FabSwingers.com forum: Xmas support bubble

By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

A lot of people are worried about Xmas, would forming a family only household bubble not be better, have your family Xmas and then go home...

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Not everyone has family or have no family living close to them.

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Not everyone has family or have no family living close to them."

Can’t wait to see you photos in January, see what lovely new knickers you got for Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not everyone has family or have no family living close to them."

That's so true, also so we want to have one day where we can see family followed by a further month of lockdown? I would rather have a small Christmas, as let's face it this year has been a bit of a write off, followed by normality

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Not everyone has family or have no family living close to them.

Can’t wait to see you photos in January, see what lovely new knickers you got for Christmas

I usually just get socks.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"A lot of people are worried about Xmas, would forming a family only household bubble not be better, have your family Xmas and then go home..."

Why is it safer to form a bubble with different households of family members than households of friends? The friends might have been working from home and not mixing. The family members might have front line jobs, in contact with a hundred people a week.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Cancel Christmas.

We did it years ago.

Mum was very ill, hospitalised and so we cancelled Christmas and when she go back to normal in June, it was decorations, tree up and full Christmas dinner in her house, it was brilliant.

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By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"A lot of people are worried about Xmas, would forming a family only household bubble not be better, have your family Xmas and then go home...

Its not safer, It a personal choice on who people want to see at Xmas, if we are given a choice of mixing with one other household, you can choose family or friends. I'd rather this than 6 households mixing willy nilly at Xmas.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The six households mixing was never a safe idea.

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By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Not everyone has family or have no family living close to them."

Hopefully some of those people will have close friends, but I know lots do not, Xmas normally can be a lonely time for a lot of people. This is why the day centres providing Xmas meals are important, but whether they will go ahead is very doubtful

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By *hrista Bellend OP Woman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Cancel Christmas.

We did it years ago.

Mum was very ill, hospitalised and so we cancelled Christmas and when she go back to normal in June, it was decorations, tree up and full Christmas dinner in her house, it was brilliant.

Thats a lovely idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The government's relaxation of rules at Christmas is NOT a good idea.

This is all about saving lives....I think we can all manage to forego one festive season by keeping apart where possible.

Therefore, there'll be much more to celebrate next year.....with our loved ones healthy and a potentially successful vaccine.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"The government's relaxation of rules at Christmas is NOT a good idea.

This is all about saving lives....I think we can all manage to forego one festive season by keeping apart where possible.

Therefore, there'll be much more to celebrate next year.....with our loved ones healthy and a potentially successful vaccine."

It's what I'll be doing.

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

Covid may be the unwanted gift you give to Great Aunt Maude when she spends Xmas day with you. Is THAT really worth it for one day?

Agree, let's postpone Xmas until June.

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By *macktheponyMan
over a year ago

wellington

Think its gonna be a disater might be ok at the time but we will pay for it in january. Another lockdown for a month

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

I’d love to see my family too but it’s not worth risking anything just for a bit of dinner

Yes it is a lonely time for some but at least they are alive and maybe things might lift a little when we have all stool to the rules

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By *macktheponyMan
over a year ago

wellington

Disaster

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By *macktheponyMan
over a year ago

wellington

And lets all think of the frontline workers not gonna be much of a xmas for them. They deserve xmas more than anybody

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Think its gonna be a disater might be ok at the time but we will pay for it in january. Another lockdown for a month"
We will probably pay ...but hey why not infect your granny for Christmas ...put her in hospital ..all for an odd day together ....the virus is still about ...Christmas or not !!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Not everyone has family or have no family living close to them."

Or has family they get along with

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By *andR510Couple
over a year ago

St Neots/Wisbech

Already got our Christmas bubble sorted with friends. Sensible and trusted adults who use common sense rather than the fear message from a government that cant follow its on rules.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"And lets all think of the frontline workers not gonna be much of a xmas for them. They deserve xmas more than anybody"
Just ask hospital workers who have to hold peoples hand as they ask "am i gonna die" ?... our daughter told us this last night .....terrible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not everyone has family or have no family living close to them."

Yep, this.

My closest family are two hours away. I could spend part of the day with my best friend, her parents and her daughter which I would love, but our health is more important than company. I will see my best friend and her daughter at some point during the festive period. But I might end up working in the morning (if we're open!) then coming home, having the presents I have, stuffing myself with food and watching TV for the rest of the day. Which I'm okay with.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"The government's relaxation of rules at Christmas is NOT a good idea.

