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By *amill OP   Man
over a year ago

Warrington

I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around.

I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean.

So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc.

I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities.

Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't feel stupid for not being a selfish twat.

Keep up the good work x

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around.

I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean.

So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc.

I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities.

Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar?

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I don’t feel stupid it’s the decent thing to do - your mates are selfish arseholes. You keep doing what you’re doing lovely x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Nope. They can do what they want but I am following the rules.

although didn't stop me getting it but I work in a high risk environment which is even more reason to follow them.

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By *osexyCouple
over a year ago

ST AUSTELL

You doing the right thing , it’s not about breaking the rules it’s about killing people .

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around.

I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean.

So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc.

I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities.

Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar?

"

Like you, I live alone and am heartily fed up of not seeing anyone (I'm shielding).

But I've not caught it, as many of the people I know have.

Staying safe inside is the only thing to do.

Your friends, and all the other selfish twats disregarding lockdown, are why you and I are feeling miserable. Remember that x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

In this scenario op, you are not the stupid one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're doing the right thing OP.

I havent seen friends or family in so long apart from online quizzes. It's really annoying not seeing anyone while others dont pay attention to the rules which means it will be longer before I see my friends and family. Thankfully it's the minority

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You're not stupid, OP.

It is hard. But we're doing our bit to save lives, save the NHS, save health workers from PTSD, save people from long term health effects. If enough of us stick the course, save the country and the economy from more ruinous lockdowns.

It is fucking hard and I'm unbelievably fed up. But to me the alternative is unthinkable.

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester


"I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around.

I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean.

So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc.

I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities.

Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar?

"

Take heart. Your friends are just being inconsiderate prats. It's the likes of them that are extending our general pain. Don't be jealous be angry! You're so in the right for being a proper caring human being!

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By *nigma2000Man
over a year ago

Keighley

Your not stupid for feeling how you do.

However a healthy balance needs to be maintained with your mental health, you need to do whats right for you to make sure you come out the other side in a good place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm following rules but I am going to work everyday and this lockdown the roads are just as busy as a normal day! First lockdown the roads where empty! So just shows how many people are going out now compared to then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got to think about what's best for your state of mind and go with it. Stupid comments like you've got to stay isolated and if you don't you'll kill people are ridiculous to say the least.

You've done that and it obviously isn't doing your state of mind any good. There will be tens of thousands of people coming out.of this with mental health issues.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"You've got to think about what's best for your state of mind and go with it. Stupid comments like you've got to stay isolated and if you don't you'll kill people are ridiculous to say the least.

You've done that and it obviously isn't doing your state of mind any good. There will be tens of thousands of people coming out.of this with mental health issues. "

Surely better to come out alive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may lose them as friends after all this, but are they really the type of people you want to be friends with?

I've seen people I know in a very different light this last year. I'm not going to miss them in the slightest.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"You've got to think about what's best for your state of mind and go with it. Stupid comments like you've got to stay isolated and if you don't you'll kill people are ridiculous to say the least.

You've done that and it obviously isn't doing your state of mind any good. There will be tens of thousands of people coming out.of this with mental health issues. "

As someone whose mental health has suffered incredibly during this, hard pass. I'll cope with my shit, fix it later, and not risk harming or killing someone.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"You may lose them as friends after all this, but are they really the type of people you want to be friends with?

I've seen people I know in a very different light this last year. I'm not going to miss them in the slightest. "

Agreed.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"You've got to think about what's best for your state of mind and go with it. Stupid comments like you've got to stay isolated and if you don't you'll kill people are ridiculous to say the least.

You've done that and it obviously isn't doing your state of mind any good. There will be tens of thousands of people coming out.of this with mental health issues.

As someone whose mental health has suffered incredibly during this, hard pass. I'll cope with my shit, fix it later, and not risk harming or killing someone."

Exactly this

Living alone, shielding & not having family close is soul destroying. But I know people who have died. So I'll do my utmost to cope & fall apart when it's over. Cos this is the RIGHT THING TO DO!

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By *exylegs15Couple
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

The furthest we go is food shopping... you’re doing the right thing! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm feeling like that the last few days, the amount of people I see blatantly breaking the rules has got to me this week. But that's their choice , thankfully I still have work and my parents are my bubble, I'm just looking forward to doing the small normal things I miss.

