FabSwingers.com forum: Vasectomy

By *iscreet912 OP Man
29 weeks ago

West Sussex

I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.

My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.

Has anyone had a similar battle?

Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?

Thanks in advance

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By *ant...stay...awayCouple
29 weeks ago

South Wales

Had mine last year. Kids were a complete no go, so time was right. Op was half hour. Discomfort during rather than pain but given whats happening, it's understandable.

Day or so of a strong ache afterwards, a week of tenderness but nothing that interrupted work.

Nothing is affected as a consequence. Mrs R is happier not having to take the pill as she had done for years, so I figured it was the least I could do.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

My position on this is this…. It’s your body. You know when you have enough responsibility and you don’t want to over do that to put yourself in a position where you burn out. Your relationship could break down for it and either way you need to sit down with her and explain you don’t want anymore children and maybe come some sort of agreement. Explain that you take parenthood very seriously and you only have enough energy that you have to give to the ones you love and bringing in another child into that would mean burn out. It’d mean financial strain. It could potentially lead to you having negative feelings towards her if you do have another child that you don’t want. It’s not fair on the child either.

Have a chat with her about it and be calm and civil and I wish you all the best of luck. I’ve read online that they’re not that bad - heard a few horror stories but you always hear the bad. 99% of the time it all goes smoothly and you’re back to your normal self within a week!

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By *eronikapaulCouple
29 weeks ago

Reading

Similar to last poster but 20 years ago. Mine DID hurt. Like being kicked by a horse...twice. Major discomfort for the rest of the day and then a week of gradually fading aches. Maybe techniques are better now.

Zero effects other than the intended ones. Well worthwhile when you consider that the alternative of female hormonal contraception carries a small but real health risk of cancer which is completely avoidable by us guys stepping up and taking responsibility.

Remember also that you are being "disconnected", not sterilised, so if your wife's objection is the finality...well usually it isnt final.

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By *melie LALWoman
29 weeks ago

neverland

Is there another reason you want the snip? Do you think your wife suspects you're playing away?

If you ended up in another relationship and you wanted children, What then?

You're quite young, you may not meet the criteria for having it on the nhs.

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By *enfold75Man
29 weeks ago

hemel hempstead

I was done about 20 years ago best thing I ever did. Women love it means no more kiddies. And I play bare back more

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By *oyalmaleABCMan
29 weeks ago

leeds

Got the snip when I was 30 I’m 66 now and never regretted it

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By *rainedtongueMan
29 weeks ago

Crewe

I had the snip 20 years ago. Very embarrassing as a guy I played football with his wife was the nurse. Let's just say my manhood seemed to know what was going to happen and shrivelled up.

On a serious note I have never felt the same intensity of orgasm.Also as it's only semen you cum a lot less. So all those ladies that love a heavy cummer will be disappointed.

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By *alm_one4Man
29 weeks ago

RM16

Had mine about 25 years ago, some soreness for a week but it was manageable.

Only thing I’d say OP is your age, seems a little early to me, but that’s just an opinion. I had to convince my Dr. that I was ready as it’s a hard procedure to reverse, so that may be something to bear in mind.

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By *rainedtongueMan
29 weeks ago

Crewe

I had the snip 20 years ago. Very embarrassing as a guy I played football with his wife was the nurse. Let's just say my manhood seemed to know what was going to happen and shrivelled up.

On a serious note I have never felt the same intensity of orgasm.Also as it's only semen you cum a lot less. So all those ladies that love a heavy cummer will be disappointed.

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By *uilder.funMan
29 weeks ago

Bristol

I've been snipped. Didn't want the risk of more kids and female birth control has so many side effects.

It was a little uncomfortable and sore but was totally worth it.

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By *onjMan
29 weeks ago

near

Had the snip when I was 23 we had two kids and didn't want no more.no probs when I had it done or since.

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By *roop69Man
29 weeks ago

St Columb Major

I’ve had no issues with the amount I pump out since having mine done years ago

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By *afe and shavenCouple
29 weeks ago

Ipswich

I had it done many years ago and fortunately, my wife was fully supportive. Nothing changed in the bedroom, just as good as it always had been. With swinging it actually gave me confidence knowing that if something happened like a condom failing/coming off, (it does happen to most of us), then no way was an unwanted pregnancy going to be an issue. Win win.

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By *oandstephMan
29 weeks ago

Bradford

Had it done about 9mths ago with the new style no cut technique and few days of soreness thats all but if youre in doubt dont bother, if they would even do it that is

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By *oandstephMan
29 weeks ago

Bradford

"I had the snip 20 years ago. Very embarrassing as a guy I played football with his wife was the nurse. Let's just say my manhood seemed to know what was going to happen and shrivelled up.

On a serious note I have never felt the same intensity of orgasm.Also as it's only semen you cum a lot less. So all those ladies that love a heavy cummer will be disappointed."
yep agree only tattie juice now no custard 😂

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By *melie LALWoman
29 weeks ago

neverland

"Similar to last poster but 20 years ago. Mine DID hurt. Like being kicked by a horse...twice. Major discomfort for the rest of the day and then a week of gradually fading aches. Maybe techniques are better now.

Remember also that you are being "disconnected", not sterilised, so if your wife's objection is the finality...well usually it isnt final.

Looking on nhs website, a reversal is not usually done on the nhs (good), and a reversal may not be successful.

So don't consider the snip as temporary.

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By *4BSCouple
29 weeks ago

Bristol

I had it done earlier this year, procedure was uncomfortable rather than painful then about a week of that weird feeling in your stomach you get after hurting your balls.

Have noticed no difference at all in the bedroom since.

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By *ilverfox for youMan
29 weeks ago

Hull

Ask about complications !! Pm me

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By *hantomfemmeWoman
29 weeks ago

...

Ex had it done and he drove himself home afterwards. Took a day off work but no pain or anything. As for in the bedroom nothing changed other than no condoms.... best decision he made.

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By *rgoodnbadMan
29 weeks ago

greenock

Decided to get it done nigh on thirty years now and never regretted the decision. Sex was a lot more enjoyable when the worry of getting someone up the duff was gone.

It's your body, your choice. As seems to be today's mantra.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
29 weeks ago

near lincoln

Had mine done this year. Hurt like hell. And wasn’t done correctly so had to go back for a re snip a week after which hurt twice as much.

