FabSwingers.com forum: Abusive Messages

By *inky_Carpenter OP Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I've been off the site since lockdown started and came back on for the social stuff, and hopefully arrange some fun when it's all over. Naturally I posted on my profile that I'm not meeting at the the moment because of Covid, thinking that this was a courtesy to avoid wasting anyone's time.

I was not expecting the vitriol and abuse I got from people (guys) who seemed to take personal affront to my health choices. WTF? Was not expecting that! Is this a common occurrence?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I had some and so have had my filters super high since April.

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By *oung heartMan
over a year ago

Prestatyn

I haven't had abuse but i must get over 50 messages a day due to the fact I work away from home so everyone local to me in them two places message me a lot and they're all blokes so I can definitely see some of them getting ratty if you reject their offers.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

No abuse but people wanting meets cant seem to understand why we choose not to plus they are being much more pushy at the moment.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

No I don't think it's a common occurrence

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

The reason why we've filtered single men out. Some can't take no for an answer.

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By *r and Mrs BlackCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Snap.... Can't take no for an answer.... And even rude messages about our surname 'black' when 'we're clearly not'.

Fabs gone mad....

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Hang on....you've had abuse from guys because you're not meeting? Really? Omg!!!

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Not just fab, the world has gone mad. Won't be long before we can't chat without being chastised. Pitical correctness..

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham

The amount of abuse is bad at the moment from both men and women. No idea what is happening, must be lockdown frustration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get any abuse because I don’t get any messages...every cloud has a silver lining!!

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I have had messages from couples expecting a hotel meet. I wouldn’t even do that under normal circumstances without a social first, but don’t they have anyone they know that could be at risk at the moment?!

Lockdown has definitely sent some people crazy/ ier I think.

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By *eddynAngelCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

We haven't put anything public on our profile about not meeting during all this but we have noticed (since Saturday mainly) a lot more people asking slyly for a meet.

Well they think they are being sly.

We get a fair bit of abuse from rejection messages but the sheer level of hate in some of the messages we've had is jaw dropping.

It does seem lockdown frustration has evolved into rage for some.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Many people I see, guys in particular, seem under the impression that everyone has the same needs, plans and expectations for being logged in here. Younger men, in particular, seem to be the ones prepared to take the biggest risks, so it may help to block them, if this matches your experience. Ive been fortunate to not have had recent abuse.

You can always search and find people to message yourselfm

Report any inappropriate behaviour, including abuse, to Admin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a single guy when I see not looking for single men I dont take offence I just move on so please dont tar all single people the same I love fab and think they do there best I would like everyone to be safe and live a full life not have it cut short

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By *bi_AstrayTV/TS
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Many people I see, guys in particular, seem under the impression that everyone has the same needs, plans and expectations for being logged in here. Younger men, in particular, seem to be the ones prepared to take the biggest risks, so it may help to block them, if this matches your experience. Ive been fortunate to not have had recent abuse.

You can always search and find people to message yourselfm

Report any inappropriate behaviour, including abuse, to Admin. "

This pretty much, Their pride has been dented by refusal and they feel the need to lash out. There are a few reasons a lot of people don't reply to say no thanks, one of them seems to be that taking the time and effort to reply attracts the abusive hurt pride brigade... It should really be viewed with amusement, only one message previously you were the best thing since sliced bread...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not new tbh, I get alot of abuse from gay and bi guys for turning down a meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men + Rejection = Anger

The same old equation applies to new scenarios x

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By *inky_Carpenter OP Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Yes I did block and report. Funny thing was, it wasn't like I actually rejected them personally. They didn't even try and ask for a meet, they just straight up had a go at me for not meeting because of Covid.... 2 of them very rude and aggressive, another with snide remarks and sarcasm!

I'm used to guys feeling butt hurt because although I'm bi I don't hookup with guys one on one. This was a whole new level of douchebaggery, even for this site lol!

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"I don’t get any abuse because I don’t get any messages...every cloud has a silver lining!! "

Likewise for us too. We would rather receive no messages than abusive ones.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Not exactly abusive, but I have had lots of messages looking for meets & when I've declined saying that I'm not meeting due to the current situation I've had a few fake virus/conspiracy theory type responses. My block list has certainly grown a lot since March.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a message from a couple, who were outraged when I said no thanks to meeting them at their place during the height of Lockdown. Complete strangers never met them before what on earth could be safer than popping round for a shag when over 800 people a day were dying.

