Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
 | Back to forum list |
| Back to Virus |
| Jump to newest |  |
 ) I’ve been pretty ok about the whole situation. Yes it’s scary and worrying and the fact that people have lost loved ones plays on my mind every day at work, but, I’ve not let myself think too much about it and I’ve just concentrated on trying to act normal and focus on the patients.
That was going fine until however, I had last week off as annual leave and I feel like I’m actually losing the plot. I’ve done nothing but watch the updates, cry, worry, panic and overthink everything. This is completely out of my nature and I genuinely don’t know what’s happened to me. How can my perception and feelings change in a single week?
I’m back to work tomorrow and I’m worried I’m just going to not be able to hold myself together.
I can’t even pinpoint exactly what it is I’m scared of but I just feel so panicky and nervous all the time.
I’m hoping tomorrow once I’m at work things will just go back to normal and I’ll be fine again but I’m genuinely worried that they won’t.
Is anyone else feeling like this? Have you been coping fine up until a certain point?
Nothings specifically happened to make me feel like this and I was just wondering if I’m alone in feeling like this and I just need to give myself a slap and pull myself together 
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
 | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Thank you  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is by no means a pity post. I just need to know that I’m not alone. I work in a hospital A&E department so have been working since everything kicked off with good old rona. Yes things have dramatically changed and the way in which we do most things is completely different, however I think due to good management, amazing colleagues and lovely patients (majority ) I’ve been pretty ok about the whole situation. Yes it’s scary and worrying and the fact that people have lost loved ones plays on my mind every day at work, but, I’ve not let myself think too much about it and I’ve just concentrated on trying to act normal and focus on the patients.
That was going fine until however, I had last week off as annual leave and I feel like I’m actually losing the plot. I’ve done nothing but watch the updates, cry, worry, panic and overthink everything. This is completely out of my nature and I genuinely don’t know what’s happened to me. How can my perception and feelings change in a single week?
I’m back to work tomorrow and I’m worried I’m just going to not be able to hold myself together.
I can’t even pinpoint exactly what it is I’m scared of but I just feel so panicky and nervous all the time.
I’m hoping tomorrow once I’m at work things will just go back to normal and I’ll be fine again but I’m genuinely worried that they won’t.
Is anyone else feeling like this? Have you been coping fine up until a certain point?
Nothings specifically happened to make me feel like this and I was just wondering if I’m alone in feeling like this and I just need to give myself a slap and pull myself together
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x"It's a perfectly natural response to an incredibly stressful situation. Soldiers get it too. I have friends who were always on the go for 6 months non stop on deployment, they got home, got a few days to actually stop and think about it and ended up with clinical exhaustion. Talk to colleagues if you feel able, make use of any support services you have available through your work, and remember you aren't alone in feeling like this. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"You are not alone in feeling like this I work In the food industry and have worked all throughout too but you get the odd customers who can be so dam nasty for no reason Everyone has their down moments I also cry for no reason when I think about stuff and how ignorant some people are when it comes to following the rules You only have to see the news U could always join be for a virtual gin luv Keep smiling....that’s all we can do Xxxxxx" Sorry you’re having your down moments too. Thank you for your reply. I must admit that my gin intake has increased greatly recently  xx | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"You just need to keep yourself busy and you won't mull over things so much. And thank you for all you do x" I think maybe you’re right. I think I need the routine to distract myself and not give myself time to overthink everything. I’m sure tomorrow I’ll not have anytime at all to be able to think straight 
Please don’t thank me, it’s just a job, like I’m sure hundreds of others on here x x
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"You are definitely not alone. You are in a position to see a lot of changes and probably better informed on matters all things covid than most. I think a lot of people are going through all sorts of changes and mind games. Some will be thriving and others really finding things spiralling out of control. The flurry of information that is constantly changing isn't helping either. I hope everything works out OK for you and everyone else struggling with all this "We get daily emails with all the figures and statistics and what’s the latest guidelines and what’s expected to happen and I don’t think that helps to be honest. I think sometimes it’s better to live in ignorance x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"You are not alone feeling like this. ”I’ve not let myself think too much about it and I’ve just concentrated on trying to act normal and focus on the patients.” I'm sure your extraordinary professionalism will kick in when you return
Thank you "Bless you, thank you for your lovely reply xx | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is by no means a pity post. I just need to know that I’m not alone. I work in a hospital A&E department so have been working since everything kicked off with good old rona. Yes things have dramatically changed and the way in which we do most things is completely different, however I think due to good management, amazing colleagues and lovely patients (majority ) I’ve been pretty ok about the whole situation. Yes it’s scary and worrying and the fact that people have lost loved ones plays on my mind every day at work, but, I’ve not let myself think too much about it and I’ve just concentrated on trying to act normal and focus on the patients.
That was going fine until however, I had last week off as annual leave and I feel like I’m actually losing the plot. I’ve done nothing but watch the updates, cry, worry, panic and overthink everything. This is completely out of my nature and I genuinely don’t know what’s happened to me. How can my perception and feelings change in a single week?