And 6 months on I still get pains every now and then.

I would say the amount of cum I produce since having it done is mostly a lot lower.

Also 6 months on and I still haven’t had my result come back as negative. Several cup samples in now. So isn’t the best after experience.

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple
29 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Yeah a bit achy afterwards for a few days but nothing compared to child birth as they say.

I would say my libido has diminished as I have got older but that could be natural anyway and as a result I prefer the cuckold scene more as I feel less pressure to perform but still enjoy the spectacle of Mrs N having naughty fun with more potent men that can satisfy her more than I can nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

What was it like? ….. different for everyone mate but for what it’s worth this is what it was like for me.

Had mine done many years ago. Into hospital for 9am, home at 2 pm. A dull ache, nothing more. 9 holes of golf after my tea and off to the pub after. No problems at all and nothing changed.

I could tell you about my mate who had his done after I told him how easy mine went but that would really put you off 😁

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Had mine nearly 30 years ago.

No regret dull acre for a few day. Balls felt heavy for a week guess that was bit swelling . Would do it again tomorrow. Made thing in bedroom better as no condoms or wife at time could stop pill

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By *rgoodnbadMan
29 weeks ago

greenock

"I had the snip 20 years ago. Very embarrassing as a guy I played football with his wife was the nurse. Let's just say my manhood seemed to know what was going to happen and shrivelled up.

On a serious note I have never felt the same intensity of orgasm.Also as it's only semen you cum a lot less. So all those ladies that love a heavy cummer will be disappointed.yep agree only tattie juice now no custard 😂"

Not my experience, nor anyone else's I know, who've had it done. Same orgasms, sometimes more intense, sometimes not.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
29 weeks ago

cahoots

Your wife is right OP, it's not a decision to be taken lightly and assuming you value your relationship it's definitely a joint decision and certainly shouldn't be a battle.

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By *electableicecreamMan
29 weeks ago

The West

Vasectomies are easy.

Reversals are not.

This is more about your relationship than your sperm count though.

If you don't want more kids and she does, having the snip is only going to fix one of your problems.

I walked home after I got the snip.

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By *he force is strongeCouple
29 weeks ago

stainforth

I got the snip when I was in my early 30s because my now ex wife wouldn't have sex with me as she didn't want to risk getting pregnant again,she didn't want to go back onto the pill and she didn't like using condoms.

My advice is to do what is right for you,talk to her and if your wife can't respect your decision then you have alot of talking to do lol

As for pain I was back at work in the afternoon with just some mild discomfort, people's pain thresholds are different

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By *eronikapaulCouple
29 weeks ago

Reading

Remember also that you are being "disconnected", not sterilised, so if your wife's objection is the finality...well usually it isnt final.

Looking on nhs website, a reversal is not usually done on the nhs (good), and a reversal may not be successful.

So don't consider the snip as temporary."

Well they will obviously say that as part of the selection process? Dumb not to. But it takes very little thought to realise that the sperm are still there and a new childless wife would be an ample (or slim) reason to request reversal. It is possible, though maybe not guaranteed, whatever the nhs propaganda currently says.

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By *eronikapaulCouple
29 weeks ago

Reading

"Had mine done this year. Hurt like hell. And wasn’t done correctly so had to go back for a re snip a week after which hurt twice as much.

And 6 months on I still get pains every now and then.

I would say the amount of cum I produce since having it done is mostly a lot lower.

Also 6 months on and I still haven’t had my result come back as negative. Several cup samples in now. So isn’t the best after experience."

It would appear it's a bit like a modern car? Faster, relatively cheaper, safer, Mrs loves it, but oh what a pain when it goes wrong! 🤣 wishing you the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Done a couple years ago, felt like I was kicked by a donkey in the nuts, but worth it as I didn't want anymore kids spoke to Mrs and she agreed, things can happen like relationships breakdown but even with that I was convinced I didn't want anymore kids anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

She doesn’t get a say, it’s your body.

I had it done a few years ago and it was the best decision I ever made. I absolutely love having made a responsible and autonomous decision about my reproductive health.

The procedure itself is weird but fine. The recovery is no joke at first, and I’d plan for a week or two off work. But absolutely no issues after that.

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By *ansomWareMan
29 weeks ago

Lancaster

I've been snipped. Made the decision after 2 different pills that she was taking failed on seperate occasions. You know yourself when you're done, I was done at 2 but ended up with 4. It really affected and still is affecting my mental health.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Had it done an age ago… not thought about it much as it was relatively pain free.

Funnily during the sorting out phase I found I only had one working nut. Damaged it during a climbing accident another 20 years prior.

Check your nuts chaps…

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By *eronikapaulCouple
29 weeks ago

Reading

Very risky indeed is climbing with damaged nuts? Only a perfect crack will do!

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By *ovis and GreeneyesCouple
29 weeks ago

Swansea

Best thing I did, decided young not want anymore children had it done in my early 20s pain was ok 2 days off work & tight boxers for a few days after then was all good.

You would still have to play safe with other as it don't stop std's etc only thing changes is the fact you not going to have more kids.

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By *melie LALWoman
29 weeks ago

neverland

Remember also that you are being "disconnected", not sterilised, so if your wife's objection is the finality...well usually it isnt final.

Looking on nhs website, a reversal is not usually done on the nhs (good), and a reversal may not be successful.

So don't consider the snip as temporary.

Propaganda? If I was the nhs I'd say yeah have the snip but you want it reversed, go private, still no guarantee it'll work.

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By *melie LALWoman
29 weeks ago

neverland

"She doesn’t get a say, it’s your body.

I had it done a few years ago and it was the best decision I ever made. I absolutely love having made a responsible and autonomous decision about my reproductive health.

The procedure itself is weird but fine. The recovery is no joke at first, and I’d plan for a week or two off work. But absolutely no issues after that.

But the wife does have a say if she wants a divorce...

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By *hong80321967Man
29 weeks ago

Wakefield

Snipped 25 years ago, all pain and discomfort free, no regrets at all

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By *etsbenaughty69Couple
29 weeks ago

Essex

Hubby had his done over 25yr ago..

He has no regrets..

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By *rgoodnbadMan
29 weeks ago

greenock

"She doesn’t get a say, it’s your body.

I had it done a few years ago and it was the best decision I ever made. I absolutely love having made a responsible and autonomous decision about my reproductive health.

