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By *elly and dave OP Couple
8 weeks ago

gateshead

Need some help guys and gals.

One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.

They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.

They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.

They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.

Any ideas or help please?

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By *orny PTMan
8 weeks ago

Peterborough

Sleep apnoea: this is not a diagnosis. It is alarm bell time though. Daytime sleeping is a major clue.

It is an invite to talk to your GP/pharmacist and do some research about his or her sleep problems. If the waking up sounds like choking, then record this noise: it's vital evidence to explain what's going on.

This can be treated if it is sleep ap. A face mask and quietish air pump is one solution all night every night.

If either of you have a smart watch, then use a sleep app to monitor what's going on, the good and the bad. This condition affect both of you.

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By *iss DevilWoman
8 weeks ago

Bedford

Snoring in itself is not necessarily a sign of sleep apnea, but could be. Is there any day time sleepiness associated with it?

How about, for the time being, the non-snorer tries separate bedrooms if possible? Or ear plugs? Loops are very good, even if not cheap.

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By *rikTheVikingMan
8 weeks ago

Swansea

Sleep apnea it sounds like , I had a partner years ago , she was a heavy smoker, snored mega loud, choking in her sleep etc, she went to doctors and she had a CPAP machine in the end and it cleared all issues..

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By *eeshellsCouple
7 weeks ago

Reading

Honestly? We sleep in different rooms most of the time.

As a result, the non-snorer doesn't fall asleep every evening and has far more energy.

Would go as far as saying it's been life changing.

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By *riel13Woman
7 weeks ago

Northampton

I snore like a freight train so my fwb has earplugs at mine

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By *forfuntimesCouple
7 weeks ago

Sheffield

I (Mr) snore a lot but varies how loud / long.... this has got worse lately (age and drinking at weekends)... leading to Mrs either sleeping in separate bedroom (we always start the night off in same bed) or in some cases downstsirs when i am really loud...

Have tried the nose strips, rolling over etc and sometime that works...

Saw someone on a random youtube channel posting a vid not reated at all, but she had issues snoring and went to sleep with a sticky tape of sorts over her mouth... effectively keeping the mouth closed and therefore, no snoring.. Did not know it was a thing.. but search mouth tape (not the kinky kind) on Amazon and there are lots of types..

I was a bit sceptical but actually tried this just last night with 2 normal plasters stuck over my mouth in a criss cross shape (i did look like something from a horror movie lol) - it actually worked and i did not feel at all strange that i had my mouth taped together... it does sound a little extreme when writing it down, but certainly worth a try...

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By *elly and dave OP Couple
7 weeks ago

gateshead

Thanks for all the info..one of us is going to the doctors soon to see about one of those machines. Cheers

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By *ideshaft1971Man
7 weeks ago

Midlands

"I (Mr) snore a lot but varies how loud / long.... this has got worse lately (age and drinking at weekends)... leading to Mrs either sleeping in separate bedroom (we always start the night off in same bed) or in some cases downstsirs when i am really loud...

Have tried the nose strips, rolling over etc and sometime that works...

Might give this a try, thanks

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By *ny1localMan
7 weeks ago

READING

Lavender pillows, placed over the face and pressed down hard...only joking.

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By *ddie7XXXMan
7 weeks ago

wigan

"Need some help guys and gals.

One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.

They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.

They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.

They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.

Any ideas or help please?"

I have the same problem it is sleep apnoea I have a mask I put on at night when it’s bad to help me breathe not the most flattering thing but I just pretend I’m a fighter pilot lol

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
7 weeks ago

Peterborough and Bedford

"Need some help guys and gals.

One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.

They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.

They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.

They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.

Any ideas or help please?

I have the same problem it is sleep apnoea I have a mask I put on at night when it’s bad to help me breathe not the most flattering thing but I just pretend I’m a fighter pilot lol "

I'm sure your sleep clinic told you that you're supposed to be using CPAP all the time, not just "when it's bad"? Unless that's just not a very clear description that you used?

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By *ddie7XXXMan
7 weeks ago

wigan

"Need some help guys and gals.

One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.

They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.

They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.

They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.

Any ideas or help please?

I have the same problem it is sleep apnoea I have a mask I put on at night when it’s bad to help me breathe not the most flattering thing but I just pretend I’m a fighter pilot lol

I'm sure your sleep clinic told you that you're supposed to be using CPAP all the time, not just "when it's bad"? Unless that's just not a very clear description that you used?"