I’m back to work tomorrow and I’m worried I’m just going to not be able to hold myself together.
I can’t even pinpoint exactly what it is I’m scared of but I just feel so panicky and nervous all the time.
I’m hoping tomorrow once I’m at work things will just go back to normal and I’ll be fine again but I’m genuinely worried that they won’t.
Is anyone else feeling like this? Have you been coping fine up until a certain point?
Nothings specifically happened to make me feel like this and I was just wondering if I’m alone in feeling like this and I just need to give myself a slap and pull myself together
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x
It's a perfectly natural response to an incredibly stressful situation. Soldiers get it too. I have friends who were always on the go for 6 months non stop on deployment, they got home, got a few days to actually stop and think about it and ended up with clinical exhaustion. Talk to colleagues if you feel able, make use of any support services you have available through your work, and remember you aren't alone in feeling like this. "Thank you, yeah I think whilst you’re on the hamster wheel as such there’s not much room for thinking. Here I was thinking a week off would do me good  Xx | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"You're not alone. And there is help. Get yourself to your doctor and explain how you feel. I was in a similar situation a few years ago and felt exactly the same. I thought it was just me being a bit soft. I was persuaded to go to my doctor and as soon as he saw me he knew I wasn't in a good place. He immediately signed me off work, got me some meds and signed me up for some help groups. You and your colleagues have been doing a wonderful job looking after the entire country in these trying times. It's ok to step back and look after yourself for a while. Love and hugs! xxx " Sorry to hear you went through a tough time, hope you’re doing much better now. I’m hoping I’ll be back to normal once I’m back into my routine but If not I’ll definitely think about seeing my GP X | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is by no means a pity post. I just need to know that I’m not alone. I work in a hospital A&E department so have been working since everything kicked off with good old rona. Yes things have dramatically changed and the way in which we do most things is completely different, however I think due to good management, amazing colleagues and lovely patients (majority ) I’ve been pretty ok about the whole situation. Yes it’s scary and worrying and the fact that people have lost loved ones plays on my mind every day at work, but, I’ve not let myself think too much about it and I’ve just concentrated on trying to act normal and focus on the patients.
That was going fine until however, I had last week off as annual leave and I feel like I’m actually losing the plot. I’ve done nothing but watch the updates, cry, worry, panic and overthink everything. This is completely out of my nature and I genuinely don’t know what’s happened to me. How can my perception and feelings change in a single week?
I’m back to work tomorrow and I’m worried I’m just going to not be able to hold myself together.
I can’t even pinpoint exactly what it is I’m scared of but I just feel so panicky and nervous all the time.
I’m hoping tomorrow once I’m at work things will just go back to normal and I’ll be fine again but I’m genuinely worried that they won’t.
Is anyone else feeling like this? Have you been coping fine up until a certain point?
Nothings specifically happened to make me feel like this and I was just wondering if I’m alone in feeling like this and I just need to give myself a slap and pull myself together
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x
It's a perfectly natural response to an incredibly stressful situation. Soldiers get it too. I have friends who were always on the go for 6 months non stop on deployment, they got home, got a few days to actually stop and think about it and ended up with clinical exhaustion. Talk to colleagues if you feel able, make use of any support services you have available through your work, and remember you aren't alone in feeling like this. "I’ve worked all the way through this You don’t have time to think just get on each day I can only relate to when I was in a car crash .... I was fine I’ll I got home had time to think ... I started shaking panicking delayed shock .. You’ll be fine when you go back to work It’s just you’ve had time to realise what your coping with every day Chill try relax just know everyone is with you professionally I believe what’s meant happen will happen Been on life support before wasn’t my time to go Chat any time xx Andy | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is by no means a pity post. I just need to know that I’m not alone. ..... Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x It's a perfectly natural response to an incredibly stressful situation. Soldiers get it too. I have friends who were always on the go for 6 months non stop on deployment, they got home, got a few days to actually stop and think about it and ended up with clinical exhaustion. Talk to colleagues if you feel able, make use of any support services you have available through your work, and remember you aren't alone in feeling like this. " Very good point not only service men/women get PTSD. As you said Op it's when you were on leave you had time to think about it instead of having to concentrate on work. So if you talk to colleagues when you R.T.W. I bet they felt the same to varying levels and in different ways when they were on leave. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I'm a keyworker and I'm struggling massively too. Sending much love your way as there are loads of us out there who are soldiering on through this really tough time xXx "Ah hello, thanks for your reply. Hope you’re doing ok with everything that’s going on. Lots of love | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I think it's the come down off adrenaline. Although not in a Covid facing situation, I've worked pretty much nonstop, including loads of extra hours, 7 day weeks etc and have coped. This week, it came to a head and having decided NOT to work this weekend for the first time in months, I am actually feeling more exhausted and more overwhelmed. I think it's having the time to actually step back and take stock, that it frightens the bejeezus out of you. Make use of any staff counselling services you can access and talk about things, OP. " It’s madness isn’t it how you’d expect being off work to be so relaxing and calming and it actually isn’t. Hope you are feeling much better really soon. I will definitely be talking to some of my colleagues tomorrow, I’ve missed them x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is by no means a pity post. I just need to know that I’m not alone. I work in a hospital A&E department so have been working since everything kicked off with good old rona. Yes things have dramatically changed and the way in which we do most things is completely different, however I think due to good management, amazing colleagues and lovely patients (majority ) I’ve been pretty ok about the whole situation. Yes it’s scary and worrying and the fact that people have lost loved ones plays on my mind every day at work, but, I’ve not let myself think too much about it and I’ve just concentrated on trying to act normal and focus on the patients.