The procedure itself is weird but fine. The recovery is no joke at first, and I’d plan for a week or two off work. But absolutely no issues after that.

But the wife does have a say if she wants a divorce..."

She gets as much of a say as the husband gets, when she makes the decision on whether to have the child, or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

I had it done about 2 years ago. Took around 30 minutes and needed a couple of stitches lol. Overall the recovery wasn't too bad, a bit tender for a few days.

Since then when I cum it's a lot more intense for some reason

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Had it done years ago best thing ever little discomfort back to work in a hour never looked back

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Had it done a few years ago. Procedure was done at Dr's. Lasted 30 minutes.

Quite sore for a few days. Was fun making the required amount of "cums" for the tests to see if it worked.

Cumming feels better now

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By *ools and the brainCouple
29 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.

My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.

Has anyone had a similar battle?

Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?

Thanks in advance "

Your body your choice.

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By *melie LALWoman
29 weeks ago

neverland

"She doesn’t get a say, it’s your body.

I had it done a few years ago and it was the best decision I ever made. I absolutely love having made a responsible and autonomous decision about my reproductive health.

The procedure itself is weird but fine. The recovery is no joke at first, and I’d plan for a week or two off work. But absolutely no issues after that.

But the wife does have a say if she wants a divorce...

She gets as much of a say as the husband gets, when she makes the decision on whether to have the child, or not. "

I understand that. But if OP wants to consider his wife's opinion, then who are we to say otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

I think only 2 options:

1. Trade the wife in for a new model, after all what's the point of divorce if you're not going to use it

2. Go f**k it and get it done anyway

Interestingly, a guy at work got a vasectomy about 5 years ago. He has teenage kids already with his first wife but got married again (don't make the same mistake twice), to a woman 7 years his junior who wanted kids. He had the vasectomy reversed! They are now getting divorced.....

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

Don't have done! I had the snip and now I just shoot dust, honestly, no lie!

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By *ssexPolyGentMan
29 weeks ago

southend

Had it done in my early 30s, with no complications at all and no change to sex life in anyway, still have the same sensation and cum just the same. As other have said though it is not a decision to be taken lightly as reversal is quit a low success rate and very expensive to have done as not covered by the NHS (rightly so) as for your wife not wanting you to have it done this is something you both need to discuss very carefully and work out between the two of you as if I remember rightly you still need your spouse to consent to you having the operation for some reason that I have never understood as it is your body and your choice.

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By *heelerMan
29 weeks ago

Northants

Get the snip reasonably painless bruised for 2 or 3 days then no more contraceptives. But the biggest relief is the first wank and you know it still works.

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By *nkymikeyMan
29 weeks ago

Andover

Had mine 9 years ago.

Doctors side office and key hole.

Took 10 mins and he worse part was the smell of burning flesh.

Show me the tube he cut out as well.

Cheers.

Back to work the same day and then just clean and enjoy the next few months until all clear

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By *omRachCouple
29 weeks ago

Wirral

"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.

My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.

Has anyone had a similar battle?

Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?

Thanks in advance "

Rach and I cracked heads over this when we both about to hit 40. I was adamant that I did not want another child (with her or anyone else) whereas she didn't want to rule it out completely so I said that it would make sense if I did it - and after several fraught discussions I got it done just after my 39th birthday.

For me personally there were no side affects or issues, done on a Sat at 10am, home for 1pm and 2 days later I was on the outskirts of a mosh pit at a gig.

Not regretted it once, if your mind is made up it's a no brainer.

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By *omerset1976Man
29 weeks ago

Burnham

I needed 2

First didn’t work, happy I had a date with a cup few weeks after.

I needed a general, felt bit worse after but nothing too bad, week after back for again

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By *ouple_For_BuddyCouple
29 weeks ago

Newport

"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.

My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.

Has anyone had a similar battle?

Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?

Thanks in advance "

Does you Wife know that you are here?

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By *trongbobMan
29 weeks ago

rochester

I had the snip about 20 years ago, all good, no pain or anything, done friday and back to work monday, i don't regret having it done and would recommend it to anyone thinking about having it done.

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By *ormalMaleMan
29 weeks ago

Northallerton

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By *amieLDN22Man
29 weeks ago

London

Best to sort it out with the wife first and give it a serious think before you snip snip your semen tube. You're young and may change your mind in a few years.

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By *ertifiedCreamerMan
29 weeks ago

Brum

"Don't have done! I had the snip and now I just shoot dust, honestly, no lie!

Ffs this! And the thought of anyone taking a knife to my private bits gives me nightmares.

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By *ockyjohnMan
29 weeks ago

North West

Doesn't make a vast deferens

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By *electableicecreamMan
29 weeks ago

The West

"Doesn't make a vast deferens

Ha!

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
29 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Don't have done! I had the snip and now I just shoot dust, honestly, no lie!

Ffs this! And the thought of anyone taking a knife to my private bits gives me nightmares. "

They don’t use a knife, they use a laser.

Had mine done when I was 28, best decision I made, and never have any problems with the amount I produce either now.

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By (user no longer on site)
29 weeks ago

No problems since having it done, only problem is Mrs has to clear herself up after lol

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By *assy LassieWoman
29 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

Your body your choice. If a woman posted this and a man was against her controlling her fertility there would be an outcry. Should be no different for a man.

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By *adbod11Man
29 weeks ago

wantage

I had it done when I was 32. Had 3 kids and knew that I didn't want anymore. Even if I was ito enter a new relationship, I was sure I had completed my family.

The operation took less than 30 mins on a Friday lunchtime and I walked home. Bit tender over the weekend but I was back at work on the Monday. Sex was much better without the risk of an unwanted pregnancy. In terms of emissions, no real change. Cum the same as I did before.

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
29 weeks ago

Hastings

Had mine done 30 years ago.

All was good got a knock 15 year back and have had problems since.

Epididymal cysts just had a second one out so am laying flat. God this pit hurts...

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By *iscombobulated1523Couple
29 weeks ago

Worcestershire

Had mine done about 12 years ago

I was put to sleep to be done ( my choice)

Little tender and bruised but that's all

Not sure if it's my imagination but my cum seems to go watery quicker 🤷

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By *evernmanMan
29 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

Had it done when I was 28 as my then wife could have died if she got pregnant again. Never regretted it, it has given me no problems, and it has meant I could often do without a condom.