So chin up op, and be proud of what you have done so far

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP.

Just because what you see your friends do and behaving as they do does not make it right and proper!

They're playing with fire, in being so cavalier towards respect for others health and safety in these troubled times.

You however, despite the anguish you've experienced not being with them, have maintained the moral high ground and you have to be congratulated for doing so.

Many others across the UK have behaved themselves just as you have, so keep that stance going until there are legitimate & healthy ways out of it all.

Then you'll feel better than your so-called mates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been sticking to it since march I've only been out for a meal once in the last year

My nephew was born I've only seen him once also this was 6months ago

Over the last few days I've seen several people do posts at birthday parties drinking having a good time

Another one today it really annoys me

But I have elderly family members id rather protect but seeing what other people are upto does make me jealous but that's only natural

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around.

I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean.

So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc.

I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities.

Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar?

"

You should feel proud, i have to go to work and pretty much have the whole time, i try my best to follow the rules but out and about different working places there are so so many not like you, rule breakers are everywhere unfortunately, It makes me feel very nervous amd worried but not much I can do.

If everyone was like you maybe alot wouldn’t have died, it very very sad.

Round my way just outside Bristol where we have the mutated version sometimes i think people are talking no notice of the rules, definitely more so this lockdown.

Keep your chin up and be very proud of yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lost a friends over this aswel

The ones that say say it's not real or I watch the news to much some even say if you get it you will be fine it's only flu I've just locked them off completely

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"You've got to think about what's best for your state of mind and go with it. Stupid comments like you've got to stay isolated and if you don't you'll kill people are ridiculous to say the least.

You've done that and it obviously isn't doing your state of mind any good. There will be tens of thousands of people coming out.of this with mental health issues. "

This is bad advice sorry.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's wrong to feel negative because others are selfish and putting many lives at risk.

I don't know anyone who is not following the rules, so I'm not in the OPs situation to fully understand.

For now, keep on with your approach and look for things that will support you.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

How well someone is able to judge who's following the rules depends on how well they know the rules and the details pertaining to those they believe are breaking them. It's very easy to jump to conclusions based on very little.

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral


"I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around.

I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean.

So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc.

I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities.

Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar?

"
You are doing the right thing the stupid ones are those not following the rules,stay strong and continue to be clever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where are you op? I hope you haven't buggered off partying ffs...

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Most of us follow the rules

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By *rauntonbananaMan
over a year ago

Braunton

The people of the UK have become judgemental, snitching twats... sick and fucking had a gut full of it...the end

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

OP, this is definitely a challenging or uneasy period in life and at times it does feel like mentally speaking life has closed off many doors due to current yet necessary restrictions...

Are you stupid for following the rules? Not at all you're trying to be self conscious and considerate off yourself and off others...

If you feel some days it's getting a bit much go for a long walk even to clear you're head, go to a shop to get some stuff and if by chance once a week you happen to pass by a friend /acquaintance/family member make some conversation then go you're separate ways..

I don't know how much what I'm saying will help as everyone is different but small things like that can make a difference even if some days it seems repetitive or not enough it's better then nothing..

I don't know if you're currently in work or not/what you're circumstances but if you are that itself can take you're mind off things/is a coping mechanism to an extent..

You're not stupid for following the rules you're just trying to be responsible in these circumstances, you stay safe and you know what is right for you/which option to pick for you in the long term..

All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never feel stupid for doing the right thing mate,keep up the good fight,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your not stupid for feeling how you do.

However a healthy balance needs to be maintained with your mental health, you need to do whats right for you to make sure you come out the other side in a good place."

amen to that!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The people of the UK have become judgemental, snitching twats... sick and fucking had a gut full of it...the end "

Oh dear

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By *urvywomanWoman
over a year ago

New Longton

No you are doing the right thing and keeping yourself and others safe. Like you I haven't seen anyone outside my immediate family who I live with. I have a vulnerable mother I haven't seen for months but that's due to me still going into my place of work and also contracting Covid mid November. I was lucky mine was mild although I still suffer from fatigue and my taste and smell haven't returned. I can't get over how many foolish people still ask for meets on here. Stay home, stay safe, yes you will loose friends but ask yourself are they worth having in your life if they are so inconsiderate.

