FabSwingers.com forum: Menopause

By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Walmer, Deal

One for the ladies of certain age since starting menopause have you found suddenly your ears get very hot and also finding I'm not able to gush as much as I was before

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By *hippy57Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

My wife going through it now ,lots of hot flushes ,not so interested in sex ,not get moist naturally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For any ladies going through the menopause.. I highly recommend the Marina Coil!! I don't feel menopausal at all. No brain fog, night sweats, hot flushes are very rare.. and still very much wanting sex (just don't get it lol) It's been a life changer

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Walmer, Deal

"My wife going through it now ,lots of hot flushes ,not so interested in sex ,not get moist naturally "

Yer i get the hot flushes and usual symptom lucky I still enjoy sex still get wet just don't gush as much

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Walmer, Deal

"For any ladies going through the menopause.. I highly recommend the Marina Coil!! I don't feel menopausal at all. No brain fog, night sweats, hot flushes are very rare.. and still very much wanting sex (just don't get it lol) It's been a life changer "

I have the mirena coil and have done for about 7/8 years night sweats are bad but I do have leukemia aswell as menopause I have hrt patches and pills

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

I had Ablation surgery about 18 months ago, and it's the best decision I've ever made.

My bleeds have stopped, the only trace of Menopausal symptoms is the occasional hot flush in the afternoon, but that's it.

Maybe I just got lucky on this one.

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Walmer, Deal

"I had Ablation surgery about 18 months ago, and it's the best decision I've ever made.

My bleeds have stopped, the only trace of Menopausal symptoms is the occasional hot flush in the afternoon, but that's it.

Ah that's good my mum had that aswell she said it was good

Maybe I just got lucky on this one."

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By *issP69Woman
over a year ago

Neath

I've been in Perimenopause since my early 30s and vaginal dryness has been one of my worst symptoms. I can't fuck at all without lube and I'm not 40 yet

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By *udding RoseWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere out there

"One for the ladies of certain age since starting menopause have you found suddenly your ears get very hot and also finding I'm not able to gush as much as I was before "

I find sometimes my ears get really hot too, sometimes just one ear!! No issues with anything else though!!

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment

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By *jh59Man
over a year ago

Stoke Golding

The wife’s going through a menopause now

It’s total lack of sex with me

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By *orraghCouple
over a year ago

Mullingar/Kildare

The Mirena coil will supply progesterone to your body but you will still need estrogen as well as small amounts of testosterone (this helps especially to boost libido and mitigates brain fog). Women who have undergone hysterectomies or who no longer have periods (post-menopausal) generally do not need progesterone (it works to avoid an over-thickening or build up of the uterine lining which can occur through estrogen).

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By *oneyBee200Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"I've been in Perimenopause since my early 30s and vaginal dryness has been one of my worst symptoms. I can't fuck at all without lube and I'm not 40 yet

You need localised oestrogen. Creams are messy but you can use a small amount externally too. Are you on hrt?

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By *oneyBee200Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment "

Have you looked at hrt?

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By *ustylouWoman
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment "

The itchy ears are the worst. And not a well known symptom.

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment

Have you looked at hrt? "

I asked my doctor they won't give it to me as I don't have hot flushes.

Sin e them my symptoms have worsened brain fog is worse a few more mood swings and low libido, still getting periods not every month though.

It doesn't help that my doctors don't have a .menopause specialist but he did say he can put me in contact with one if I need it

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment

The itchy ears are the worst. And not a well known symptom. "

It's horrible the only thing that works is anti histamines for me anyway

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

"I've been in Perimenopause since my early 30s and vaginal dryness has been one of my worst symptoms. I can't fuck at all without lube and I'm not 40 yet

I had breast cancer a few years ago so I can't have hrt at all, my gp told me to try Replens cream that you buy in the chemist, it has really worked well for me.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

"I've been in Perimenopause since my early 30s and vaginal dryness has been one of my worst symptoms. I can't fuck at all without lube and I'm not 40 yet

I had breast cancer a few years ago so I can't have hrt at all, my gp told me to try Replens cream that you buy in the chemist, it has really worked well for me."

I use a oil daily from Naydaya, helps more than any other things that I've tried.

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By *oneyBee200Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment

Have you looked at hrt?

I asked my doctor they won't give it to me as I don't have hot flushes.

Sin e them my symptoms have worsened brain fog is worse a few more mood swings and low libido, still getting periods not every month though.

It doesn't help that my doctors don't have a .menopause specialist but he did say he can put me in contact with one if I need it"

This makes me so mad! You don't need hot flushes to get hrt. Download the Balance app, do a symptoms checker report and see a different GP. Nice guidelines are also useful too, have a Google.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'm peri menopausal, I find itchy skin and aching joints are the worse for me.

I also struggle even more with sleeping. I'm taking a natural supplement called peri menofriend by Dr vegan.

It definitely helps with the aches and pains and my skin isn't as dry, as they have soy isoflavones in, which mimic oestrogen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm peri menopausal, I find itchy skin and aching joints are the worse for me.

I also struggle even more with sleeping. I'm taking a natural supplement called peri menofriend by Dr vegan.

It definitely helps with the aches and pains and my skin isn't as dry, as they have soy isoflavones in, which mimic oestrogen. "

The itching was the worst for me also, my arms especially. The marina coil stopped all that. I take magnesium glycinate that helps tremendously with sleeping.

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Yeah a bit mostly they itch though which is horrible. I'm dreading actual menopause I'm on the peri stage at the moment

Have you looked at hrt?

I asked my doctor they won't give it to me as I don't have hot flushes.

Sin e them my symptoms have worsened brain fog is worse a few more mood swings and low libido, still getting periods not every month though.

It doesn't help that my doctors don't have a .menopause specialist but he did say he can put me in contact with one if I need it

This makes me so mad! You don't need hot flushes to get hrt. Download the Balance app, do a symptoms checker report and see a different GP. Nice guidelines are also useful too, have a Google. "

Me too they only suggested anti depressants which I don't want have been on them before and felt like an emotionless zombie.

I took your advice though so thank you😊

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By *erry2020888Man
over a year ago

stockport

wife is going though hers still horny and wetter than ever, gets hot flushes often

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I'm peri menopausal, I find itchy skin and aching joints are the worse for me.

I also struggle even more with sleeping. I'm taking a natural supplement called peri menofriend by Dr vegan.

It definitely helps with the aches and pains and my skin isn't as dry, as they have soy isoflavones in, which mimic oestrogen.

The itching was the worst for me also, my arms especially. The marina coil stopped all that. I take magnesium glycinate that helps tremendously with sleeping. "

Oh it was my arms too! They've calmed down on these supplements and I think my sleeping is just down to tears of shifts.

