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"For those like me who live alone, what have you done to keep yourself going nuts during lockdown? I am single and live by myself. I live 5 hours away from family and work from home and have done since the first lockdown. Whilst I do zoom with family and socialise virtually during online workouts and teams meeting for work. I have barely spent much time face to face with another person." Have a "from"..... I think it's missing from the first line above.... | |||
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"So sorry to hear this You’re a single adult household. Is there a reason you haven’t bubbled up with someone else? " Most people have bubbled up with their own relatives. So I moved far from my family nearly 18 moves ago for a job opportunity so where I am now I have friends, people I speak to but not really that close where they would choose to bubble up with me then let's say over a family member. Plus I'm well in to my thirties. A lot of my friends are family people with children who want to visit grandparents and such. Whilst not in lockdown things were not too bad as I went back to the gym in group sessions or go for a run with a friend but, during lockdown it's a different story. | |||
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"For those like me who live alone, what have you done to keep yourself going nuts during lockdown? I am single and live by myself. I live 5 hours away from family and work from home and have done since the first lockdown. Whilst I do zoom with family and socialise virtually during online workouts and teams meeting for work. I have barely spent much time face to face with another person. Have a "from"..... I think it's missing from the first line above.... " was that supposed to make people laugh! | |||
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"For those like me who live alone, what have you done to keep yourself going nuts during lockdown? I am single and live by myself. I live 5 hours away from family and work from home and have done since the first lockdown. Whilst I do zoom with family and socialise virtually during online workouts and teams meeting for work. I have barely spent much time face to face with another person. Have a "from"..... I think it's missing from the first line above.... " For this thread that was a little insensitive dont you think? Anyway OP, a friend from work is in a similar situation to you as he moved over 150 miles for work and is also in his 30s etc. He put himself on a few well known dating sites making his position very clearly that he was hoping to meet someone to bubble up with even platonically and it worked for him quite nicely indeed. He would laugh to hear this but he is no oil painting and quite geeky with it. His honesty won through and he is now bubbled up with a really good looking woman who is apparently lovely with it too so there is hope and possible options if you want to take a chance and try. Best of luck as loneliness is a tough thing to deal with | |||
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"For those like me who live alone, what have you done to keep yourself going nuts during lockdown? I am single and live by myself. I live 5 hours away from family and work from home and have done since the first lockdown. Whilst I do zoom with family and socialise virtually during online workouts and teams meeting for work. I have barely spent much time face to face with another person. Have a "from"..... I think it's missing from the first line above.... was that supposed to make people laugh!" That was unnecessary Hi OP. I'm in similar position to you. Miles from family, recently made redundant too. Always happy to make new friends even if its just online. | |||
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"So sorry to hear this You’re a single adult household. Is there a reason you haven’t bubbled up with someone else? Most people have bubbled up with their own relatives. So I moved far from my family nearly 18 moves ago for a job opportunity so where I am now I have friends, people I speak to but not really that close where they would choose to bubble up with me then let's say over a family member. Plus I'm well in to my thirties. A lot of my friends are family people with children who want to visit grandparents and such. Whilst not in lockdown things were not too bad as I went back to the gym in group sessions or go for a run with a friend but, during lockdown it's a different story." Can you still not socially distance run with your friend? | |||
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"For those like me who live alone, what have you done to keep yourself going nuts during lockdown? I am single and live by myself. I live 5 hours away from family and work from home and have done since the first lockdown. Whilst I do zoom with family and socialise virtually during online workouts and teams meeting for work. I have barely spent much time face to face with another person." I also live on my own and even for me who is not exactly a social butterfly have found it difficult. Perhaps you are doing as much as you can with your zoom meets. Also reaching out to people on here, beyond the odd careless remark there appear to be some pretty decent people on here. You are also keeping yourself fit too which is bound to make a difference to your well being. I have no real advice other than stick with it and things have to change at some point surely. Take some care | |||
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"Sign up with one of the food delivery companies such as Deliveroo, that will get you out and about meeting people." | |||
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"For those like me who live alone, what have you done to keep yourself going nuts during lockdown? I am single and live by myself. I live 5 hours away from family and work from home and have done since the first lockdown. Whilst I do zoom with family and socialise virtually during online workouts and teams meeting for work. I have barely spent much time face to face with another person." Hang in there Hopefully there is some light at the end of the tunnel | |||
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"For those like me who live alone, what have you done to keep yourself going nuts during lockdown? I am single and live by myself. I live 5 hours away from family and work from home and have done since the first lockdown. Whilst I do zoom with family and socialise virtually during online workouts and teams meeting for work. I have barely spent much time face to face with another person." Get out the house go on a good long walk fing you again and just getting out in the air I find helps | |||
