FabSwingers.com forum: Havi got lock down fever?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For a while I've had trouble sleeping, and on top of that, remembering and brooding over an event that happened 33 years ago. Thinking of what happened, who said what etc..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Upset and angry brooding

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By *moothman2000Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

If you can't change what happened then find something to worry about that you can change.

We all carry baggage, it's how you deal with it that makes the difference between a happy person and a sad one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you trying to sleep, stop. Have a warm drink, listen to music, read... Anything and then try to sleep later.

If you cannot stop the mind chattering, write down what you can do to stop the endless cycle; be your own wise counsel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cannot change the past but you can change how it affects your present.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You cannot change the past but you can change how it affects your present. "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you can't change what happened then find something to worry about that you can change.

We all carry baggage, it's how you deal with it that makes the difference between a happy person and a sad one... "

Thanks mate

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By *estivalMan
over a year ago

borehamwood

got the oppisite problem with sleep.crash out easy but keep waking up around 4 30. didnt get up that early even before we got laid off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"got the oppisite problem with sleep.crash out easy but keep waking up around 4 30. didnt get up that early even before we got laid off"

Could it be light mornings?

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

You perhaps have more time to reflect on things now than you did before and if something plays on your mind it will disturb your sleep. Can you talk it over with somebody as it seems you maybe looking for answers you can’t answer yourself.

Try to clear your mind before bed, no phone for an hour before bed so no going on Fab sorry lol, perhaps read a book for a while before you want to sleep as it’s a distraction from reality. Also try an eye mask I’ve been sleeping for 9 to 10 hours a night since wearing one

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By *estivalMan
over a year ago

borehamwood

"got the oppisite problem with sleep.crash out easy but keep waking up around 4 30. didnt get up that early even before we got laid off

Could it be light mornings? "

nah its not that have proper blackout blinds.is like midnight in my bedroom.just wide awake at 4 30 most days

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

33 years is a long time to be holding onto that weight. Easier said than done getting rid of it.

Sounds like you need to perhaps find out a way of getting rid/alleviating that burden.

Lock down has got some people tightly wound. Find something to keep distracted?

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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago

near ipswich

"For a while I've had trouble sleeping, and on top of that, remembering and brooding over an event that happened 33 years ago. Thinking of what happened, who said what etc..

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Its normal mate you have more time on your hands with lockdown and not so much going on in your life,not engaging with people,depressing news.I have done a lot of short handed blue water sailing and the combination of isolation and added stress plays havoc with your mind and sleep patterns,you have to see it for what it is and once you recognize its the situation making you feel a certain way and not the people you are focusing on it should get better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it goes back to St Francis...something he is credited with...maybe a prayer.

Lord grant me the strength to change those things I cannot accept. The patience to accept those things I cannot change. And grant me the wisdom to know the difference.

May not be exact words...but it's good advice....if you can take it...

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

I did something similar...tho less extreme I think, but it wasn’t lockdown. I was stuck on a decision I made, and another one I didn’t make, within 3 months of each other...20 years ago. My life somehow wasn’t quite right, and I couldn’t stop my brain going back to those events on occasion, and how they’d have put me on a different trajectory. My life has radically changed in the last 3 years, and now I never think about them. And I think it’s because I changed my life to be on that trajectory anyway. Maybe those decisions might have made it happen back then...but maybe not. Reflect on what you think might have been different if that issue had been handled differently. Whatever you’re stuck on from back then, maybe you’re still stuck. That single event isn’t the only way to get there. Find another way. Good luck x

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By *avidandherCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Shit happens. Seek help, family, friends, samaritans, Church, nhs or councilling. Don't suffer in silence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think it goes back to St Francis...something he is credited with...maybe a prayer.

Lord grant me the patience to accept those things I cannot change. The courage to change those things I can. And grant me the wisdom to know the difference.

May not be exact words...but it's good advice....if you can take it..."

A little more like this I think.

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