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By *elshdevil70 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea

Before I start I appreciate everyone has there preference and choice who they want to meet so is isn't a moan at anyone but...

As a geniune single male on here who keeps himself reasonably healthy and fit but is now into 50's, the option of just even having a convo on here let alone a meet is getting harder as probably 90% of profiles have 45 as a cut of point.

Its just a bit frustrating at times as personally I'm far from dead from the waist down and thought experience would be welcome.

Just wondering what others thoughts were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're moaning

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By *carlett AllureWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

The fact your text hasn’t been updated and says your 46 yet profile information is 50 probably doesn’t help

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By *elshdevil70 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea


"The fact your text hasn’t been updated and says your 46 yet profile information is 50 probably doesn’t help "

Updated

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By *elshdevil70 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea


"I think you're moaning "

Well maybe a bit

but more of a frustration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before I start I appreciate everyone has there preference and choice who they want to meet so is isn't a moan at anyone but...

As a geniune single male on here who keeps himself reasonably healthy and fit but is now into 50's, the option of just even having a convo on here let alone a meet is getting harder as probably 90% of profiles have 45 as a cut of point.

Its just a bit frustrating at times as personally I'm far from dead from the waist down and thought experience would be welcome.

Just wondering what others thoughts were"

Know what you mean, but it’s the price we pay for honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest age may be a restriction however even us younger ones struggle as there are so many single males on this site whom are disrespectful and damn right rude that makes it that much harder to break through and get to chat....feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let’s me say it this way....why a male That is close to 50 always want someone young to show interest in meeting with him? Why don’t you look at the women above your age I’m sure they will reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem with being older.

When its safe to do so, you will find that socials and clubs are the best way to meet on here as messaging is a waste of time due to the amount of men on here.

Once people see you face to face you will find that if you get along, age is not a barrier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before I start I appreciate everyone has there preference and choice who they want to meet so is isn't a moan at anyone but...

As a geniune single male on here who keeps himself reasonably healthy and fit but is now into 50's, the option of just even having a convo on here let alone a meet is getting harder as probably 90% of profiles have 45 as a cut of point.

Its just a bit frustrating at times as personally I'm far from dead from the waist down and thought experience would be welcome.

Just wondering what others thoughts were"

Have you tried looking for women your own age instead of younger? Maybe you'll have more success..

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

I’m 58 & been married 3 times, first 2 were close to my own age neither worked because we didn’t see life the same as we aged. H approached me as I was friends with her older brother. Married 17yrs now & 2 kids.

So it’s not always the guy looking for younger. I would agree that you are pretty much wasting your time online & need to get your butt out there though. find something to do involving social groups. I’m a lifelong biker, sports bikes rather than Harley types & a bike club meet was where I met H.

Even now our liaisons with others seem to happen more outside of the swing community than within it, not that they happen often.

S

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By *elshdevil70 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea

I appreciate how Fab works and done the social thing and have met some brilliant people over the yrs both older and younger but tbh it was more of a general point i was trying to make not a personal one that 45 is still a realitively young age these days in my opinion but it seems to be a cut off point thats all..

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Speaking for myself, 45 is my cut-off because I find that the percentage of men I find attractive drops extremely sharply after that age. No amount of “experience” is enough to make up for having an unattractive face looming over me in the throes of whatever.

I’ve also found in my time here that men over 50 (and under 30, but that’s a different story) are often much more disrespectful and entitled. Before I blocked people outside my age range, I used to get messages from men in their 60s and 70s who invariably got angry and aggressive when I said I wasn’t interested. Before complaining that younger women don’t want you (18? Really?), ask yourself why a woman would want someone old enough to be her father or even grandfather? I don’t want to fuck anyone young enough to be my child or old enough to be my parent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Speaking for myself, 45 is my cut-off because I find that the percentage of men I find attractive drops extremely sharply after that age. No amount of “experience” is enough to make up for having an unattractive face looming over me in the throes of whatever.

I’ve also found in my time here that men over 50 (and under 30, but that’s a different story) are often much more disrespectful and entitled. Before I blocked people outside my age range, I used to get messages from men in their 60s and 70s who invariably got angry and aggressive when I said I wasn’t interested. Before complaining that younger women don’t want you (18? Really?), ask yourself why a woman would want someone old enough to be her father or even grandfather? I don’t want to fuck anyone young enough to be my child or old enough to be my parent."

This is so true and accurate before blocking certain age I had messages from guys even older than my father. I understand some women might have “daddy issues” but that’s they business. Same as you I don’t find old men attractive and their experience can’t made up for it. Young guys isn’t my thing either as they tend to be very selfish and forget that woman needs a tongue attention I’m one of the nicest on here and set age range 40-60 lol funny enough I get most messages from guys over 50

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Speaking for myself, 45 is my cut-off because I find that the percentage of men I find attractive drops extremely sharply after that age. No amount of “experience” is enough to make up for having an unattractive face looming over me in the throes of whatever.