They did but to be fair I don’t like wearing it as I find it uncomfortable

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By *ackson2022Couple
7 weeks ago

London

Get a referral (from GP) to your local sleep clinic. They'll do tests although does sound like you may need a CPAP machine. They are much smaller now and can be easily packed to take on holiday....its a game changer

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
7 weeks ago

kendal

There are a million and one reasons why someone might snore.....

From weight, to heath, drink, stress, the type of bed, the number of pillows etc etc.....

All you have to do is find the issue, then solve it.... which is easier said than done

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By *orny PTMan
7 weeks ago

Peterborough

Not all problems with breathing are internal...

Something as simple as the skin between the cheeks and the nostril can bunch up and gently squeeze the nasal passages. This can go under the radar.

Try this: the “Cottle maneuver”—by pulling your cheek laterally, towards your ear you’re splinting open your external/internal nasal valves, and that instantly improves airflow. A positive Cottle means your nasal valve area is collapsing when you breathe, especially when you’re lying down and tissue relaxes.

Why it happens. Your lateral nasal wall (cartilage + overlying soft tissue) is too weak or floppy. Age or genetics can thin that cartilage or let midface fat pads descend, pulling the alar rims inward.

Skin laxity “hugs” the sidewall tighter, so it feels like the skin itself is blocking you—but underneath it’s the vault of cartilage and soft tissue collapsing.

This might explain why dogs with almost no muzzle have problems breathing at rest.

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
7 weeks ago

Peterborough and Bedford

"Need some help guys and gals.

One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.

They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.

They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.

They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.

Any ideas or help please?

I have the same problem it is sleep apnoea I have a mask I put on at night when it’s bad to help me breathe not the most flattering thing but I just pretend I’m a fighter pilot lol

I'm sure your sleep clinic told you that you're supposed to be using CPAP all the time, not just "when it's bad"? Unless that's just not a very clear description that you used?

They did but to be fair I don’t like wearing it as I find it uncomfortable "

Do you think I (Mrs here) "like" wearing it? But I'd rather get that small inconvenience than risk damaging my health. It's your life though.

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By *smithukMan
6 weeks ago

cardiff

Another vote for seeing your GP and asking for a referral to the local sleep clinic. Particularly if the sleeping snorer stops breathing sometimes.

Pretty simple to diagnose- you wear some kit at home for a night and they analyse the data.

Sleep apnea is serious, it’s not just the snoring. Get it checked.

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By *elly and dave OP Couple
6 weeks ago

gateshead

Been to the docs this week and waiting for a referral to the local sleep clinic. The doc said a cpap should help,just have to wait now.

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By *ingsysMan
6 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

Been waiting for referral for nearly 5 weeks at this point. Would love to get a proper diagnosis

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By *iss DevilWoman
6 weeks ago

Bedford

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By *iss DevilWoman
6 weeks ago

Bedford

"Been waiting for referral for nearly 5 weeks at this point. Would love to get a proper diagnosis"

Sadly, the waiting times differ greatly depending where you live. Try chasing up with your GP? I was lucky, it only took about a month from referral to first appointment, and not much longer to get my CPAP. Waiting times are much longer for some, and some people choose to buy their own machines.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
6 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

Have tried the nose strips, rolling over etc and sometime that works...

I would not recommend doing this unless you have been tested for obstructive sleep apnea and know you do not have it.

With sleep apnea your airways collapse and the snoring is literally your body gasping for breath as it suffocates. Taping up your mouth limits your air flow even further, putting extra pressure on your body that could be potentially fatal. Don’t forget Carrie Fisher sadly died during her sleep with this.

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
6 weeks ago

belfast

"Been waiting for referral for nearly 5 weeks at this point. Would love to get a proper diagnosis"

Keep going back whinging to your doctor . Think the problem now is everyone claims they got sleep apnea.

I was tested and had a machine within a week despite being told it would take months.

I went about something else though.

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By *shockeyMan
6 weeks ago

Norton canes

"Been waiting for referral for nearly 5 weeks at this point. Would love to get a proper diagnosis"

As somebody currently going through this it’s a long wait.

I was referred towards the end of last year and it took a couple of months to get my appointment with the sleep clinic for the study.

