FabSwingers.com forum: Locked down and not bothered

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is anyone else perfectly content in lockdown?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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No I'm not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes, we are. Apart from the background concerns about family etc we're quite content. Some positivity is needed I think and we shouldn't feel bad about being ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No I'm not."

Explain

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, we are. Apart from the background concerns about family etc we're quite content. Some positivity is needed I think and we shouldn't feel bad about being ok"

My thoughts exactly.

I was on a well known chat site earlier and said so , and was shot down in flames.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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"No I'm not.

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Well I want to Go out see family friends etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No I'm not.

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Well I want to Go out see family friends etc."

Ah sorry, I misunderstood. I thought you were saying you weren't bothered.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"No I'm not.

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Well I want to Go out see family friends etc."

Me too, I miss my family

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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"No I'm not.

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Well I want to Go out see family friends etc.

Ah sorry, I misunderstood. I thought you were saying you weren't bothered."

No your content staying in I'm not x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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"No I'm not.

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Well I want to Go out see family friends etc.

Me too, I miss my family

And me xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Yes, we are. Apart from the background concerns about family etc we're quite content. Some positivity is needed I think and we shouldn't feel bad about being ok

My thoughts exactly.

I was on a well known chat site earlier and said so , and was shot down in flames.

I think people react differently to events like this which, let's face it, none of us have experienced before on such a scale. It's rather unfashionable at the moment to be upbeat unless you're a celebrity "entertaining the troops" on Instagram or YouTube

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"No I'm not.

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Well I want to Go out see family friends etc.

Me too, I miss my family

And me xx"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just the 3 of us then Nicecouple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come and play Secret Message Game in the Lounge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not , it got to me big time yesterday , went for a walk along the canal by me and sat down and had a good cry , missing going home to Coventry etc , stuck in a place I don’t want to be and felt trapped , first time I’ve ever felt lonely in my life and it wasn’t nice

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No I'm not.

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Well I want to Go out see family friends etc.

Me too, I miss my family

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Me too, I'm desperately trying to set up continuity of food deliveries to my parents, worried about our son miles away and alone in his flat and our daughter working from home and going stir crazy. However there's not a thing I can do other than stay in touch so I might as well be as positive as possible for their sake as much as my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I hate being hemmed in. I hate not having freedom. I hate not seeing people or being able to walk in the countryside.

Lastly, I hate that the only real contact with the outside world is often through social media and that seems full of people tearing each other apart for having a different view to them.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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"I’m not , it got to me big time yesterday , went for a walk along the canal by me and sat down and had a good cry , missing going home to Coventry etc , stuck in a place I don’t want to be and felt trapped , first time I’ve ever felt lonely in my life and it wasn’t nice "

Are you OK x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just the 3 of us then Nicecouple

Lol. Relentless positivity can piss people off

. But if you can't change something you have to accept it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Loneliness isn't nice. Are there any ways you can feel less lonely. Can you FaceTime people, chat via the net, have an old fashioned phone call etc? I know it isn't the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just the 3 of us then Nicecouple

Lol. Relentless positivity can piss people off

. But if you can't change something you have to accept it."

Feeling decidedly un -positive now I've started this thread.

I'm sorry if I've upset anyone

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just the 3 of us then Nicecouple

Lol. Relentless positivity can piss people off

. But if you can't change something you have to accept it.

Feeling decidedly un -positive now I've started this thread.

I'm sorry if I've upset anyone

You're entitled to feel ok.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Just the 3 of us then Nicecouple

Lol. Relentless positivity can piss people off

. But if you can't change something you have to accept it.

Feeling decidedly un -positive now I've started this thread.

I'm sorry if I've upset anyone

You haven't

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just the 3 of us then Nicecouple

Lol. Relentless positivity can piss people off

. But if you can't change something you have to accept it.

Feeling decidedly un -positive now I've started this thread.

I'm sorry if I've upset anyone

You haven't

Thank you

For me it's brought a wonderful sense of contentment, a break from constant grind and an opportunity to be selfish, without actually actively being selfish.

I am desperately sorry for those that are sad, lonely or anxious though.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Just the 3 of us then Nicecouple

Lol. Relentless positivity can piss people off

. But if you can't change something you have to accept it.

Feeling decidedly un -positive now I've started this thread.

