FabSwingers.com forum: Your Mental Health Top Tips

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Being cooped up with freedoms severely restriced can be seriously depressing. What practical tips can you pass on to others to help them cope?

We'll start by suggesting you turn off news notifications on your phone - if you want news you can find it, without having gloomy headlines slapped in your face throughout the day.

Let's hear your tips!

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke

"Being cooped up with freedoms severely restriced can be seriously depressing. What practical tips can you pass on to others to help them cope?

We'll start by suggesting you turn off news notifications on your phone - if you want news you can find it, without having gloomy headlines slapped in your face throughout the day.

Let's hear your tips!"

Keep doing stuff. Any stuff. Learn something new. Start a language . . . make stuff to sell . . . the ideas are endless.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Keep in touch with people...text, phone, zoom, write a letter. Dont let yourself get isolated.

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By *ilkChocManMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead

Couch to 5k app.

Gives you an aim, gets you out of the house and pushes you a little - assuming you can't run 5k already!!

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By *ilkChocManMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead

"Keep in touch with people...text, phone, zoom, write a letter. Dont let yourself get isolated. "

We do weekly Zook drinks - it's actually been a really good laugh and have gotten to see some mates more than I usually do!

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings

I know it's cold but get out daylight a good walk even 10 minutes.

Air and exercise

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By *ookMan
over a year ago

london

Masturbation... but not too excess.

Routine

Have a goal or goals... not involving masturbation

Keep smiling keep calm and don’t watch too much news or negative media

Be nice to others and yourself

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By *osebud6688Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Have a daily plan/routine for yourself.

Think of 3 things that you are grateful for everyday.

Keep a diary - let it all out.

Reach out - a lot of people will be feeling the same way.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Couch to 5k app.

Gives you an aim, gets you out of the house and pushes you a little - assuming you can't run 5k already!!"

This I would highly recommend! Don't need an App, just a nice route, safe and pollution free.

Before Covid I could hardly run a mile, now I'm doing four easy!

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By *ancardiff7Man
over a year ago

Near Cowbridge

Gain or use a sense of perspective.

Look for the opportunities whilst acknowledging the downsides.

Keep busy.

Take time to focus on you.

Consider giving up social media (including fab).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gain or use a sense of perspective.

Look for the opportunities whilst acknowledging the downsides.

Keep busy.

Take time to focus on you.

Consider giving up social media (including fab). "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couch to 5k app.

Gives you an aim, gets you out of the house and pushes you a little - assuming you can't run 5k already!!"

This is a great App for non runners, it's free and I highly recommend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eat fresh, whole foods. I notice a massive difference in my mood now whenever I go back to eating like crap (which has happened a lot over Christmas!)

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Regular physical exercise is a must.

It releases those feel good hormones, and we all need those right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also keep your sleeping pattern somewhat normal, especially in winter when it gets dark early. Sleeping in late and living in pretty much perpetual darkness gets me depressed quicker than anything else, as does the feeling of having wasted the day.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Eat fresh, whole foods. I notice a massive difference in my mood now whenever I go back to eating like crap (which has happened a lot over Christmas!) "

Ditto! I'll be back to buying lettuce by bulk again on Monday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Danceyertitsoff music helps loads too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Eat fresh, whole foods. I notice a massive difference in my mood now whenever I go back to eating like crap (which has happened a lot over Christmas!)

Ditto! I'll be back to buying lettuce by bulk again on Monday."

I've got a load wilting in the fridge (wishful thinking while shopping last week)! I had to make myself put the Quality Street down and have a salad for lunch today

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Eat fresh, whole foods. I notice a massive difference in my mood now whenever I go back to eating like crap (which has happened a lot over Christmas!)

Ditto! I'll be back to buying lettuce by bulk again on Monday.

I've got a load wilting in the fridge (wishful thinking while shopping last week)! I had to make myself put the Quality Street down and have a salad for lunch today

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well done, you must have some willpower

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a cat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Eat fresh, whole foods. I notice a massive difference in my mood now whenever I go back to eating like crap (which has happened a lot over Christmas!)

Ditto! I'll be back to buying lettuce by bulk again on Monday.

I've got a load wilting in the fridge (wishful thinking while shopping last week)! I had to make myself put the Quality Street down and have a salad for lunch today

well done, you must have some willpower"

Haha, I didn't have that willpower when it came to the brie and crackers for dinner though!

it's all about balance though, right?

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

If you have Audible, this audio book is excellent. TBH it's more like a workshop. It's written by a highly skilled personal development trainer ( who has also written a book about her battle with brain tumours). She's someone I have met personally and she's a very skilled and compassionate trainer.