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"For those like me who live alone, what have you done to keep yourself going nuts during lockdown? I am single and live by myself. I live 5 hours away from family and work from home and have done since the first lockdown. Whilst I do zoom with family and socialise virtually during online workouts and teams meeting for work. I have barely spent much time face to face with another person. Have a "from"..... I think it's missing from the first line above.... " Rude | |||
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"For those like me who live alone, what have you done to keep yourself going nuts during lockdown? I am single and live by myself. I live 5 hours away from family and work from home and have done since the first lockdown. Whilst I do zoom with family and socialise virtually during online workouts and teams meeting for work. I have barely spent much time face to face with another person. Have a "from"..... I think it's missing from the first line above.... " Very very unnecessary and insensitive! OP this situation will get better at some point. I’m single and live alone too but I’m now an essential worker, however I worked from home for 7 weeks on lockdown 1, I tore my hair out. Please PM me if you want to chat or let off steam. Stay safe xxx | |||
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"For those like me who live alone, what have you done to keep yourself going nuts during lockdown? I am single and live by myself. I live 5 hours away from family and work from home and have done since the first lockdown. Whilst I do zoom with family and socialise virtually during online workouts and teams meeting for work. I have barely spent much time face to face with another person. Have a "from"..... I think it's missing from the first line above.... " A mark of the man | |||
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"For those like me who live alone, what have you done to keep yourself going nuts during lockdown? I am single and live by myself. I live 5 hours away from family and work from home and have done since the first lockdown. Whilst I do zoom with family and socialise virtually during online workouts and teams meeting for work. I have barely spent much time face to face with another person. Have a "from"..... I think it's missing from the first line above.... For this thread that was a little insensitive dont you think? Anyway OP, a friend from work is in a similar situation to you as he moved over 150 miles for work and is also in his 30s etc. He put himself on a few well known dating sites making his position very clearly that he was hoping to meet someone to bubble up with even platonically and it worked for him quite nicely indeed. He would laugh to hear this but he is no oil painting and quite geeky with it. His honesty won through and he is now bubbled up with a really good looking woman who is apparently lovely with it too so there is hope and possible options if you want to take a chance and try. Best of luck as loneliness is a tough thing to deal with " . That is a lovely story. I am happy for your friend. | |||
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"Crikey can't even imagine how crap it must be. We are pulling our hair out and there's two of us and both still working. So being alone away from family and working at home must feel very lonely. But people are out there and even just coming on forum posting any old nonsense ( it's what I do ) Might just help a tiny bit. What about a DIY project to help pass the time? Another tiny distraction. As said going for a walk rather than a run you tend to take more time to notice things around you than running. Another tiny distraction. What about getting an allotment?? Buy and old cheap car and restore it or motorbike. Even the act of ordering part's will mean more deliveries and a few brief moments of interaction. Another tiny distraction. Learn to paint? Learn a musical instrument? Learn a new language? I know that all of these won't give you the personal tactical interaction that you crave but may help to distract you a tiny bit more. All those tiny bits add up. Sorry that we can't offer more help." Thank you. You are right it's about tiny distractions. I did buy a Haynes manual for my motorbike and started tinkering. I was fucking petrified it wouldn't start at some point though. I have also started listening to classical music as it it's very emotive and can change my mood very quickly. | |||
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"I’m beyond lonely for actual human company. I’m dreading going back on furlough. " Have you got any neighbours you could chat to? A lot of mine were having street 'parties' in the summer. Sat outside their houses chatting, all well over 2m apart. | |||
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"I make sure I go out for a walk every day and there is always someone I meet who wants a quick chat. " The locals are mostly friendly here. They smile and say thank you when I step off the kerb to keep distance. Even such small social interaction is nice. | |||
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"If you can still go for a run/walk with your friend, or go for walks with the other people you mentioned then obviously this will help. At the moment anyway you don’t need to be in a bubble to exercise outside And dating apps, even if you don’t find someone on there to form a bubble with, you may be able to meet one or two local people for a walk " This is true but it is only one person you can meet from another household outside unless they are part of your bubble. I do think it's a good idea though to try go for socially distance walks with another person if possible. | |||
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"If you can still go for a run/walk with your friend, or go for walks with the other people you mentioned then obviously this will help. At the moment anyway you don’t need to be in a bubble to exercise outside And dating apps, even if you don’t find someone on there to form a bubble with, you may be able to meet one or two local people for a walk This is true but it is only one person you can meet from another household outside unless they are part of your bubble. I do think it's a good idea though to try go for socially distance walks with another person if possible." I didn’t mean symultaneously seeing as very few people use apps to arrange to meet multiple people at the same time (common on Fab, to be fair. But this isn’t your typical site) I’d have thought that was pretty obvious | |||
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"What an excellent thing to do" Indeed. I was very touched by their story. Good on them.x | |||
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"There is always a freind at the bottom of a bottle if that fails advertise for a bubble freind on every type of social media thing you have there will be some one local to you in the same situation that just wants some one to watch tv with and eat tea together " I wouldnt recommend hitting the booze, thats the last thing you'd want to do to combat loneliness | |||