Thanks for the information though 😊 and glad you've got some relief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from menopause, but I still have a sex drive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from menopause, but I still have a sex drive

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Walmer, Deal

"I suffer from menopause, but I still have a sex drive "

Same still love sex but just my ears burn and stop me

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Walmer, Deal

I have hrt evorel 100mg patches and utrogestan 100mg tablets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I "think" I'm peri, I'm not entirely sure if the things happening is just me getting old or this.

I've had trouble sleeping for years but just lately if been having terrible nightmares (I used to get night terrors quite a bit as an adult), rash across my boobs (but not sure if it's heat related) and some others.

I have the coil so hard to track x

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By *osh blokeMan
over a year ago

hereford

Go to.your GP and explain your symptoms. There is a lot that can be done to help with the symptoms but they don't always prescribe them as they are costly.

Be persistent with your GP and if nothing changes go and see another. Davina mccoll has done a lot on tv highlighting the plight so have a look online. There is private Dr online called Dr Zoe. Meg Matthews has tweeted about her and uses her a lot for advice.

Please feel free to.message me directly if you want to talk or some advice. I'm not a Dr (in medicine) but does its do have a fair bit of knowledge on this subject.

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I’m probably at the perimenopause stage. Is the coil hormone based because I can’t have anything that contains hormones which could be a nightmare

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By *ylvesterMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Amazing tits x

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

I’m probably at the perimenopause stage. Is the coil hormone based because I can’t have anything that contains hormones which could be a nightmare "

I'm the same it is a minefield, if I'm not sure I ring my gp and ask, they have been really good with advice.

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I’m probably at the perimenopause stage. Is the coil hormone based because I can’t have anything that contains hormones which could be a nightmare

I'm the same it is a minefield, if I'm not sure I ring my gp and ask, they have been really good with advice."

My Drs can be amazing but when it comes to this not so much

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By *ythenMan
over a year ago

My wife’s menopause (early M you could say) given her age started last year … thank god we are and have been always very strong as a Cpl because it’s bloody tough going , obviously more so for the female , but to a large degree also for the other half of the menopausal lady..

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I’m probably at the perimenopause stage. Is the coil hormone based because I can’t have anything that contains hormones which could be a nightmare "

That coil does contain hormones the copper one doesn't but that one wouldn't help you I'm sorry to say.

A lady on here told me to download the balance app which I did and there are many herbal things you can take to help with symptoms you should take a look it might help you out x

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I’m probably at the perimenopause stage. Is the coil hormone based because I can’t have anything that contains hormones which could be a nightmare

That coil does contain hormones the copper one doesn't but that one wouldn't help you I'm sorry to say.

A lady on here told me to download the balance app which I did and there are many herbal things you can take to help with symptoms you should take a look it might help you out x"

Balance app is great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Methylene blue is known to help and is safe and effective unlike some recent mandated medicine

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By *urvyMilf4BlackMenWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Get yourself some vaginal oestrogen from your doctor it will solve the dryness issue.

I'm perimenopausal but the worst symptoms for me are the anxiety and heart palpitations.

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I’m probably at the perimenopause stage. Is the coil hormone based because I can’t have anything that contains hormones which could be a nightmare

That coil does contain hormones the copper one doesn't but that one wouldn't help you I'm sorry to say.

A lady on here told me to download the balance app which I did and there are many herbal things you can take to help with symptoms you should take a look it might help you out x"

Thank you very much

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By *he milf next doorWoman
52 weeks ago

bluebell woods

"Get yourself some vaginal oestrogen from your doctor it will solve the dryness issue.

I can vouch for this & have only been on it a matter of days & the difference already it’s made. it’s nice to feel normal again 👌🏻

I'm perimenopausal but the worst symptoms for me are the anxiety and heart palpitations. "

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

From what I've heard itchy ears are a common thing when going through it

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By (user no longer on site)
52 weeks ago

I referred to brain fog today as brain frogs.

Enough said 🤣

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By *hadow KingsCouple (MM)
52 weeks ago

Manchester & Stoke

My friend is going through early menopause. She 35, no kids. Devastated now plus don't help that her fella 👻 her when he found out.

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By *ou75Woman
52 weeks ago

redcar

I wouldn't wish a bad menopause on any one, my dryness has been so bad the pain it caused lead me to having to give up work. I couldn't do house work or shopping or anything really. I have just gone on to new estrogen tablets and need to start off once a day for a month ... Fingers crossed once they kick in I can get back to having regular sex ... If your in any doubt at all please keep badgering your GP id hate for anyone else to have to go through this.

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By *k8888GLWWoman
52 weeks ago

Glasgow

I'm so glad I came across this thread!

The burning ear thing? I thought I was going crazy. Its been so bad I've woken up with them. I bought a cool pad for my pillow which does help a bit.

The brain fog is horrendous. I still get a period for a couple of days, but they are so heavy. Like when they first started!

I was watching a Dr on TV who described menopause like a 2nd puberty.

Thank you all for sharing ✨️

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
51 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

Just nice to share experiences and support each other lovely bunch of people

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By *HE ONLY PLAN IS NO PLANMan
47 weeks ago

Westmidlands

Mmmm

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By *limlady76Woman
46 weeks ago

County Durham

It is so frustrating reading some of your posts ladies… it is always possible to have her - even after cancer - if it is managed properly. It is about mitigating risks and doing what is best big picture….

For me I suffered for 10 years without realising there was help and I hate seeing other so the same…

But the crux of it for me is that oestrogen helps to mitigate the risks of heart disease (no 1 killer of women) and osteoporosis (just plain horrible)…

Managing menopause symptoms is a juggling act and managing your doctor can be even worse, but do your research and stand your ground…!

Dr Louise Newman has an amazing podcast, I listened for hrs doing research, she is the worlds leading expert in all things menopausal and if all else fails runs a private clinic who will make recommendations to your go.

But I have found that the biggest hurdle for most women is denial - admitting you have got to ‘that age’ and overcoming the stigma of even the word menopause - after that embracing something that can help with all the horrible symptoms it can cause is the easy part 😂

As many people say, if it affected men there would be automatic treatment given to everyone - look at what has happened with viagra ffs…! Yes we are supposed to suck it up as part of getting older?!

Well no thank you…!!

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By *limlady76Woman
46 weeks ago

County Durham

To have HELP not her 🙄

"It is so frustrating reading some of your posts ladies… it is always possible to have her - even after cancer - if it is managed properly. It is about mitigating risks and doing what is best big picture….

For me I suffered for 10 years without realising there was help and I hate seeing other so the same…

But the crux of it for me is that oestrogen helps to mitigate the risks of heart disease (no 1 killer of women) and osteoporosis (just plain horrible)…

Managing menopause symptoms is a juggling act and managing your doctor can be even worse, but do your research and stand your ground…!

Well no thank you…!!"

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By *izandpaulCouple
46 weeks ago

merseyside

Never had any symptoms maybe coil helped.

Hot ears, only when someone speaks ill of me.

I do tend to get a soggy bottom when baking.