I was laid up for a day with swollen and painful balls, but that cleared quickly and I was in full health again. Had to be tested a few weeks later to ensure it had been effective.

There was a scare back around the 80s, I think, that it might cause premature aging, but that seems not to have happened at all.

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By *anonfire96Man
29 weeks ago

Mansfield

It's definitely not to be taken lightly, especially as relationships can fail , that being said it can be reversed reasonably successful nowadays. I had mine at age 32 my wife couldn't use the pill. I was intolerant to condoms and it was the least invasive procedure of the two main forms of sterilisation. If you're sure just go for it.

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By *anonfire96Man
29 weeks ago

Mansfield

Mine has always been the opposite, my cum has always been on the thick side , where I used to be able to shoot to the ceiling, not a chance now. I was told by my GP it's because you no longer have the fluid from your testicles that transports the sperm to your prostate that then mixes into the semen you ejaculate.

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By *ne.eyed.willyMan
29 weeks ago

Ammanford

Had mine done about 10years ago. A bit sore 5/6 hrs after the 10 minute opp. 2 days later I had a black sack.....

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By *oubleswing2019Man
29 weeks ago

Colchester

"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.

My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.

Has anyone had a similar battle?

Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?

Thanks in advance "

Your self-autonomy has a higher priority than your relationship status. You have said that you are done with having children.

If the shoe was on the other foot and your wife said she was done with having children, then you would have to respect that too. It works both ways.

The crux of the matter is if one of you wants future children and the other does not, then this imbalance needs to be resolved.

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By *iscreet912 OP Man
28 weeks ago

West Sussex

Thank you everyone for the reply’s and the PM’s too.

Really appreciate the opinions and experiences you have all given. It is incredibly helpful.

I’m hoping this thread will help someone else make the decision in the future too!

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By *emptation6580Couple
28 weeks ago

playa de ingles

Had mine done about 15 years ago!

Hurt like fuck afterwards as I had a hernia repair done at the same time!

I can honestly say- it’s reassuring that the baby issue has gone but i still get real pain where the tubes were cut and sealed! I can feel the end of them-like a very hard pea and very painful if we get a bit carried away or she’s on top! Feels like a punch in the nuts!

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By *reen2Couple
28 weeks ago

Aberdeen

"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.

My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.

Has anyone had a similar battle?

Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?

Thanks in advance "

So from a woman's point of view, IF she was to go on the pill and you didn't want her to, you would be accused of abuse basically, but because she doesn't want to use any form of protection that's ok??

I think you both need to sit down and properly speak about it, you shouldn't feel pressured to NOT get the snip of you feel that's right for you

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

"Thank you everyone for the reply’s and the PM’s too.

Really appreciate the opinions and experiences you have all given. It is incredibly helpful.

I’m hoping this thread will help someone else make the decision in the future too! "

I sure back when I had mine we had village family doctor that want to speak both me and wife together make sure we both understood it what both wanted and understood no easy to reverse

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By *ete.RachaelTV/TS
28 weeks ago

Chesterfield

Had 3 kids so had it done 20 years ago , right laugh my wife applying the email cream before , no pain but they let my wife watch because she was a nurse , just rest for 48 hrs after with tea , food and beer brought to the bed , cum just as much but no little fishes in it

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By *ete.RachaelTV/TS
28 weeks ago

Chesterfield

Emla cream I mean

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
28 weeks ago

Coleraine

Sounds like you have more talking to do!

When I had my snip we were both completely on the same page

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

Had it done a few years ago, no regrets, everything just as it was before, still cum the same, if not more.

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By *ubdominatorMan
28 weeks ago

Coolock

I had mine done 2 years ago now in Molesworth Clinic in town I was in and out in 30minutes, tbh the most pain I felt was the numbing section it felt like someone hit your sack with a stretched elastic band. I did feel some tugging as he was trying to get the tube 1 of mine was hiding and he had to move it but other than that it was easy. I did it as I was done with kids etc and didn't want any more it was a good decision on myside.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

Easy op, I was in and out in 20 mins, balls a bit tender, but had sex same night!

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By *lyreelMan
28 weeks ago

King's lynn

"I had the snip 20 years ago. Very embarrassing as a guy I played football with his wife was the nurse. Let's just say my manhood seemed to know what was going to happen and shrivelled up.

On a serious note I have never felt the same intensity of orgasm. Also as it's only semen you cum a lot less. So all those ladies that love a heavy cummer will be disappointed."

Same here, intensity not the same, not same feeling of ejaculate surge, cum lot less. Had a few problems after surgery too, surgeon was a useless bastid.

I would NEVER recommend it.

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By *hirleyMan
28 weeks ago

London

This thread is a car crash.

I can sense irony in the tone of posts.

Do what you believe in op, if you fuck up, learn from it, and fast. Else you're a fool

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By *rishmocha2Couple
28 weeks ago

Beds

I had mine done in my early 30's after 2 children. I knew I was done and even though I divorced years later, still have no regrets. It's a personal choice, but do it for yourself as long as you're happy with your choice, that's all that matter.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
28 weeks ago

Portstewart

That's something you will have to discuss in detail with your partner. Obviously things there aren't the best or you would be a couples profile and if you are hear without her knowledge that's a whole other conversation. It can take up to 2 years to get it on the NHS and if your in a relationship they sometimes have a form the the partner needs to complete or if you go private it costs between 600 and 900 quid

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By *ver 55 Girthy cockMan
28 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Had it 20 years ago

Recovered well

You will still be hard but cum may not be as thick

It's a blessing as you have no worries about conceiving again

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By *anonfire96Man
28 weeks ago

Mansfield

What criteria? I was 32 when I had mine on the NHS. My wife couldn't take the pill. And I'm allergic to latex condoms.

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By *anonfire96Man
28 weeks ago

Mansfield

My cum is the opposite, very thick and has been ever since I had mine thirty four years ago. My GP said its because I no longer have the fluid from the testies that transports the sperm to the prostate and mixes to produce semen.

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By *anonfire96Man
28 weeks ago

Mansfield

Everyone is different, my orgasm is better, but you're right about the amount of cum, and mine is so much thicker.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

Fully functioning here

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By *he Protagonist.Man
28 weeks ago

Yup, me too... My Loads are way way less in volume, even after a week of no nutting it's only a below average amount. 🤣🤣 Oh well .

