FabSwingers.com forum: Lockdown getting you down?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The last few days I've been feeling down and depressed. I tried talking to someone about it earlier but it was like trying to talk to the wall.

Is anyone else feeling misserable and how are you coping?

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By *ordescourtMan
over a year ago

Warrington

It's doing me in now, it's just wearing me out

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

had a bad day yesterday seem to be losing my oomph not to bad today kept myself busy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Go for a walk if you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sitting out in the good weather and reading.

Switching the mobile off from time to time.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I keep myself busy when not at work. I have DIY’d and gardened as much as I can. Then it was paddock maintenance and some coppicing.

Now I’m foraging and cooking.

I could have done a bit more on my body though but it’s fucked.

Keeping ahead of my moods is important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am suicidal. Been struggling for weeks, then just hit the point today where I don't care any more.

But talking to people is pointless. They just don't get it, and the more they try to be helpful, the more alone I feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you're getting your daily dose of vit D and exercise.

Look online for sleep hygiene and meditation.

Reach out to friends (giving of yourself as well as taking).

Find a hobby/read/listen to music/be silly/have fun/watch a comedy/keep busy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am suicidal. Been struggling for weeks, then just hit the point today where I don't care any more.

But talking to people is pointless. They just don't get it, and the more they try to be helpful, the more alone I feel. "

Samaritans?

MIND

Mental health crisis support?

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

I've had one bad day and I'm always seen as being the person who has it all together so I was struggling on what to do/who to turn to and I hate being a burden to people! Luckily, I had one person I knew could turn to, probably more than one but it was a case I didn't want empathy or to be told it's all gonna be ok etc. I just wanted to speak to someone who would know what to do because I didn't have a clue at that point! Basically they answered the phone and I just cried! It came from nowhere but it helped as did they.

I hadn't been moping around prior to it. I had been active and keeping busy inside and out but that day it just got too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got depression anyway, the gym and exercise was my mental therapy but havent been able to do that as I'm a full time carer...and obviously gyms shut.

Past 4 days I didnt even leave the house.. but went out today! Been comfort eating too so feeling thoroughly rubbish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am suicidal. Been struggling for weeks, then just hit the point today where I don't care any more.

But talking to people is pointless. They just don't get it, and the more they try to be helpful, the more alone I feel.

Samaritans?

MIND

Mental health crisis support? "

I have the number for the Samaritians. Sometimes it is hard to get through and talking on the phone makes me anxious, but I will call if I find myself actually - you know - planning anything. At the moment it's just overwhelming 'I don't want to live any more' thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am suicidal. Been struggling for weeks, then just hit the point today where I don't care any more.

But talking to people is pointless. They just don't get it, and the more they try to be helpful, the more alone I feel.

Samaritans?

MIND

Mental health crisis support?

There's text message services too. 'Give us a shout' is one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am suicidal. Been struggling for weeks, then just hit the point today where I don't care any more.

But talking to people is pointless. They just don't get it, and the more they try to be helpful, the more alone I feel.

Samaritans?

MIND

Mental health crisis support?

There's text message services too. 'Give us a shout' is one.

Thank you, I will take a look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s got me down so badly that my hairs actually started falling out.

The stress of shielding plus other shit has really got to me.

No motivation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's a combination of things getting to me and staying in and doing nothing through lockdown is making me think about things and I'm feeling worse.

Sorry to hear the rest of you are going through it. I wish I could click my fingers and help us all, but unfortunately I not sure what to say.

I'm going to go for a long walk tommorrow to clear my head after shopping for some people. I fing getting out helps clear the mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a combination of things getting to me and staying in and doing nothing through lockdown is making me think about things and I'm feeling worse.

Sorry to hear the rest of you are going through it. I wish I could click my fingers and help us all, but unfortunately I not sure what to say.

I'm going to go for a long walk tommorrow to clear my head after shopping for some people. I fing getting out helps clear the mind. "

Well I hope you find some peace, it’s not nice having a jumbled mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have stopped reading the paper and using social media so much as have had a couple of bad days but have been focused on moving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am suicidal. Been struggling for weeks, then just hit the point today where I don't care any more.

But talking to people is pointless. They just don't get it, and the more they try to be helpful, the more alone I feel.

Samaritans?

MIND

Mental health crisis support?

There's text message services too. 'Give us a shout' is one.

Thank you, I will take a look. "

GP services are still open. Well worth an appointment, many are doing them via video.

