FabSwingers.com forum: Dogging - a question for the ladies

By *irty Pretty OP Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Either single or in couples. If you enjoy dogging, what is it that you enjoy? If you’ve tried it and hated it, what did you hate? If you were thinking of trying it and changed your mind, what put you off?

There’s been a huge proliferation of threads about dogging since lockdown, as if everyone thinks it doesn’t count as “physical meets”. But almost all of the threads are started by men and most of the comments are men saying “I’m in” etc. I see very few women or couples showing an interest. It’s honestly starting to seem like desperation!

So I’m imagining hordes of single men all turning up and waiting hopefully for a woman to show and being disappointed. Or if a woman or couple does turn up, they get absolutely mobbed. Is this the reality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to take a fem friend dogging in England, and it was exactly this. Herefordshire had a growing population of max-power boy racers who soon took over all the hotspots anyway. So it was either bushes full of men who couldn't get sex for a reason, boyracers or police. Give me a large hotel suite and knowing who's attending anyday!

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By *odgerNbadgerCouple
over a year ago

Chepstow

We love dogging, the feeling of the open air on bare skin, the risk of other people watching, I love woman on woman fun within couples while the guys are getting hands on with the others partner. Yes we enjoy the attention from single guys but it is so much more fun with a couple xxx

If any couples or single women are interested pls message us xxxxx

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By *irty Pretty OP Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I used to take a fem friend dogging in England, and it was exactly this. Herefordshire had a growing population of max-power boy racers who soon took over all the hotspots anyway. So it was either bushes full of men who couldn't get sex for a reason, boyracers or police. Give me a large hotel suite and knowing who's attending anyday!"

I bet it’s an easy win for the police one way or the other!

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By *irty Pretty OP Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

See, I kind of like the exhibitionism part, but it feels inherently unsafe/intimidating - possibly because I keep picturing the bit in War of the Worlds where they’re all trying to get into his car, or basically any zombie film ever. I don’t think I could relax and enjoy myself with a dozen or more strangers pressed up against the car wanking.

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By *orthwalesmasterMan
over a year ago

rhyl

I use to go dogging regulary with a previous partner whilst living in the East Midlands.

The best days were when other couples were present, but there were days when it was just us and a group of men, which was intimidating.

But the men were understanding and only approached the car if they were asked.

There is always going to be more men than couples, but if people respect boundaries then evryone can have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Especially if it's raining - they usually avoid minor offences as they are allergic to paperwork, but in bad weather they want any excuse to get back to the office.

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By *moothgentlemanMan
over a year ago

Wales

OP before you shoot me down as a single male.

There is a very secret kik group. The issues you raise are true ablnd this group removes those issues.

Issue like

1) pushy males

2) old pervy and creepy

3) being mobbed

4) boy racers

The group has mostly couples who miss dogging abd single females. Some carefully selected males will and have join.

It brings back the joy of being watched but also saftey aspect all issues removed!

If this intersts you OP DM me.

Any guys saying "Im in " are instatntly out invite only....

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By *hrisy69Man
over a year ago

chester/hawarden

"OP before you shoot me down as a single male.

There is a very secret kik group. The issues you raise are true ablnd this group removes those issues.

Issue like

1) pushy males

2) old pervy and creepy

3) being mobbed

4) boy racers

The group has mostly couples who miss dogging abd single females. Some carefully selected males will and have join.

It brings back the joy of being watched but also saftey aspect all issues removed!

If this intersts you OP DM me.

Any guys saying "Im in " are instatntly out invite only...."

One of the better idea's assume the one you mention is just for south wales?

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By *moothgentlemanMan
over a year ago

Wales

"OP before you shoot me down as a single male.

There is a very secret kik group. The issues you raise are true ablnd this group removes those issues.

Issue like

1) pushy males

2) old pervy and creepy

3) being mobbed

4) boy racers

The group has mostly couples who miss dogging abd single females. Some carefully selected males will and have join.