Never gushed but I do have excellent bladder control and function.

Miostness just takes a little longer to achieve, small amount of lube or a more experienced partner, keep away from people who think foreplay is rubbing my lady bits like they are trying to light a fire.

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By *he milf next doorWoman
45 weeks ago

bluebell woods

Do anyone still get the munchies like when I was due a period I would crave for chocolate & other sweet things because that’s what I’m finding so was just wondering if anyone else is experiencing this?

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

"Do anyone still get the munchies like when I was due a period I would crave for chocolate & other sweet things because that’s what I’m finding so was just wondering if anyone else is experiencing this? "

I never ever used to eat chocolate but got menopause and craved chocolate

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By *orny PTMan
45 weeks ago

Peterborough

This sounds like a step in the right direction.

Womb removal is an extreme procedure, that needs its name changing.

https://www.msn.com/en-au/health/other/inaccurate-and-misogynistic-why-we-need-to-make-the-term-hysterectomy-history/ar-AA1HhOFR?ocid=BingNewsSerp

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I’m perimenopausal and I was getting certain symptoms extreme mood swifts to the detriment of my dear family hot flushes dry vagina and no libido.

My GP has put me on HRT patches and they’re a godsend all my symptoms have disappeared. I’ve never been this calm in all my life, libido isn’t great still but then again I have no partner to ravish just yet haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I’m perimenopausal and I was getting certain symptoms extreme mood swings to the detriment of my dear family hot flushes dry vagina and no libido.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
45 weeks ago

Poole

"I had Ablation surgery about 18 months ago, and it's the best decision I've ever made.

My bleeds have stopped, the only trace of Menopausal symptoms is the occasional hot flush in the afternoon, but that's it.

Maybe I just got lucky on this one."

An ablation would have no factor on menopuse. I've had one. I've had bloods done to check what stage I'm at for menopause. Results came back, as I'm no where near starting. So up next for the hystorectomy. Keeping my overies, so I don't go straight to menapouse.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
45 weeks ago

Poole

Forgot to say, I'm almost 53, with no symtons. My sex drive remains very high too.

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
45 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.

Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.

Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication "

I didn't stop having periods until I was 56, I have found dryness to be a big problem in the last couple of years. I have found Dr Wolf's V san cream to be very helpful.

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
45 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.

Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication

I didn't stop having periods until I was 56, I have found dryness to be a big problem in the last couple of years. I have found Dr Wolf's V san cream to be very helpful. "

Ahh thank you. I am still getting periods however they are irregular now and sometimes light sometimes heavy.

I will give that cream a Tey

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.

Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication

I didn't stop having periods until I was 56, I have found dryness to be a big problem in the last couple of years. I have found Dr Wolf's V san cream to be very helpful.

Ahh thank you. I am still getting periods however they are irregular now and sometimes light sometimes heavy.

I will give that cream a Tey "

No worries, you're welcome. It comes in 2 different types and one acts as a lubricant too..

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Am going though it but hrt if they is stokers in the family my dr told me it was no good for me because of stokers in my family so I won check it out before take hrt x

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By *he milf next doorWoman
44 weeks ago

bluebell woods

"Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.

Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication "
I’m finding ‘Gina’ is good to you can buy it from boots the chemist it’s the same vagifem that you can get off the doctor just thought I’d add this if it will help anyone else

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
44 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Thank you I haven't had a chance to speak to my doctors yet I'm a bit apprehensive about it as they didn't want to entertain me when I told them my symptoms a while back.

Thankfully no hot flushes as yet but struggling with low libido

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By *ady OliveWoman
40 weeks ago

Stafford

I've dryness and my sex drive goings from wanting to have sex and none stop wanting to play with pusay to now iam hardly ever horny.

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
40 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

"Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.

Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication "

Your GP doesn't know what he's talking about.. not every woman will have hot flushes, but there are dozens of other symptoms.

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By *uicyfruit4000Couple
40 weeks ago

Plymouth

"Has any lady's experienced dryness? I am starting to get it and during sex drying out which has never happened.

Not sure what to say to my doctors as he's already told me I can't have hrt cause I don't get flushes I don't really want to go on hrt but might need some help with lubrication "

You need topical oestrogen like Vagifem or vagariux plus the cream. It is not like normal HRT as it doesnt enter the bloodstream, just works where you need it! Talk to your Dr and if they don’t know about it try the next one until you get one who is educated on it, took me 3 years and lots of UTI before I got told about it by chance. Don’t be fobbed off by you’re not old enough or you don’t need it. Look up Davina McCall and all those other celebs talking about it they have lead the way in this and the Docs are following

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By *aloma PicassoWoman
40 weeks ago

Waterford city

Im on oestrogen, progesterone and testosterone. It hasn't been an easy ride, there's no way l could of gotten through peri and the menopause without Hrt. I go for Reiki weekly and that is just wonderful

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
40 weeks ago

Debauchery

I’m going though a hot flushes and vivid dream stage, I find it comes and goes but honestly I feel like I have internal thermostat turned up to the highest. The weight gain is ridiculous, the periods are either not there or horrendously heavy, I can’t have hrt I’m literally really tired of this but my libido is as high as it has ever been if not higher 🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"The wife’s going through a menopause now

It’s total lack of sex with me"
same here mare it's awful l miss it that's why I'm here

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple
40 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Mrs N has been fairly lucky in that she had none of the obvious symptoms. However loss of Libido very much so and she has underactive thyroid so struggled without medication to keep her weight down.

Now more her old self but still very hard to get aroused. She does accept that though and tries very hard to enjoy a resaonbly normal naughty sex life for a 62 year old.

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
40 weeks ago

Debauchery

"Mrs N has been fairly lucky in that she had none of the obvious symptoms. However loss of Libido very much so and she has underactive thyroid so struggled without medication to keep her weight down.

Now more her old self but still very hard to get aroused. She does accept that though and tries very hard to enjoy a resaonbly normal naughty sex life for a 62 year old."

I have hypothyroidism also and never had a problem with the weight until now

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple
40 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"Mrs N has been fairly lucky in that she had none of the obvious symptoms. However loss of Libido very much so and she has underactive thyroid so struggled without medication to keep her weight down.

Now more her old self but still very hard to get aroused. She does accept that though and tries very hard to enjoy a resaonbly normal naughty sex life for a 62 year old.

I have hypothyroidism also and never had a problem with the weight until now "

She has been to slimming world. Amazing transformation. So proud of her. She is absolutely gorgeous.

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By *dible_KinkCouple
40 weeks ago

Aberdeen

My journey on the menopause has been hell. My relationship is wrecked because of my mood swings, my insecurities and anxiety are at an all time high and I feel so emotionally drained. Right now I have no support and I feel like that black hole has just got even darker and smaller. It's been 5 years and still no let up.

