FabSwingers.com forum: Getting back into swinging...

By *umblebee1984 OP Woman
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

Is anyone else finding it hard to get back into swinging/social interaction post pandemic. I keep coming back here but am still really scared of the virus..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally understand what you mean.

I'm not scared of the virus because I've had it and he wasn't too unwell plus I had vaccines.

However I have got used to my own company and not going out as much and doing things differently and it's been really difficult to get back into the swing of things.

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By *umblebee1984 OP Woman
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

Very much the same. I am now more likely to be doing things around the house rather than going out. I feel quite lonely, but equally finding people I trust to meet/go to clubs with is hard.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's weird, it's an adjustment.

I'm still not doing much and I'm not planning to any time soon.

Be kind to yourself x

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By *umblebee1984 OP Woman
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

I think you are right. I have a FWB I occasionally meet up with and perhaps something like that as baby steps might help

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By *hatsmynameagainCouple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Is anyone else finding it hard to get back into swinging/social interaction post pandemic. I keep coming back here but am still really scared of the virus..

Yeah, Mrs still hasn't had her second vaccine so we've been hiding away at least till she gets her 2nd jab

But tbh we've went from missing swinging, To being desperate to get back to swinging and then got to the point swinging is a distant memory.

We will start again at some point but it really does feel like it did when we first started out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very much the same. I am now more likely to be doing things around the house rather than going out. I feel quite lonely, but equally finding people I trust to meet/go to clubs with is hard."

Have you thought about an organised social? Sort dip your toe in.

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By *umblebee1984 OP Woman
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

"Is anyone else finding it hard to get back into swinging/social interaction post pandemic. I keep coming back here but am still really scared of the virus..

Yeah, Mrs still hasn't had her second vaccine so we've been hiding away at least till she gets her 2nd jab

But tbh we've went from missing swinging, To being desperate to get back to swinging and then got to the point swinging is a distant memory.

We will start again at some point but it really does feel like it did when we first started out

I guess that's it. Feeling like you are starting again..I was new to swinging with limited contacts. Now I feel like I am back at the beginning with poor spelling and married men here without their wives knowing again.

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By *umblebee1984 OP Woman
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

"Very much the same. I am now more likely to be doing things around the house rather than going out. I feel quite lonely, but equally finding people I trust to meet/go to clubs with is hard.

Have you thought about an organised social? Sort dip your toe in."

That might be an idea actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very much the same. I am now more likely to be doing things around the house rather than going out. I feel quite lonely, but equally finding people I trust to meet/go to clubs with is hard.

Have you thought about an organised social? Sort dip your toe in.

That might be an idea actually."

Sort of like a taster to see how you feel. X

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By *hatsmynameagainCouple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Very much the same. I am now more likely to be doing things around the house rather than going out. I feel quite lonely, but equally finding people I trust to meet/go to clubs with is hard.

Have you thought about an organised social? Sort dip your toe in."

Thats a very good idea. I totally forgot about social meets lol

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Is anyone else finding it hard to get back into swinging/social interaction post pandemic. I keep coming back here but am still really scared of the virus..

Yes me I agree, I'm still worried about it

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

"Is anyone else finding it hard to get back into swinging/social interaction post pandemic. I keep coming back here but am still really scared of the virus..

Yes me I agree, I'm still worried about it "

The only thing I am not doing is going to clubs I feel they are a bit to risky at the moment.

Over than that I am trying to get back to normality.

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By *ootballFlowerCouple
over a year ago

Ollerton

We are finding hard to do people-ing again...

We did venture out to Chams on Sunday and we were almost as nervous this time as the first time we ever went to a club.

Because it wasnt busy and the club were doing their best to make sure people were safe we actually had a really good time and are looking forward to when we can go again.

Not sure how we would feel about private meet at the moment though.

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I am not embracing the idea. I'm fine with pubs etc. Not sure I want to snog the face of anyone yet.

Mr _d40 can speak for his own views.

Mrs WD

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We are finding it all a bit challenging. We haven’t been to a Club for 2 years. We have been ok socialising with people we trust, but the idea of getting close to people we don’t know is a bit daunting. We have both been vax’d for a while and we are generally pretty careful, but we are starting to feel the need to have some fun. We are thinking about visiting a Club in mid Sept, so long as we & everyone else seem to be ok!