Sending hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have stopped reading the paper and using social media so much as have had a couple of bad days but have been focused on moving "

I took facebook off my phone. Its definitely starting to help me

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By *istyblue1967Man
over a year ago

manchester

yea its getting to me too. im on lockdown . isolating from my partner. seeing families either side of me meeting up etc .

i only talked today to the checkout girl briefly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have posted on here about this before ....

I hate to see people suffering like this, and tormented by their mental health.

I wish there was a way for those of us who are unaffected or not distressed about lockdown to stay locked down longer to allow others out sooner.

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By *uyfrombristolMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I do feel for those who are suffering. Thankfully life for me has gone on much as it was, but that's chiefly because I've always been fairly isolated, particularly since my divorce. I got through that period of my life and much worse when I was younger, so I'm taking this largely in my stride.

I'm lucky enough to still have a job, I check out social media to see what other people are doing, pop on here for a letch... I've put on four pounds and my liver is probably ruined for life, but I'm just about coping...

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By *ab_SparklesWoman
over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

I've simply slept the whole weekend away mostly , and everytime the phone rang. I just want to tell them to shut up about trivial things. It made me feel like rubbish again and went back to sleep..

I went into two shops last week 1st time in 10 weeks and it was social anxiety on another level. No one cared customer wise. I was stuck in the middle of the rows best part of the time. And then out of nowhere the shop fills up i literally just gave the person who was with me and hid in the car..

I want the 24/7 super markets open again, i feel it suits me better I'm just not able to cope with the pressure of this social distance in shops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically lockdown has helped me to hopefully prolong and improve my life and given me the chance and tools to live my best life by putting me in hospital and having my body put back to factory settings.

Been in here a week now and I feel alive and content with my lot and I’ve got two more weeks in here (hopefully) and then I can re enter the zombie apocalypse and live life instead of just surviving life.

To those struggling please dig deep and find the strength to carry on as the alternative can affect so so many life’s.

Stay frosty out there!!!!

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By *ayboy2020Man
over a year ago

Cannock

As a 23 year old I found lockdown hard at the beginning not keeping a regular sleep routine was the worst part, that through me around and I struggled. Not socialising and having freedom to drive around when I can. Not worked for 10 weeks and that was hard. But I've kept busy, re decroated my bedroom. Kept up with the house cleaning and I've been in constant contact with close friends. Im also attempting to complete my masters in Public Health

I feel like I've adapted well now, im not sure if thats my age or? Finally back at work which helps massively.

All I can say is keep busy. Have a routine where you do certain activities or jobs so your mind is kept busy and do new things that maybe you haven't done before. Keep your brain active which in result means a happy brain.

I know people have different struggles and I really feel for a lot of people. But us brits have a talent. We have a sturbon, can do, well get through this attitude and we will. This will not beat us and we will win. A tiny viral particle cannot defeat us. We won't allow this pandemic to overtake us.

We can do this, there will be a rainbow after this storm

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By *inkyjxxWoman
over a year ago

Waterford

I've being off work since March and will not be back until at least end of July, it can get overwhelming at times. I do find on here it's so easy to express myself and people do listen. It's not a good time for many of us but we will get through it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm getting sick of all the mixed messages, maybe it's just me but I find boris Johnson's briefings strenuous and pointless. After the recent events that went on (we all know so no need to go on about it again) I dont think it's fair to say that were all in this together anymore because it doesn't feel like it to me. I have done my best to stick to the restrictions, practice social distancing and used face masks when its difficult to do so but I find myself getting very frustrated by the news reports with people moaning about places being crowded when they are at the same place doing the same thing, sorry I don't mean to go on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have stopped reading the paper and using social media so much as have had a couple of bad days but have been focused on moving "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am suicidal. Been struggling for weeks, then just hit the point today where I don't care any more.

But talking to people is pointless. They just don't get it, and the more they try to be helpful, the more alone I feel.

Samaritans?

MIND

Mental health crisis support?

I can totally empathise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s got me down so badly that my hairs actually started falling out.

The stress of shielding plus other shit has really got to me.

No motivation.

Can you plan a routine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yea its getting to me too. im on lockdown . isolating from my partner. seeing families either side of me meeting up etc .

i only talked today to the checkout girl briefly lol"

Shopping and talking to others around me is my only social interaction and so appreciated.

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

'lockdown' interesting that they use an American prison term for a type of collective punishment.

If you recall it was introduced to 'flatten the curve' to protect the NHS. As it happened the NHS coped fine with a disease with a similar death rate to flu.

So you better start asking yourself why you have been under house arrest for weeks in a free society.

Wake up before it is too late.