That was going fine until however, I had last week off as annual leave and I feel like I’m actually losing the plot. I’ve done nothing but watch the updates, cry, worry, panic and overthink everything. This is completely out of my nature and I genuinely don’t know what’s happened to me. How can my perception and feelings change in a single week?
I’m back to work tomorrow and I’m worried I’m just going to not be able to hold myself together.
I can’t even pinpoint exactly what it is I’m scared of but I just feel so panicky and nervous all the time.
I’m hoping tomorrow once I’m at work things will just go back to normal and I’ll be fine again but I’m genuinely worried that they won’t.
Is anyone else feeling like this? Have you been coping fine up until a certain point?
Nothings specifically happened to make me feel like this and I was just wondering if I’m alone in feeling like this and I just need to give myself a slap and pull myself together
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x
It's a perfectly natural response to an incredibly stressful situation. Soldiers get it too. I have friends who were always on the go for 6 months non stop on deployment, they got home, got a few days to actually stop and think about it and ended up with clinical exhaustion. Talk to colleagues if you feel able, make use of any support services you have available through your work, and remember you aren't alone in feeling like this.
I’ve worked all the way through this
You don’t have time to think just get on each day
I can only relate to when I was in a car crash ....
I was fine I’ll I got home had time to think ...
I started shaking panicking delayed shock ..
You’ll be fine when you go back to work
It’s just you’ve had time to realise what your coping with every day
Chill try relax just know everyone is with you professionally
I believe what’s meant happen will happen
Been on life support before wasn’t my time to go
Chat any time xx
Andy "Wow you’ve been through a lot!! Thanks for taking the time to reply. Hope you’re doing ok now x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
xxx | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is by no means a pity post. I just need to know that I’m not alone. ..... Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x It's a perfectly natural response to an incredibly stressful situation. Soldiers get it too. I have friends who were always on the go for 6 months non stop on deployment, they got home, got a few days to actually stop and think about it and ended up with clinical exhaustion. Talk to colleagues if you feel able, make use of any support services you have available through your work, and remember you aren't alone in feeling like this. Very good point not only service men/women get PTSD. As you said Op it's when you were on leave you had time to think about it instead of having to concentrate on work. So if you talk to colleagues when you R.T.W. I bet they felt the same to varying levels and in different ways when they were on leave. "Hiya, yes I’m definitely going to talk to my colleagues and probably my line manager tomorrow x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Bless you OP x I would say lots of people feel as you do, myself included, so you are certainly not alone. You will be fine when you're back at work and busy and thank you for all you do xxx"Sorry you feel a bit crap too. Hope you feel better soon x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is by no means a pity post. I just need to know that I’m not alone. I work in a hospital A&E department so have been working since everything kicked off with good old rona. Yes things have dramatically changed and the way in which we do most things is completely different, however I think due to good management, amazing colleagues and lovely patients (majority ) I’ve been pretty ok about the whole situation. Yes it’s scary and worrying and the fact that people have lost loved ones plays on my mind every day at work, but, I’ve not let myself think too much about it and I’ve just concentrated on trying to act normal and focus on the patients.
That was going fine until however, I had last week off as annual leave and I feel like I’m actually losing the plot. I’ve done nothing but watch the updates, cry, worry, panic and overthink everything. This is completely out of my nature and I genuinely don’t know what’s happened to me. How can my perception and feelings change in a single week?
I’m back to work tomorrow and I’m worried I’m just going to not be able to hold myself together.
I can’t even pinpoint exactly what it is I’m scared of but I just feel so panicky and nervous all the time.
I’m hoping tomorrow once I’m at work things will just go back to normal and I’ll be fine again but I’m genuinely worried that they won’t.
Is anyone else feeling like this? Have you been coping fine up until a certain point?
Nothings specifically happened to make me feel like this and I was just wondering if I’m alone in feeling like this and I just need to give myself a slap and pull myself together
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x
It's a perfectly natural response to an incredibly stressful situation. Soldiers get it too. I have friends who were always on the go for 6 months non stop on deployment, they got home, got a few days to actually stop and think about it and ended up with clinical exhaustion. Talk to colleagues if you feel able, make use of any support services you have available through your work, and remember you aren't alone in feeling like this.
I’ve worked all the way through this
You don’t have time to think just get on each day
I can only relate to when I was in a car crash ....
I was fine I’ll I got home had time to think ...
I started shaking panicking delayed shock ..
