FabSwingers.com forum: Delayed Ejaculation

By *icknDee OP Couple
42 weeks ago

hartlepool

OK, this is a little embarrassing.

I just can't come from normal intercourse. Whether I'm with the wife or anyone else, I can bang on for hours without coming. The only way I come is from a long hand job session.

As much as my partner appreciated the extended session, I'd love to be able to come with her, or at least without manual stimulation...

Suggestions?

Thanks.

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By *pandjMan
42 weeks ago

Sparkford

Do you wank much and/or watch loads of porn?

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Are you on any medication. , like for anxiety or depression or severe pain.

I ask because I am on extremely strong medication for back pain and also strong medication for anxiety and paranoia issues and I struggle to cum. , I can last from 30minutes to 90 minutes when have sex I run out of energy before I cum

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By *axtanMan
42 weeks ago

Wimborne

Enjoy wanking as there are those that can't!!

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
42 weeks ago

London

I've never been able to cum easily, through sex or anything. However the fact that you can cum from a long hand job suggests you probably need to lie back and relax whether that's sex, oral or a hand job.

The main advice from me is to just learn to enjoy long sessions - sex is still amazing even if you don't cum. Hopefully she's understanding and will go along for the very long ride.

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By *cnugatugMan
42 weeks ago

Chatham

I have the opposite problem and just can't seem to last

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"I have the opposite problem and just can't seem to last "
I’m the same I get over excited and cum really quickly, my wife says it’s fine but I would love her to experience the kind of sex I see people having on here

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By *pandjMan
42 weeks ago

Sparkford

"I have the opposite problem and just can't seem to last I’m the same I get over excited and cum really quickly, my wife says it’s fine but I would love her to experience the kind of sex I see people having on here "

Learn to control your breathing is a game changer here.

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By *cnugatugMan
42 weeks ago

Chatham

Learn to control your breathing is a game changer here."
is there anything online that actually is good advice to follow everything I find seems to be complicated

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By *s2pervsCouple
42 weeks ago

Truro

Have a look into five seven breathing to 'relax'.

Mr.

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By *icknDee OP Couple
42 weeks ago

hartlepool

"Do you wank much and/or watch loads of porn?"

Not excessively

Wanking, maybe a couple of times a week and I don't watch porn at all - would much rather take part than watch...

In my youth I could have prolonged sex sessions of 5 or 6 hours. As I've got older, the stamina has gone and I tend to give up after an hour or two... So frustrating lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Do meditation regularly, slow down everything.

This is the way

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By *oolman60Man
42 weeks ago

Oldbury

Any advice on how to adapt your breathing to stop you cumming earlier than you'd like.

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By *attooedlad199521Man
42 weeks ago

near

Check the side effects of any medication you take

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By *ovetoedgeMan
42 weeks ago

Dunstable

When I split up with my wife I went on amnitryptiline for a while, i think they had an effect but stress etc also contributes I think.

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By *rogressivepairCouple
42 weeks ago

Derbyshire

For the people who can’t, or do too easily. Ejaculation is all driven by the un conscious mind.

I recommend hypn osis. Can’t spell it - it’s a blocked word.

Happy to provide details of an online audio script for either problem. Weirdly, I’ve used both and found both effective. It’s a fine line, and letting your un conscious mind control it is easy.

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By *yroneusMan
42 weeks ago

Have you got a lot going on? Is there a lot on your mind? That can genuinely cause issues with cumming. Anxiety meds like Citalopram are well known for causing delays too. Don't allow it to go on for too long without seeking help mate. The longer you leave it the longer it'll play on your mind

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By *icknDee OP Couple
42 weeks ago

hartlepool

"Have you got a lot going on? Is there a lot on your mind? That can genuinely cause issues with cumming."

As I said I've always taken my time coming... When I was younger and had the stamina, it wasn't a problem because I could go for hours (Used to run 3 or 4 marathons a week too). These days, the lack of stamina means I give up before I've finished.

