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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Honestly, kind of disappointed with the outcome of the announcement today.

Lockdown has been really taxing on my mental health and I was really holding out for being able to see a friend or something.

To hear there will be no more changes other than sitting in a park for the next 3 weeks is quite disappointing

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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Yes my 13 year-old, is also very disappointed.

She doesn't completely understand what's going on and and has anxiety issues, she really wants to see one of her very close friends who also have some mental health stability issues.

It's a very difficult time for them both.

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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Yes my 13 year-old, is also very disappointed.

She doesn't completely understand what's going on and and has anxiety issues, she really wants to see one of her very close friends who also have some mental health stability issues.

It's a very difficult time for them both."

Yeah I can imagine it’s even more difficult to get your bead round at such a young age. Hope you’re all keeping well though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's completely understandable to feel the way you do, and reading your post you sound like you are struggling

it's such a strange worring time, this horrible situation will pass.

Wishing you peace of mind and strength xx

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

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"Honestly, kind of disappointed with the outcome of the announcement today.

Lockdown has been really taxing on my mental health and I was really holding out for being able to see a friend or something.

To hear there will be no more changes other than sitting in a park for the next 3 weeks is quite disappointing "
me too. Not just for myself but for my daughter who simply doesnt understand..and for the people I speak to on the help and support Lines... I'm not sure they will all manage another 3 weeks.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Yes my 13 year-old, is also very disappointed.

She doesn't completely understand what's going on and and has anxiety issues, she really wants to see one of her very close friends who also have some mental health stability issues.

It's a very difficult time for them both."

My daughter (14) saw her best friend yesterday, literally she was driving home with her dad after sorting her horse out and stopped by. They had a chat standing apart for about 5 mins but it literally made such a difference to her, really brightened her weekend up

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"Yes my 13 year-old, is also very disappointed.

She doesn't completely understand what's going on and and has anxiety issues, she really wants to see one of her very close friends who also have some mental health stability issues.

It's a very difficult time for them both.

Yeah I can imagine it’s even more difficult to get your bead round at such a young age. Hope you’re all keeping well though! "

Thank you, I am trying to think of fun things she can do to help her friend, she did send her a letter with her favourite chewing gum (which is some kind of private joke between the two of them) and a photo collage she had made of them both. But she really just wants to give her a hug.

we are all I think the same as everybody doing our best to keep positive and busy. There is lots that we get on with at home, but the restrictions sometimes can weigh heavily mentally.

We are lucky though that we can stay home, I appreciate everybody who is is putting in so many hours to keep us safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the same OP. It's really getting to me now, but things will get better.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

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"Yes my 13 year-old, is also very disappointed.

She doesn't completely understand what's going on and and has anxiety issues, she really wants to see one of her very close friends who also have some mental health stability issues.

It's a very difficult time for them both.

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things like that can really make a difference. We do the same with my middle daughter. She comes to see her sister and chat with her when she is out x

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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I think I’m just having a rough time because I had taken a year out of uni and quit my job to travel this year.

Then unfortunately I had to come home to no job and all my other trips cancelled for the foreseeable future

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"Yes my 13 year-old, is also very disappointed.

She doesn't completely understand what's going on and and has anxiety issues, she really wants to see one of her very close friends who also have some mental health stability issues.

It's a very difficult time for them both.

things like that can really make a difference. We do the same with my middle daughter. She comes to see her sister and chat with her when she is out x "

I'm sure siblings will never forget the time that the world changed as they were growing up

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"I think I’m just having a rough time because I had taken a year out of uni and quit my job to travel this year.

Then unfortunately I had to come home to no job and all my other trips cancelled for the foreseeable future

That is really harsh and and must have taken a little while for you to change your expectations so much of what this year was going to hold.

hopefully it will be more of a postponement and sometime in the future you will get a chance to explore the planet even if it is not at soon before that will be possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought wont be many changes as his time slot was only 10 mins.Too many nursing homes have spread of virus to come out of lockdown .

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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I think I’m just having a rough time because I had taken a year out of uni and quit my job to travel this year.

Then unfortunately I had to come home to no job and all my other trips cancelled for the foreseeable future

That is really harsh and and must have taken a little while for you to change your expectations so much of what this year was going to hold.

hopefully it will be more of a postponement and sometime in the future you will get a chance to explore the planet even if it is not at soon before that will be possible."

Yeah, like I say just disappointing but going to try and focus on getting a job somewhere for now so hopefully I can get out and work

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

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"I think I’m just having a rough time because I had taken a year out of uni and quit my job to travel this year.

