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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). " Best thing is to get checked out. I would suggest maybe be more careful in future but up to you of course. Is sexual activity more important than your health 🙅♂️ I know what I'm choosing every single time. | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). " Why would you allow someone to rim you knowing tou had open wounds on the area? | |||
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"Book appointment at 56 dean street and get checked out to ease your mind. Though in the west uk / USA there has been zero recorded cases of an hiv transmission via anal rimming alone Even with sore gums There is plenty of data online from medical providers going over the reality risk and inhibitors in saliva / air etc flows of blood needed Just get a test for your peace of mind. Dean street use the more advanced tests for early detection anyway as they cater for the sex industry extensively which works on tighter protocols than civilians do .
"Zero recorded cases doesn't mean it hasn't happened though as extremely difficult to pin down exact incident that led to transmission especially as somebody doing one risky thing is quite likely to have done other risky things. | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). Why would you allow someone to rim you knowing tou had open wounds on the area?" Why respond with judgement when OP needs advice and reassurance? | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). " First things first - did the person you were with have HIV? Because of not then then chances are zero | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). Why would you allow someone to rim you knowing tou had open wounds on the area? Why respond with judgement when OP needs advice and reassurance?" Sorry I didn't realise we were allowed to ask questions on an open forum x | |||
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"Get tested and get yourself on PREP. The risk from rimming is very low." But the risks will go up a lot if small cuts and gum disease. | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). " Yowzer. I would consider getting dewormed and telling the person with the bleeding gums who licked your bleeding arsehole to get dewormed as well. Intestinal parasites aren't discussed enough on this site. | |||
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"It's great to build up a relationship with your local sexual health clinic, as the staff are very good to discuss things with and to get improved knowledge, appropriate services and support. For HIV, there are prophylactic treatments available, including immediately post event. I realise the OP is from a couple of weeks ago, so some options are reduced. I'd never hesitate to phone and chat, between appointments, as I find them determined to be as helpful as they can be and very friendly. It's one of the few aspects of UK customer support and service that is outstanding. " I couldn't agree more with you. I test every three months, on prep. Had vaccines. All the staff are amazing, can't seem to do enough for you. And it doesn't have to go on your health record if you don't want it to. | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). Why would you allow someone to rim you knowing tou had open wounds on the area?" This!!!! | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). Why would you allow someone to rim you knowing tou had open wounds on the area? Why respond with judgement when OP needs advice and reassurance? Sorry I didn't realise we were allowed to ask questions on an open forum x" of course you're allowed just like I'm allowed to call you out for being a judge Judy | |||
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"Get tested and get yourself on PREP. The risk from rimming is very low. But the risks will go up a lot if small cuts and gum disease." Please do not comment if you do not know facts. There have been absolutely no cases of hiv transfer in this way. Also no recorded proven cases of hiv contracted from oral intercourse. | |||
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"It's great to build up a relationship with your local sexual health clinic, as the staff are very good to discuss things with and to get improved knowledge, appropriate services and support. For HIV, there are prophylactic treatments available, including immediately post event. I realise the OP is from a couple of weeks ago, so some options are reduced. I'd never hesitate to phone and chat, between appointments, as I find them determined to be as helpful as they can be and very friendly. It's one of the few aspects of UK customer support and service that is outstanding. I couldn't agree more with you. I test every three months, on prep. Had vaccines. All the staff are amazing, can't seem to do enough for you. And it doesn't have to go on your health record if you don't want it to." I couldn’t agree more; the staff at the clinic that I go to are so kind and friendly and helpful, and suggest appropriate things that I wouldn’t have thought or known about, that I actually look forward to my visits! | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). Why would you allow someone to rim you knowing tou had open wounds on the area? This!!!!" Apparently asking such a question is being judgement 😂 | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). Why would you allow someone to rim you knowing tou had open wounds on the area? This!!!! Apparently asking such a question is being judgement 😂" It is really. It's nobody else's business and adds nothing to the conversation nor answered the question asked Totally unnecessary. | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). Why would you allow someone to rim you knowing tou had open wounds on the area? This!!!! Apparently asking such a question is being judgement 😂" Correct You offered nothing supportive or in any way valuable to the conversation. Imagine someone coming on here terrified and that's all they got back. Have a word with yourself. | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). Why would you allow someone to rim you knowing tou had open wounds on the area? This!!!! Apparently asking such a question is being judgement 😂 Correct You offered nothing supportive or in any way valuable to the conversation. Imagine someone coming on here terrified and that's all they got back. Have a word with yourself." Haha, fantastic! Hyperbole at its finest. Hardly think he came on to a Fab forum "terrified". She can ask any questions she wants. It's a Fab discussion forum, not a self help group. No one has to act in a certain way on here. Her question was valid and in no way offensive. Why indeed would you knowingly be partaking in anything involving a wounded anus? As the OP has since confirmed, the sexual health professionals told him there is absolutely nothing to worry about. Gang banged by a loat of guys just back from the Congo.....That's the time to be terrified. | |||