This is all about saving lives....I think we can all manage to forego one festive season by keeping apart where possible.

Therefore, there'll be much more to celebrate next year.....with our loved ones healthy and a potentially successful vaccine."

This 100 times.

I can't genuinely understand the rush to push people back together again having spent 9 months trying to keep them apart...

There may be a notion that a special day together may help.... But I suspect its considered more a good will gesture to try and win a bit of public support. Can't blame them for that but any right thinking person would surely prefer to write this year off and have a national holiday sometime in August when hopefully we can enjoy it more safely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It looks like we've nothing to worry about. The fab forum are going to be selfless and not meet family.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I have spent many Xmas days alone and it really is not too bad. No point feeling down about it. Best to spend this year alone and next year alive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Already got our Christmas bubble sorted with friends. Sensible and trusted adults who use common sense rather than the fear message from a government that cant follow its on rules. "

Do you dislike each other's company so much that you need the company of friends for Christmas?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Already got our Christmas bubble sorted with friends. Sensible and trusted adults who use common sense rather than the fear message from a government that cant follow its on rules. "

And do you really think sensible and trusted adults are immune to this virus?. That is more or less saying that those who have had or died from covid have only themselves to blame.

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By *andR510Couple
over a year ago

St Neots/Wisbech

"Already got our Christmas bubble sorted with friends. Sensible and trusted adults who use common sense rather than the fear message from a government that cant follow its on rules.

Do you dislike each other's company so much that you need the company of friends for Christmas?"

Lmao.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a support bubble with one person, which is allowed as I live by myself so I think I couldn't go to my parents anyway because they live in a different council area to me. Got a feeling it will just be myself at home this year and I'll just call my parents on Xmas day. It's not worth the risk going to their home just for one day. I'd rather we all stayed safe

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By *andR510Couple
over a year ago

St Neots/Wisbech

"Already got our Christmas bubble sorted with friends. Sensible and trusted adults who use common sense rather than the fear message from a government that cant follow its on rules.

And do you really think sensible and trusted adults are immune to this virus?. That is more or less saying that those who have had or died from covid have only themselves to blame."

So three weeks ago they were fine to be in a bubble with us, but won't be OK until Boris has given a nod again ?

As for your ridiculous assumption of blame, statically we have more chance of being killed in a car accident than dying from covid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have spent many Xmas days alone and it really is not too bad. No point feeling down about it. Best to spend this year alone and next year alive."

Same. I take the dogs to the beach with a flask and picnic.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Already got our Christmas bubble sorted with friends. Sensible and trusted adults who use common sense rather than the fear message from a government that cant follow its on rules.

And do you really think sensible and trusted adults are immune to this virus?. That is more or less saying that those who have had or died from covid have only themselves to blame.

So three weeks ago they were fine to be in a bubble with us, but won't be OK until Boris has given a nod again ?

As for your ridiculous assumption of blame, statically we have more chance of being killed in a car accident than dying from covid. "

Oh well we may as well go out and fuck everyone then and forget it ever existed.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Already got our Christmas bubble sorted with friends. Sensible and trusted adults who use common sense rather than the fear message from a government that cant follow its on rules.

And do you really think sensible and trusted adults are immune to this virus?. That is more or less saying that those who have had or died from covid have only themselves to blame.

So three weeks ago they were fine to be in a bubble with us, but won't be OK until Boris has given a nod again ?

As for your ridiculous assumption of blame, statically we have more chance of being killed in a car accident than dying from covid.

Oh well we may as well go out and fuck everyone then and forget it ever existed."

Is this also the view of your sensible friends?

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aren't bubbles meant to be so that single people aren't so isolated?

That's the reasoning up here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Already got our Christmas bubble sorted with friends. Sensible and trusted adults who use common sense rather than the fear message from a government that cant follow its on rules.

And do you really think sensible and trusted adults are immune to this virus?. That is more or less saying that those who have had or died from covid have only themselves to blame.

So three weeks ago they were fine to be in a bubble with us, but won't be OK until Boris has given a nod again ?

As for your ridiculous assumption of blame, statically we have more chance of being killed in a car accident than dying from covid. "

Gee, it's almost as if circumstances change in the middle of a pandemic. Yet again, another person spelling out why they apparently know better than the government and the scientists because they aren't prepared to give up anything for the benefit of others.