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By *anysicoMan
28 weeks ago

cork

Anyone have prostate surgery ( Turp)

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By *ice and PeasCouple
28 weeks ago

West Midlands

I had it done 7 years ago decided that I wasn't going to have anymore kids. My nutsack swollen up to the size of almost a grapefruit but it was the best decision I've made there's been no aches or pains, but cum volume has gone a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

Everyone is different. Personally I’ve had no issues since the snip several years ago. In fact I’m hornier than ever !

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By *edbath 5Man
28 weeks ago

london

"I had the snip 20 years ago. Very embarrassing as a guy I played football with his wife was the nurse. Let's just say my manhood seemed to know what was going to happen and shrivelled up.

On a serious note I have never felt the same intensity of orgasm.Also as it's only semen you cum a lot less. So all those ladies that love a heavy cummer will be disappointed."

My next door neighbours girlfriend was my nurse and touched my tiny shriveled balls when showing me where they cut.

I always think of she told him and laughed at least your bird played with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

"Had mine last year. Kids were a complete no go, so time was right. Op was half hour. Discomfort during rather than pain but given whats happening, it's understandable.

Day or so of a strong ache afterwards, a week of tenderness but nothing that interrupted work.

Nothing is affected as a consequence. Mrs R is happier not having to take the pill as she had done for years, so I figured it was the least I could do."

Pretty much the same as above 👆 Had mine 15 years ago and nothing has changed in my performance. (Still average) 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

Had mine after the last kid 30 plus yrs now and mentally it felt better no worries about anymore and no side effects at the time of getting it just a couple of salt baths

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By *ralextacyMan
28 weeks ago

Cardiff

Mine was a year ago and had the follow up test. All negative. It opens up the month to more fun and play... except during that 1 week but that's OK.

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By *essTTWoman
28 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Your wife is right OP, it's not a decision to be taken lightly and assuming you value your relationship it's definitely a joint decision and certainly shouldn't be a battle."

If he valued his relationship probably wouldn't be on here looking to cheat and referring to his partner as 'complicated'.....

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By (user no longer on site)
28 weeks ago

Your body your choice.

Best thing i ever did, and only took about 5 days the heal.

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By *lyreelMan
28 weeks ago

King's lynn

"Your wife is right OP, it's not a decision to be taken lightly and assuming you value your relationship it's definitely a joint decision and certainly shouldn't be a battle.

If he valued his relationship probably wouldn't be on here looking to cheat and referring to his partner as 'complicated'....."

Yes, and your comments are going to help him greatly. Ffs.

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By (user no longer on site)
27 weeks ago

Best thing I've ever done. Didn't hurt much (although the bruising is quite impressive!) and had the all clear so complete peace of mind now. One less thing to worry about while exploring with new people!

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By *netobeextraMan
27 weeks ago

location varies

I had the snip years ago, no regrets.

The procedure was not bad, I felt no pain or discomfort.

The day after, it is uncomfortable going up and down stairs but that passes.

Rough sex and doggy style is a little tender for a few weeks.

You’ll get some blood in your load for about a week.

I heard a load of horror stories beforehand but none of them were remotely near my experience. I’m sure it will be fine for you

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By *orkshire biMan
27 weeks ago

where I lay my head

Everyone's different. Had mine done 10 years ago. All good and no problems. Was done at a private hospital like. Didn't give samples but didn't end up with any more kids either

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By *nigma2000Man
27 weeks ago

Keighley

Sent you a message you want the no scalpel procedure it's a doddle

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Do it

Had it done 2011

Your wife will need to be on pill or you be using condoms.

For 3 months then you be called back sperm checked .

That's it

Very little pain .

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
26 weeks ago

Bedale

Had mine a couple of years ago, other than a slightly peculiar almost out of body experience during, and the fact that they really should stitch because the glue is shit (which in fairness they know, they warned me) it's been absolutely fine.

Minimal pain, recovery was good apart from the aforementioned glue failing meaning I had a hole in my pocket for longer than I'd have liked.

A good alternative to the side effects of female contraceptive IMO. If it works for you.

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By *unnyAndDickieCouple
26 weeks ago

FARINGDON

Had mine done 30 years ago. Discomfort on the day. Advised to put a tea towel over them then a bag of frozen peas. Following day back to work with only slight discomfort getting out of the car. I was hoping to have more sex, with the wife, but that didn't happen lol

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

"Had it done in my early 30s, with no complications at all and no change to sex life in anyway, still have the same sensation and cum just the same. As other have said though it is not a decision to be taken lightly as reversal is quit a low success rate and very expensive to have done as not covered by the NHS (rightly so) as for your wife not wanting you to have it done this is something you both need to discuss very carefully and work out between the two of you as if I remember rightly you still need your spouse to consent to you having the operation for some reason that I have never understood as it is your body and your choice."

No, that cannot be and is not a rule under UK law. It's entirely the choice of the person getting the op.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Had mine on the NHS at 25. Didn't want kids, didn't see the point in having an accident.

Op was 30 mins, slight incision and stitches. Hurt for a day when the painkillers wore off but OTC painkillers are enough. Couple of days later feel normal.

Don't lift anything remotely heavy for two weeks and you'll be fine.

Cum the same volume and consistency, no issues at all. Most post-vasectomy sexual issues are psychosomatic.

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By *histle do nicelyMan
25 weeks ago

Glasgow South

Easier for a man imo..Had it done years ago

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By *rX2024123Man
25 weeks ago

Rotherfield

Looking on nhs website, a reversal is not usually done on the nhs (good), and a reversal may not be successful.

So don't consider the snip as temporary.

Far too long to explain here but I had the snip, then a reversal (£1500) - two kids later had the snip again. My nuts have sure been through it 😬

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By *punk n gushCouple
25 weeks ago

deal

Hubby had his done years ago I gave him the option after our youngest was born that he either got the snip or got a divorce madly he opted for the snip not sure how many men would

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By *uffsandkinkCouple
25 weeks ago

leeds

Had it done, and it didn't work currently waiting for attempt number two but the pain wasn't bad at all

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By *anonfire96Man
25 weeks ago

Mansfield

It is reversible at cost.