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By *pl 4 3rdCouple
40 weeks ago

warrington

My wife’s is going through it now, we’ve gone from having sex 4/5 times a week to nothing at all since November

she does have mad mood swings and real bad dreams and anxiety but I get that she’s going through this so have to take it and support her best I can really l, altho is really hard sometimes

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple
40 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"I've dryness and my sex drive goings from wanting to have sex and none stop wanting to play with pusay to now iam hardly ever horny."

Strange really as now that the risk of unwanted pregnancy is gone you'd think recreational sex would appeal more and the thought of good orgasms would appeal more However............. Apparently desire can return. You just have to avoid total abstinence as that can switch it off and be far far harder to rekindle the fire in your pussy.

Menapause is cruel in the way it gives with one hand but takes away with the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Please may I recommend a very informative book OP

“Come as you are “ by Emily Nagoski PhD

ISBN 978-1-4767-6209-8

It’s a revaluation of what men in particular - ought to be aware of

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By *inkyLips2.0Woman
40 weeks ago

Debauchery

"My journey on the menopause has been hell. My relationship is wrecked because of my mood swings, my insecurities and anxiety are at an all time high and I feel so emotionally drained. Right now I have no support and I feel like that black hole has just got even darker and smaller. It's been 5 years and still no let up. "

This sounds awful I really feel for you. Are you taking anything? Just wondered if you had spoken to your doctors (not they are much help sometimes)

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By *oelMan
38 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels

"The wife’s going through a menopause now

It’s total lack of sex with me"

This is very common, it's almost like it's an intention human trait to cause breakups/new relationships

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By *dible_KinkCouple
38 weeks ago

Aberdeen

This sounds awful I really feel for you. Are you taking anything? Just wondered if you had spoken to your doctors (not they are much help sometimes) "

Yes, i had an appt today. Hopefully what they have prescribed will help. Thank you 😊

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By *urvyhotwife4BBCCouple
38 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

I fought for 5 years to get a GP to listen to me about my symptoms but finally got through to them. Hot flushes, brain fog, irrational anger, anxiety and joint pains being my main ones. Started on HRT in November 2024 and doing so much better.

Be consistent and do some research to take with you and don’t give up. I tried black cohosh which was amazing but didn’t get rid of all the symptoms so I knew I needed more than that.

Don’t let them fob you off with antidepressants (NHS guidelines have changed) or blood tests (IMO completely useless). You know your body and when it’s not working properly for you.

There are a few websites you can use including www.henpicked.net which has some very useful information about menopause in the workplace.

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By *layful_GaiaWoman
38 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Localised estrogen is meant to help with dryness, UTIs and other complaints within the bits, as a lack of estrogen in the tissues/cells impacts their integrity.

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By *orfolk couple500Man
38 weeks ago

Ipswich and Spain

I love the way this topic is under the heading VIRUS

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
38 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

"I love the way this topic is under the heading VIRUS

Think anything medical related is under virus thread think admin should rename it medical instead of virus

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By *ussycat777Woman
38 weeks ago

A backalley in Fabtown

Curious to hear ladies experience of being on testosterone whilst also on *traditional " HRT?

I've been on it for about 6 months now and it's been a game changer. Definitely helps lift my mood and general outlook on things. Had my bloods done recently and my T level was 1.6. The average is 1.5 for a woman my age so GP wants to see me next week. Not had any other changes physically (voice, excessive hair it hair loss) so I will be sorely disappointed if she tries to take me off it!

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By *issLickalottapusWoman
38 weeks ago

La La Land

I know it's not a 'one size fits all' with symptoms etc...but I still find it so horrific that in 2025, the GPs are still very inconsistent with support for women going through the menopause

I am definitely one of the lucky ones who has only suffered with hot flushes for the past 4 months and after a few tests I got told I am menopausal and am now on HRT

But my fight was with numerous GPs refusing to listen that I could be menopausal as I'm 'too young'

I finally got them to listen after badgering them that 'it's not right, I know my body and I started my periods super young' so they finally started giving me tests

I have had the Merena coil and haven't had a period for 13 years

But it took 3 different appointments with 3 different GPs for them to finally agree to do said tests!

They sent me for CT scans, MRI (complete waste of NHS money and time off of work) and then they finally did blood tests. The bloods came back crystal clear = menopausal

Sending virtual hugs to all those who are suffering 🫂

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
38 weeks ago

Gloucester

"I know it's not a 'one size fits all' with symptoms etc...but I still find it so horrific that in 2025, the GPs are still very inconsistent with support for women going through the menopause

I am definitely one of the lucky ones who has only suffered with hot flushes for the past 4 months and after a few tests I got told I am menopausal and am now on HRT

But my fight was with numerous GPs refusing to listen that I could be menopausal as I'm 'too young'

I finally got them to listen after badgering them that 'it's not right, I know my body and I started my periods super young' so they finally started giving me tests

I have had the Merena coil and haven't had a period for 13 years

But it took 3 different appointments with 3 different GPs for them to finally agree to do said tests!

They sent me for CT scans, MRI (complete waste of NHS money and time off of work) and then they finally did blood tests. The bloods came back crystal clear = menopausal

Sending virtual hugs to all those who are suffering 🫂"

I’ve been fighting with my GP for a nearly two years now as SHE says I am too young to be suffering with menopausal symptoms. She insisted in giving me a Merena coil but I haven’t been as lucky as you with it stopping my period, in fact since having it I’ve spent more time on than ever before.

I am sick of the doctors not listening to me. I know my body better than they do,

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
38 weeks ago

Next Door

"Curious to hear ladies experience of being on testosterone whilst also on *traditional " HRT?

Im on testosterone and its helped me lots also.

My levels were above average and was told to use every other day rather than every day.

Now they have dropped lots again, do im back up to using every day.

No side effects.

Being reviewed by menopause clinic in Nov but thinking of going private, as I'm not happy with my GP responses to my levels being really low again for all hormones

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"I know it's not a 'one size fits all' with symptoms etc...but I still find it so horrific that in 2025, the GPs are still very inconsistent with support for women going through the menopause

I am definitely one of the lucky ones who has only suffered with hot flushes for the past 4 months and after a few tests I got told I am menopausal and am now on HRT

But my fight was with numerous GPs refusing to listen that I could be menopausal as I'm 'too young'

I finally got them to listen after badgering them that 'it's not right, I know my body and I started my periods super young' so they finally started giving me tests

I have had the Merena coil and haven't had a period for 13 years

But it took 3 different appointments with 3 different GPs for them to finally agree to do said tests!

They sent me for CT scans, MRI (complete waste of NHS money and time off of work) and then they finally did blood tests. The bloods came back crystal clear = menopausal

Sending virtual hugs to all those who are suffering 🫂

I am sick of the doctors not listening to me. I know my body better than they do, "

Change GP’s

My wife changed her and the Doctor said she was starting hers at 35 ish

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By *weetCruellaWoman
38 weeks ago

somewhere sweet and sour

Perimenopausal here. It's a joy. Not.