Once i did the study they said 16 weeks for the results however it took pretty much bang on 6 months.

Results showed sleep apnoea and they’re recommending a CPAP but I have a further 2 month wait for that appointment.

All in I reckon I’ll be close to a year from doctors referral to getting the actual machine

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By *elly and dave OP Couple
6 weeks ago

gateshead

Well,another early morning get up.

We didn't get till bed till nearly 1am,lay on top of the clothes all night,till partner started the heavy snoring at 5am.

Been up since then watching crap on telly and yawning my head off.

Can't wait for this appointment for the sleep clinic!

😴😴😴

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By *ean154Man
6 weeks ago

Salthill area

"Need some help guys and gals.

One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.

They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.

They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.

They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.

Any ideas or help please?"

We had similar issue, I lost 20kg in weight and the snoring stopped.

Weight creaping back up (10 of the 20 Kg has been returned to sender

) and the snoring is returning... my cause/solution may not be yours but it certainly beats having to go on a CPAC.

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By *ouseofhoneyCouple
6 weeks ago

North West

Check you haven't got a deviated septum it can be a major cause of snoring... It's not always sleep apnea.

Can be fixed with a relatively easy surgery called a septoplasty.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Lose weight potentially (not being funny it's just true that it helps) don't drink (relaxes the area and makes it worse) tilt the bed, sleep propped up in pillows.

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
5 weeks ago

stockport

Sleep in separate rooms

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By *ucka39Man
5 weeks ago

Newcastle

Possibly try one of those but also see a GP incase it maybe an underlying issue

Plugin oil

Eucalyptus:

This oil is known for its decongestant properties, which can help to thin mucus and reduce congestion in the sinuses and airways, potentially making it easier to breathe while sleeping.

Peppermint:

Similar to eucalyptus, peppermint oil can help to clear nasal passages and reduce congestion, improving airflow and promoting a more comfortable sleep environment.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
5 weeks ago

Ryde

The wife and I both snore, but my being an insomniac really makes it a problem. She's tried all varieties of nose-plugs, and while some work, they keep dropping out during the night, in spite of tying them to an elastic band!

For the last month, the hot weather has seen her sleeping downstairs on the sofa-bed, while I have the bedroom. She has the sweeter deal, as the the living room is cool whilst upstairs is sweltering.

Whatever it takes to get a half-decent night's sleep!

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By *orny PTMan
5 weeks ago

Peterborough

"Snoring in itself is not necessarily a sign of sleep apnea, but could be. Is there any day time sleepiness associated with it?

How about, for the time being, the non-snorer tries separate bedrooms if possible? Or ear plugs? Loops are very good, even if not cheap. "

I can really vouch for those LOOP plugs.

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By *inkyTeepeeMan
5 weeks ago

Heswall

My partner snores like a freight train, it has actually damaged my hearing, something like 90 odd decibels… think of a lawn mower constant!

I snore too but she saw her arse when I recorded her.

We sleep in separate rooms now..its shit..

Anyway I had blood test done for allergies privately, NHS will take months turns out i’m allergic to house mites we all have these in the house, by the way.. now I take allergy tablets when it gets bad.. and it helps the snoring…

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By *ordescourtMan
5 weeks ago

Warrington

Have a think about getting a CPAP machine

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By *partharmonyCouple
5 weeks ago

Ruislip

What about weight? I (Luke) have lost a lot of weight over the last year and my snoring has reduced substantially.

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By *rumalexMan
5 weeks ago

Birmingham

Checking weight is a good shout i've always snored terribly and been using a CPAP since 2009, but in the past 12 months i have lost 5st and had my tonsils taken out, and i've totally stopped snoring now, and no longer need the CPAP, may not work for all but it did for me

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By *orraghCouple
5 weeks ago

Mullingar/Kildare

Haha

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
5 weeks ago

belfast

"Checking weight is a good shout i've always snored terribly and been using a CPAP since 2009, but in the past 12 months i have lost 5st and had my tonsils taken out, and i've totally stopped snoring now, and no longer need the CPAP, may not work for all but it did for me "

Weight is probably the biggest reason. Problem is too many people don't want to hear that.

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By *rafter69Man
5 weeks ago

upminster

I have snored for years, in the process of trying to curb it now

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By *xhib12Man
5 weeks ago

Blyth

I was a very heavy snorer. My wife had to sleep in a seperate room ti get any sleep at all.