They preached about how the lockdown was fucking mental.

I deleted the message and did the safest possible thing, I fully enjoyed a Covid free playtime with my left hand, whilst chatting to a "friend" who was sending me videos of her fucking herself with massive dildo and my name written in lipstick above her cunt.

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By *uv2kissMan
over a year ago

fenland

"I fully enjoyed a Covid free playtime with my left hand, whilst chatting to a "friend" who was sending me videos of her fucking herself with massive dildo and my name written in lipstick above her cunt.

AGAIN? it gets so boring after a while lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't had abuse as such but some ratty replys if I say I'm not meeting or delete the message without replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had any abuse messages but still get folks asking to meet despite the clear start to my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I have also received an abusive message from a guy, he called me a c*** for not meeting, he told me this is a sex site and to use social media for keeping in touch with friends!! Then blocked me so I couldn’t reply!! He was reported! "

Yup, I've had the 'sex site' messages. It's a swinging site, big difference. Just because sex is involved it doesn't have to be with anyone who asks for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not had any abuse messages but still get folks asking to meet despite the clear start to my profile."

Always horny bi guy ?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have things ticked on your 'looking for' list, you show up on searches.

Looking for

Men

Couples

Women

Etc

Delete all those, you don't show up on searches. Massively stops the mail!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"If you have things ticked on your 'looking for' list, you show up on searches.

Looking for

Men

Couples

Women

Etc

Delete all those, you don't show up on searches. Massively stops the mail!"

Yup, this works well too.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I have had times on here where I've taken a break by blocking literally everyone from messaging, thus keeping my profile visible to friends etc. I find this works if it's any help to anyone. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been off the site since lockdown started and came back on for the social stuff, and hopefully arrange some fun when it's all over. Naturally I posted on my profile that I'm not meeting at the the moment because of Covid, thinking that this was a courtesy to avoid wasting anyone's time.

I was not expecting the vitriol and abuse I got from people (guys) who seemed to take personal affront to my health choices. WTF? Was not expecting that! Is this a common occurrence? "

Not had abuse over this reason...

I've heard it all now

Must admit though, lots want to meet for sex rather than the social you are allowed.

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By *yn drwgMan
over a year ago

Camarthen

"Not just fab, the world has gone mad. Won't be long before we can't chat without being chastised. Pitical correctness.. "

Nothing wrong with the world it's the people that have gone mad!

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We have had no abuse and to be fair not many messages at all, those that do ask about meeting we tell them we are not meeting for the foreseeable future and they are fine about it.

Have to say I have noticed more nasty and mean comments towards others in the forum in general, not sure if people are more grumpy than usual with lockdown but they certainly don’t do themselves any favours for when people are looking to meet again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well just had to tell you my recent you must be joking moment.

Guy messaged to say how he'd just filled a married woman with cum and did I want her sloppy cum inside me. Said no as noone is supposed to be meeting for sex with anyone. He then told me he'd been active all through the lockdown. Said he was never ever going to meet me as he'd admitted being bareback anyway and my health mattered. His reply well if you're not here for sex then fuck off. Instant block

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

"Snap.... Can't take no for an answer.... And even rude messages about our surname 'black' when 'we're clearly not'.

Fabs gone mad.... "

Fabs gone mad are you mad it is clearly the whole world that has IS mad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had loads of abuse for not meeting. Telling me I'm a sheep and to do my own investigations to find the truth.

Truth is, I've cared for a ppl recovering from this crap. So I'm a super spreader.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not been that bad for me. I tend to take the initiative and anyone who messages me gets a response of - Happy to chat on here but I am not meeting for the foreseeable future because I am high risk - and most people do seem to be fairly understanding about that.

I have had a couple of the 'virus is all lies' people near the beginning of lockdown, but mostly I have been lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well just had to tell you my recent you must be joking moment.

He was probably just telling you a fantastical tale to get his wank on

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By *ugarboobs2009Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield

I have had guys and cpls wanting you meet up from the start

Some of the stories they have said why it’s ok to meet up was like listening to jackonary

Me personally it shows they have no respect for others

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Report abusive messages please

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