Aches and pains everywhere, not everyday but definitely during the week.

Electric zaps on my skin every now and again.

Brain fog, my tongue tripping up words, the hot flushes have started though still in early stages of that, itchy ears, periods heavy and irregular oh yay for that one lol

Sleepless nights, palpitations occasionally, libido is now named cotton eyed Joe, cos where did he come from and where did he fucking go ? Lol

Dry skin, I could be drenched in moisturiser and still look like elephant skin lmao.

Even vertigo/balance problems.

They bang on about the coil, but I don't want the bloody coil.

Hrt, now that is a minefield of trying to get it right, and I can't have combined hrt.

All this just to stop having eggs and periods... fml!

Only good thing is I can finally I can say before I think now lol. Can easily tell someone to do one if they are being a knob lol.

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By *ussycat777Woman
38 weeks ago

A backalley in Fabtown

"Curious to hear ladies experience of being on testosterone whilst also on *traditional " HRT?

Im on testosterone and its helped me lots also.

My levels were above average and was told to use every other day rather than every day.

Now they have dropped lots again, do im back up to using every day.

No side effects.

Being reviewed by menopause clinic in Nov but thinking of going private, as I'm not happy with my GP responses to my levels being really low again for all hormones "

Thanks for that

Dunno if maybe mine did run a bit higher than average as I was forgetting to apply it some days and I'm still at 1.6. Will find out next week I suppose.

I can always challenge her to an arm wrestle if she tries to get it off me

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
38 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

"Perimenopausal here. It's a joy. Not.

Aches and pains everywhere, not everyday but definitely during the week.

Electric zaps on my skin every now and again.

Brain fog, my tongue tripping up words, the hot flushes have started though still in early stages of that, itchy ears, periods heavy and irregular oh yay for that one lol

Sleepless nights, palpitations occasionally, libido is now named cotton eyed Joe, cos where did he come from and where did he fucking go ? Lol

Dry skin, I could be drenched in moisturiser and still look like elephant skin lmao.

Even vertigo/balance problems.

They bang on about the coil, but I don't want the bloody coil.

Hrt, now that is a minefield of trying to get it right, and I can't have combined hrt.

All this just to stop having eggs and periods... fml!

Only good thing is I can finally I can say before I think now lol. Can easily tell someone to do one if they are being a knob lol.

Well said hun know most of them feelings and its robbing me of my lovely long thick hair

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
38 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"I know it's not a 'one size fits all' with symptoms etc...but I still find it so horrific that in 2025, the GPs are still very inconsistent with support for women going through the menopause

I am definitely one of the lucky ones who has only suffered with hot flushes for the past 4 months and after a few tests I got told I am menopausal and am now on HRT

But my fight was with numerous GPs refusing to listen that I could be menopausal as I'm 'too young'

I finally got them to listen after badgering them that 'it's not right, I know my body and I started my periods super young' so they finally started giving me tests

I have had the Merena coil and haven't had a period for 13 years

But it took 3 different appointments with 3 different GPs for them to finally agree to do said tests!

They sent me for CT scans, MRI (complete waste of NHS money and time off of work) and then they finally did blood tests. The bloods came back crystal clear = menopausal

Sending virtual hugs to all those who are suffering 🫂

I am sick of the doctors not listening to me. I know my body better than they do, "

I've given up to be honest. Being neurodivergent makes it worst and I just want to be left alone, mostly now.

I understand the Karens now.

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By *ot Pins2000Woman
38 weeks ago

Belfast

There is a guy who is trying to raise awareness amongst men, of perimenopause/menopause - look him up - might help from an education piece - Mitch Little Academy

I am yet to hugely disagree with what he says and completely agree that it is a joint effort

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By *xplore24Woman
35 weeks ago

County Durham

I have mirena coil and estogen patches and still have a high sez drive and squirt

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By *ertcoupleCouple
35 weeks ago

Welwyn Garden City

I'm hot all over especially at night, have to sleep with the aircon on!! Hubby ends up freezing

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
35 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

"I'm hot all over especially at night, have to sleep with the aircon on!! Hubby ends up freezing

Same here

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
33 weeks ago

Cheshire

Mrs rc has a coil & when the hrt arrived, the sex drive went bonkers. We're just going with the flow.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
33 weeks ago

Telford

Haven't noticed a lack of lubricating juices lol.

My ears, hands and feet get very hot though .

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
33 weeks ago

Telford

Talking of lubrication etc , my mum has started using an estrogen cream on her face and vagina. She is well impressed with it, she has no soreness, dryness or sensitivity in a bad way down below anymore. The skin on her face she says is miles better in texture to.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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33 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Talking of lubrication etc , my mum has started using an estrogen cream on her face and vagina. She is well impressed with it, she has no soreness, dryness or sensitivity in a bad way down below anymore. The skin on her face she says is miles better in texture to."

I've not heard of using it on your face 🤔

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By *and12Couple
33 weeks ago

flint

I’ve been as horny as hell since I started the menopause

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By *ady OliveWoman
33 weeks ago

Stafford

I have been going through the early stages of the menpause since 2022 was on HRT and the coil but they did not agree with me

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By *ady OliveWoman
33 weeks ago

Stafford

The drive has come back a little but not much tho

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By *aloma PicassoWoman
33 weeks ago

Waterford city

Im on oestrogen, progesterone and lm so lucky that my Doctor prescribed testosterone gel too.

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By *mandamark99Couple
33 weeks ago

Bridgnorth

My menopause symptoms started in 2012. I’m still suffering with hot flushes. I need lubricants on prescription. I used to gush but not anymore. I can’t take HRT or any hormone products. My mood swings have been awful at times. For a year I was only sleeping for an hour a night.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"I’ve been as horny as hell since I started the menopause "

Likewise

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

I’m nearly 43 and wondering if I’m starting to be perimenopausal.

My mood changes with the wind, my ears itch like hell and my periods are lasting way too long. Is that normal?

I keep seeing a company pop up on my fb feeds called bioID. Has anyone used them? I was thinking of doing my bloods through them so everything gets checked.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"I’m nearly 43 and wondering if I’m starting to be perimenopausal.

My mood changes with the wind, my ears itch like hell and my periods are lasting way too long. Is that normal?

I keep seeing a company pop up on my fb feeds called bioID. Has anyone used them? I was thinking of doing my bloods through them so everything gets checked. "

My brain also thinks that 4hrs sleep a night is acceptable when it really isn’t 🤣

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
33 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

"I’m nearly 43 and wondering if I’m starting to be perimenopausal.

My mood changes with the wind, my ears itch like hell and my periods are lasting way too long. Is that normal?

I keep seeing a company pop up on my fb feeds called bioID. Has anyone used them? I was thinking of doing my bloods through them so everything gets checked. "

Bloods aren't generally an indication of where you are menopause-wise as your levels can change daily. Symptoms are by far the most reliable way to know - and there are dozens of symptoms.