You’ll be fine when you go back to work
It’s just you’ve had time to realise what your coping with every day
Chill try relax just know everyone is with you professionally
I believe what’s meant happen will happen
Been on life support before wasn’t my time to go
Chat any time xx
Andy
Wow you’ve been through a lot!! Thanks for taking the time to reply. Hope you’re doing ok now x "Thanks I’m good What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger xx Live every day at work play or home xxx You’ll be fine Every one says that’s my saying now “ itall be fine “ | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
 . So sex such as it was /is is going to be self pleasure solo stuff in whatever form that takes . I am sure people are getting kinkier .. waay past the posh wank stage am sure so many new kinks will develop from lockdown that the singles are up to .I have to keep resisting some of the crazy ideas that coe to me these days ! I admit though I am still amazed personally that people are having meets again now . Given lots are couples that's just a bit too much isn't it! .. some of us have none and you still want more flesh to prod and poke and lick and .. carried away there .. sorry
Memories though !
I know some people are probably sick to death of their partners too though of course!probably why they want to meet
It is though very much a doom and gloom feeling isnt it out there .. I am not saying 'hopeless' but it feels a bit like it for me these days .. WE have so many stories , naysayers, do gooders , anti mask anti vax and pro everything or 'you are all mad' types in our faces daily . We can all it seems be sheep of one kind or another .
We are told to believe/follow the science yet daily things are pointing to at least some things done by the government ( believing in the science) that do not follw the science at all! Instead are deemed necessary for 'economic' reasons .. case in point the return to University that has just blown up in everyones faces .. and no one can say that wasn't a decision based entirely on £ in Higher education .
So yes it is worrying , it does kind of feel hopeless too at times . I and many others have been in some form of isolation now for 6 months and the government last week promised/ suggested another 6 at least of the same sort of thing . I am not going to lie ..I don't know if I can do that and stay sane ( I have been from working at home and have been out of the house 10 times since March so far!).. It goes agains our very nature to be antisocial doesnt it ! .. We are social beings thats how we develop things like trust in each other .. not having physical interaction , not seeing someones face when you talk to them , not being allowed out and all the other ' Not' stuff is really NOT good for mental health either .
There will I am sure be many resilient types / stiff upper lips and all that on here who will say there is nothing to worry about . I guess that is their coping strategy when underneath it all they are like most of us quietly crapping ourselves at the thought of an empty , bleak and more than probably lonely future..
Everyone talks about the ' New normal' I dont really want it frankly . I think I am a bit too old to adapt to it definitely and my quality of life will be impacted negatively by it in any shape or form .
Final thought . for me the 'Rose tinted' we ' are on holiday' feelings /vibes people have been projecting will soon dissapear. The end of furlough in a few weeks will absolutely change how people are feeling about everything and to some degree how much people still believe what the government are telling us . .. it will be a huge wakeup call for some and a lot will have big problems socially , financilally and of course mentally .We will as a country be at our most delicate and dangerous at the same time . If they call another full lockdown that wont work this time I think. .. too many people fed up and too many people believing the radicals on youtube who say there is nothing to worry about more die from flu etc etc .. we could have riots again , police and army on the street .. and a shortage of loo roll ! again!!
Or .. maybe a sudden vaccine will come and we will all be immune and happy and life will be fine again at Christmas .. although it probably wont !
Is there an answer? I don't know . Like you I have worked full time since March , no breaks no holidays away and very limited social contact.. no family so I am pretty much isolated apart from when I go shopping ..Sorry far too many of my own views in this reply and it wasnt meant to be like that ..
All I can say after all that is .. that if you stop believing things will change someday then is not a good thing to do . It will definitely do you no good .
Having to accept and understand the ' New Normal' and also believe in the science and the politicians for me is the hardest .. I want to go out , hug, touch , hang out, get naked have fun with people again .. and of course meet new prospective partners too therby reducing the supply of baby oil on the bedside cabinet which doesnt seem to last half as long as it used to these days
Joking apart .. tough times here for us all .. I personally wont break the rules and I have a pretty dim view of people who do it .. far too many on here seem to be unfortunately.. though it might I suppose be the only thing keeping them sane so they have no choice ..
No one can predict the future we are going to have .. but what I would say is try not to be alone if you can .. if you have family and friends stay in touch often as you can either in person or on webcam etc .. or if like me alone at sea kind of life? I advise the following
1 dont watch the media too much , turn off BBC notifications on social media etc ..
2) Dont get into any arguments about Covid /lockdown with people online .. some of them are really heartless idiots just getting their kicks .
3) Do one thing every day you really enjoy and make time for it in your diary so you dont forget it Similarly plan something for the next few weeks you can look forward to doing.
4) Don't make your daily schedule too big /too many tasks .. limit it all to what you can do and if you miss something hey ho no big deal ..