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"Incubation period for HIV and Syphilis is typically 3 months. I would wait two weeks get a test because of Chlamydia and Gonorrhea anyway and then retest in 3 months to cover your basis. " This is good advice ! | |||
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"The risk of transmitting HIV through saliva or activities such as rimming is considered virtually non-existent due to the absence of flowing blood and the biological properties of the virus. While theoretical scenarios involving cuts and gum infections may cause concern, there are essentially zero documented cases of transmission through this specific route." The active partner's mouth is constantly producing saliva, which contains protective enzymes that naturally break down and inactivate the virus. Any microscopic trace of blood from a fissure is immediately diluted and neutralised before it can pose an infection risk. | |||
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"The risk of transmitting HIV through saliva or activities such as rimming is considered virtually non-existent due to the absence of flowing blood and the biological properties of the virus. While theoretical scenarios involving cuts and gum infections may cause concern, there are essentially zero documented cases of transmission through this specific route. The active partner's mouth is constantly producing saliva, which contains protective enzymes that naturally break down and inactivate the virus. Any microscopic trace of blood from a fissure is immediately diluted and neutralised before it can pose an infection risk." For transmission to even be a theoretical possibility, it would take an extreme, highly unusual situation where both partners have severe, actively bleeding open wounds in the mouth and around the anus at the same time. Even if that specific scenario did happen, the risk of HIV transmission would still be negligible. | |||
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"The risk of transmitting HIV through saliva or activities such as rimming is considered virtually non-existent due to the absence of flowing blood and the biological properties of the virus. While theoretical scenarios involving cuts and gum infections may cause concern, there are essentially zero documented cases of transmission through this specific route. The active partner's mouth is constantly producing saliva, which contains protective enzymes that naturally break down and inactivate the virus. Any microscopic trace of blood from a fissure is immediately diluted and neutralised before it can pose an infection risk. For transmission to even be a theoretical possibility, it would take an extreme, highly unusual situation where both partners have severe, actively bleeding open wounds in the mouth and around the anus at the same time. Even if that specific scenario did happen, the risk of HIV transmission would still be negligible." If you look at the sheer amount of hysteria surrounding activities with low-to-zero risk, it becomes pretty obvious that much of the ongoing HIV scare tactics are just designed to demonise gay men. Even when bi guys get dragged into it, they are just viewed as gay men in denial anyway; 'gay' is always the specific label weaponised to generate maximum panic. It’s an old trick: take a legitimate medical condition, strip away the actual science, and weaponise it to make same-sex intimacy look uniquely toxic and dangerous. By keeping people terrified of microscopic risks, society gets a convenient, health-adjacent excuse to police our bodies and treat our sex lives like some sort of moral biohazard. | |||
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"The risk of transmitting HIV through saliva or activities such as rimming is considered virtually non-existent due to the absence of flowing blood and the biological properties of the virus. While theoretical scenarios involving cuts and gum infections may cause concern, there are essentially zero documented cases of transmission through this specific route. The active partner's mouth is constantly producing saliva, which contains protective enzymes that naturally break down and inactivate the virus. Any microscopic trace of blood from a fissure is immediately diluted and neutralised before it can pose an infection risk. For transmission to even be a theoretical possibility, it would take an extreme, highly unusual situation where both partners have severe, actively bleeding open wounds in the mouth and around the anus at the same time. Even if that specific scenario did happen, the risk of HIV transmission would still be negligible. If you look at the sheer amount of hysteria surrounding activities with low-to-zero risk, it becomes pretty obvious that much of the ongoing HIV scare tactics are just designed to demonise gay men. Even when bi guys get dragged into it, they are just viewed as gay men in denial anyway; 'gay' is always the specific label weaponised to generate maximum panic. It’s an old trick: take a legitimate medical condition, strip away the actual science, and weaponise it to make same-sex intimacy look uniquely toxic and dangerous. By keeping people terrified of microscopic risks, society gets a convenient, health-adjacent excuse to police our bodies and treat our sex lives like some sort of moral biohazard. " What hysteria? It barely gets a mention anywhere. There hasn’t been hysteria since the 80s. The only person I know who mentions it is a friend, a gay man who is HiV positive who talks frequently in public and online about his journey to destigmatise living with it. So I would say yes, there is stigma but certainly no hysteria. | |||