Maybe I'm looking at this from the wrong end... maybe I should take up marathon running again and build that stamina back up.

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By *arvey67Man
42 weeks ago

Grimsby

Don't worry, she is,just not with you.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
41 weeks ago

andover

Sometimes I do sometimes I don’t, I don’t enjoy it any less and by the time we stop she’s shaking. Great sex doesn’t have to end with a guy cumming.

I have audhd so I can be right on the edge and something shiny will catch my attention, then I start again from the beginning

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By *dultfun74Man
41 weeks ago

playtown

I had similar for a little while after marriage break up with the partner afterwards, was definately a mental thing with me, but then it sorted itself out.

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By *hekaiserMan
41 weeks ago

Glasgow

"OK, this is a little embarrassing.

I just can't come from normal intercourse. Whether I'm with the wife or anyone else, I can bang on for hours without coming. The only way I come is from a long hand job session.

As much as my partner appreciated the extended session, I'd love to be able to come with her, or at least without manual stimulation...

Suggestions?

Thanks. "

Wish I had this "problem"

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By *iHungMan
41 weeks ago

Blackpool

"OK, this is a little embarrassing.

I just can't come from normal intercourse. Whether I'm with the wife or anyone else, I can bang on for hours without coming. The only way I come is from a long hand job session.

As much as my partner appreciated the extended session, I'd love to be able to come with her, or at least without manual stimulation...

Suggestions?

I’m similar, can go for hours! Having my nipples sucked or played with seems to do the trick!

Thanks. "

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By *arvest84Man
41 weeks ago

brigg

i have been like that for years ,

but it doesnt bother me .

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By *admontyMan
41 weeks ago

Newtownards

Had similar throughout life.

Now though I think a lot is to do with stamina and not in the right headspace. And then U worry about it causing a bit more anxiety.

Going through very similar to yourself right now.

D*unk plenty of fluids... Lots of foreplay towards U and try to calm the head.

Where recently within 12 months I was able to have quickies many times a week then boom. This delayed ejeculation thing where great at the beginning is now a tiny concern. I can keep U posted if my personal progress if U like.

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By *ice136Man
40 weeks ago

HULL

I'm the same, I can go for ages. But I also love to cum inside someone too.

Always looking for different porn to get me off.

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By *oelMan
40 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels

"OK, this is a little embarrassing.

I just can't come from normal intercourse. Whether I'm with the wife or anyone else, I can bang on for hours without coming. The only way I come is from a long hand job session.

As much as my partner appreciated the extended session, I'd love to be able to come with her, or at least without manual stimulation...

Suggestions?

Thanks. "

I was similar but I'm now a little quicker, you have to be enjoying and relaxed. Not wanking as much helps, but the key is enjoying it, less pressure, if you are thinking about cumming it makes it harder.

Relax, slow down, less pressure

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By *ubcuckpupMan
40 weeks ago

Manchester

Didn't know this issue was a virus now lol

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By *littylicker69Man
40 weeks ago

abergavenny

Hi well in my late teens early 20s I had sex with a few young ladies & a bit like yourself I couldn’t cum from fucking them however long I went on for but again stayed very hard without any assistance From blue pills etc for ages I also used to love wanking & that also used to take a fair bit of hard stroking to get me to cum & only about 3 reasonable squirts of cum then but wanked at least 3 times a day up to 5 sometimes so I thought it may be that but even after no wanks for a week (torture) I couldn’t cum

Then I met a lady 20 yr old I was 21 at the time & we had sex on my parents lounge floor although it took some time of almost cumming you know that feeling in your cock etc but doesn’t quite get there when I actually found if my cock was all the way in with my foreskin pulled right back over my bell end & just did short stabbing thrusts only moving in & out about an inch but ramming my cock fairly hard in I suddenly started to go over the edge this day & I actually shot my load inside her (she was on the pill) so no condom & after cumming I just left my cock right in her as far as it would go & rested on her it made me feel sooooo good it may help you if you try that & hope it does help you cum cheers K

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Idd be lucky to even get 2 mins under my belt haha

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By *ouple_uk300Couple
39 weeks ago

sudbury

I have the same issue, never cum from penetration or recieving a bj. Hand job I can most of the time, or if I do it myself easy enough. I just accept it as one of those things. But awkward when it comes to sexual partners as I have to explain everytime.