4) FINALY - if all this stuff gets you down .. TALK to someone .. anyone .. friend family , internet person .. whatever .. just talk .. thats the first step to self help and it will keep you sane . We are all in this together .. hard to believe I know from what some people do and say .. but we are all in the same boat .. Sorry for the rant /reply but I have got a bit tired at the 'hope springs ' crowd who dont seem to ever admit this is one big mess we are all in .. so just telling it like it is .. Seriously if you fancy a chat .. about anything I am more than happy to say hi with no hidden agenda .. just drop me a line and I'll be happy to reply .. Main thing take care be kind to yourself and dont ask too much of yourself either .. I am sure one day the wind will change and we can all get back to something not so strange .. take care
Again just to add I would really appreciate it if people didn't get into any big political arguments or start disagreeing with anything I have said .. the post was just my feelings and of course to say the OP is not alone and support is out there for us if we ask for it .. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Hey .. I had a read of your very honest post . Firstly .. thanks! for being and doing what you do in the NHS .. take my hat off to you guys for what you have been doing and continue to do .. Without you guys we would all be in very big trouble Second.. feelings .. yes I guess so . I am single and I think single people are feeling things a bit now . Theres a really 'not good' outlook is there !.. We aren't allowed to 'mingle' and we cant absolutely do any touching of any kind to anyone unless it is ourselves or a partner if we have one . No 'closeness' is killing me to be honest .. very hard to manage . .. so it follows we wont probably find a partner/ sex partner for a good while too . So sex such as it was /is is going to be self pleasure solo stuff in whatever form that takes . I am sure people are getting kinkier .. waay past the posh wank stage am sure so many new kinks will develop from lockdown that the singles are up to .I have to keep resisting some of the crazy ideas that coe to me these days !I admit though I am still amazed personally that people are having meets again now . Given lots are couples that's just a bit too much isn't it! .. some of us have none and you still want more flesh to prod and poke and lick and .. carried away there .. sorry
Memories though !
I know some people are probably sick to death of their partners too though of course!probably why they want to meet
It is though very much a doom and gloom feeling isnt it out there .. I am not saying 'hopeless' but it feels a bit like it for me these days .. WE have so many stories , naysayers, do gooders , anti mask anti vax and pro everything or 'you are all mad' types in our faces daily . We can all it seems be sheep of one kind or another .
We are told to believe/follow the science yet daily things are pointing to at least some things done by the government ( believing in the science) that do not follw the science at all! Instead are deemed necessary for 'economic' reasons .. case in point the return to University that has just blown up in everyones faces .. and no one can say that wasn't a decision based entirely on £ in Higher education .
So yes it is worrying , it does kind of feel hopeless too at times . I and many others have been in some form of isolation now for 6 months and the government last week promised/ suggested another 6 at least of the same sort of thing . I am not going to lie ..I don't know if I can do that and stay sane ( I have been from working at home and have been out of the house 10 times since March so far!).. It goes agains our very nature to be antisocial doesnt it ! .. We are social beings thats how we develop things like trust in each other .. not having physical interaction , not seeing someones face when you talk to them , not being allowed out and all the other ' Not' stuff is really NOT good for mental health either .
There will I am sure be many resilient types / stiff upper lips and all that on here who will say there is nothing to worry about . I guess that is their coping strategy when underneath it all they are like most of us quietly crapping ourselves at the thought of an empty , bleak and more than probably lonely future..
Everyone talks about the ' New normal' I dont really want it frankly . I think I am a bit too old to adapt to it definitely and my quality of life will be impacted negatively by it in any shape or form .
Final thought . for me the 'Rose tinted' we ' are on holiday' feelings /vibes people have been projecting will soon dissapear. The end of furlough in a few weeks will absolutely change how people are feeling about everything and to some degree how much people still believe what the government are telling us . .. it will be a huge wakeup call for some and a lot will have big problems socially , financilally and of course mentally .We will as a country be at our most delicate and dangerous at the same time . If they call another full lockdown that wont work this time I think. .. too many people fed up and too many people believing the radicals on youtube who say there is nothing to worry about more die from flu etc etc .. we could have riots again , police and army on the street .. and a shortage of loo roll ! again!!
Or .. maybe a sudden vaccine will come and we will all be immune and happy and life will be fine again at Christmas .. although it probably wont !
Is there an answer? I don't know . Like you I have worked full time since March , no breaks no holidays away and very limited social contact.. no family so I am pretty much isolated apart from when I go shopping ..Sorry far too many of my own views in this reply and it wasnt meant to be like that ..
All I can say after all that is .. that if you stop believing things will change someday then is not a good thing to do . It will definitely do you no good .
Having to accept and understand the ' New Normal' and also believe in the science and the politicians for me is the hardest .. I want to go out , hug, touch , hang out, get naked have fun with people again .. and of course meet new prospective partners too therby reducing the supply of baby oil on the bedside cabinet which doesnt seem to last half as long as it used to these days
Joking apart .. tough times here for us all .. I personally wont break the rules and I have a pretty dim view of people who do it .. far too many on here seem to be unfortunately.. though it might I suppose be the only thing keeping them sane so they have no choice ..