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"I am suicidal. Been struggling for weeks, then just hit the point today where I don't care any more.

But talking to people is pointless. They just don't get it, and the more they try to be helpful, the more alone I feel.

Samaritans?

MIND

Mental health crisis support?

There's text message services too. 'Give us a shout' is one.

Thank you, I will take a look. "

I am someone who suffers self harm and suicidal thoughts on a regular basis.

I totally understand about not getting through to the helplines, it can take hours and in my case is actually more damaging.

It’s really hard to reach out and talk to friends/family. But I promise you are not alone and you are worth the fight. If you ever need a chat or just someone to unload on drop me a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'lockdown' interesting that they use an American prison term for a type of collective punishment.

If you recall it was introduced to 'flatten the curve' to protect the NHS. As it happened the NHS coped fine with a disease with a similar death rate to flu.

So you better start asking yourself why you have been under house arrest for weeks in a free society.

Wake up before it is too late."

Definitely don't agree with death rates its far more serious than most flu viruses.

But do agree on the prison term used for lockdown and the fact that isolation has been used for centuries as a form of torture.

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"yea its getting to me too. im on lockdown . isolating from my partner. seeing families either side of me meeting up etc .

i only talked today to the checkout girl briefly lol

Shopping and talking to others around me is my only social interaction and so appreciated. "

Try hard not to let your thoughts consume you, you have offered good advice to others. I appreciate it is not always easy to take advice as it is to give it but everyone deserves to feel happy.

I suffer several mental health issues and it can be very lonely during normal times.

Fab is a great place to lose yourself but when you log off the thoughts can return.

You are not alone, be strong, drop me a message anytime you want a chat x

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

I live alone and have been isolating since the start of this due to a heart attack.

I also suffer mental health issues. I tend to isolate a fair bit in my normal life but knowing I can hop on the motorbike and go for a spin when I want. Not being able to go out is a killer. Not seen family since Christmas.

Allowing the thoughts to consume us is a dangerous thing to do and many feel that reaching out is pointless as they are not worth it.

RUBBISH you are all worth it, anyone struggling who wants a chat please drop me a message anytime. I can’t promise to make it better but I will listen and not judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yea its getting to me too. im on lockdown . isolating from my partner. seeing families either side of me meeting up etc .

i only talked today to the checkout girl briefly lol

Shopping and talking to others around me is my only social interaction and so appreciated.

Try hard not to let your thoughts consume you, you have offered good advice to others. I appreciate it is not always easy to take advice as it is to give it but everyone deserves to feel happy.

I suffer several mental health issues and it can be very lonely during normal times.

Fab is a great place to lose yourself but when you log off the thoughts can return.

You are not alone, be strong, drop me a message anytime you want a chat x"

Me or the previous poster?

I'm good thanks. Although I'm very much a people person, I do love my own company. I have a wobble occasionally, but I manage cos I know it will pass.

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"yea its getting to me too. im on lockdown . isolating from my partner. seeing families either side of me meeting up etc .

i only talked today to the checkout girl briefly lol

Shopping and talking to others around me is my only social interaction and so appreciated.

Try hard not to let your thoughts consume you, you have offered good advice to others. I appreciate it is not always easy to take advice as it is to give it but everyone deserves to feel happy.

I suffer several mental health issues and it can be very lonely during normal times.

Fab is a great place to lose yourself but when you log off the thoughts can return.

You are not alone, be strong, drop me a message anytime you want a chat x

Me or the previous poster?

I'm good thanks. Although I'm very much a people person, I do love my own company. I have a wobble occasionally, but I manage cos I know it will pass. "

I did mean if you but you also anyone else who may be struggling.

I get the like my own company, that’s fine as long as you don’t let the darkness overwhelm you xx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Tomorrow would have been my son's 30th birthday. I had planned a memorial which I had to cancel. It's also my 60th soon, again plans have been cancelled. I was going to visit my sister in Milan (postponed from Christmas) but again cancelled. I've also missed seeing my kids and grandkids.

I have a partner and it's just been us since March. We have got closer, but I miss my family and not seeing at least one of my kids tomorrow will be sad for me. I think harder than not seeing any of my kids on mother's day.

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By *Wman15Man
over a year ago

Stansted

If anyone just wants a chat feel free to message me

I almost lost my son to suicide a couple of years ago so am acutely aware of the mental struggle that some of you are experiencing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yea its getting to me too. im on lockdown . isolating from my partner. seeing families either side of me meeting up etc .

i only talked today to the checkout girl briefly lol

Shopping and talking to others around me is my only social interaction and so appreciated.