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"Thing is, this guy posted this 6 weeks ago…….have you tested ? Have you confirmed with sexual contact if they were hiv + or not ???????" He was verified by someone last week so can't be that worried 🤷 | |||
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"The risk of transmitting HIV through saliva or activities such as rimming is considered virtually non-existent due to the absence of flowing blood and the biological properties of the virus. While theoretical scenarios involving cuts and gum infections may cause concern, there are essentially zero documented cases of transmission through this specific route. The active partner's mouth is constantly producing saliva, which contains protective enzymes that naturally break down and inactivate the virus. Any microscopic trace of blood from a fissure is immediately diluted and neutralised before it can pose an infection risk. For transmission to even be a theoretical possibility, it would take an extreme, highly unusual situation where both partners have severe, actively bleeding open wounds in the mouth and around the anus at the same time. Even if that specific scenario did happen, the risk of HIV transmission would still be negligible. If you look at the sheer amount of hysteria surrounding activities with low-to-zero risk, it becomes pretty obvious that much of the ongoing HIV scare tactics are just designed to demonise gay men. Even when bi guys get dragged into it, they are just viewed as gay men in denial anyway; 'gay' is always the specific label weaponised to generate maximum panic. It’s an old trick: take a legitimate medical condition, strip away the actual science, and weaponise it to make same-sex intimacy look uniquely toxic and dangerous. By keeping people terrified of microscopic risks, society gets a convenient, health-adjacent excuse to police our bodies and treat our sex lives like some sort of moral biohazard. What hysteria? It barely gets a mention anywhere. There hasn’t been hysteria since the 80s. The only person I know who mentions it is a friend, a gay man who is HiV positive who talks frequently in public and online about his journey to destigmatise living with it. So I would say yes, there is stigma but certainly no hysteria. " You are defining hysteria purely by how often it appears on the evening news. Because you don’t see 1980s style massive campaigns anymore, you assume the panic is gone. Look at the very thread we are typing in right now. It was started by someone worried about catching HIV from rimming. The NHS and the Terrence Higgins Trust are entirely clear on this: the transmission risk for rimming is virtually zero. The science says it is safe. Yet, if you have a quick look online, you will see a massive influx of people posting every single day about irrational fears of catching HIV. When people’s anxiety completely overrides modern medical reality, that is the literal definition of hysteria. It didn't die in the 80s; it just moved off the television and onto screens like the one you are reading right now. And yes, it is brilliant that your friend is doing public advocacy work to fight the stigma. But ask yourself why does he have to do that work in the first place? He has to do it because the underlying hysteria is still so pervasive that living openly requires an immense amount of bravery. Why is it that most people in this country still think of gay men the absolute second HIV is brought up, even though heterosexual diagnoses overtook gay and bisexual men years ago? The actual surveillance data from the UK Health Security Agency shows that the shape of the epidemic has completely changed. New diagnoses among gay and bisexual men have seen a massive, sustained decrease, falling by over 50% over the last decade, with the downward trend continuing through recent drops. Yet society completely ignores the science and still largely treats it as a gay disease. Because of this exact bias, many heterosexual people do not think they are at risk and fail to get routinely tested, which is why the Terrence Higgins Trust reports that over 50% of straight men and women are now diagnosed at a late stage. The fact that this specific illness requires a literal movement just so a person can exist without shame proves my point. You don't see people having to run massive public campaigns to 'destigmatise' living with asthma or diabetes. | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). Why would you allow someone to rim you knowing tou had open wounds on the area? Why respond with judgement when OP needs advice and reassurance? Sorry I didn't realise we were allowed to ask questions on an open forum x" I also think it's a very valid question..zero judgement | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). Why would you allow someone to rim you knowing tou had open wounds on the area? Why respond with judgement when OP needs advice and reassurance?" Looks like a simple question to me also most people wouldn’t post on a forum and would go to a doctor or clinic. It’s the adult way of doing things. | |||
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"I need some advise / support. I received some rimming recently and it was great fun but I had some cut around my anal area due to constipation. The person who rimmed me had some gum infection but I didn’t see any blood coming out of their mouth or any visual signs of blood around the mouth. Should I be worried about any chance of HIV transmission through oral (rimming). Why would you allow someone to rim you knowing tou had open wounds on the area? Why respond with judgement when OP needs advice and reassurance? Sorry I didn't realise we were allowed to ask questions on an open forum x I also think it's a very valid question..zero judgement " Why is it a 'very valid question'? Imagine the different possible answers that he could've said.... heat at the moment, he was horny, didn't think it was a problem until googling it afterwards... now what? Does that change anything, does he not need to go to the doctors or get tested now? | |||
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