It's called,Awakenings in the Time of Coronavirus by Sophie Sabbage. Highly recommended.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Eat fresh, whole foods. I notice a massive difference in my mood now whenever I go back to eating like crap (which has happened a lot over Christmas!)

Ditto! I'll be back to buying lettuce by bulk again on Monday.

I've got a load wilting in the fridge (wishful thinking while shopping last week)! I had to make myself put the Quality Street down and have a salad for lunch today

well done, you must have some willpower

Haha, I didn't have that willpower when it came to the brie and crackers for dinner though!

it's all about balance though, right?

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I just want to point out that when you are suffering from poor mental health and low motivation, even small things like putting your shoes on to go outside or waking up at 11am instead of noon can seem almost impossible. If you do think you need a helping hand then do not hesitate to discuss starting medication with your GP. There is absolutely NO shame in using citalopram or sertraline to treat your mind while you recover from depression in the same way you would use paracetamol or Strepsils to treat a sore throat while you recover from a cold.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Daily exercise has been really important for us. Nothing over the top, just walking a few miles in the daylight.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Acceptance. That life is a bit shit at the moment, bit knowledge that it won't be shit for ever. Just a few more months and we're through. Maybe make plans to have something to look forward to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something for your mental state. Gaming,build a model something with a goal to reach.

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By *estivalMan
over a year ago

borehamwood

mountain bike, playstation and not watching the news to often has kept me sane.start of this 7 or 8 miles n the bike would fuck me up lol now doing 15 -20 miles a day on it no problem

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By *ucky24Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Learning to accept the things that you cannot change and concentrate on the things you can.

Keeping a routine and getting things done.

Keeping in contact with friends and family.

Taking the opportunity to improve yourself - whatever you choose.

Also remember that we will get through this and will get our lives back.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Delete FB,

Start short do-able projects,

Finish outstanding projects.

Pick a lockdown project, painting a room, rebuilding something, restoring an antique, so you'll have something to show for your lockdown,

Declutter.

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

My problem is bad phoriasis brought about by the stress of lockdown.

Does this count?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Get natural. Experience the natural world as much as possible, even if it's just a few moments connecting with natural things around you. Not everyone is close to the countryside but if we can see trees, plants, animals and outdoors somehow, it's revitalising and great for our wellbeing.

Talk with others. We evolved to be social, so engaging does us good. Small chats may be a lifeline.

Sleep well. If your sleep isn't great, take small steps to improve it.

Exercise is important for health and wonderful fun mental health. A pointless walk may be a good investment, if you don't feel that motivated to do anything.

Nourish yourself, with engagement with anything that you enjoy. Anything small will be another investment.

Volunteer. Quite a few of us hers do voluntary work. It may have a toll but if you find the right thing for you, it can be hugely rewarding. You don't have to be just doing it to help others - it's fine to do it if you want to get something from it - altruism is great but you're absolutely great to do it also for yourself. You'll probably enjoy being generous with your time and giving.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also I just want to point out that when you are suffering from poor mental health and low motivation, even small things like putting your shoes on to go outside or waking up at 11am instead of noon can seem almost impossible. If you do think you need a helping hand then do not hesitate to discuss starting medication with your GP. There is absolutely NO shame in using citalopram or sertraline to treat your mind while you recover from depression in the same way you would use paracetamol or Strepsils to treat a sore throat while you recover from a cold. "

Great point

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you have Audible, this audio book is excellent. TBH it's more like a workshop. It's written by a highly skilled personal development trainer ( who has also written a book about her battle with brain tumours). She's someone I have met personally and she's a very skilled and compassionate trainer.

It's called,Awakenings in the Time of Coronavirus by Sophie Sabbage. Highly recommended. "

Listened to the sample on Audible and will buy the full thing today - excellent recommendation

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By *otterabzMan
over a year ago

Ellon

"Learning to accept the things that you cannot change and concentrate on the things you can.

Keeping a routine and getting things done.

Keeping in contact with friends and family.

Taking the opportunity to improve yourself - whatever you choose.

Also remember that we will get through this and will get our lives back."

Couldn’t have said it better

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By *otterabzMan
over a year ago

Ellon

It's called,Awakenings in the Time of Coronavirus by Sophie Sabbage. Highly recommended. "

Thanks. Had a credit on Audible, so have downloaded it

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By *ove2pleaseseukMan
over a year ago

Hastings

Sod sallard it's not normall now but a good apple and a walk. An apple a day keeps the demands away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back in June I went through a dark patch.

When my friends found out they instigated a whats debreif chat. Im the single 1. They r all married.

Moral is stay intouch

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