Then unfortunately I had to come home to no job and all my other trips cancelled for the foreseeable future

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it isnt just you. I answer the phone for a well known charity... and I actually didnt want to do any calls tonight as I knew I'd not be cheery enough.

I had really hoped for an increase in our social circle. I'm a total social butterfly and while I'm still seeing lots of people daily... they arent my friends... and I just want to hug my friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to belittle or minimize the hardship and strain that our nation is going through, but I have been in a lot of countries, seen opulent wealth and abject poverty.

Each night I go to bed knowing that I have a full belly, a comfortable bed and roof over my head. I have done nothing to deserve this except be born to the right parents in the right country at the right time.

At times when I feel sorry for myself I think of those less fortunate than myself and am reminded of the phrase "there but for the grace of God go I"

Perhaps when all this has passed we will be more grateful for the little things we always took for granted?

Hang in there my fab friends! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think. The measures should have been made harsher not relaxing. Controlling this is going to be a nightmare.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

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"Personally I think. The measures should have been made harsher not relaxing. Controlling this is going to be a nightmare. "
why when the r number is below 1

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"I don't want to belittle or minimize the hardship and strain that our nation is going through, but I have been in a lot of countries, seen opulent wealth and abject poverty.

At times when I feel sorry for myself I think of those less fortunate than myself and am reminded of the phrase "there but for the grace of God go I"

Perhaps when all this has passed we will be more grateful for the little things we always took for granted?

Hang in there my fab friends! Xxx"

those are all good points and things that I also remind my family of daily. Sometime, even though you know that's right, it doesn't necessarily help with the frustrations or empty spaces inside

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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I know everyone is in the same boat and that I am very privileged but it doesn’t make things much easier.

I have had some other difficult things going on alongside this so it’s just exacerbated the situation unfortunately

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Health most important thing

Should treble fines for people breaking lockdown

You should be disappointed 30 k people died op!

Op so selfish

What a selfish country me me ne

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham

"Personally I think. The measures should have been made harsher not relaxing. Controlling this is going to be a nightmare. "

I aggreee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think. The measures should have been made harsher not relaxing. Controlling this is going to be a nightmare. why when the r number is below 1 "

Because R is lower than one now but it will increase. They are just doing small scale tests. Germany R was below one when they relaxed measures now R is over 1.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

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"Health most important thing

Should treble fines for people breaking lockdown

You should be disappointed 30 k people died op!

Op so selfish

What a selfish country me me ne"
woah hold on a minute.. why is the op selfish.

Its attitudes like yours which are not helping. Where has the OP said she is breaking rules. ?

Lockdown and the mental health aspect of all this is no trivial thing

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Health most important thing

Should treble fines for people breaking lockdown

You should be disappointed 30 k people died op!

Op so selfish

What a selfish country me me ne"

No need for comments like that.

Some people are struggling and feeling disappointed, myself included that doesn't make us selfish. Everyone has a right to feel disappointed regardless of your thoughts

OP I hope you are okay. Sending love.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

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"Personally I think. The measures should have been made harsher not relaxing. Controlling this is going to be a nightmare. why when the r number is below 1

Because R is lower than one now but it will increase. They are just doing small scale tests. Germany R was below one when they relaxed measures now R is over 1.

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we cant stay in lockdown forever... or even much longer . The idea isnt to stop the virus it's to make it easier for it to be managed. So far it looks like it could become seasonal like flu is.... so we will have to learn to live with it eventually. Vaccine isnt going to cure all .. IF we get one

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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

OP here

I don’t think I’m selfish for being disappointed, obviously the situation I’m at the moment is hard for everyone and I was just hoping for a little more improvement.

I’m still following lockdown rules as I have been for nearly 2 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think. The measures should have been made harsher not relaxing. Controlling this is going to be a nightmare. why when the r number is below 1

Because R is lower than one now but it will increase. They are just doing small scale tests. Germany R was below one when they relaxed measures now R is over 1.

we cant stay in lockdown forever... or even much longer . The idea isnt to stop the virus it's to make it easier for it to be managed. So far it looks like it could become seasonal like flu is.... so we will have to learn to live with it eventually. Vaccine isnt going to cure all .. IF we get one"

You are right it's about managing it. However thr second wave of pandemics are usually the worst. Germany is already seeing R above 1 so its growing faster than its dieing out. Longer we try manage this the worse it will be in the long run. Hense why Scotland, Wales and NI have taken a very different route from England. We will soon see which nation had the right approach when we are back in lockdown 2.0.