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By *aughtybinatureCouple
39 weeks ago

South Midlands

When I was on anti- depressants many years ago I could go for hours but never cum. Outside of that I think it’s psychological more than anything. There are times when I worry about shooting too quickly which can have exactly the opposite effect.

Mrs. Has found a couple of sure-fire ways to get me there if I’m in that mood (or had too much red wine!)

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By *irtyfunbristolMan
39 weeks ago

bristol

I'm on medication for a eating dissorder and that effected how I cum it can take up to a hour but when I do cum now, jesus i drain my balls for the next two weeks lol

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By *oelMan
39 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels

"When I was on anti- depressants many years ago I could go for hours but never cum. Outside of that I think it’s psychological more than anything. There are times when I worry about shooting too quickly which can have exactly the opposite effect.

Mrs. Has found a couple of sure-fire ways to get me there if I’m in that mood (or had too much red wine!)"

Agree, it's when I'm stressed or thinking too much. Letting go, and relaxing it can be hard

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Rule 1. Stop trying to cum. The stress of achieving a goal is blocking the orgasm. Decide that you are not going to cum… that you are saving it for round two… so you mustn’t… next thing ya know… uhhh uhhh uhhh

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By *b1980Man
38 weeks ago

Burnley

Sexyfuckerz you are spot on

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By *amieLDN22Man
38 weeks ago

London

Stop the long hand jobs and switch to long sensual sessions with partner. Incorporate massage and touch/feel your partner. Its possible the strong grip has desensitised you to your partner's body. Climax is more a mental thing and it's crucial kyou are turned on as much as she is. Try and find out what postions work for you. Missionary and spooning does it for me while others like a girl on top or backdoor action. Also foreplay is as important as penetrative sex. Use it wisely and you will explode in no time. Sex is supposed to be stress free and whether you arrive in 2 mins or 2 hrs it's important you enjoy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"Stop the long hand jobs and switch to long sensual sessions with partner. Incorporate massage and touch/feel your partner. Its possible the strong grip has desensitised you to your partner's body. Climax is more a mental thing and it's crucial kyou are turned on as much as she is. Try and find out what postions work for you. Missionary and spooning does it for me while others like a girl on top or backdoor action. Also foreplay is as important as penetrative sex. Use it wisely and you will explode in no time. Sex is supposed to be stress free and whether you arrive in 2 mins or 2 hrs it's important you enjoy yourself."

I think there’s no going back. You can’t rewind the dirt your desensitised mind goes to, or replace those dead nerve ending in your cock. You have to keep raising the intensity, find a new kink, a new pill, stick something up your arse that vibrates, get a partner with tongue piercing who masturbate a while begging to swallow your load… whatever it takes, you gotta do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Just had a thought… pheromones might have the Heineken effect? Get a lady to wear a little thong for a couple of days and have a go on that while she’s riding your cock… tie her tits up with it

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By *ength300Man
38 weeks ago

Whitton

I feel she needs to be in control more.. hopefully that gets you going

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By *arkdawsonMan
38 weeks ago

around

"OK, this is a little embarrassing.

I just can't come from normal intercourse. Whether I'm with the wife or anyone else, I can bang on for hours without coming. The only way I come is from a long hand job session.

As much as my partner appreciated the extended session, I'd love to be able to come with her, or at least without manual stimulation...

Suggestions?

Thanks. "

What’s normal mate especially on here and wouldn’t be embarrassed

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