At the age you are, it's highly likely you're in peri or are menopausal.

If you're on FB, there are various groups where you'll get loads of advice.. women going through it are your best source for information

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By *otsMan
30 weeks ago

Higham

The other half started around fifty ish but wasn't too bad but had other complications. Kidney failure, then transplant but anti rejection medication caused other issues which led to HPV and prolapse (caused by water dialysis ) eventually she had a hysterectomy and prolapse repair.

So she's been through the mill.

Not surprisingly gone off sex

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
30 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

"The other half started around fifty ish but wasn't too bad but had other complications. Kidney failure, then transplant but anti rejection medication caused other issues which led to HPV and prolapse (caused by water dialysis ) eventually she had a hysterectomy and prolapse repair.

So she's been through the mill.

Not surprisingly gone off sex

Oh bless her there are some horrible issues linked to menopause since hitting menopause I have been diagnosed with chronic pancreatitis been in and out of hospital with it

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
30 weeks ago

Cheshire

I feel a bit of a boaster saying it, but I have the exact opposite going on. Sex drive & gush is more than ever. Perhaps its down to Oestrogel. Wonderful stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"I feel a bit of a boaster saying it, but I have the exact opposite going on. Sex drive & gush is more than ever. Perhaps its down to Oestrogel. Wonderful stuff."

You're not alone. My wife had no bad experiences and her sex drive went through the roof. Shame I can't keep up with her now

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
30 weeks ago

Cheshire

"I feel a bit of a boaster saying it, but I have the exact opposite going on. Sex drive & gush is more than ever. Perhaps its down to Oestrogel. Wonderful stuff.

You're not alone. My wife had no bad experiences and her sex drive went through the roof. Shame I can't keep up with her now

Come on over together. I'm sure we can help

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

"I feel a bit of a boaster saying it, but I have the exact opposite going on. Sex drive & gush is more than ever. Perhaps its down to Oestrogel. Wonderful stuff.

You're not alone. My wife had no bad experiences and her sex drive went through the roof. Shame I can't keep up with her now

Come on over together. I'm sure we can help

Now that's an offer difficult to refuse! Lol

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By *o much for stardustWoman
30 weeks ago

1311 Mockingbird Lane

I’m perimenopausal and my sex drive has died!

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
30 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

"I’m perimenopausal and my sex drive has died! "

I was like that at first but now on right hrt and other medical conditions are stable its slowly coming back

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By *HE ONLY PLAN IS NO PLANMan
30 weeks ago

Westmidlands

Not seen this on the Remote

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By *otshot14Woman
28 weeks ago

tunbridge wells

Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.

I miss how much I used to get wet.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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28 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Just need some advice ladies going through the menopause only wost symptom I have is vaginal dryness which lube is best and if I'm using condoms and I'm latex intolerant so I have to use latex-free ones do I still need lube or will the condoms be okay.

I miss how much I used to get wet."

You will still need lube.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
28 weeks ago

Telford

I've not heard of using it on your face 🤔"

I know but she was YouTubeing haha and apparently it's very safe and it helps massively with texture of the skin etc.

She has noticed a big difference, doctors have said itself more than fine. Just a very small pea sized amount.

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By *oneyBee200Woman
28 weeks ago

Kent

I miss how much I used to get wet."

Always use lube. The YES range is very good.

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By *he milf next doorWoman
28 weeks ago

bluebell woods

"One for the ladies of certain age since starting menopause have you found suddenly your ears get very hot and also finding I'm not able to gush as much as I was before "
mine have started to mostly the right ear it’s good to know it’s a thing I been thinking someone talking bad about me

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By *irty DiamondsCouple
28 weeks ago

London - South East and West

I miss how much I used to get wet."

Vaginal oestrogen seems to be working for me. Its tackled a whole range of problems i was just putting up with: UTIs, urgency and frequency issues (I can sleep through the night now) and sore labia (even toilet roll felt raw). It rebuilds the skin as well as adding moisture and elasticity.

The doctor will prescribe it daily for a short period and then ask you to go twice a week. But having done a bit of reading, this seems to be more about the cost of the cream and if you need it daily, ask for it daily.

Its felt like a game changer 🙂

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By *herry77Woman
28 weeks ago

North West

I miss how much I used to get wet.

Its felt like a game changer 🙂"

Just a note in case anybody doesn’t know (because I was prescribed it and didn’t!) that the vaginal oestrogen cream shouldn’t be used with condoms as it can damage the latex (latex free ones obviously aren’t affected the same way).

The pessaries are fine to use.

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By *irty DiamondsCouple
28 weeks ago

London - South East and West

I miss how much I used to get wet.

Its felt like a game changer 🙂

The pessaries are fine to use."

You seem knowledgeable...I know you have to steer clear of your partner for an hour after applying oestrogen gell to your thighs (so that the hormones don't transfer) but it doesn't seem as clear with the vaginal oestrogen. Ive read its a lower dose of hormones and if you insert it high enough the hormones will have absorbed fairly quickly and the cream that then ( i was going to type 'falls' but that would suggest ive got a bucket fanny!) moves down your vagina over the next 12-15 hours is okay for him to touch. Is that your understanding too?

Rachel 🙂

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
28 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

"One for the ladies of certain age since starting menopause have you found suddenly your ears get very hot and also finding I'm not able to gush as much as I was before mine have started to mostly the right ear it’s good to know it’s a thing I been thinking someone talking bad about me

Lol glad im not the only one getting the hot ear literally have to have a fan on them alm the time

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By *smCouple
28 weeks ago

Saltash

not read the whole tread ,

but,

itchy hot ears, not able to puddle as much as I used to, takes me long to come, needs different focus to achive orgasm,

on HRT and that has made a huge difference

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
27 weeks ago

Telford

I've started having night sweats the last few weeks, mood is a little off etc.

I think the tide is starting to turn haha.

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By *orthwestbikerxxMan
27 weeks ago

lancs

Wife went threw all that , totally off sex now ..

Hence on here looking

I do feel for any woman going threw that .

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
27 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

I miss how much I used to get wet."

I'm not quite there yet with dryness but I do have to drink 3 litres of fluid a day to be properly hydrated.

I go to the sexual health clinic in person because GP basic gynaecology is crap! The lady told me to use Epaderm daily ( apart from days when having sex with condoms). I find that it killed any dryness and irritation on my labia but also is a barrier from shower gel and soap getting anywhere near my vagina.

I had to leave my job because the stress was making me ill and I had a weightlifting trainer for 8 weeks. I still weigh a lot but my body has recompositioned into more muscle. The more muscle and protein seems to be improving my symptoms.

I always use water-based lubes...simply because those go with most condoms and most silicone toys.