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By *amill OP   Man
over a year ago

Warrington

Wow I must say I’m overwhelmed with the positive messages I got back on this subject, it’s good to hear so many reassuring views that following the rules is the right way to go regardless of whether others are or not.

I think sometimes we can all spend a lot of time overthinking and being stuck in our own heads, it’s difficult to get by when you see many who flout the rules put in place for the good of society. Although it is a minority and for the majority who stick to them, we will be glad to reap the benefits when they are no longer needed. It’s a shame that others are so selfish, and even more so that some of those that are selfish are those I’d call friends.

Like a few have mentioned on here, it probably is wise to take some time to reflect on our relationships we have with people and evaluate whether they are still people we want to associate with once the pandemic has passed. I do hope I can continue with my relationships I had pre-covid, putting aside some selfish attitudes they may have and remember the qualities that made our friendships in the first place. Only time will tell.

As always, there’s a great community of people on fab and in the world, it’s good to see a warming sense of humanity in the comments and has been a good pick me up in an otherwise shitty weekend

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral


"The people of the UK have become judgemental, snitching twats... sick and fucking had a gut full of it...the end "
People are judgemental everywhere it is part of being human

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The people of the UK have become judgemental, snitching twats... sick and fucking had a gut full of it...the end "

Yikes.

The health of our nation and our people depends on every single one of us doing the right thing.

Just as you judge the "judgemental snitching twats", others judge those whose behaviour is not in the public interest. They have as much right to judge as you do.

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By *ungblackbullMan
over a year ago

scotland


"The people of the UK have become judgemental, snitching twats... sick and fucking had a gut full of it...the end "

Actually, full of stupid irresponsible twats.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I feel like that sometimes to but you're doing the right thing, as am I. Some of my friends who are actually quite sensible are allowing their sons to have their gfs round and things, it boils my piss tbh

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"Wow I must say I’m overwhelmed with the positive messages I got back on this subject, it’s good to hear so many reassuring views that following the rules is the right way to go regardless of whether others are or not.

I think sometimes we can all spend a lot of time overthinking and being stuck in our own heads, it’s difficult to get by when you see many who flout the rules put in place for the good of society. Although it is a minority and for the majority who stick to them, we will be glad to reap the benefits when they are no longer needed. It’s a shame that others are so selfish, and even more so that some of those that are selfish are those I’d call friends.

Like a few have mentioned on here, it probably is wise to take some time to reflect on our relationships we have with people and evaluate whether they are still people we want to associate with once the pandemic has passed. I do hope I can continue with my relationships I had pre-covid, putting aside some selfish attitudes they may have and remember the qualities that made our friendships in the first place. Only time will tell.

As always, there’s a great community of people on fab and in the world, it’s good to see a warming sense of humanity in the comments and has been a good pick me up in an otherwise shitty weekend "

Just remember to keep you're head up mate and focus on enduring and surviving this terrible storm known as the pandemic...

Even if life will never be the same again and returns to some form off normality gradually it will be better then nothing..

Some folks offered up some good points/advice which could help at times the question is if you feel comfortable taking them or not it's up to you..

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By *entle.ManMan
over a year ago

Slough

Most people are doing the same as you (and me). That is how the number of COVID-19 cases has been dropping so well since this latest lockdown. You are doing the right thing, taking care of yourself and everyone else you would come into contact with.

But you also need to take care of you. It is not easy. But keep chatting here. There are lots of us happy to chat. Nowhere near as good as the real thing. But much better than nothing. Stay strong and well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear you , I’ve not been to visit my parents grave in over two months now , the longest time I’ve not been to see them in ten years , it hurts a lot but I will stick to the rules as it would take a 45 train ride which isn’t classed as essential travel but when I see mosques full with men on a Friday no social distancing piling out onto the streets , or I hear that people at work are having a birthday party etc it makes my blood boil , I can understand why people do give in as it seems one rule for one and one for another, and now Amanda Holden seems to think she can travel miles to visit her family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for being a good egg.