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By *anonfire96Man
25 weeks ago

Mansfield

Had mine done 34 years ago, my urologist adopted the procedure of stitching the cut tubes to the inside of the scrotum, so there's no chance of them ever rejoining. Had lots of pain afterwards for around three days, and scrotum was black for around nine days. But that was purely down to his procedure, I know quite a few others who have had it done with little pain.

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By *ainbows_can_be_metal_tooCouple
25 weeks ago

Darlington

I had the snip last year after our third child. Discussed it with my wife who asked if it was what I really wanted. I told her yes since I didn't want to risk us accidentally having another, we couldn't afford it and I didn't want her having to go through the body trauma of a termination.

In the end it was my body and my choice to get it done.

I was off work for 5 days because mine is a pretty physical role.

But it was the best decision. My orgasms feel different but the comments about decreased loads aren't true, mine are the same if not the difference is negligible.

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By *anonfire96Man
25 weeks ago

Mansfield

Everyone is different, it definitely affected mine, they became thicker less viscous.

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By *ancMan
25 weeks ago

chester

"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.

My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.

Has anyone had a similar battle?

Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?

Thanks in advance "

It’s straight forward takes about 15 minutes under local anaesthetic honestly straightforward

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By *mudge354Man
25 weeks ago

Sussex

Best thing i ever did, if not I would have so many more kids lol

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By *mooth shaftMan
25 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Had mine done 26 years ago. At that time the wife had to sign a consent form - she refused !!! 5 years later child no. 3 arrived then she signed

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I had mine done about seven years ago and the only issue during the procedure was not getting a hard on as the nurse was absolutely stunning and my absolutely perfect fantasy woman…

The procedure was quick and painless. Slight sting from injection but quite strange seeing your tubes out on your lap. No stitches, no glue, and all healed quickly. Some dull aches on and off for a period afterwards and, to this day, the volume is reduced but still significant (multiple previous partners had commented on the large volume produced).

I had mine as done with kids and (now ex) wife wouldn’t have been able to safely carry another child. Long term use of the pill wasn’t a good idea either. Despite now being divorced I’ve no regrets at all. Interestingly, done on the NHS via GP, and wife didn’t have to give consent.

Your bigger issue OP is your complicated relationship. While you’re absolutely free to proceed with your own choice, you won’t be free of the cost of your choice. If you have it done without her consent and against her wishes, your relationship will be far more complicated than it is now. The real conversation to have is with her… but as you’re clearly here without her consent, perhaps it’s the exit clause that you’re looking for?

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By *mooth shaftMan
25 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"I had mine done about seven years ago and the only issue during the procedure was not getting a hard on as the nurse was absolutely stunning and my absolutely perfect fantasy woman…

Tubes on your lap? You must be a stallion !

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By *ax_glasscotMan
25 weeks ago

glasgow

Snip straight after the 2nd was born. Not interested in having any more. I was 40 at the time.

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By *otuseater11Man
23 weeks ago

kilwinning

Had mine done 20 years ago and still cum around the same amount.but definitely the best thing I've ever had done

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By *wingingphil69Man
23 weeks ago

castleford

Had mine do 20yrs ago just felt a little prick

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

No kids so was refused

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By *ergus1622Man
23 weeks ago

Dundee

"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.

My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.

Has anyone had a similar battle?

Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?

Thanks in advance "

I've had the snip, best thing ever! I was worried my drive would go down things like that. But it never and was uncomfortable for couple of days and wife doesn't need tobe on birth control any more, that makes her more happy to.

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By *om5699Man
23 weeks ago

Rayleigh

I was brought up to believe that no man should tell a woman what she should/could fo to/with her body. That applies to women as well. If you want the snip, have it. The best thing I did in 2005. I wish I did it after my first child was born in 1982 when my wife asked me to.

I experienced minor discomfort gor a couple of hours but a cuppa and a Ham sandwich aided my recovery

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Did you get your boosters ???

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By *host63Man
23 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

If you do not want any more children, and your wife feels she isn't done yet I would say she is certainly planning on getting pregnant with or without your consent.

Personally I have had the snip. I have had a couple of ex girlfriends attempting to trap me by getting pregnant by telling me they were on contraception when they were not.

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By *ice and PeasCouple
23 weeks ago

West Midlands

"If you do not want any more children, and your wife feels she isn't done yet I would say she is certainly planning on getting pregnant with or without your consent.

Personally I have had the snip. I have had a couple of ex girlfriends attempting to trap me by getting pregnant by telling me they were on contraception when they were not.

I agree. I had mine at 37, the dr tried to talk me out of it. But I stood my ground and was admitted that I didn't want any more kids. The woman I was seeing at the time knew that I was having it done when we met but still lost her sh1t once it was done, we soon broke up after.

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By *rmootMan
23 weeks ago

Horsforth

I had mine done 10 years ago once my family was complete. Have since divorced but my age I was done with kids so it was the right decision. Operation wise, it's 20 to 30 minutes. Is more a little discomfort than pain. Feels like a tugging feeling. I took paracetamol day before and kept up with it for about 3 days after. No pain, just an occasional dull ache. But soon passes. I never took any time off work. Just cracked on. They recommended brief style undies as opposed to boxers after the op. Keeps everything in right place. I had a shag a week after I had mine done. No problems, but be careful as you can still father a child for a short time after. Can't remember exactly but I recall something like 20 loads before your clear. Need to clear your pipes. Am sure someone on here knows for definate. You have to be tested after to ensure it was a success. Good luck with it.

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By *tanXXXMan
22 weeks ago

North east

No brainer piece of piss

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By *agan_PairCouple
22 weeks ago

portchester

I’ve not had any kids and new I never wanted any, had to have a meeting with the local gp first to discuss, my wife also had to attend and be part of the discussion. Once they were happy with my choice I was referred within a week, op was done after work, no complications had a long 3 day weekend and back to work the next day.

Absolutely no change in the bedroom other than far less anxiety and far more creampies !

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By *ootylover25Man
22 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

Had mine done about a year and a half ago. It wasnt too bad. Bit of discomfort for a bout a week or so but the main issue I had was probably because I didn't even wait 24hrs before having sex again

The wound ended up re opening and had a few trips to hospital to have it checked out. Not given me any issues since

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I had it done, didn't want anymore kids told the doc I wanted it done no question asked booked me in month later had it done easy

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By *lusherCouple
20 weeks ago

bodmin

Minor thing. Not reversible on NHS and so not to be done lightly. Ask if your wife harbours a desire for another child.

