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"Brilliant thread as I honestly hadn’t considered this. I have been worrying about family and friends who suffer with severe depression and other mental health disorders as isolation makes it much more difficult to check in with them and phonecalls don’t always provide the clarity required." And you just remember there are people you can call too, my multi tooled amigo. | |||
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"Thank you for this. As I am one of those people who have to stay in the same house as my ex husband who isnt the nicest to deal with at the best of times. Yet you were enjoying lockdown yesterday " Are people in awful situations not allowed to (a) put a brave face on it, or (b) have a reprieve. | |||
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"Thank you for this. As I am one of those people who have to stay in the same house as my ex husband who isnt the nicest to deal with at the best of times. Yet you were enjoying lockdown yesterday " Wow judgemental much.... Do you know what some woman in abusive circumstances sometimes have to do to survive the day? If you cant be kind, at least be quiet | |||
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"Thank you for this. As I am one of those people who have to stay in the same house as my ex husband who isnt the nicest to deal with at the best of times. Yet you were enjoying lockdown yesterday Wow judgemental much.... Do you know what some woman in abusive circumstances sometimes have to do to survive the day? If you cant be kind, at least be quiet " I was making reference to the poster's somewhat contradictory status at the time. Put your stick away | |||
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"Thank you for this. As I am one of those people who have to stay in the same house as my ex husband who isnt the nicest to deal with at the best of times. Yet you were enjoying lockdown yesterday Are people in awful situations not allowed to (a) put a brave face on it, or (b) have a reprieve. " Sure they are | |||
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"Thank you for this. As I am one of those people who have to stay in the same house as my ex husband who isnt the nicest to deal with at the best of times. Yet you were enjoying lockdown yesterday Wow judgemental much.... Do you know what some woman in abusive circumstances sometimes have to do to survive the day? If you cant be kind, at least be quiet " I don't think I'm imagining things, but there appears to be a stark rise in judgements being made. I guess the forum has become the place to sound off people's stresses, having no control over the current situation. Some things being said, not actual insults but definitely insulting. | |||
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"Thank you for this. As I am one of those people who have to stay in the same house as my ex husband who isnt the nicest to deal with at the best of times. Yet you were enjoying lockdown yesterday Wow judgemental much.... Do you know what some woman in abusive circumstances sometimes have to do to survive the day? If you cant be kind, at least be quiet I was making reference to the poster's somewhat contradictory status at the time. Put your stick away " Because a status on Fab is an indication of what a person's everyday life is. As I said, if you can't be kind, be quiet.... You do less damage that way. Who are you to question or imply her situation is not abusive based on 1 status... I'm smiling in all the pictures from my marriage, doesn't mean I was happy and my ex husband wasn't a controlling arse that made me miserable and suicidal.... Comments like yours, have the potential to push a person over the edge. Just think about that next time you emoji eye roll at someone reaching out from an abusive situation | |||
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"Thank you for this. As I am one of those people who have to stay in the same house as my ex husband who isnt the nicest to deal with at the best of times. Yet you were enjoying lockdown yesterday Wow judgemental much.... Do you know what some woman in abusive circumstances sometimes have to do to survive the day? If you cant be kind, at least be quiet I don't think I'm imagining things, but there appears to be a stark rise in judgements being made. I guess the forum has become the place to sound off people's stresses, having no control over the current situation. Some things being said, not actual insults but definitely insulting. " People have no idea how hurtful words can be... Caroline Flack suicide (and many others) have been forgotten.... Be kind is just a trending # after all, not an actual action people practice unfortunately | |||
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"Thank you for this. As I am one of those people who have to stay in the same house as my ex husband who isnt the nicest to deal with at the best of times. Yet you were enjoying lockdown yesterday " she must have forgotten about that | |||
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"“Calls to a national domestic abuse helpline rose by 49% and killings doubled weeks after lockdown, a report by MPs has revealed. Following the "surge" in violence, the report called for a government strategy on domestic abuse during the pandemic.” https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-52433520 This is shocking and needs more attention. " This.. When society has enough and demands the legislative treat abusers of whatever gender a lot more harshly via the courts perhaps we may see a change in the attitudes some who think it's OK to mentally torture, batter and kill.. | |||
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"“Calls to a national domestic abuse helpline rose by 49% and killings doubled weeks after lockdown, a report by MPs has revealed. Following the "surge" in violence, the report called for a government strategy on domestic abuse during the pandemic.” https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-52433520 This is shocking and needs more attention. This.. When society has enough and demands the legislative treat abusers of whatever gender a lot more harshly via the courts perhaps we may see a change in the attitudes some who think it's OK to mentally torture, batter and kill.. " Lockdown will be eased and numbers will decrease . Problem gone But it’s not gone - it’s still there . The media could be doing more to highlight this. | |||
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"“Calls to a national domestic abuse helpline rose by 49% and killings doubled weeks after lockdown, a report by MPs has revealed. Following the "surge" in violence, the report called for a government strategy on domestic abuse during the pandemic.” https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-52433520 This is shocking and needs more attention. This.. When society has enough and demands the legislative treat abusers of whatever gender a lot more harshly via the courts perhaps we may see a change in the attitudes some who think it's OK to mentally torture, batter and kill.. Lockdown will be eased and numbers will decrease . Problem gone But it’s not gone - it’s still there . The media could be doing more to highlight this. " Sadly true, a national shame.. If the gender was reversed and it was men being murdered weekly then that might prompt change.. | |||
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"DV calls are up, harrowing to listen to. As desperate as you are, you can have all the advise you like, but until they are ready, there will be a point where they snap and have had enough of their treatment. Until then there's not a lot that can be done. They just need to know you're there when they need you, in whatever capacity. Don't go blundering in trying to fix everything because you won't be welcome by either side. " Is it the case that more public awareness is a driving factor to getting more done ? The increase in numbers for the last 6 weeks are disgusting . This can’t slip down the National priority list in the same way the thread easily slips down page 1 of the forum | |||
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"DV calls are up, harrowing to listen to. As desperate as you are, you can have all the advise you like, but until they are ready, there will be a point where they snap and have had enough of their treatment. Until then there's not a lot that can be done. They just need to know you're there when they need you, in whatever capacity. Don't go blundering in trying to fix everything because you won't be welcome by either side. " That's not really fair. It's not that they finally have enough of their treatment. They are often scared shitless, the most dangerous time is when they leave. It's often safer to stay because then you know what the abuser is doing/ how they are feeling. When they leave it's an unknown. They can't live in survival mode 24/7. | |||
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"DV calls are up, harrowing to listen to. As desperate as you are, you can have all the advise you like, but until they are ready, there will be a point where they snap and have had enough of their treatment. Until then there's not a lot that can be done. They just need to know you're there when they need you, in whatever capacity. Don't go blundering in trying to fix everything because you won't be welcome by either side. " this is actually very true. It's a complex situation.. and the abused wont leave till they are ready or something triggers them. And often someone reporting it will find the abused denies and defends the abuser... I speak with experience of being in the situation and years and years of supporting those in the situation | |||
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