NHS worker x

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By *uyfrombristolMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"You've got to think about what's best for your state of mind and go with it. Stupid comments like you've got to stay isolated and if you don't you'll kill people are ridiculous to say the least.

You've done that and it obviously isn't doing your state of mind any good. There will be tens of thousands of people coming out.of this with mental health issues.

Surely better to come out alive? "

The percentage of people who get seriously ill, let alone die from this is miniscule. Sure, do what you can to mitigate, but this is with us for generations so unless you're willing to stay indoors for the rest of your life the sanctimony is somewhat boring now.

The best thing anyone can do is responsibly bubble up, restricting wider contact while assisting with mental health issues. This is putting aside the fact that there are literally millions of people still working, sharing child custody etc, all of whom are a greater risk of transmission than a couple of people forming a bond to get through this shit. The government forced and will force kids back to school and they are super spreaders, so there's little point in vilifying people who are going through a genuinely difficult time.

You may be an exception, but I mainly see this coming from couples on here. Oh boo, you can't have threesomes and gangbangs. You are, however, not in the eleventh month of feeling completely isolated and desperate for human contact. If you are, get a new spouse.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


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Surely better to come out alive?

The percentage of people who get seriously ill, let alone die from this is miniscule.

100k+ is miniscule?? Wow.

You may be an exception, but I mainly see this coming from couples on here. Oh boo, you can't have threesomes and gangbangs. You are, however, not in the eleventh month of feeling completely isolated and desperate for human contact. If you are, get a new spouse."

If the above was aimed at me, you are very wrong. I live alone, and have been shielding. My mental health is suffering but, as has been said above, I'll follow the restrictions and sort it out later.

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By *uyfrombristolMan
over a year ago

Bristol


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Surely better to come out alive?

The percentage of people who get seriously ill, let alone die from this is miniscule.

100k+ is miniscule?? Wow.

You may be an exception, but I mainly see this coming from couples on here. Oh boo, you can't have threesomes and gangbangs. You are, however, not in the eleventh month of feeling completely isolated and desperate for human contact. If you are, get a new spouse.

If the above was aimed at me, you are very wrong. I live alone, and have been shielding. My mental health is suffering but, as has been said above, I'll follow the restrictions and sort it out later."

I feel as though you've incorrectly quoted, so part of your response is my original post, but yes, the numbers you cite are minuscule when weighed against the total population of the UK. That's not to say they are insignificant or worthless, I'm just putting it into context.

The ONS reports that 1.28% of the population has Covid as of Feb 2021. That's not how many people are ill or have died. That is a tiny fraction of the total population. Yes, it's tragic that people have lost their lives, but throwing numbers out there in lieu of context doesn't help anyone.

I agree that everyone should be doing their bit, but the goal is to minimise transmission and mitigate risk, not to eliminate it (because that is impossible). The media loves to refer to this as a deadly disease, which it can be in some instances, but so can flu, strokes, diabetes, COPD and many others. Usually this isn't, as evidenced by the overwhelming majority of people who are asymptomatic.

The point being that, while this is more virulent than most, it's no more deadly and it will be around for generations. Those seeking to make intimate, personal connections with one person for the sake of their mental health should not be tarred with the same brush as those having parties and mixing with dozens or hundreds of people.

Again, you may be single, but there are people posting in this thread using unsavoury tend to describe those they perceive as transgressors, while being comfortably coupled up.

As for me, in case anyone thinks I'm out coughing on old ladies for fun, I've been stuck indoors like the rest of you for the best part of a year. It's not good for me or anyone else and it cannot continue indefinitely. I would bubble up tomorrow if I could meet a compatible woman, which would be no different than any long term cohabiting couple.

Trouble with this shit is that it's emotive and people lose sight of reason and logic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP it sounds like you need new friends

You stick to doing what you're doing and feel proud when you look in that mirror!