It brings back the joy of being watched but also saftey aspect all issues removed!

If this intersts you OP DM me.

Any guys saying "Im in " are instatntly out invite only....

One of the better idea's assume the one you mention is just for south wales?"

It is currently a south wales group however depending on members and locations we sometimes allow bristol side members who will travel and west wales x

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By *unlove1234Man
over a year ago

Brynmawr

Would love to know of this group as I'm sick n tired of deiving around what used to be good locations only to discover they have boy racers present smoking spliffs or there is a regular police presence. Any help with finding a good and organised location would be much appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far too many reasons why we wouldn't partake in the dogging scene, here's a few...

We like to choose who we play with and also who watches us.

Being secretly filmed by some random stranger and it ending up on all over the internet.

The safety factor of being somewhere a bit isolated with loads of strangers.

The list could go on..

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By *irty Pretty OP Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"OP before you shoot me down as a single male.

There is a very secret kik group. The issues you raise are true ablnd this group removes those issues.

Issue like

1) pushy males

2) old pervy and creepy

3) being mobbed

4) boy racers

The group has mostly couples who miss dogging abd single females. Some carefully selected males will and have join.

It brings back the joy of being watched but also saftey aspect all issues removed!

If this intersts you OP DM me.

Any guys saying "Im in " are instatntly out invite only...."

Thank you but I’m not interested at this time. I don’t really see how a Kik group could take care of safety concerns as that is surely outside your control once in person. How men are selected and who by would also have a bearing on my willingness to be involved. They might be carefully selected by someone’s criteria, but those would most likely not be mine.

Also I can see this thread is now going to turn into another list of thirsty men wanting in as every other thread on this topic does.

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By *irty Pretty OP Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Far too many reasons why we wouldn't partake in the dogging scene, here's a few...

We like to choose who we play with and also who watches us.

Being secretly filmed by some random stranger and it ending up on all over the internet.

The safety factor of being somewhere a bit isolated with loads of strangers.

The list could go on.."

That’s pretty much my list too. I’ve heard enough stories of single men behaving disrespectfully in the relatively controlled surroundings of a club, I shudder to think how it would be in a dogging situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve tried dogging a couple of times . Last time we tried it there were a few single males there walking about , having a look and so on. Then when we sat in our car for a hour in the car park 3 different single guys all came and parked a few spaces away from us , got out of their cars and stood there staring at us. Now if they’d of come over to the car and initiated a conversation then they’d of probably got something out of it but that’s not what happened. In all honesty all it did was creep us out a bit and so we left. Pulled up on the driveway leading from the car park to answer a phone call and one single guy followed us , parking his car directly behind ours with his headlights shining bright simply staring at us again....

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By *irty Pretty OP Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Oh and if y’all could stop messaging me with offers that would be cool. I asked for opinions from the ladies as that’s not something I see on here much, I didn’t say I wanted to go dogging, or ask for somewhere to do it, or for someone to go with.

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By *irty Pretty OP Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"We’ve tried dogging a couple of times . Last time we tried it there were a few single males there walking about , having a look and so on. Then when we sat in our car for a hour in the car park 3 different single guys all came and parked a few spaces away from us , got out of their cars and stood there staring at us. Now if they’d of come over to the car and initiated a conversation then they’d of probably got something out of it but that’s not what happened. In all honesty all it did was creep us out a bit and so we left. Pulled up on the driveway leading from the car park to answer a phone call and one single guy followed us , parking his car directly behind ours with his headlights shining bright simply staring at us again...."

Sounds much as I’d expect sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really puts you off to be honest . We shall stick to club meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP before you shoot me down as a single male.

There is a very secret kik group. The issues you raise are true ablnd this group removes those issues.

Issue like

1) pushy males

2) old pervy and creepy

3) being mobbed

4) boy racers

The group has mostly couples who miss dogging abd single females. Some carefully selected males will and have join.

It brings back the joy of being watched but also saftey aspect all issues removed!

If this intersts you OP DM me.