Good luck ladies. If all else fails, I will be buying hormones from a private pharmacy because my GP isn't listening to a thing I say.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
27 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"My menopause symptoms started in 2012. I’m still suffering with hot flushes. I need lubricants on prescription. I used to gush but not anymore. I can’t take HRT or any hormone products. My mood swings have been awful at times. For a year I was only sleeping for an hour a night. "

I started to practice CBT-insomnia

I had to stop working to reduce the stress.

I started to lift weights and do more relaxation activities such as massage, going to the nudist spa ( cheaper than a regular spa)

I already had intensive therapy to help with my mood swings as I have BPD/EUPD so that gives terrible mood swings from the time I was a teenager.

Someone recommended herbal menopause supplements but I haven't tried them yet because supplements and medication, need to be monitored by the NHS due to my severe disabling mental health.

It's trash that women have to suffer this for over a decade!!

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
27 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

"not read the whole tread ,

but,

itchy hot ears, not able to puddle as much as I used to, takes me long to come, needs different focus to achive orgasm,

on HRT and that has made a huge difference "

Totally the same here

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By *irty DiamondsCouple
27 weeks ago

London - South East and West

I miss how much I used to get wet.

I'm not quite there yet with dryness but I do have to drink 3 litres of fluid a day to be properly hydrated.

I always use water-based lubes...simply because those go with most condoms and most silicone toys.

Good luck ladies. If all else fails, I will be buying hormones from a private pharmacy because my GP isn't listening to a thing I say."

Im not sure that hydration/lube is the complete answer. From the reading i have done the skin in your vagina is thinner because of the loss of oestrogen. Its also dryer which means it looses elasticity. Lube will only mean its easier for someone to get inside you, it won't make it easier for your vagina to expand to accommodate a penis/fingers/toys. Whereas vaginal oestrogen puts hormones back directly where they are needed. Your skin will thicken, become more elastic and some of the self lubrication will return. 🙂

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
27 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

I miss how much I used to get wet.

Its felt like a game changer 🙂

The pessaries are fine to use.

Rachel 🙂"

This is a question I've had too and can't find an answer. Its not on the info leaflet with the cream either.

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By *ou75Woman
27 weeks ago

redcar

Totally understand that, have they prescribed you oestrogen I have the tablet pessaries they have been life changing x

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
27 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

I miss how much I used to get wet.

I'm not quite there yet with dryness but I do have to drink 3 litres of fluid a day to be properly hydrated.

I always use water-based lubes...simply because those go with most condoms and most silicone toys.

Good luck ladies. If all else fails, I will be buying hormones from a private pharmacy because my GP isn't listening to a thing I say.

Noted in case I ever get to that stage. Currenlty my vagina still works with lube and 3 litres of liquid. I'm still in perimenopause and my hormones haven't dropped low enough for estrogen on the NHS. I can probably get estrogen privately but my employment is all up in the air as I'm so ill.

Also with my mental health, I'm more partial to holistic and alternative treatments before I turn to prescriptions. I've been on prescriptions since I was age 20. They need to be closely monitored because yup I'm the one with dodgy side effects.

I was going to take CBD and the pharmacist said With my mental health absolutely not. I won't take sleeping tablets even though I have terrible insomnia because, again pharmacists said you'll become addicted.

Some people can put just about anything in their body and be fine...

me on the other hand...can't even put in a disposable tampon now. PH disruptor...yeast...BV...etc..

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
27 weeks ago

Galway, Clare

I miss how much I used to get wet.

I'm not quite there yet with dryness but I do have to drink 3 litres of fluid a day to be properly hydrated.

I always use water-based lubes...simply because those go with most condoms and most silicone toys.

Good luck ladies. If all else fails, I will be buying hormones from a private pharmacy because my GP isn't listening to a thing I say.

Some people can put just about anything in their body and be fine...

me on the other hand...can't even put in a disposable tampon now. PH disruptor...yeast...BV...etc.."

Just be mindful that there are no alternative options that will replace the hormones you lose in menopause - HRT is the only way to replace them. Plus HRT protects your brain, your bones, so many parts of you.

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By *ugar kittenWoman
22 weeks ago

just by here

"I had Ablation surgery about 18 months ago, and it's the best decision I've ever made.

My bleeds have stopped, the only trace of Menopausal symptoms is the occasional hot flush in the afternoon, but that's it.

Maybe I just got lucky on this one."

I'm waiting on a surgery date for ablation, been bleeding almost constantly for 30 months. Do you mind me asking how long the procedure and recovery time was?

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
22 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"I've been in Perimenopause since my early 30s and vaginal dryness has been one of my worst symptoms. I can't fuck at all without lube and I'm not 40 yet

same. Recently got vagirux iftom the doctor, it’s a game changer.

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By *urvyMilf4BlackMenWoman
22 weeks ago

Norwich

"One for the ladies of certain age since starting menopause have you found suddenly your ears get very hot and also finding I'm not able to gush as much as I was before "

You need to get yourself on HRT and vaginal estrogen. They will help with those symptoms and indeed all symptoms.

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By *aintscoupleCouple
22 weeks ago

st helens

Don't mention the menopause it's been a nightmare year due to irregular bleeding which always seems to coincided with whenever we arrange a meet. Normally the day of a meet

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By *vonCalling2022Couple
22 weeks ago

Whyteleafe

Menopause was tough. Hang in there ladies, I’m like a nymphomaniac since the M word subsided!!

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By *im n her XXXCouple
22 weeks ago

Long Eaton

I’m on hrt gel probably the best thing ever but the brain fog is still very apparent lol but still have a fantastic sex drive

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By *iFem226Woman
22 weeks ago

Wakefield

Oh no I had this. My GP put the mirena coil in and started HRT gel. Best thing I ever did as the bleeding before driving me mad.

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
22 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

"One for the ladies of certain age since starting menopause have you found suddenly your ears get very hot and also finding I'm not able to gush as much as I was before

You need to get yourself on HRT and vaginal estrogen. They will help with those symptoms and indeed all symptoms. "

I have everol 100mg patches and utrogestan tablets

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
22 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

"Oh no I had this. My GP put the mirena coil in and started HRT gel. Best thing I ever did as the bleeding before driving me mad. "

I'm on my second mirena coil still irregular bleeding with it

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By *100Man
22 weeks ago

Essex

Last year I got her a neck fan it’s got 2 fans that blow cool air up her face it was a life saver but recently she has gone on HRT and now no hot flushes and is getting a better nights sleep she wished she’d tried her years ago

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
19 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

Any tips for sleep with menopause as lucky if I get 3 hours a night and also sexual appetite is at very low so tips to boost if there is anything thankyou

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By *orny daddy 22Man
19 weeks ago

barry south wales

My wife has had it bad for over 15 years she is 60 now no sex drive . She has tried every thing feel for her 😢😢😢

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By * and RCouple
18 weeks ago

East Midlands

My wife lost moisture and found sex painful even with lube. She spoke to doctor and was prescribed pessaries. Within two weeks sensation returned and started producing natural lubrication again. Now interested in sex again and we are having fun again.