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"I am fine as work full time mights, care for my mum plus walk my dogs 3x daily. Today i went down to the country park which is on my doorstep. There i saw 5 ladies in their 60's picking up litter. They had clamps and bin bags with them. We got talking and they explained how fed up they had been during lockdown as all live alone. They came up with the idea of picking up litter down the park. This way they could still chat whilst 2m apart, get their exercise and do a good turn for the community. How wonderful was that?. Just something so simple has solved their problems. They even had flasks of tea with them. They meet up 4x a week. " hope if anyone informed them there only allowed to meet one other person from anougher house hold for exercise which doesnt they hit them with there picking stick lol. | |||
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"In some ways I am really really lucky I have a wife and 2 kids. And parents that live over road who we can see in garden. I still feel incredibly lonely. Especially during all this. Life is tough as it's just work and looking after kids half the week..I feel guilty for feeling like it as I'm so much better off than others" We all feel everything that affects us, that is natural. If one stopped to consider what other people have to deal with, anywhere in the world and without Covid even, we would die of guilt. Try and thank your lucky stars. And if you do feel guilty remind yourself it is just a feeling about something you have no control over anyway | |||
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"I am fine as work full time mights, care for my mum plus walk my dogs 3x daily. Today i went down to the country park which is on my doorstep. There i saw 5 ladies in their 60's picking up litter. They had clamps and bin bags with them. We got talking and they explained how fed up they had been during lockdown as all live alone. They came up with the idea of picking up litter down the park. This way they could still chat whilst 2m apart, get their exercise and do a good turn for the community. How wonderful was that?. Just something so simple has solved their problems. They even had flasks of tea with them. They meet up 4x a week. " That's lovely | |||
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" hit them with there picking stick" Is that a cover of an Ian Dury song? | |||
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" Anyway OP, a friend from work is in a similar situation to you as he moved over 150 miles for work and is also in his 30s etc. He put himself on a few well known dating sites making his position very clearly that he was hoping to meet someone to bubble up with even platonically and it worked for him quite nicely indeed. He would laugh to hear this but he is no oil painting and quite geeky with it. His honesty won through and he is now bubbled up with a really good looking woman who is apparently lovely with it too so there is hope and possible options if you want to take a chance and try. Best of luck as loneliness is a tough thing to deal with " Thank you for posting this, it's always good to hear of positive things coming from this situation. Thank you to the OP also for posting. I'm in a very similar situation and I'm dreading the isolated months ahead. I thought I was doing ok in life before the lockdowns, but I've found the lack of little chats and everyday interactions to really have had an accumulative affect through the year. I can see it from the other point of view though, people in a house with partners/housemates/kids that would just love a bit of space. Thanks to everyone that posted tips and advice, some really good ideas here! Hope everyone is doing ok, the brighter evenings are on the way | |||
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" Anyway OP, a friend from work is in a similar situation to you as he moved over 150 miles for work and is also in his 30s etc. He put himself on a few well known dating sites making his position very clearly that he was hoping to meet someone to bubble up with even platonically and it worked for him quite nicely indeed. He would laugh to hear this but he is no oil painting and quite geeky with it. His honesty won through and he is now bubbled up with a really good looking woman who is apparently lovely with it too so there is hope and possible options if you want to take a chance and try. Best of luck as loneliness is a tough thing to deal with Thank you for posting this, it's always good to hear of positive things coming from this situation. Thank you to the OP also for posting. I'm in a very similar situation and I'm dreading the isolated months ahead. I thought I was doing ok in life before the lockdowns, but I've found the lack of little chats and everyday interactions to really have had an accumulative affect through the year. I can see it from the other point of view though, people in a house with partners/housemates/kids that would just love a bit of space. Thanks to everyone that posted tips and advice, some really good ideas here! Hope everyone is doing ok, the brighter evenings are on the way " That's a really nice response | |||
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"In some ways I am really really lucky I have a wife and 2 kids. And parents that live over road who we can see in garden. I still feel incredibly lonely. Especially during all this. Life is tough as it's just work and looking after kids half the week..I feel guilty for feeling like it as I'm so much better off than others We all feel everything that affects us, that is natural. If one stopped to consider what other people have to deal with, anywhere in the world and without Covid even, we would die of guilt. Try and thank your lucky stars. And if you do feel guilty remind yourself it is just a feeling about something you have no control over anyway " Thankyou | |||
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" Hi OP. I'm in similar position to you. Miles from family, recently made redundant too. Always happy to make new friends even if its just online. " as the others have said it's hard/difficult/weird and it's things to hold onto of some description. i'm the same but been going into the office since june following 3 months of working from home, ok few people around but got to speak to some - security guard on door of waitrose know calls me bruv! however might soon become redundant (10% to be made redundant over next 2 months) so that could change dynamics big time - money wise be ok for a while as been there fora hundred years, but it's not like you can travel for three months and regroup | |||
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