I searched _nline for remedies and came across a site, I think it was called something like the British snoring & sleep apnea association.

They had some exercises to try out to find out what type of snorer you are, yeah there's different types! Who knew?

Anyway, we figured out what type I was and we ordered something called Rhynil spray. Basically something you spray up your nostrils every night for six weeks.

I'll be honest, it was horrible, but I persevered and it paid off. My snoring stopped completely. This was probably 8 or 9 years ago now and I do snorer a little bit every now and then, after drinking etc, but this stuff worked for us so I'd definitely recommend it.

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By *nlineMan
5 weeks ago

North

Insomnia is the best cure for snoring.

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By *cotlickMan
5 weeks ago

Falkirk

Get up, have a hot lemon and honey drink. Scroll the forum. 2.35 am now

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By *heCoupleNextdoorxxxCouple
4 weeks ago

Northamptonshire

Hey, I snored bad and constantly wake up. Sleep apnea.

I put it off for years as they say you lose your driving licence. The consultants aren't too clued up and the letter of the law is if your being treated you don't need to surrender your licence to dvla. This was taught to me by my sleep apnea nurse.

Once treated life got so much better. Cant express enough how it improves your quality of life

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By *elly and dave OP Couple
4 weeks ago

gateshead

Just received a letter from the sleep clinic saying an appointment date is on its way.

So not too long a wait for that.😃

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Central

"Hey, I snored bad and constantly wake up. Sleep apnea.

Once treated life got so much better. Cant express enough how it improves your quality of life"

From gov.uk. 'You must tell DVLA if you have:

confirmed moderate or severe obstructive sleep apnoea syndrome (OSAS), with excessive sleepiness'

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By *olloxsMan
4 weeks ago

edinburgh

Just go to your doc ask about CPAP machine do it now don't wait.

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By *iss DevilWoman
4 weeks ago

Bedford

"Just go to your doc ask about CPAP machine do it now don't wait."

This is easier said than done. GPs don't prescribe CPAP machines, they refer people to a sleep clinic. Depending on where you live, the waiting times vary greatly just to get the appointment with the sleep clinic, then there is another waiting time for CPAP machine if you're deemed as needing one. That's why some people end up buying the machine themselves. I was lucky, it only took about 2 months or so from GP referral to me starting on CPAP, but not many are as lucky.

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By *ymac580Man
4 weeks ago

Derby

Separate bedrooms come together for sex sleep seperatley

Much better sleep

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By *elly and dave OP Couple
3 weeks ago

gateshead

That was quick!

Appt for the sleep clinic at 2pm next Wednesday.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
3 weeks ago

Altrincham

Hubby snores quiet loud, I wear industrial ear plugs, work fantastically

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
3 weeks ago

Hatfield

The nose clips _nline really work ..

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Horsham

Is it worse after drinking alcohol,

Has the weight changed at all

Bit of a stretch and the person broken thier nose, I broke mine years ago but only recently been told that is could make my snoring worse.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

I moo when I have a cold.

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Haywards Heath

Jeez this thread five weeks long really?

Just put a pillow over his face. Plenty on here don't snore!

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By *itty9899Man
2 weeks ago

Craggy Island

"Need some help guys and gals.

One of us (shall remain anonymous) is a really heavy snorer,leading to the partner constantly waking up.

They only get 2 to 4 hours of unbroken sleep and this is leading to major problems in their relationship.

They have tried,sleeping on their side,little plastic things up their nostrils.

They don't drink or smoke,so that's not the cause.

Any ideas or help please?"

You should try one of them butterfly pillows it keeps the neck level it suppose to help with snoring and sleep posture

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By *ost SockMan
2 weeks ago

West Wales and Cardiff

It’s been instructive reading this thread. Thank you.

I suspect I may have sleep apnea or similar sleep disorder. In recent years, I know I snore and I make terribly loud, agonised moaning noises. Almost a sort of “terror”. Also, I wake with a headache quite often and I can be totally exhausted all day.

I know that at any time of the day, if I stopped what I was doing and tried to sleep, I would succeed in a few seconds.

I need to investigate it properly.

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By *inkyjoshxMan
2 weeks ago

Bucks/Herts/London

"Separate bedrooms come together for sex sleep seperatley

Much better sleep "

We sleep in separate beds now as she snores. But now don't even have sex!

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