In Ireland they are doing a "scalpel free" version that is even less invasive than what we do. A bit sore but recovery is damn near nothing

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By *ippingDeeplyMan
20 weeks ago

Bath / Reading / Yeovil

Mine was a breeze. Easy to say in hindsight but relaxing as much as possible makes it so much easier. Re kids, i was initially recommended to wait until kids were a little older…6-10…before going. Incase anything were to happen in that time. I get a little ache time to time but nothing problematic. And if it really is important to know…ejaculate volume not impacted. Still extremely heavy if not heavier. Good luck.

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By *oroRick1027Man
20 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

"What was it like? ….. different for everyone mate but for what it’s worth this is what it was like for me.

Had mine done many years ago. Into hospital for 9am, home at 2 pm. A dull ache, nothing more. 9 holes of golf after my tea and off to the pub after. No problems at all and nothing changed.

I could tell you about my mate who had his done after I told him how easy mine went but that would really put you off 😁

Same here. A mate of mine had his done under general anaesthetic. His balls swelled up like tennis balls. He was black and blue for weeks. I had mine done under a local in a different hospital. I had no problems at all. Back to work next day. No pain, virtually no swelling.

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By *anonfire96Man
20 weeks ago

Mansfield

Three months and minimum 20 ejaculations to clear out tubes and remnants of sperm in your prostate.

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By *orknmindy21Couple
20 weeks ago

Newtownards

Had mine done when I was 26 best thing ever ,wanking 2 days later then ne t fucking happy days

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By *ibsonVicMan
20 weeks ago

Minworth

Had mine done 30 years ago.

Was best man at a wedding the following day (plenty of painkillers though lol).

I hasn't made any difference to anything as far as functionality goes. Everything has always worked the same as it did before - with one very obvious exception...

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By *wingingphil69Man
20 weeks ago

castleford

Best thing I ever did can’t be accused of any more kids 😂😂😂

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
20 weeks ago

Westbury (Wiltshire)

Paid £75 for my snip privately.

Was on the plane to Africa the next day for work.

Just a bit of an itch where the stitches were.

Absolutely no issues.

And highly recommended to avoid any more sprogs.

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By *pdudeMan
19 weeks ago

newtown

Had mine 20 years ago. Not to painful at first even after keeping everything super clean managed to get a infection in my stitches. And that was very sore for about two weeks.

Everything works as I should, out of curiosity I remember asking the missus if it tastes the same now it's skimmed, apparently it does.

Any women notice a difference after their man had it done

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Chichester

"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.

My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.

Has anyone had a similar battle?

Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?

Thanks in advance "

Get some frozen as a just incase for the Mrs. Then get the snip I guess I would do in that situation or you just tell her carry on and hope for best that don’t get caught out

End of the day your body is your body not anyone else’s

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By *eyeYCouple
18 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

D made the decision before we met. Happy with 2 kid's he decided he'd rather be a better father to them than a new relationship pulling his attention.

He's inherited/adopted my daughter and as a blended family it is fantastic, yes we've discussed his regrets that we won't have a child of 'our own' but we have an awesome relationship with the one's we have and another would add nothing extra than nappies again. 🤷😁

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By *otPullingOutMan
16 weeks ago

South East

Not sure I've got the balls

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By *lydeXXXMan
16 weeks ago

Doncaster

My advice is think long and hard about it then think some more again. I had my 1st 2 kids in 1994 and 1995. They grew up and I said no more kids... I ended up meeting someone and had another child in 2018, almost 24 years after my last bar a couple of months.

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By *oiluvfunMan
16 weeks ago

Padstow

You have to have a consultation with your doctor if you're wanting it done on the NHS, and you'll have to give a good reason why you'd like it done, because at your age of 33, there's time yet for you to split from your current wife, then remarry and want children with your next.....

I had my vasectomy 15 years ago. It was a 10am procedure by the 'no scalpel' method, and the Friday morning. In and out in about half an hour, tripped for a good few hours afterwards on the morphine, but just took it easy for the rest of the weekend. A bit of discomfort mostly, wearing tight, padded pants and alternating paracetomol and ibuprofen, but back to work on the Monday morning.

There's no discernable difference to what you spunk out, and if you were to watch some of my cumming videos, you'll know you have nothing to worry about on that score

The worst part of the procedure is sitting in the waiting room beforehand

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

Had it done last year.

Was quite brazen before the op in relation to having it done but while on the operating table the pain made tears roll down my face.

Discomfort for a little while after but now it’s an added bonus when others are aware there no danger of babies.

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By *ohn2287Man
16 weeks ago

Burton upon trent

Had mine done 4 years ago. It was my ex's idea.

No pain during or after. However, make sure you are doing it for you. Not someone else.

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By *ripfillMan
16 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

Had one a while ago … from a Surgeon who lived a couple of doors down

Nice bloke had a few beers together

( not before the surgery may I add )

The thing they don’t tend to tell you is your balls shrink over time …

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By *mooth shaftMan
13 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Had the snip 25 years ago. At that the Mrs had to sign a consent form but she wouldn't as not sure she 'was finished' .... so much for 'my body'. Anyway had another baby 5 years later and was down the docs ASAP! After the snip had a shag that night.

Anyone else had the 'wife consent' routine?

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By *hong80321967Man
13 weeks ago

Wakefield

Get it done, piece of cake, no regrets

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By *jh59Man
13 weeks ago

Stoke Golding

Had it done 15 years ago , best thing I did

Wife came off pill

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By *ynamite500Man
13 weeks ago

Angus

"I’m thinking about having the snip as I am done family wise and definitely do not want anymore.

My Mrs will not go on the pill however is totally against me having the snip… what do I do? She seems to think it’s a decision not to be taken lightly and she may not be done yet.

Has anyone had a similar battle?

Also, those that have had it done… what was it like, how long was the recovery phase and also have you noticed any differences to anything in the bedroom?

Thanks in advance "

Different strokes for different folks buddy.

