FabSwingers.com forum: Delayed Ejaculation

By *icknDee OP Couple
2 weeks ago

hartlepool

OK, this is a little embarrassing.

I just can't come from normal intercourse. Whether I'm with the wife or anyone else, I can bang on for hours without coming. The only way I come is from a long hand job session.

As much as my partner appreciated the extended session, I'd love to be able to come with her, or at least without manual stimulation...

Suggestions?

Thanks.

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By *pandjMan
2 weeks ago

Sparkford

Do you wank much and/or watch loads of porn?

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By *ove2LickWETPUSSYMan
2 weeks ago

Wigan

Are you on any medication. , like for anxiety or depression or severe pain.

I ask because I am on extremely strong medication for back pain and also strong medication for anxiety and paranoia issues and I struggle to cum. , I can last from 30minutes to 90 minutes when have sex I run out of energy before I cum

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By *axtanMan
2 weeks ago

los Cristianos now

Enjoy wanking as there are those that can't!!

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
2 weeks ago

London

I've never been able to cum easily, through sex or anything. However the fact that you can cum from a long hand job suggests you probably need to lie back and relax whether that's sex, oral or a hand job.

The main advice from me is to just learn to enjoy long sessions - sex is still amazing even if you don't cum. Hopefully she's understanding and will go along for the very long ride.

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By *cnugatugMan
2 weeks ago

Chatham

I have the opposite problem and just can't seem to last

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By *ust want a smileMan
2 weeks ago

whitby

"I have the opposite problem and just can't seem to last "
I’m the same I get over excited and cum really quickly, my wife says it’s fine but I would love her to experience the kind of sex I see people having on here

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By *pandjMan
2 weeks ago

Sparkford

"I have the opposite problem and just can't seem to last I’m the same I get over excited and cum really quickly, my wife says it’s fine but I would love her to experience the kind of sex I see people having on here "

Learn to control your breathing is a game changer here.

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By *cnugatugMan
2 weeks ago

Chatham

Learn to control your breathing is a game changer here."
is there anything online that actually is good advice to follow everything I find seems to be complicated

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By *s2pervsCouple
2 weeks ago

Truro

Have a look into five seven breathing to 'relax'.

Mr.

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By *icknDee OP Couple
2 weeks ago

hartlepool

"Do you wank much and/or watch loads of porn?"

Not excessively

Wanking, maybe a couple of times a week and I don't watch porn at all - would much rather take part than watch...

In my youth I could have prolonged sex sessions of 5 or 6 hours. As I've got older, the stamina has gone and I tend to give up after an hour or two... So frustrating lol.

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By *each_BananaCouple
2 weeks ago

China

Do meditation regularly, slow down everything.

This is the way

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By *oolman60Man
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

Any advice on how to adapt your breathing to stop you cumming earlier than you'd like.

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By *attooedlad199521Man
2 weeks ago

Bournemouth

Check the side effects of any medication you take

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By *ovetoedgeMan
2 weeks ago

Dunstable

When I split up with my wife I went on amnitryptiline for a while, i think they had an effect but stress etc also contributes I think.

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By *rogressivepairCouple
2 weeks ago

Derby

For the people who can’t, or do too easily. Ejaculation is all driven by the un conscious mind.

I recommend hypn osis. Can’t spell it - it’s a blocked word.

Happy to provide details of an online audio script for either problem. Weirdly, I’ve used both and found both effective. It’s a fine line, and letting your un conscious mind control it is easy.

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By *eelGoodIncMan
2 weeks ago

West Midlands

Have you got a lot going on? Is there a lot on your mind? That can genuinely cause issues with cumming. Anxiety meds like Citalopram are well known for causing delays too. Don't allow it to go on for too long without seeking help mate. The longer you leave it the longer it'll play on your mind

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By *icknDee OP Couple
2 weeks ago

hartlepool

"Have you got a lot going on? Is there a lot on your mind? That can genuinely cause issues with cumming."

As I said I've always taken my time coming... When I was younger and had the stamina, it wasn't a problem because I could go for hours (Used to run 3 or 4 marathons a week too). These days, the lack of stamina means I give up before I've finished.

Maybe I'm looking at this from the wrong end... maybe I should take up marathon running again and build that stamina back up.

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By *arvey67Man
2 weeks ago

Grimsby

Don't worry, she is,just not with you.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
6 days ago

andover

Sometimes I do sometimes I don’t, I don’t enjoy it any less and by the time we stop she’s shaking. Great sex doesn’t have to end with a guy cumming.

I have audhd so I can be right on the edge and something shiny will catch my attention, then I start again from the beginning

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By *dultfun74Man
6 days ago

playtown

I had similar for a little while after marriage break up with the partner afterwards, was definately a mental thing with me, but then it sorted itself out.

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By *hekaiserMan
6 days ago

Glasgow

"OK, this is a little embarrassing.

I just can't come from normal intercourse. Whether I'm with the wife or anyone else, I can bang on for hours without coming. The only way I come is from a long hand job session.

As much as my partner appreciated the extended session, I'd love to be able to come with her, or at least without manual stimulation...

Suggestions?

Thanks. "

Wish I had this "problem"

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By *iHungMan
6 days ago

blackpool

"OK, this is a little embarrassing.

I just can't come from normal intercourse. Whether I'm with the wife or anyone else, I can bang on for hours without coming. The only way I come is from a long hand job session.

As much as my partner appreciated the extended session, I'd love to be able to come with her, or at least without manual stimulation...

Suggestions?

I’m similar, can go for hours! Having my nipples sucked or played with seems to do the trick!

Thanks. "

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By *arvest84Man
6 days ago

brigg

i have been like that for years ,

but it doesnt bother me .

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By *admontyMan
6 days ago

Newtownards

Had similar throughout life.

Now though I think a lot is to do with stamina and not in the right headspace. And then U worry about it causing a bit more anxiety.

Going through very similar to yourself right now.

D*unk plenty of fluids... Lots of foreplay towards U and try to calm the head.

Where recently within 12 months I was able to have quickies many times a week then boom. This delayed ejeculation thing where great at the beginning is now a tiny concern. I can keep U posted if my personal progress if U like.

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