I’ve also found in my time here that men over 50 (and under 30, but that’s a different story) are often much more disrespectful and entitled. Before I blocked people outside my age range, I used to get messages from men in their 60s and 70s who invariably got angry and aggressive when I said I wasn’t interested. Before complaining that younger women don’t want you (18? Really?), ask yourself why a woman would want someone old enough to be her father or even grandfather? I don’t want to fuck anyone young enough to be my child or old enough to be my parent.

This is so true and accurate before blocking certain age I had messages from guys even older than my father. I understand some women might have “daddy issues” but that’s they business. Same as you I don’t find old men attractive and their experience can’t made up for it. Young guys isn’t my thing either as they tend to be very selfish and forget that woman needs a tongue attention I’m one of the nicest on here and set age range 40-60 lol funny enough I get most messages from guys over 50 "

Yup! My age range is only as wide as it is (25-45) because I’m open to meeting younger women - purely because women that age are less likely to be selfish. If I was only meeting men it would be more like 35-45!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't just rely on Fab to meet people, it's just a snapshot on a screen and hard to get a personality across! Unfortunately, age is a filtering factor for most on here, but my gf and I have plenty of naughty friends in their 50s from the club scene. Hopefully we're allowed out to play soon!

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By *ingAlMan
over a year ago

hereford

This is true, I've long given up messaging but do ok in clubs

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My cut off point is 50 although i know a few men i have met have told lies and are clearly over 50.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have noticed this time round on fab that there's a lot more younger women on here especially early 30s and not so many older ladies but each to there own

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By *rgasmicFunCouple
over a year ago

Gwent

Its true most single guys are tarnished with the same name mainly due to those idiots on here who have no clue, and its an easy way out hoping for a meet on here, how ever if in a club or a social night, if a guy stumps up the nerve to come up introduce him self and u r polite and decent, u will get a good responce off any couple or single lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They say age is just a number and I believe that, at the moment but is that because I’m old .

But I can see where OP is coming from. The best way is not to let it bother you. Fab is a great place to find friends and have a laugh.

But I do prefer women my own age or a little older. And plenty of women lie about their age also.

There’s life In the old dog yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 58 which puts me outside the age range of several of our naughty friends profiles, but as has already been said, if you get out to clubs etc & present yourself well, the age difference rarely matters. Ch3wy has more trouble than me because some couples class him as too young, whatever your age you're not going to suit many with just a profile page you need to get out there. When you're allowed to of course X

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By *oeLikesDaddysWoman
over a year ago

Merthyr


"Speaking for myself, 45 is my cut-off because I find that the percentage of men I find attractive drops extremely sharply after that age. No amount of “experience” is enough to make up for having an unattractive face looming over me in the throes of whatever.

I’ve also found in my time here that men over 50 (and under 30, but that’s a different story) are often much more disrespectful and entitled. Before I blocked people outside my age range, I used to get messages from men in their 60s and 70s who invariably got angry and aggressive when I said I wasn’t interested. Before complaining that younger women don’t want you (18? Really?), ask yourself why a woman would want someone old enough to be her father or even grandfather? I don’t want to fuck anyone young enough to be my child or old enough to be my parent."

I’ve never agreed with something more in my life. The disrespect and pure aggression I get from over 50 males is downright disgusting. Don’t get me wrong, some of the younger males can be awful but most of the over 50’s that I’ve politely declined have called me all of the names under the sun.

When I was new to the swinging scene it made me want to pack it in all together. Being called a “dirty slag” and a “cock teasing little slut” on a daily basis by men who were old enough to be my grandfather wasn’t what I signed up for.

It’s my right to set my ages however I want and I’ll stand by that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Speaking for myself, 45 is my cut-off because I find that the percentage of men I find attractive drops extremely sharply after that age. No amount of “experience” is enough to make up for having an unattractive face looming over me in the throes of whatever.

I’ve also found in my time here that men over 50 (and under 30, but that’s a different story) are often much more disrespectful and entitled. Before I blocked people outside my age range, I used to get messages from men in their 60s and 70s who invariably got angry and aggressive when I said I wasn’t interested. Before complaining that younger women don’t want you (18? Really?), ask yourself why a woman would want someone old enough to be her father or even grandfather? I don’t want to fuck anyone young enough to be my child or old enough to be my parent.

I’ve never agreed with something more in my life. The disrespect and pure aggression I get from over 50 males is downright disgusting. Don’t get me wrong, some of the younger males can be awful but most of the over 50’s that I’ve politely declined have called me all of the names under the sun.

When I was new to the swinging scene it made me want to pack it in all together. Being called a “dirty slag” and a “cock teasing little slut” on a daily basis by men who were old enough to be my grandfather wasn’t what I signed up for.

It’s my right to set my ages however I want and I’ll stand by that. "

It’s sad (and disgraceful) that you have to take that abuse. Yet again it spoils things for the genuine guys.

I understand OP’s feelings, I share many of them, as a young 54 year old, but as has been mentioned above, everyone has the right to set their own limits, and disappointing as some of the age limits are (from my point of view from ladies of a similar age to me) I respect them and move on.

Abuse gets no one anywhere.

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