No one can predict the future we are going to have .. but what I would say is try not to be alone if you can .. if you have family and friends stay in touch often as you can either in person or on webcam etc .. or if like me alone at sea kind of life? I advise the following
1 dont watch the media too much , turn off BBC notifications on social media etc ..
2) Dont get into any arguments about Covid /lockdown with people online .. some of them are really heartless idiots just getting their kicks .
3) Do one thing every day you really enjoy and make time for it in your diary so you dont forget it Similarly plan something for the next few weeks you can look forward to doing.
4) Don't make your daily schedule too big /too many tasks .. limit it all to what you can do and if you miss something hey ho no big deal ..
4) FINALY - if all this stuff gets you down .. TALK to someone .. anyone .. friend family , internet person .. whatever .. just talk .. thats the first step to self help and it will keep you sane . We are all in this together .. hard to believe I know from what some people do and say .. but we are all in the same boat .. Sorry for the rant /reply but I have got a bit tired at the 'hope springs ' crowd who dont seem to ever admit this is one big mess we are all in .. so just telling it like it is .. Seriously if you fancy a chat .. about anything I am more than happy to say hi with no hidden agenda .. just drop me a line and I'll be happy to reply .. Main thing take care be kind to yourself and dont ask too much of yourself either .. I am sure one day the wind will change and we can all get back to something not so strange .. take care
Again just to add I would really appreciate it if people didn't get into any big political arguments or start disagreeing with anything I have said .. the post was just my feelings and of course to say the OP is not alone and support is out there for us if we ask for it .. "Phew! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
 but Ive done ok. We’ve been healthy, financially secure and living in the country had given us lots of space and freedom that others didn’t have.
But I have been struggling. I am sad. Sad for everything that’s going on around the world. I find it hard to level myself and despite trying to do fun things, in the back of my mind is always a nagging doubt about how much worse this could get before it gets better.
I want to feel “normal”.
V x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is by no means a pity post. I just need to know that I’m not alone. I work in a hospital A&E department so have been working since everything kicked off with good old rona. Yes things have dramatically changed and the way in which we do most things is completely different, however I think due to good management, amazing colleagues and lovely patients (majority ) I’ve been pretty ok about the whole situation. Yes it’s scary and worrying and the fact that people have lost loved ones plays on my mind every day at work, but, I’ve not let myself think too much about it and I’ve just concentrated on trying to act normal and focus on the patients.
That was going fine until however, I had last week off as annual leave and I feel like I’m actually losing the plot. I’ve done nothing but watch the updates, cry, worry, panic and overthink everything. This is completely out of my nature and I genuinely don’t know what’s happened to me. How can my perception and feelings change in a single week?
I’m back to work tomorrow and I’m worried I’m just going to not be able to hold myself together.
I can’t even pinpoint exactly what it is I’m scared of but I just feel so panicky and nervous all the time.
I’m hoping tomorrow once I’m at work things will just go back to normal and I’ll be fine again but I’m genuinely worried that they won’t.
Is anyone else feeling like this? Have you been coping fine up until a certain point?
Nothings specifically happened to make me feel like this and I was just wondering if I’m alone in feeling like this and I just need to give myself a slap and pull myself together
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x"I feel for you as where you work ios high pressure at the best of times. I think many of us are struggling right now in different ways. Ido not know the answer but you are not alone,these are tough times but so please talk to others I think it may help | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"You are most definitely not alone. As a working (I consider myself lucky on that point) single mum it’s been one hell of a long haul. I’ve been reasonably committed to following the rules since March, not always perfectly I may add but Ive done ok. We’ve been healthy, financially secure and living in the country had given us lots of space and freedom that others didn’t have.
But I have been struggling. I am sad. Sad for everything that’s going on around the world. I find it hard to level myself and despite trying to do fun things, in the back of my mind is always a nagging doubt about how much worse this could get before it gets better.
I want to feel “normal”.
V x "Don’t worry about things you can’t change xx | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is by no means a pity post. I just need to know that I’m not alone. I work in a hospital A&E department so have been working since everything kicked off with good old rona. Yes things have dramatically changed and the way in which we do most things is completely different, however I think due to good management, amazing colleagues and lovely patients (majority ) I’ve been pretty ok about the whole situation. Yes it’s scary and worrying and the fact that people have lost loved ones plays on my mind every day at work, but, I’ve not let myself think too much about it and I’ve just concentrated on trying to act normal and focus on the patients.
That was going fine until however, I had last week off as annual leave and I feel like I’m actually losing the plot. I’ve done nothing but watch the updates, cry, worry, panic and overthink everything. This is completely out of my nature and I genuinely don’t know what’s happened to me. How can my perception and feelings change in a single week?
I’m back to work tomorrow and I’m worried I’m just going to not be able to hold myself together.
I can’t even pinpoint exactly what it is I’m scared of but I just feel so panicky and nervous all the time.
I’m hoping tomorrow once I’m at work things will just go back to normal and I’ll be fine again but I’m genuinely worried that they won’t.
Is anyone else feeling like this? Have you been coping fine up until a certain point?