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

"Already got our Christmas bubble sorted with friends. Sensible and trusted adults who use common sense rather than the fear message from a government that cant follow its on rules.

And do you really think sensible and trusted adults are immune to this virus?. That is more or less saying that those who have had or died from covid have only themselves to blame.

So three weeks ago they were fine to be in a bubble with us, but won't be OK until Boris has given a nod again ?

As for your ridiculous assumption of blame, statically we have more chance of being killed in a car accident than dying from covid. "

Try telling my mates family that. He died Friday night from Covid. I passed him last week he was out on his racing bike..... Very fit guy....he was 52

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aren't bubbles meant to be so that single people aren't so isolated?

That's the reasoning up here"

They are indeed, depending on the rules at the time, I will willingly spend Xmas apart from my parents if it means my 94 year old nan doesn't have to spend it alone.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

So three weeks ago they were fine to be in a bubble with us, but won't be OK until Boris has given a nod again ?

A couple have never been able to be in a bubble with another couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Already got our Christmas bubble sorted with friends. Sensible and trusted adults who use common sense rather than the fear message from a government that cant follow its on rules.

And do you really think sensible and trusted adults are immune to this virus?. That is more or less saying that those who have had or died from covid have only themselves to blame.

So three weeks ago they were fine to be in a bubble with us, but won't be OK until Boris has given a nod again ?

As for your ridiculous assumption of blame, statically we have more chance of being killed in a car accident than dying from covid.

Oh well we may as well go out and fuck everyone then and forget it ever existed."

See this is the problem. Just because someone thinks they can safely meet family members on Christmas day doesn't mean they want to go and fuck someone.

I suppose that's them problem with a swingers forum.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"A lot of people are worried about Xmas, would forming a family only household bubble not be better, have your family Xmas and then go home..."

I can wish all I like but it's not going to happen: it's not even open for discussion.

My eldest and her family live in Wales. My sister lives in Milan. My two other daughters live within walking distance: one is six months pregnant the other is a single mum of two.

We are a close family but also pragmatist. I had loads planned for this year: 30th memorial for my only son, my 60th, visit to my sister in Milan, a week in Wales...I saw my two youngest on my birthday, lunch in the garden, no touching.

Christmas is my favourite time of year. My other half loathes Christmas, has no family and sees it as another day. Just typing this I'm finding myself getting emotional and I'm not a weepy person.

It's been a tough year in isolation, I get by knowing there has to be an end. I didn't sacrifice the year to blow it for one day at Christmas.

My family are off the same mindset so we will celebrate in our own homes.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As winter and prolonged time indoors hasn't really happened much yet, with cold months to come, it seems better to put priority onto the gift of sustaining life, rathe than a virus for others. We can have our get togethers as safer times and ways come. If people have sustained time at home with furlough etc, it's potentially easier to fix getting together.

Is Christmas for getting together, giving gifts, sustained relaxation etc for you and others? For younger children it's magical but they are also learning from us and are flexible.

A quieter time, fewer people together at a time and then mixing bit by bit, is better than people who don't know they are sick, passing it amongst each other.

We've had the pain of the year and wasting a lot of that, when safer times approach, seems dogmatic and obstinate. This year is still light in its impact compared to what many of our elder generations who have lost lives this year, went through during the world war 2 times. Adults then would have dreamed of the abundance and freedoms we have today and would have been saddened by our willingness to throw wellbeing away that some show, in order to be rigid in their habits.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Don't get why folk get so hung up on it.

Its just another day so why not postpone it until everyone can get together safely.

Is a turkey dinner really worth putting our elderly loved ones at risk for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cancel Christmas.

We did it years ago.

Mum was very ill, hospitalised and so we cancelled Christmas and when she go back to normal in June, it was decorations, tree up and full Christmas dinner in her house, it was brilliant.

We had Christmas this summer just in case we can't meet up next month. I'm still hopeful we can though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will drive 241 miles to see my mum through her living room window.

Leave her present at the doorstep

And promise I will have her come stay with me when it’s safe.

It’s tough but it’s life at the moment. X

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I'll be having Christmas dinner on my own. It's fine. I did it last year, too. Is it really that bad to not visit all & sundry??

I usually go to Scotland for new year, to stay with my sister (my only family) but looks like I'll not be able to this year. Even so, I'm still not risking seeing anyone.

But at least I'll be safe and not passing anything on to anyone.

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By *ulu and MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Wondering if we will be allowed to invite new friends

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By *ulu and MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Durham

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