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

"We are finding it all a bit challenging. We haven’t been to a Club for 2 years. We have been ok socialising with people we trust, but the idea of getting close to people we don’t know is a bit daunting. We have both been vax’d for a while and we are generally pretty careful, but we are starting to feel the need to have some fun. We are thinking about visiting a Club in mid Sept, so long as we & everyone else seem to be ok!

You sum up my feelings well. For me though, even mid September feels too early for me to jump back into the pool. I live in hope of my pessimism being proved wrong!

(Optimists must find that the world perpetually lets them down, when events come out worse than they hoped. Pessimists by contrast can often be very pleasantly surprised that things are not as bad as they feared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not vaccinated so I’m limiting sexual contact with strangers. Luckily, my sex drive is very limited so I’m not exactly chomping at the bit

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Just going to take our time.

Hopefully, our holiday to Gran Canaria will kick start the road back to normalish.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's very natural to be this way. And equally to take your time to ease back into things but only at your pace. Small steps, without any pressure, is right.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"I think it's very natural to be this way. And equally to take your time to ease back into things but only at your pace. Small steps, without any pressure, is right. "

That's about right.

Take your time.

Take it at your pace.

Take absolutely no notice of what others think you should do or not do.

You will know what's best for you.

Have fun.

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By *umblebee1984 OP Woman
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

Thank you everyone for responding to my post. I feel a bit better about not being ready for this stuff right now.

I guess I can use fab to find connections that maybe I can meet in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havn't found it hard (to get back into swinging) at all. I have been going to a swinging club from when we were first allowed, having socials, meeting guys for fun, going at least once a week.

I have had both jabs.

I went from shielding, then back to work and then swinging again.

My job means I'm right in amoung people, no masks etc.

I just want to get on with life and we are allowed to now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive got back into it with 2 guys ive known for a long time and were regulars before covid.. i know the last 2 years will make me ultra picky going forward and as for me clubs are not a option at the moment until me n hubs feel safe mind you saying that gem (yeovil) is a club with fantastic air conditioning so dont think we will wait too long

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think people who will be struggling the most will be the people on here who have been on here pre pandemic. We only joined two weeks before lockdown so haven’t really known any different. We aren’t anxious because nothings changed it’s been the same all the way through for us, but I can understand why you feel the way you do, it’s probably normal, just chill and give yourself time, there’s no rush to get back to it .... things are only just opening up really

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Is anyone else finding it hard to get back into swinging/social interaction post pandemic. I keep coming back here but am still really scared of the virus..

Yes I totally understand what youre saying

Fox

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By *umblebee1984 OP Woman
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

"Is anyone else finding it hard to get back into swinging/social interaction post pandemic. I keep coming back here but am still really scared of the virus..

Yes I totally understand what youre saying

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It's nice to not be the only one

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By *umblebee1984 OP Woman
over a year ago

NOTTINGHAM

"I think people who will be struggling the most will be the people on here who have been on here pre pandemic. We only joined two weeks before lockdown so haven’t really known any different. We aren’t anxious because nothings changed it’s been the same all the way through for us, but I can understand why you feel the way you do, it’s probably normal, just chill and give yourself time, there’s no rush to get back to it .... things are only just opening up really

x "

This is true. I guess I miss the "before times" swinging

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

I'm not scared of the virus, but am a little apprehensive of social interaction now as it been so long away from mass crowds it's been wired the past few months, getti g used to it again. It's become habit to avoid people and give people space it's wired when random people are back next to you.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I’ve found myself not wanting to get back into it at all. The thought of getting up and close with a stranger isn’t appealing to me at all. I thought I might meet up with some friends at a club, but I recently had Covid and was really poorly, it’s made me really reluctant to mix in crowded places.

I think the lockdown made me evaluate what’s important to me. I was never a hardcore swinger, but now it’s not important to me at all.

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

One of the great things about bdsm is, sex isn't always required, mask wearing can be part of our lifestyle.

I've met a few fems, no sex required, just body painting, hit wax dripping on flesh from a social distancing height..ie top of a 6 ft step ladder while she lay on the floor..it's a sensory thing..

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