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By *imples69Man
18 weeks ago

North East

Same here, no sex for about 3 years now, I'm falling for hand now lol

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By *bhs72Man
18 weeks ago

witham

They should rename it to men on pause. 😂

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By *aughty CornishmanMan
18 weeks ago

Newquay

My wife lost interest in anything sexual since the menopause, so now this is why I am on fab, I just can't not have anything.

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By *ittleteaseWoman
18 weeks ago

Norfolk

"My wife lost moisture and found sex painful even with lube. She spoke to doctor and was prescribed pessaries. Within two weeks sensation returned and started producing natural lubrication again. Now interested in sex again and we are having fun again."

I have this but I still have sex i can't go without it

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By *ellinever70Woman
18 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"My wife lost interest in anything sexual since the menopause, so now this is why I am on fab, I just can't not have anything. "

And how's that working out for you?

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By *acko452Man
18 weeks ago

maldon

"My wife lost interest in anything sexual since the menopause, so now this is why I am on fab, I just can't not have anything. "

Same here

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By *urreybicuriousMan
18 weeks ago

Haslemere

"My wife lost interest in anything sexual since the menopause, so now this is why I am on fab, I just can't not have anything.

Same here"

Same again

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Menopause Sends fear into the hardest of men and makes them fear for there life’s

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By *uenevereWoman
18 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"My wife lost interest in anything sexual since the menopause, so now this is why I am on fab, I just can't not have anything. "

Your poor wife

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By *aughtydealcouple OP Couple
18 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

I do feel abit sorry for men yes us women suffer more as we have all the symptoms but must be hard for men watching there wifes suffer so much and I know hubby is missing out but not much I can do about it

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By *hropmMan
18 weeks ago

shrewsbury

Since my wife went though the menopause we haven't had sex she went right off it . Must be at least 7 years

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By *he milf next doorWoman
18 weeks ago

bluebell woods

"Since my wife went though the menopause we haven't had sex she went right off it . Must be at least 7 years "
only another 3 years to go then

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By *fffunCouple
18 weeks ago

Somewhere just outside London

I'm at the peri stage... Night sweats, brain fog and the itchy skin....thankfully for now my sex drive is super high..🙏 Pls stay that way... 😂

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By *orny4it64Man
18 weeks ago

Norwich

Any lady got super horny just before peri kicks in then sex drive goes off a cliff? Almost like a last hurrah.!!?

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By *and12Couple
18 weeks ago

flint

I got super horny since I had the menopause and I bloody love it

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
18 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Don't mention the menopause it's been a nightmare year due to irregular bleeding which always seems to coincided with whenever we arrange a meet. Normally the day of a meet

My regular playmates are patient and we find other things to do or I wear a sex tampon or a menstrual disc. Luckily, they are not squeamish in helping me get the sex tampon or disc out again when it's gone too far for me to reach.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
18 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

I miss how much I used to get wet.

I'm not quite there yet with dryness but I do have to drink 3 litres of fluid a day to be properly hydrated.

I always use water-based lubes...simply because those go with most condoms and most silicone toys.

Good luck ladies. If all else fails, I will be buying hormones from a private pharmacy because my GP isn't listening to a thing I say.

All fannies are different so you don't know until you've tried everything.

Mine still works despite all the other horrendous symptoms. So maybe I just have thicker/expanding skin? No idea.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
18 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

I miss how much I used to get wet.

I'm not quite there yet with dryness but I do have to drink 3 litres of fluid a day to be properly hydrated.

I always use water-based lubes...simply because those go with most condoms and most silicone toys.

Good luck ladies. If all else fails, I will be buying hormones from a private pharmacy because my GP isn't listening to a thing I say.

Some people can put just about anything in their body and be fine...

me on the other hand...can't even put in a disposable tampon now. PH disruptor...yeast...BV...etc..

The NHS isn't listening to me so I have to find alternatives to cope. There are ways to lessen certain symptoms without HRT and those women who can't take HRT for health reasons have to use those.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
18 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"I had Ablation surgery about 18 months ago, and it's the best decision I've ever made.

My bleeds have stopped, the only trace of Menopausal symptoms is the occasional hot flush in the afternoon, but that's it.

Maybe I just got lucky on this one.

I'm waiting on a surgery date for ablation, been bleeding almost constantly for 30 months. Do you mind me asking how long the procedure and recovery time was?"

I don't know why they put women through this. Hugs.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
18 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Any tips for sleep with menopause as lucky if I get 3 hours a night and also sexual appetite is at very low so tips to boost if there is anything thankyou "

I read this book "4 Weeks to Better Sleep: How to Get a Better Night's Sleep

Book by Michael Mosley" And looked up CBT-Insomnia.

Sexually I now regularly schedule things to connect with my body and other people's, sensory, sensually and visually. Cause if I'm just at home alone, nothing sexy is going to happen.

Luckily one of my regular play partners in the poly pod is an extremely good masseur, standard vanilla rehab massage but also erotic, sensual, yoni/vulva massage. He also massages my mouth and jaw with his hands, and then I'm all relaxed orally for him to stick his cock in.

This was cheaper and easier than seeing a sex therapist. I already pay for a vanilla psychotherapist ...that's enough work on its own.

Hope that helps.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
18 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

Being autistic makes me wonder why people say they've tried everything when in actual fact they haven't tried everything. Lol!

Whenever I ask men or women specific questions about why their marriages have broken down and/or are sexless, it usually starts with some resentment long before the bedroom scene.

One guy told me that he and his wife never had any time alone. They homeschooled, taking turns, and they always went on vacation with their child. So they basically turned themselves into parents only.

I think my sibling was conceived when my parents sent me to stay with my uncle and aunt and my cousins for the entire weekend!!! There were multiple weekends for like a whole year. Lol!

My parents also spent 2 hours every day talking to each other.

I asked one of my friends if he did this and he said no one has the time anymore to do that. Communication is key and I personally don't want to shag someone who doesn't talk with me. I have little chats with my play partners via texts. We are not always with each other because we have other responsibilities and commitments but we keep the connection going and not take each other for granted.

I'm one of the only few people I know who had a marital breakdown who actually went to marriage counselling/marriage psychotherapy multiple times.

Maybe because people expect a quick fix and psychotherapy isn't. Maybe people are just too proud or embarrassed about the whole situation, so it's easier to avoid it all to the bitter end.

I don't like emotional, mental or physical pain, so if I can fix it, I'm damn well going to try and fix it and ignore my embarrassment. I know I can't fix everything by myself, which is why I let professionals step in and help me. doesn't make me less than.

Hope everyone finds solutions to their painful circumstances, whatever they are.

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By *igYin n CowGirlCouple
18 weeks ago

New Cumnock

See gp about Imvaggis pessaries or cream, its helped with my dryness a lot! xx

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