I'm sorry if I've upset anyone

You haven't

Thank you

For me it's brought a wonderful sense of contentment, a break from constant grind and an opportunity to be selfish, without actually actively being selfish.

I am desperately sorry for those that are sad, lonely or anxious though."

I know exactly what you mean but we will get through this together x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm trying to focus on positives from it, I miss everyone else and am worried but I'm having a lovely time with my daughter.

Do you know the Serenity Prayer they use in AA? I'm not an addict of any sort btw but I think the twelve step programme is just a great take on life for anyone, so I try apply it where I can...

"Give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference"

I've been trying to get this through to a friend who is really struggling with lockdown and obsessing over the news so just mentioning in case it's any help to anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm trying to focus on positives from it, I miss everyone else and am worried but I'm having a lovely time with my daughter.

Do you know the Serenity Prayer they use in AA? I'm not an addict of any sort btw but I think the twelve step programme is just a great take on life for anyone, so I try apply it where I can...

"Give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference"

I've been trying to get this through to a friend who is really struggling with lockdown and obsessing over the news so just mentioning in case it's any help to anyone else."

That's thoughtful.

I can't imagine what it must be like to be lonely and alone if you dont want to be

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Hmmmm OP tbh it’s not the best but it’s a necessary measure to take for the greater good, tbh I do miss hitting the gym or going out to shops etc or seeing family....my jobs are both in the same industry but one has been put on hold for now due to the lockdown. But the other one I can still go to a few nights a week, for sure though once things start to go back to normal later down the line I’m going back into my normal routine and not to mention visiting a few off my favourite swingers clubs again. I hope you’re lockdown isn’t driving you mad OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hmmmm OP tbh it’s not the best but it’s a necessary measure to take for the greater good, tbh I do miss hitting the gym or going out to shops etc or seeing family....my jobs are both in the same industry but one has been put on hold for now due to the lockdown. But the other one I can still go to a few nights a week, for sure though once things start to go back to normal later down the line I’m going back into my normal routine and not to mention visiting a few off my favourite swingers clubs again. I hope you’re lockdown isn’t driving you mad OP

My lockdown is lovely

I am very fortunate to be completed content and mostly unaffected.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"My lockdown is lovely

I am very fortunate to be completed content and mostly unaffected."
the eternal optimist eh? Hehe well it suits you I’m glad to see you’re well. tbh I’m keeping it together especially for the family as my parents and siblings are at Times on edge but I try to keep em calm or we discuss updates on clean up procedures or vaccine trials etc to remain positive as we have family members in the NHS and abroad too....funnily enough if this pandemic etc was not happening I was planning on visiting Townhouse either this month or next month but that’s been put aside for obvious reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My lockdown is lovely

I am very fortunate to be completed content and mostly unaffected. the eternal optimist eh? Hehe well it suits you I’m glad to see you’re well. tbh I’m keeping it together especially for the family as my parents and siblings are at Times on edge but I try to keep em calm or we discuss updates on clean up procedures or vaccine trials etc to remain positive as we have family members in the NHS and abroad too....funnily enough if this pandemic etc was not happening I was planning on visiting Townhouse either this month or next month but that’s been put aside for obvious reasons."

Let's hope it does reopen, some clubs are saying that financially it may not be possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i miss the clubs the social gathering and all my mates toguther having a pint over a nice chat of what happen over the week..but im ok inside safe and doing my part..keeping everyone else safe

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"Let's hope it does reopen, some clubs are saying that financially it may not be possible

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true after all they announced they where going to pay 80% off peoples and business owners wages but let’s be honest I doubt they could cover or deliver it realistically speaking. Who knows though maybe the swing clubs could do a post corona fund raiser to get things back on track? They can then turn that frown upside down mysecretlife

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well i miss the clubs the social gathering and all my mates toguther having a pint over a nice chat of what happen over the week..but im ok inside safe and doing my part..keeping everyone else safe"

Yes it's a nice feeling knowing that by doing something so simple you are helping every other person out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've noticed virtually no change to my life, as I'm a lifelong highly solitary bloke. I'm very comfortable and happy being locked down. It's like a much needed mid-life hibernation. Booze, laptop, comfort food, empty house, books, bed etc. Loving it.

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By *sianMancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Is anyone else perfectly content in lockdown?"

Absolutely content.

My self isolation began on 1st January however this had to be broken on many occasions due to international travelling. It wasn't in my control.

As soon as I could I returned back and thus started my self isolation and lockdown from 4th March.