Any guys saying "Im in " are instatntly out invite only....

Also I can see this thread is now going to turn into another list of thirsty men wanting in as every other thread on this topic does."

I was wondering the same . Who decides if someone is worthy of joining these kik groups and then who decides if they can stay in the group or are kicked out of it ?

All sounds a bit draconian to me

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By *moothgentlemanMan
over a year ago

Wales

"OP before you shoot me down as a single male.

There is a very secret kik group. The issues you raise are true ablnd this group removes those issues.

Issue like

1) pushy males

2) old pervy and creepy

3) being mobbed

4) boy racers

The group has mostly couples who miss dogging abd single females. Some carefully selected males will and have join.

It brings back the joy of being watched but also saftey aspect all issues removed!

If this intersts you OP DM me.

Any guys saying "Im in " are instatntly out invite only....

Also I can see this thread is now going to turn into another list of thirsty men wanting in as every other thread on this topic does.

I was wondering the same . Who decides if someone is worthy of joining these kik groups and then who decides if they can stay in the group or are kicked out of it ?

All sounds a bit draconian to me

People are made admins. Break rules and your gone. Members are checked via verfications and members in this group have met at socials and clubs and been recommended.

Members are added in group interst in them.

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

You've forgotten us!!!

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By *moothgentlemanMan
over a year ago

Wales

"You've forgotten us!!! "

Im poorly its allowed haha. Send me your kik again x

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By *ilthyfucks69Couple
over a year ago

Neverland

I liked the fantasy of dogging but definitely not the reality. I need to feel safe to be getting in the mood and considering any funny business regardless of who it is with but I definitely don't feel safe dogging whether that be from the pushy, creepy men who ruin it for everybody, boy racers, police or the people who post locations public?

Something that will stay in my head I would imagine

Mrs

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By *odgerNbadgerCouple
over a year ago

Chepstow

I guess I'm lucky I have my own personal close protection officer so I know I'm safe, but yeah all the thirsty pervs can be a bit intimidating. We were out one night when I was still very new, and just playing in the car with a handful of blokes watching. One of them said they reckoned they could show me a thing or two if I got out of the car. I just shook my head and another one said "oh there's enough of us to make that happen if we want it to". That's the kind of thing that turns my stomach even though I enjoy dogging.

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By *irty Pretty OP Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I guess I'm lucky I have my own personal close protection officer so I know I'm safe, but yeah all the thirsty pervs can be a bit intimidating. We were out one night when I was still very new, and just playing in the car with a handful of blokes watching. One of them said they reckoned they could show me a thing or two if I got out of the car. I just shook my head and another one said "oh there's enough of us to make that happen if we want it to". That's the kind of thing that turns my stomach even though I enjoy dogging."

Oh Christ, that’s terrifying and awful. That would scare me to death even locked in a car with someone I trust.

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By *irty Pretty OP Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I liked the fantasy of dogging but definitely not the reality. I need to feel safe to be getting in the mood and considering any funny business regardless of who it is with but I definitely don't feel safe dogging whether that be from the pushy, creepy men who ruin it for everybody, boy racers, police or the people who post locations public?

Something that will stay in my head I would imagine

Mrs"

Totally agree there, I can’t relax and get in the mood if I don’t feel safe. And everything I’m hearing makes me think it’s not for me at all.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We enjoy finding somewhere to play after we’ve beeb out for an evening (long memories!), it is great fun just stopping in a quiet lane and fucking. The thrill of being seen is great, but neither of us really fancies meeting anyone else for the reasons others have mentioned. We decided Clubs were the right environment for us (long memories again!) and hopefully they will be again, or it will be hotels

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By *odgerNbadgerCouple
over a year ago

Chepstow

Oh Christ, that’s terrifying and awful. That would scare me to death even locked in a car with someone I trust."

Even though I know Bodger would take someone apart with his bare hands if they hurt me, it's not something I want to experience!