Try hard not to let your thoughts consume you, you have offered good advice to others. I appreciate it is not always easy to take advice as it is to give it but everyone deserves to feel happy.

I suffer several mental health issues and it can be very lonely during normal times.

Fab is a great place to lose yourself but when you log off the thoughts can return.

You are not alone, be strong, drop me a message anytime you want a chat x

Me or the previous poster?

I'm good thanks. Although I'm very much a people person, I do love my own company. I have a wobble occasionally, but I manage cos I know it will pass.

I did mean if you but you also anyone else who may be struggling.

I get the like my own company, that’s fine as long as you don’t let the darkness overwhelm you xx"

No darkness here but I thank you for the concern.

My spiritual beliefs have helped me immensely. Lots of people swear by YOLO, no, it's more you only live one life at a time

. I swear I'm not coming back anymore which means no suicide no matter what trauma I go through.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

The only thing getting me down is all the negativity from the media and individuals..

for god sake just report the facts and not all the speculation, this is only feeding the negative people here and other media platforms of doom and gloom ... apart from that I’m still happy

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

Well the lockdown is now clearly killing people itself.

Today Tuesday is the day that the ONS weekly statistics for deaths registered comes out.

Just had a look at the spreadsheet and was initially surprised to see that overall deaths had increased by nearly 2000 from the previous week. Then when I looked at the Covid figures they were actually down on the week before.

Thus the only conclusion I can infer is that the lockdown has caused 2000 excess deaths (from people not getting hospital treatment for normal conditions and suicides etc.)over the week before (and that figure would already have excess non covid deaths).

This is our crazy logic now

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By *Wman15Man
over a year ago

Stansted

"The only thing getting me down is all the negativity from the media and individuals..

for god sake just report the facts and not all the speculation, this is only feeding the negative people here and other media platforms of doom and gloom ... apart from that I’m still happy

Spot on SD

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Looks like the clique have started to block me after my opinions .... good, could do without them anyway .. god they are so self righteous and morally aloof and depressing

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Can cope with lockdown but the negativity gets me down and angry at times.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"The last few days I've been feeling down and depressed. I tried talking to someone about it earlier but it was like trying to talk to the wall.

Is anyone else feeling misserable and how are you coping?

Yep its really getting to me and I'm working aswell

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Tomorrow would have been my son's 30th birthday. I had planned a memorial which I had to cancel. It's also my 60th soon, again plans have been cancelled. I was going to visit my sister in Milan (postponed from Christmas) but again cancelled. I've also missed seeing my kids and grandkids.

Thoughts with you and others at such times, Lynn lost her brother over 37 yrs ago and the loss never fully goes away for the family..

It's been a hard time for many this past few weeks..

All I can say generally is for anyone struggling to reach out and not dwell on it alone..

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By *ewcouplemidsCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Miss seeing my god children so much

Gym is another big miss it was somewhere I could let out my frustration

Go walking but not the same I like the social side of the gym

They gotta ease social distancing soon surely

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Am desparate to have a cuddle with our two grandsons, a bit of a tickling fest, play 'cars' etc..

Main thing is they and we are safe and will hopefully see each other some time soon ish..

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By *aurimauriMan
over a year ago

minster Ramsgate

Mind Valley.

There is a free course on stress with Paul McKenna.

I've had my ups and downs but I've been doing my own ###nosis.

I'm so alive, wired right now. Out look is all about change for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Miss seeing my god children so much

Gym is another big miss it was somewhere I could let out my frustration

Go walking but not the same I like the social side of the gym

They gotta ease social distancing soon surely"

Gym is my anti depressant.

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle

im same as you.. Gym made a big difference now its a big struggle.. I walk and run and have weights at home but its not having the same effect.... hope you get through ok... keep going we are past the worst now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im same as you.. Gym made a big difference now its a big struggle.. I walk and run and have weights at home but its not having the same effect.... hope you get through ok... keep going we are past the worst now

Same I have a half decent home gym but it's just not the same training on your own

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle

mines piss poor really.. lost some of my stuff when I moved.. got weights but no bars... old tin foil tubes fit through my weights so makeshift dumbbells haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'lockdown' interesting that they use an American prison term for a type of collective punishment.

If you recall it was introduced to 'flatten the curve' to protect the NHS. As it happened the NHS coped fine with a disease with a similar death rate to flu.

So you better start asking yourself why you have been under house arrest for weeks in a free society.

Wake up before it is too late."

Under house arrest?

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