Today will be my 25th day since I ventured out without a break to this.

It's going well so far and hopefully is same for all.

Peace

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By *inky SpiceWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Just the 3 of us then Nicecouple

You can add me. I do miss my friends and I'm worried about my Dad, but much of my life is lived online and long distance already so apart from not being able to go to work (and the associated financial worries) there isn't as big a change for me as there is for most others. I'm just planning to use this time productively so I can come out the other end not regretting the opportunity it has given me. And the times I do get a bit down I just prompt myself to remember all the people who are working so hard to keep the basic necessities of life turning over. If they can cope with the extra work and the stress and anxiety then I can cope with staying in my house for a few weeks. It would be churlish for me to feel otherwise.

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By *rish_sporty_ladMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Found this poem and it's very appropriate for now it's by Kathleen O'Meara called 'And People Stayed Home,'

Written in 1869, after the Irish famine

And people stayed home

and read books and listened

and rested and exercised

and made art and played

and learned new ways of being

and stopped

and listened deeper

someone meditated

someone prayed

someone danced

someone met their shadow

and people began to think differently

and people healed

and in the absence of people who lived in ignorant ways,

dangerous, meaningless and heartless,

even the earth began to heal

and when the danger ended

and people found each other

grieved for the dead people

and they made new choices

and dreamed of new visions

and created new ways of life

and healed the earth completely

just as they were healed themselves.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

Don't like it because, I can't see family and friends but I have got a lot done in the house as we moved a month before this happened and didn't have time to do stuff due to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm content that I have my children with me, that we live in a big enough house that we can have our own work space and that I have a small garden to tend.

But I'm finding it really tough that I can't go outside, have to ration food as I can't just nip out to get more, that I'm separated from people and places I care about. Walking was my fitness and therapy and now I can't do that I'm feeling so hemmed in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life as normal really here just have to fill a form out to go out and no one is around and supermarket is empty so life as normal really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm now working from home and enjoying not having to go out and the isolation. Having lots of friends is overrated.

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

I’m enjoying myself. I’m liking working from home (which I’m used to doing, although not every day) and I think it’ll bring me closer to some of my peripheral friends as people are making an effort- I’ve had lots of opportunities to socialise using video chats. I am also going to be so grateful to get back out there again, rather than taking things for granted.

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By *orkmalewithPAMan
over a year ago

York

I am used to spending most of my free time on my own,

During the day I work in the same building with some lads but I am working alone but I chat with them. Out side work my housemate is jeweller and she works odd hours and then most of the time she is staying at her BF's so I have the house to myself.

I used to go to the pub a couple of times a week apart from that I spend most of my time on my own anyway..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't really affect me, as I am as happy to play online just as much as meeting in person. The benefits of technology. As long as I can enjoy myself

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By *V-AliceTV/TS
over a year ago

Ayr

"Is anyone else perfectly content in lockdown?"

Perfectly content? That's a very high bar. LOL

Have to say I'm skating this, though. Then again, it's a lot easier when you're used to living on your own.

The lockdown is going to be tough going for most - especially if it lasts three months, as now seems likely.

We will all get through it, though none of us can be certain in what shape.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

I'm fine for now, I'm.using it as a chance to catch up on jobs round the home that I've been putting off due to being too busy. I'm going to use this time to get my life in order and learn some new things.

Being self employed it's to be expected that there will be some times when work isn't available so I'm glad that I've been able to prepare for that. Of course if paid work comes in I'll take it and I've registered as a volunteer so that should keep me busy.

However, I believe that lockdown should only be allowed to last a relatively short while as it's not a viable strategy beyond a couple of months. Also I oppose any stricter measures being imposed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby on advised lockdown for 3.months due to cancer treatment being cancelled.. He's high risk. He's spending his time uprating his car and rekindling his love for the ukulele...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've noticed virtually no change to my life, as I'm a lifelong highly solitary bloke. I'm very comfortable and happy being locked down. It's like a much needed mid-life hibernation. Booze, laptop, comfort food, empty house, books, bed etc. Loving it. "

Thats good to hear

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is anyone else perfectly content in lockdown?

Absolutely content.

My self isolation began on 1st January however this had to be broken on many occasions due to international travelling. It wasn't in my control.

As soon as I could I returned back and thus started my self isolation and lockdown from 4th March.