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By *irty Pretty OP Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Oh Christ, that’s terrifying and awful. That would scare me to death even locked in a car with someone I trust.

Even though I know Bodger would take someone apart with his bare hands if they hurt me, it's not something I want to experience! "

God no, definitely not. Everyone always says it’s “a minority” that behaves like this, but my view is that just one is too many and enough to ruin things. Maybe the single guys that are so desperate to go dogging should take a harder line on the men around them - if they want women and couples to feel safe enough to turn up, they need to stamp this behaviour out themselves.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

In my first few years of swinging I tried it with a guy I had been meeting who is very well known in the dogging spots in England just over the border. I felt safeish with him as he knew the places to go and a lot of the people but I still felt on edge and couldn't relax enough to enjoy it. This is the thrill some seek but it wasn't for me. Which actually shocked me as I was a bit of an 'alfresco queen of outdoor sex' in my younger days. But that was before I knew about dogging and some of the dangers that I know people have encountered. Also it was just me and a guy without a dozen thirsty guys wanting to watch or join in!

Each to their own tho that enjoy it.

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By *irty Pretty OP Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"In my first few years of swinging I tried it with a guy I had been meeting who is very well known in the dogging spots in England just over the border. I felt safeish with him as he knew the places to go and a lot of the people but I still felt on edge and couldn't relax enough to enjoy it. This is the thrill some seek but it wasn't for me. Which actually shocked me as I was a bit of an 'alfresco queen of outdoor sex' in my younger days. But that was before I knew about dogging and some of the dangers that I know people have encountered. Also it was just me and a guy without a dozen thirsty guys wanting to watch or join in!

Each to their own tho that enjoy it. "

I can enjoy outdoor or car sex with the right person, as long as it’s just us and I’m not worrying about getting caught. It’s the audience that I think would put me off.

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By *efByOrgasmsMan
over a year ago

Heads of the Valleys

I've had mostly great experiences when taking someone dogging but on 2 occasions I had to tell the guys to fuck off as they were beyond disrespectful.

Lucky enough they were put off by the experience which I would have undershirt if they never wanted to go again.

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

I remembr it first becoming popular in Swansea,, some friends told us just pull up in your car and watch we did and waited nervously a car pulled in a couple got out they started to kiss soon he lifted her miniskirt is cock come out another couple arived then another then two guys they all started touching each other, we were to scared and nervous to get out of the car,

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By *odonCouple
over a year ago

We enjoy the social side as well as the fun aspect

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By *ad Influence..Couple
over a year ago

Port Talbot

"We enjoy the social side as well as the fun aspect "

Its pretty obvious, the peeps who claim they go dogging, and comment on here are dreamers or are going to the wrong places.

In our experience, the majority are respectful and if not the regulars will sort it out.

Agree, the social side is brill. Used to be regulars and very rarely seen problems.

Treat it like an outdoor club. Same rules and manners apply.

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By *ite -meWoman
over a year ago

my house

"We enjoy the social side as well as the fun aspect

Its pretty obvious, the peeps who claim they go dogging, and comment on here are dreamers or are going to the wrong places.

In our experience, the majority are respectful and if not the regulars will sort it out.

Agree, the social side is brill. Used to be regulars and very rarely seen problems.

Treat it like an outdoor club. Same rules and manners apply."
Was the same when i used to go dogging years ago. Disrespect anyone and the regs would sort them out. Was a good laugh back in the day's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never tried it to be fair

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By *odgerNbadgerCouple
over a year ago

Chepstow

Treat it like an outdoor club. Same rules and manners apply."

That said, my first 2 club experiences involved random bloke demanding to fuck me, not taking no for an answer from me, getting even more shirty when Bodger told him to fuck off... some people are pricks no matter where they are

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By *ad Influence..Couple
over a year ago

Port Talbot

Treat it like an outdoor club. Same rules and manners apply.

Very good point,but that's life. Unfortunately there are arseholes in every walk of life. A polite no, then a stern no, then a smack lol.

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