Remember this won't last forever. Keep well x

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By *aralewisCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

I wouldn’t feel bad for following the Rules

But let’s be Totally honest this is nothing like the first lockdown

I’ know how you feel and I personally couldn’t be locked away for almost a year. The mental health and loneliness is just so bad.and your the msg the government given out this time a joke...if anyone can tell me where in the same kinda lockdown as before if fooling themselves

I’ve had to go to work not by any choice of my own it’s because government don’t close all none essential things..so maybe the msg your friends getting is seeing loads more none essential things open more people walking about more traffic on roads...I think you should try seek help

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By *ungblackbullMan
over a year ago

scotland


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Surely better to come out alive?

The percentage of people who get seriously ill, let alone die from this is miniscule.

100k+ is miniscule?? Wow.

You may be an exception, but I mainly see this coming from couples on here. Oh boo, you can't have threesomes and gangbangs. You are, however, not in the eleventh month of feeling completely isolated and desperate for human contact. If you are, get a new spouse.

If the above was aimed at me, you are very wrong. I live alone, and have been shielding. My mental health is suffering but, as has been said above, I'll follow the restrictions and sort it out later.

I feel as though you've incorrectly quoted, so part of your response is my original post, but yes, the numbers you cite are minuscule when weighed against the total population of the UK. That's not to say they are insignificant or worthless, I'm just putting it into context.

The ONS reports that 1.28% of the population has Covid as of Feb 2021. That's not how many people are ill or have died. That is a tiny fraction of the total population. Yes, it's tragic that people have lost their lives, but throwing numbers out there in lieu of context doesn't help anyone.

I agree that everyone should be doing their bit, but the goal is to minimise transmission and mitigate risk, not to eliminate it (because that is impossible). The media loves to refer to this as a deadly disease, which it can be in some instances, but so can flu, strokes, diabetes, COPD and many others. Usually this isn't, as evidenced by the overwhelming majority of people who are asymptomatic.

The point being that, while this is more virulent than most, it's no more deadly and it will be around for generations. Those seeking to make intimate, personal connections with one person for the sake of their mental health should not be tarred with the same brush as those having parties and mixing with dozens or hundreds of people.

Again, you may be single, but there are people posting in this thread using unsavoury tend to describe those they perceive as transgressors, while being comfortably coupled up.

As for me, in case anyone thinks I'm out coughing on old ladies for fun, I've been stuck indoors like the rest of you for the best part of a year. It's not good for me or anyone else and it cannot continue indefinitely. I would bubble up tomorrow if I could meet a compatible woman, which would be no different than any long term cohabiting couple.

Trouble with this shit is that it's emotive and people lose sight of reason and logic."

"1.28% of the population has Covid as of Feb 2021"...And your point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it till 2025...there might be millions of people saying they felt stupid for following the rules.

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By *rummie_jamaicanMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"

Surely better to come out alive?

The percentage of people who get seriously ill, let alone die from this is miniscule.

100k+ is miniscule?? Wow.

You may be an exception, but I mainly see this coming from couples on here. Oh boo, you can't have threesomes and gangbangs. You are, however, not in the eleventh month of feeling completely isolated and desperate for human contact. If you are, get a new spouse.

If the above was aimed at me, you are very wrong. I live alone, and have been shielding. My mental health is suffering but, as has been said above, I'll follow the restrictions and sort it out later.

I feel as though you've incorrectly quoted, so part of your response is my original post, but yes, the numbers you cite are minuscule when weighed against the total population of the UK. That's not to say they are insignificant or worthless, I'm just putting it into context.

The ONS reports that 1.28% of the population has Covid as of Feb 2021. That's not how many people are ill or have died. That is a tiny fraction of the total population. Yes, it's tragic that people have lost their lives, but throwing numbers out there in lieu of context doesn't help anyone.

I agree that everyone should be doing their bit, but the goal is to minimise transmission and mitigate risk, not to eliminate it (because that is impossible). The media loves to refer to this as a deadly disease, which it can be in some instances, but so can flu, strokes, diabetes, COPD and many others. Usually this isn't, as evidenced by the overwhelming majority of people who are asymptomatic.

The point being that, while this is more virulent than most, it's no more deadly and it will be around for generations. Those seeking to make intimate, personal connections with one person for the sake of their mental health should not be tarred with the same brush as those having parties and mixing with dozens or hundreds of people.

Again, you may be single, but there are people posting in this thread using unsavoury tend to describe those they perceive as transgressors, while being comfortably coupled up.