Today will be my 25th day since I ventured out without a break to this.

It's going well so far and hopefully is same for all.

Peace"

No sure I could do 25 days without my dog walks, but hey, hats off to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your enjoying yourself go volunteer to help

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Hubby on advised lockdown for 3.months due to cancer treatment being cancelled.. He's high risk. He's spending his time uprating his car and rekindling his love for the ukulele... "

I'm very sorry to hear that and wish you both well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Found this poem and it's very appropriate for now it's by Kathleen O'Meara called 'And People Stayed Home,'

Written in 1869, after the Irish famine

And people stayed home

and read books and listened

and rested and exercised

and made art and played

and learned new ways of being

and stopped

and listened deeper

someone meditated

someone prayed

someone danced

someone met their shadow

and people began to think differently

and people healed

and in the absence of people who lived in ignorant ways,

dangerous, meaningless and heartless,

even the earth began to heal

and when the danger ended

and people found each other

grieved for the dead people

and they made new choices

and dreamed of new visions

and created new ways of life

and healed the earth completely

just as they were healed themselves.

Thank you for that. I've copied and saved it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hubby on advised lockdown for 3.months due to cancer treatment being cancelled.. He's high risk. He's spending his time uprating his car and rekindling his love for the ukulele...

I'm very sorry to hear that and wish you both well

xx"

Ditto x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anyone else perfectly content in lockdown?"

Yes we are

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I live on my own so am used to time alone. Yes, do miss going out and meeting up. Still able to see my daughter. So long as I can obtain essential supplies, can sit it out.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’m doing fine so far. I have a lot to be thankful for, I’m healthy and have everything I need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment I am yes because I'm still working. I get bored on my days off so I would be really bored if I couldn't work.

Got no friends locally so not like I'm missing any of that side of it either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hubby on advised lockdown for 3.months due to cancer treatment being cancelled.. He's high risk. He's spending his time uprating his car and rekindling his love for the ukulele...

I'm very sorry to hear that and wish you both well

Ditto x"

Oh you've both heard him play as well?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hubby on advised lockdown for 3.months due to cancer treatment being cancelled.. He's high risk. He's spending his time uprating his car and rekindling his love for the ukulele...

I'm very sorry to hear that and wish you both well

Ditto x

Oh you've both heard him play as well?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At the moment I am yes because I'm still working. I get bored on my days off so I would be really bored if I couldn't work

Got no friends locally so not like I'm missing any of that side of it either. "

Well hello

miss seeing you already x

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By *illwalkerMan
over a year ago

South Lincs

No, frustrated that I can't meet friends (whether fab or vanilla). But we all have to do the responsible thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've hardly noticed much of a difference really - except for not having to do the school run

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Been my life for a few years now because i'm mobility disabled, just won my PIP tribunal so now have the means to go out and be mobile and this shit happens. Is a little frustrating but i'm ok and used to it. At least i don't have to see or hear people being out in the weather while i'm stuck at home.

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By *uddly GoblinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Wouldn't say I was content in lock down as do miss seeing the family and friends I normally spend time with, the days are fairly boring aswell as my better half is still working with being NHS staff but it is what it is and there is not much I can do about it

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By *ingo69Man
over a year ago

north staffs ,south cheshire borderr

Hope they have maternity hospital open in 10 months time . I fear another baby boom coming on

all getting intimate nothing to do. Everybody Fuck Now.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Coping with it just fine, not too intrusive, thanks to a big garden. The issue is extended family and not being able to help, that's the hard bit. A new barbecue and plenty of briquettes and I (he) will be a happy fella.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Been my life for a few years now because i'm mobility disabled, just won my PIP tribunal so now have the means to go out and be mobile and this shit happens. Is a little frustrating but i'm ok and used to it. At least i don't have to see or hear people being out in the weather while i'm stuck at home.

Bless you

Great news about your PIP , it's a tough interview x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At the moment I am yes because I'm still working. I get bored on my days off so I would be really bored if I couldn't work

Got no friends locally so not like I'm missing any of that side of it either.

Well hello

miss seeing you already x"

Hey flower.

miss you too xxx

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Bless you

Great news about your PIP , it's a tough interview x"

Thanks,i did walk out halfway through because i couldn't cope so was surprised to win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still go to work so nothing has changed apart from working a lot harder! Also risk I might die but that’s nearly an everyday occurrence! Just depends how you look at it really!

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