Nothings specifically happened to make me feel like this and I was just wondering if I’m alone in feeling like this and I just need to give myself a slap and pull myself together
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x"Please give yourself a pat on the back and congratulate yourself that you are in the lucky position to be able to make a difference. Sometimes it's hard, but it will always get better I'm retired but when I was working and feeling down I'd just look around the hospital and see the patients both suffering and recovering, and the relatives waiting patiently on good news and see the glimmer of hope in someone's eye when you walk into a waiting room that you might be able to help them You have made a difference, you'll continue to make a difference and there will always be a light at the end of the tunnel | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is by no means a pity post. I just need to know that I’m not alone. I work in a hospital A&E department so have been working since everything kicked off with good old rona. Yes things have dramatically changed and the way in which we do most things is completely different, however I think due to good management, amazing colleagues and lovely patients (majority ) I’ve been pretty ok about the whole situation. Yes it’s scary and worrying and the fact that people have lost loved ones plays on my mind every day at work, but, I’ve not let myself think too much about it and I’ve just concentrated on trying to act normal and focus on the patients.
That was going fine until however, I had last week off as annual leave and I feel like I’m actually losing the plot. I’ve done nothing but watch the updates, cry, worry, panic and overthink everything. This is completely out of my nature and I genuinely don’t know what’s happened to me. How can my perception and feelings change in a single week?
I’m back to work tomorrow and I’m worried I’m just going to not be able to hold myself together.
I can’t even pinpoint exactly what it is I’m scared of but I just feel so panicky and nervous all the time.
I’m hoping tomorrow once I’m at work things will just go back to normal and I’ll be fine again but I’m genuinely worried that they won’t.
Is anyone else feeling like this? Have you been coping fine up until a certain point?
Nothings specifically happened to make me feel like this and I was just wondering if I’m alone in feeling like this and I just need to give myself a slap and pull myself together
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x
Please give yourself a pat on the back and congratulate yourself that you are in the lucky position to be able to make a difference.
Sometimes it's hard, but it will always get better
I'm retired but when I was working and feeling down I'd just look around the hospital and see the patients both suffering and recovering, and the relatives waiting patiently on good news and see the glimmer of hope in someone's eye when you walk into a waiting room that you might be able to help them
You have made a difference, you'll continue to make a difference and there will always be a light at the end of the tunnel
"Wonderfull and well put | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Bless you OP x I would say lots of people feel as you do, myself included, so you are certainly not alone. You will be fine when you're back at work and busy and thank you for all you do xxx
Sorry you feel a bit crap too. Hope you feel better soon x"Thank you x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is by no means a pity post. I just need to know that I’m not alone. I work in a hospital A&E department so have been working since everything kicked off with good old rona. Yes things have dramatically changed and the way in which we do most things is completely different, however I think due to good management, amazing colleagues and lovely patients (majority ) I’ve been pretty ok about the whole situation. Yes it’s scary and worrying and the fact that people have lost loved ones plays on my mind every day at work, but, I’ve not let myself think too much about it and I’ve just concentrated on trying to act normal and focus on the patients.
That was going fine until however, I had last week off as annual leave and I feel like I’m actually losing the plot. I’ve done nothing but watch the updates, cry, worry, panic and overthink everything. This is completely out of my nature and I genuinely don’t know what’s happened to me. How can my perception and feelings change in a single week?
I’m back to work tomorrow and I’m worried I’m just going to not be able to hold myself together.
I can’t even pinpoint exactly what it is I’m scared of but I just feel so panicky and nervous all the time.
I’m hoping tomorrow once I’m at work things will just go back to normal and I’ll be fine again but I’m genuinely worried that they won’t.
Is anyone else feeling like this? Have you been coping fine up until a certain point?