As for me, in case anyone thinks I'm out coughing on old ladies for fun, I've been stuck indoors like the rest of you for the best part of a year. It's not good for me or anyone else and it cannot continue indefinitely. I would bubble up tomorrow if I could meet a compatible woman, which would be no different than any long term cohabiting couple.

Trouble with this shit is that it's emotive and people lose sight of reason and logic."

The ONS assessed that 20% of us have had it - 115k dead. Do the maths. How many death would be too much?

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"I wanted to post this to gauge others opinions and thoughts on how they feel towards the lockdown this time around.

I personally have been sticking to the rules and following them to the letter, so much so I haven’t seen anyone I don’t live with this year and of course it’s really starting to take its toll on my mental health being locked up all the time. I’m feeling very isolated from my friends and the outside world in general, although I can’t help feel like a bit of a mug and stupid for following the rules, stay with me here and I’ll explain what I mean.

So many of my friends during this lockdown have simply given up on following rules and often are spending time around others houses and showing a general disregard for the rules. However as I sit here writing this for what feel likes the millionth weekend spent alone in bed on the weekend whilst they’re out doing whatever enjoying themselves etc.

I can’t help but feel stupid for following the rules because the end result of all this is that I barely get any contact from them, it’s as if they see me differently because I’m sticking to lockdown and don’t bother inviting me to do anything. Even if that is just going for a walk or doing exercise together, they’re simply not interested in those sort of activities.

Just wondering if anyone else has felt similar?

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You're doing the right thing, OP. You are absolutely not stupid or a mug to be helping to stop the spread of this thing, however far others may put that behind their own enjoyment.

Stick with it, friend!

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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago

taunton

You are doing the right thing hang on in there a bit longer and hopefully soon we can all enjoy slightly more freedom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t feel stupid for sticking to the rules, and clearly others have been too. Alongside those who haven’t, it is easy to compare.

But I just feel like all I can essentially control or do is manage my own world, and keeping it safe and within the rules. That is the quickest way to get out of all this, and support those who are contributing to solve the problem rather than be part of it.

It’s easy to feel like the odd one out, but that doesn’t mean anything. You’re doing the right thing in sticking to the rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I feel the same as you but I have come to accept that, while I've taking precautions to protect myself and my family, others will flaunt the rules and put others at risk, there is no getting away from that unfortunately.

Members of my own family and friends questioned my decision to stick to the rules, but in this latest wave, many now understand why I did take it so seriously. I'm just grateful, that they all have been lucky enough to get through their illnesses.

Keep up the good work...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We still don't know anyone who has been really poorly with this virus. We have not really followed the rules as we have worked all the way though this so it seems pretty pointless. Don't get us wrong, we have not been arranging meets or been reckless but if we have wanted to have a couple of tea with family members we have done.

We had our Christmas as normal and despite the doom and gloom merchants no one who visited us has been ill but they did have a lovely day.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"We still don't know anyone who has been really poorly with this virus. We have not really followed the rules as we have worked all the way though this so it seems pretty pointless. Don't get us wrong, we have not been arranging meets or been reckless but if we have wanted to have a couple of tea with family members we have done.

We had our Christmas as normal and despite the doom and gloom merchants no one who visited us has been ill but they did have a lovely day.

"

Good for you. Someone not hiding behind the sofa.

All about just acting responsibly and being sensible, avoiding vulnerable people. I won’t have the government telling me I can’t see my family and friends though.

Even if we get to 200,000 dead it’s tragic, of course, but, still a small number when you consider the population of this country. The reaction we have is disproportionate. Always has been.

The government have blood on their hands as far as I’m concerned.

Many more lives will be lost in the decades ahead, from their imposition of lockdowns than will ever die from Covid.

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By *llabouttheladyMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Go see a friend

You need it, seriously, go see a friend.

The rules allow it, go for a walk, grab a Costa, bump elbows/fists, you’ll feel better for it.

You can see 1 person outside for exercise. So can 2 other people who can happen to be in the same area at the same time. Bend the rules, you don’t need to hug and kiss, but there are ways to bend/flex the rules without breaking them.

Just keep the 2m distance/1m plus like everyone who is working is having to do.

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