My brother in law had it done, said it was the best decision he ever made... I was thinking of doing it too, though was advised not too ( just in case I wanted more children) no contraception is actually 100% guaranteed..even a vasectomy...neither is the reversal...if your partner won't go on the pill and doesn't want you to have an op, then that has to be a clear indication that she's not done yet...just take each day as it comes( no pun intended) and let fate decide.😁👍

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By *iftywaysMan
13 weeks ago

wigan

I decided to have it done and single at the time. I was 52 and explained to my GP, good bloke, that I wanted to grow up with my children (had 1) not grow old around them so signed me up. I was done under general as the vans were quite deep. A nurse checked on pre pre op! It took about 6 months before my samples were showing no active sperm. My GP also advised getting a jock strap to ease discomfort after the op. No regrets and the freedom is liberating, STD checks routine (as they were before). Condoms are less than 100 % effective.

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By *eacefulWizardMan
13 weeks ago

Champery (portes du soleil) Switzerland

Had mine done 14 years ago, I was 36, I had 1 kid and my partner had 2, so I was clear for me it was over.

I Wasn't going to have a 4th, with her or anyone else.

We discussed it, however it was my choice tod decide on my body as I respect the choice of a woman on hers.

Best decision ever, short recovery time, 4 weeks to azospermia, then she got off the pill.

We were a vanilla couple and she wasn't into trying swinging, so bareback would not be risky for anything, as it was just the 2 of us.

She passed, and I still Consider it to be the best decision for me.

I've had another partner since then for 1 year, and single now. And in both cases I'm happy to be the one taking the toll of contraception.

No issue on my pe is, going hard, ejaculation or anything else, and I feel a man as before, as I'm not defined just by my cock, thankfully.

and when I meet my next partner, whom hopefully we shall swing together, it will be a matter of condoms and std/sti protection and no bareback with them simply.

Hope this helps.

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By *arried curious guyMan
12 weeks ago

Motherwell

If your going to get it. It's important to wear tight swimming trunks for a fortnight after to support your ball sack. And try not to walk much

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By *oung40Man
12 weeks ago

thirsk

I had mine done 12 years ago, no pain just a little discomfort. didn't help the nurse sitting next to me talking to me was hot haha

if your married you actually need to have your wife sign a permission form to say she's happy for you to have it done. not even joking!!

as for after affects, ive had none! I have noticed though I do 'cum' a lot more

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I just felt a small prick

Then did 2 sit ups as he pulled on my tubes

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By *hil most chillMan
12 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

Not gonna lie, I did not enjoy the procedure. The nurse could sense my discomfort and did a good job of trying to distract me. But it felt very uncomfortable having things pulled around down there, and it felt like the doc could have been a bit gentler... or maybe I've just got sensitive balls??

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By *ifetime naturistMan
12 weeks ago

Norwich

Hi all, I had my vasectomy Many years ago. My wife and I had 3 boys and didn't want any more. The wife was having problems with contraception at the time, and my having it was the only option,

We had to go private, there was no NHS facility then. I had a local anesthetic and was awake throughout. No pain, just mild aching for a while.

I had tests for 2 weeks afterward and got an all-clear certificate.

The best thing I've ever done.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
12 weeks ago

Portstewart

It's extremely difficult to get it done on the NHS at the min iv3 been waiting nearly 3 years

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By *s13167Man
12 weeks ago

Manchester

Reply to forum post "Vasectomy"

Hi, I had my vasectomy about 6 years ago, the procedure was done at my gp surgery. I ended up with a hematoma a few days later (a small, blood filled lump under the skin) which, yeah, was painful - akin to being kicked in the nads.

Pain went away though I do occasionally get an ache. There has been no ill effects in terms of getting it up of quality/quantity but be aware!

Should anything change in your relationship or you change your mind about (more) kids, it'll cost about 6 grand to reverse as it isn't done on NHS.

The procedure itself is, for the most part painless (just don't tell the ladies this, it's part of the bro-code) - it sounds waaay worse but don't really feel it - done under local - numbed balls (no, not num, num)/scrote and a bit of a smell of burning flesh lol.

Takes about 20 mins, just get a few pairs of a smaller size underwear - the support is very much needed!

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By *ornyfella111Man
12 weeks ago

coppull

Not painful at all, bit of an ache for a few days later. I suspect a tad less painful than child birth

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By *heelerMan
12 weeks ago

Northants

Had it done years ago no problem bit bruised for a couple of days but returned to work following day and longs as your not over lifting or too strenuous should be fine .Great relief after first wank make sure it still works OK.

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By *dmit-itMan
12 weeks ago

Bristol

For me it was about me! I didn't want any more children with the woman. I had 2 with her and left when the youngest was 17 and as independent as she could be. I would have stayed around longer had I had more children.

On the plus side when me an ex fucked I felt do much better knowing I couldn't get her pregnant.

And was able to start licking out my own cream pies which lead to more fun in relationships when we split

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By *ikeExMan
12 weeks ago

Here to Eternity

Had it done in 2012.

Never looked back.

I have my kids, and my late wife had hers at the time.

We lost two, so decided it was time to do something where both of us could enjoy the release and messiness, without going through trauma and turmoil. For health reasons, she couldn't take the pill.. and I decided it was safer this way.

13years later.... I'm glad I did it.

Had the op.. and three days later, although bruised, she wanted me to empty what was in there...

Anyway..

Onkynhad one infection since, and it wasn't sexually transmitted.. just "one of those things that could happen"

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By *abba44Man
12 weeks ago

Broadstairs

I had mine done back in late 80s on the dining room table of a local surgeon,a cash in hand job.

Then a weeks holiday in Cornwall washing my knackers in the tidal pools,and never looked back.

My orgasms were a lot better and still are in my 80s.

Regretted it a few times in the early days,but it made life and sex a lot better for my wife of those days.

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By *ill37Man
12 weeks ago

cambridge

Has this prodedure done in feb 2025 didnt feel a think, however next felt like i had veen kick in the nuts with a stomach ache this lasted a week

So overall no issues or pain

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By *elly and daveCouple
12 weeks ago

gateshead

Had it done over 30 years ago,never regretted it,sex life went up a few notches,due to the risk of pregnancy being eliminated.

Didn't like the two house bricks the surgeon used,but you can't have everything!😊

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By *ax_glasscotMan
11 weeks ago

glasgow

It was a breeze. A bit odd the surgeon and the nurse chatting as they did it. Complemented me on how good I had shaved my balls. I bit tender next day.

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