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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so there are literally dozens of threads about people wanting to know when they can get their end away again, and, yes we're all craving some physical interaction.

However, not everyone on Fab is here to shag their way through the whole site/visit clubs/fulfill gangbang fantasies etc. I assume there are others out there who, like me, are here for a bit of fun while they look for a relationship in the "vanilla" (I hate that word!) world.

So for anyone in that situation, do you fear that the time lost during COVID might have a huge impact on the rest of your life? I'm 42, I'd love to settle down, I've never had kids and would hate to grow old regretting not having had a family of my own. Ok, so as a guy I guess I'm lucky that age isn't necessarily a factor when it comes to having kids but potentially 6/12/18 months of restrictions is huge at this age, especially for any women in a similar predicament.

Anyone else seriously worried about how the long-term effects of restrictions will impact them?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No, I'm not worried about its impact on me but I am concerned about the impact on our grown up children, both now and the next ten or so years. The only thing that does feature on my radar for myself is the possible effect on my pension.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

Being realistic it’s been 2 and a bit months so 11 weeks ...... this is the perfect opportunity to prove to women looking for a traditional relationship that you are in it for the long haul. Virtual dating is a thing! Socially distant walks along the beach... coffee in the park? I would think that would lend itself to you being in a better position than the fuck boys. Believe me this isn’t time wasted if you’re doing it right x

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

I have a friend who is struggling a lot with this and she is utterly consumed. But she had issues around this and fears about ending up alone before the virus, and this has really tapped into that

On the one hand, it might be a bit of a tricky time to date seriously. We’re all still going through an intense time and that might mean leaning on a new partner for emotional support in a way that throws you together. And it’s not really a time to start having expectations of someone

On the other hand, some elements could be a bonus. I usually get distracted with prioritising my sexual needs and Fab life. So I could use this to my advantage

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a friend who is struggling a lot with this and she is utterly consumed. But she had issues around this and fears about ending up alone before the virus, and this has really tapped into that

On the one hand, it might be a bit of a tricky time to date seriously. We’re all still going through an intense time and that might mean leaning on a new partner for emotional support in a way that throws you together. And it’s not really a time to start having expectations of someone

On the other hand, some elements could be a bonus. I usually get distracted with prioritising my sexual needs and Fab life. So I could use this to my advantage "

Agree with this. In your twenties and early thirties it's quite easy to go along with the "there's plenty of time yet" you get from friends and family. Time seems to speed up though as you get older and panic sets in!

Dating at a more mature age is shite at the best of times but it's only gonna get worse with what's going on at the minute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a friend who is struggling a lot with this and she is utterly consumed. But she had issues around this and fears about ending up alone before the virus, and this has really tapped into that

On the one hand, it might be a bit of a tricky time to date seriously. We’re all still going through an intense time and that might mean leaning on a new partner for emotional support in a way that throws you together. And it’s not really a time to start having expectations of someone

On the other hand, some elements could be a bonus. I usually get distracted with prioritising my sexual needs and Fab life. So I could use this to my advantage

Agree with this. In your twenties and early thirties it's quite easy to go along with the "there's plenty of time yet" you get from friends and family. Time seems to speed up though as you get older and panic sets in!

Dating at a more mature age is shite at the best of times but it's only gonna get worse with what's going on at the minute."

There could me a lot more people looking for long term relationships after lockdown. The feeling of loneliness amplified right now , that when you do meet someone you'll both appreciate the company and cling on to that a bit more than you would pre lockdown. Everything always works out in the end, you'll meet someone that's right for you when the times right for both of you. What's for you , doesn't go by you and all that.

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

My approach at the moment is to be open to things. Social distancing dating could have benefits and there’s no need to totally discount meeting someone. But recognising that timing isn’t optimal and not to put too much into it

If you are hoping for a family I can understand the sense of urgency and panic. That feeling might be heightened at the moment though, as generally a lot of our emotions are. I’m not planning a family and it is only recently that I’ve been interested in a relationship. But the last couple of weeks I’ve felt that dread too. I think it’s heightened emotions due to the pandemic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not worried about having babies... Obviously lol nor am I looking for a life partner but I am starting to feel comfortable in my isolation and a bit concerned my social skills will dwindle... Thoughts of being alone every night creep into my mind and yes, it upsets me but I can do nothing about it. I think that and the fact I don't have a clue how long this will go on for is the hardest bit. If I'd a date to look ahead to and plan for but there isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so there are literally dozens of threads about people wanting to know when they can get their end away again, and, yes we're all craving some physical interaction.

However, not everyone on Fab is here to shag their way through the whole site/visit clubs/fulfill gangbang fantasies etc. I assume there are others out there who, like me, are here for a bit of fun while they look for a relationship in the "vanilla" (I hate that word!) world.

So for anyone in that situation, do you fear that the time lost during COVID might have a huge impact on the rest of your life? I'm 42, I'd love to settle down, I've never had kids and would hate to grow old regretting not having had a family of my own. Ok, so as a guy I guess I'm lucky that age isn't necessarily a factor when it comes to having kids but potentially 6/12/18 months of restrictions is huge at this age, especially for any women in a similar predicament.

Anyone else seriously worried about how the long-term effects of restrictions will impact them?"
yes I'm driven to distraction, don't necessarily want anymore kids though, sex is not motivating my thoughts though if and when we get out of this farce which can't happen soon enough

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

As a person who does not/will not do online dating this situation is not helpful

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay


"No, I'm not worried about its impact on me but I am concerned about the impact on our grown up children, both now and the next ten or so years. The only thing that does feature on my radar for myself is the possible effect on my pension."

Private pension? Probably won't have too much impact more so than final salary or defined benefit but mine has been less impacted than I anticipated

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"Being realistic it’s been 2 and a bit months so 11 weeks ...... this is the perfect opportunity to prove to women looking for a traditional relationship that you are in it for the long haul. Virtual dating is a thing! Socially distant walks along the beach... coffee in the park? I would think that would lend itself to you being in a better position than the fuck boys. Believe me this isn’t time wasted if you’re doing it right x"

My thoughts are exactly this

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