’t like a photo I’ve posted, there’s no need for it

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

"I’ve had abusive messages when I’ve not even messaged anyone, just because they don’t like a photo I’ve posted, there’s no need for it"

Why? Nothing wrong with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had abusive messages when I’ve not even messaged anyone, just because they don’t like a photo I’ve posted, there’s no need for it"

Unfortunately there are always going to be insignificant individuals whose only pleasure is to hurt, they can get banned but will always find a way back.

Just keep reporting and blocking, and remember they are in the minority

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By *oxy babeWoman
over a year ago

gower

"I’ve had abusive messages when I’ve not even messaged anyone, just because they don’t like a photo I’ve posted, there’s no need for it

Why? Nothing wrong with them "

Obviously not to their taste, the sad individuals are probably still attached to mummy’s apron strings

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

"I’ve had abusive messages when I’ve not even messaged anyone, just because they don’t like a photo I’ve posted, there’s no need for it

Why? Nothing wrong with them

Obviously not to their taste, the sad individuals are probably still attached to mummy’s apron strings

It really is annoying, it’s so hard to even get noticed much less get a conversation going as it is. Then you got idiots coming in to abuse. Just makes things so much harder

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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent

"Or they post needy, nasty statuses to try and shame you... "

If I see those kinds of statuses I just block the guy preemptively

much easier having a hidden profile and just messaging or winking guys I like the look of.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve had abusive messages when I’ve not even messaged anyone, just because they don’t like a photo I’ve posted, there’s no need for it

Why? Nothing wrong with them

Obviously not to their taste, the sad individuals are probably still attached to mummy’s apron strings

That’s so pathetic they feel the need to take the time the to message to give their unnecessary two pennies worth. If something isn’t to their taste say nothing and move along grrrr

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By *hunkeeMonkeyMan
over a year ago

Clydach

I agree, a simple thanks but no thanks should be standard. As Toblerone said, it's difficult enough to strike up conversations with people anyway.

It does give us single guys an extra hurdle to overcome to be taken seriously

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By *ojanglesMan
over a year ago

Windy Wales

Oh dear

If everyone fancied everyone how boring would that be !!!

No challenge

No build up

No point .

You usually find a higher percentage of arseholes on a free site ...

Just my thought ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a abusive message from a couple the other day about my status (which was a joke between a friend on here) calling me sad and desperate but before I could reply i was blocked lol

There really is no need for abusive behaviour on here as we are all here for the same thing. I think it's just because people don't have the respect they used to?

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

I had something similar, sad twats. If you don’t like something just say it politely and give the right of reply. Some people would be surprised how far a polite conversation about a disagreement would go.

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By *ttoWoman
over a year ago

llanelli

I was told a couple of weeks ago to ‘get a gastric band’ when I said they weren’t for me. Nice

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

"I was told a couple of weeks ago to ‘get a gastric band’ when I said they weren’t for me. Nice

Tell them that due to corona virus restrictions all live music is suspended for the foreseeable future unfortunately

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By *ttoWoman
over a year ago

llanelli

"I was told a couple of weeks ago to ‘get a gastric band’ when I said they weren’t for me. Nice

Tell them that due to corona virus restrictions all live music is suspended for the foreseeable future unfortunately "

Would have been better than the comments I had but they blocked before I could retort.

Shows their form..

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By *lease300Woman
over a year ago

merthyr

Yes unfortunately I’ve had it from men and women sad really x

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

"Yes unfortunately I’ve had it from men and women sad really x"

The women are jealous of you most probably lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was told a couple of weeks ago to ‘get a gastric band’ when I said they weren’t for me. Nice

Tell them that due to corona virus restrictions all live music is suspended for the foreseeable future unfortunately

Would have been better than the comments I had but they blocked before I could retort.

Shows their form.."

Utter cowards that's all they are, with insignificant lives.

I just report them and block, and move on.

Just remember the biggest trigger of abuse is jealousy.

You're better than them every single time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was told a couple of weeks ago to ‘get a gastric band’ when I said they weren’t for me. Nice

It's quite pathetic that often a guys first way of trying to cause offence is trying to insult a woman due to her weight. Shows how insecure they really are about themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As my old boss put it 'It costs nothing to be civil'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always been the case.

Block and move on. Arseholes will be arseholes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. Block move on and stay clear at socials.

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By *r ilikefunMan
over a year ago

neath

I have been rejected quite a few for various reasons but life's to short to be abusive

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By *ogerBottomsMan
over a year ago

Aberdare

"I was told a couple of weeks ago to ‘get a gastric band’ when I said they weren’t for me. Nice

Funny how they find fault when they were trying to get into your knickers moments before.

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