Nothings specifically happened to make me feel like this and I was just wondering if I’m alone in feeling like this and I just need to give myself a slap and pull myself together
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x"Sounds like you need some debriefing sleep with people at work a talk it through it dose help. All the thing you have seen and deal with build up and you have now had time to prosess them so you need to off load. Don't know what support there is at work. But most hospitals have a RMN in A&E go and chat with them. It's surprising what a chat can do don't bottle this up... | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Thank you for all your replies, wasn’t expecting anyone to respond x " Good luck for tomorrow and if you need help it is there in the hospital but you do need to ask | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I have to say I do think the more I look around and think about it all, it can get overwhelming. The thing I'm struggling with is all these regulations and rules and yet all I'm seeing is people breaking them. Each to their own and all that but we will never get anywhere like this. I understand there are way too many rules and it's not for everyone, but maybe it's just me. Some days I think I'm the mug then others no Boris is right. From one day to the next I don't know what to think. So yes, I think most people are finding it difficult. " I'm a bit the same worked right through and would chat to mate's on furlough and working for cash. Got a bit ANGREY with it all. But Its about mind set you are doing what you are doing to keep you safe. Yes it sounds selfish but do all you can to keep you safe and not getting CV19. Would you cross a road without lookinhg? It just so happens that in keeping you safe you keep loved ones safe and the wider community. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Ok babes, is that before or after you catch Covid and pass it on to everyone???? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I totally get what you’re saying about stupid people. People are still turning up to my work with all Covid symptoms, they bring their whole family with them then feel they have the right to refuse to wear a mask and then start screaming and shouting at us when we have to be really stern with them. People are actual morons and it’s so so hard to have to bite your tongue for fear of getting the sack. I refused to treat someone today because they were bragging about how they don’t see the point in wearing a mask and how they don’t care if they pass it on to anyone, so I told them to go home and ring 111 and have a telephone assessment as I have myself, My colleagues, other patients and my own family to protect and I refuse to treat someone so down right selfish. So he told me he was going to sue me
Ok babes, is that before or after you catch Covid and pass it on to everyone???? "Good for you did you call security to have them removed I would have. Any sort of aggression towards any front line staff should never be tolerated. Especially at the moment. Hug for you | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I totally get what you’re saying about stupid people. People are still turning up to my work with all Covid symptoms, they bring their whole family with them then feel they have the right to refuse to wear a mask and then start screaming and shouting at us when we have to be really stern with them. People are actual morons and it’s so so hard to have to bite your tongue for fear of getting the sack. I refused to treat someone today because they were bragging about how they don’t see the point in wearing a mask and how they don’t care if they pass it on to anyone, so I told them to go home and ring 111 and have a telephone assessment as I have myself, My colleagues, other patients and my own family to protect and I refuse to treat someone so down right selfish. So he told me he was going to sue me
Ok babes, is that before or after you catch Covid and pass it on to everyone????
Good for you did you call security to have them removed I would have.
Any sort of aggression towards any front line staff should never be tolerated. Especially at the moment.
Hug for you
"Yeah, our security are pretty good to be fair. We get abuse and patients have to be removed I’d say at least 3 or 4 times a day so security are always on the ball and are pretty good at picking up on stressful situations. Police came in the end because he wouldn’t leave from outside and was threatening to torch the building
All fun and games | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"OP great respect to you and all you work with, hopefully there will be someone to help where you work, just ask. Short of that Mind or Samaratins have people trained to talk about stuff. I work in an emergency service, and totally understand how things can appear to feel, its a sign of immense strength to talk. x" Hiya, hope you’re doing ok and are not feeling too overwhelmed at the minute. I spoke to my colleagues and my manager today and they were all so brilliant and really looked after me, I’m feeling much better today | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"OP great respect to you and all you work with, hopefully there will be someone to help where you work, just ask. Short of that Mind or Samaratins have people trained to talk about stuff. I work in an emergency service, and totally understand how things can appear to feel, its a sign of immense strength to talk. x Hiya, hope you’re doing ok and are not feeling too overwhelmed at the minute. I spoke to my colleagues and my manager today and they were all so brilliant and really looked after me, I’m feeling much better today "Well done you the wife works in an A&E as an RMN and the staff are always chating to her think she dose as much with staff as with public. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is by no means a pity post. I just need to know that I’m not alone. I work in a hospital A&E department so have been working since everything kicked off with good old rona. Yes things have dramatically changed and the way in which we do most things is completely different, however I think due to good management, amazing colleagues and lovely patients (majority ) I’ve been pretty ok about the whole situation. Yes it’s scary and worrying and the fact that people have lost loved ones plays on my mind every day at work, but, I’ve not let myself think too much about it and I’ve just concentrated on trying to act normal and focus on the patients.
That was going fine until however, I had last week off as annual leave and I feel like I’m actually losing the plot. I’ve done nothing but watch the updates, cry, worry, panic and overthink everything. This is completely out of my nature and I genuinely don’t know what’s happened to me. How can my perception and feelings change in a single week?
I’m back to work tomorrow and I’m worried I’m just going to not be able to hold myself together.
I can’t even pinpoint exactly what it is I’m scared of but I just feel so panicky and nervous all the time.
I’m hoping tomorrow once I’m at work things will just go back to normal and I’ll be fine again but I’m genuinely worried that they won’t.
Is anyone else feeling like this? Have you been coping fine up until a certain point?
Nothings specifically happened to make me feel like this and I was just wondering if I’m alone in feeling like this and I just need to give myself a slap and pull myself together
Any opinions would be greatly appreciated x"I relate to you. I live alone and sometimes I feel like the walls are closing in on me. Before all this I was a happy confident person. Now because of the loneliness im reduced to a lot of tears. Feelings of anxiety. Terrified we will be in lockdown again. Having my freedom taken away. You do a wonderful job so I really hope you feel better soon. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Speak to your NHS line manager and they should refer you to a phone counselling service that has been set up specifically for coronavirus frontline NHS staff x One day at a time "This. I could not agree with more. You're not alone, please reach out and talk with HR - please also eat properly, sleep as much as you can and know that you have friends here - don't be a stranger - I think I speak for us all when I say thank you for everything you are doing at work, we are all here will help if you need, just reach out, we have your back. x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| Post new Message to Thread |
| back to top |  |