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By *ll That Ass 67Woman
over a year ago

Kettering

I would rather be in lockdown longer than risk catching the virus .

We can still see friends ,use social media or stay 2 metres apart

I really want to go visit my 80 year old mother ,but can't, so we talk every evening instead.

For all of those " disappointed" with the continued lockdown, spare a thought for the thousands who have died alone , without their friends or family with them ,and give your heads a shake !!!

Stay home and stay safe

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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The death toll is of course absolutely terrible,the amount of suicides and also people becoming very ill or dying because they are too anxious to go to hospital for emergency treatment they need.

I'm also concerned because we can't stay in lockdown forever so something at some point has to change before or many more people are are suffering in knock on ways from the virus, plus I think there is a chance that some people that will be distancing at home and so clean and hygienic that they will be unccustomed to the normal bacteria and when when they eventually do get exposed again may become ill with things that before their bodies would have easily shrugged off previously.

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

"OP here

I don’t think I’m selfish for being disappointed, obviously the situation I’m at the moment is hard for everyone and I was just hoping for a little more improvement.

I’m still following lockdown rules as I have been for nearly 2 months "

Nothing selfish about being disappointed in the situation we are all facing hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

trouble was the media kept talking about what they thought or wanted,and a lot believed it,this is going to take a long time,look at germany,france and even s/korea,are having more cases after relaxing the rules,we may not like it

but if we dont abide by commonsense,then thousands dead,and country totaly ruined

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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

" I'm also concerned because we can't stay in lockdown forever so something at some point has to change before or many more people are are suffering in knock on ways from the virus "

Well said, we can’t stay in lockdown forever and we will have to try and resume as much normality as possibly over the coming months for the sake of the economy. The death toll has been tragic but it’s an unfortunate part of life

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

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"The death toll is of course absolutely terrible,the amount of suicides and also people becoming very ill or dying because they are too anxious to go to hospital for emergency treatment they need.

I'm ok the helplines and the mental health issue is awful. Also your right. It was only a few years ago that there was a report ( trying to find it) about how kids whose parents kept them in too sterile an environment lead to weaker immune systems x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

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"OP here

I don’t think I’m selfish for being disappointed, obviously the situation I’m at the moment is hard for everyone and I was just hoping for a little more improvement.

I’m still following lockdown rules as I have been for nearly 2 months "
your not being selfish. And reaching out is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want to belittle or minimize the hardship and strain that our nation is going through, but I have been in a lot of countries, seen opulent wealth and abject poverty.

At times when I feel sorry for myself I think of those less fortunate than myself and am reminded of the phrase "there but for the grace of God go I"

Perhaps when all this has passed we will be more grateful for the little things we always took for granted?

Hang in there my fab friends! Xxx

those are all good points and things that I also remind my family of daily. Sometime, even though you know that's right, it doesn't necessarily help with the frustrations or empty spaces inside"

I agree. Nothing takes that away. Now is when family and friends are worth more than gold. We need look look after each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes my 13 year-old, is also very disappointed.

She doesn't completely understand what's going on and and has anxiety issues, she really wants to see one of her very close friends who also have some mental health stability issues.

It's a very difficult time for them both."

Could you arrange to meet in local park and sit 2m apart? Surely that will help...?

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"Yes my 13 year-old, is also very disappointed.

She doesn't completely understand what's going on and and has anxiety issues, she really wants to see one of her very close friends who also have some mental health stability issues.

It's a very difficult time for them both.

Could you arrange to meet in local park and sit 2m apart? Surely that will help...?"

I think I'm going to see if I can organise that for them, possibly later in the week when the weather is nice again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as we are all disappointed,there's nothing more disappointing or final than death

We will get through this

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Honestly, kind of disappointed with the outcome of the announcement today.

Lockdown has been really taxing on my mental health and I was really holding out for being able to see a friend or something.

To hear there will be no more changes other than sitting in a park for the next 3 weeks is quite disappointing "

According to BBC

You can see frends and family in an open space . You must maintain 2 m distances you must not hug

This I think is reasonable and safe

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"Honestly, kind of disappointed with the outcome of the announcement today.

Lockdown has been really taxing on my mental health and I was really holding out for being able to see a friend or something.

To hear there will be no more changes other than sitting in a park for the next 3 weeks is quite disappointing

According to BBC

You can see frends and family in an open space . You must maintain 2 m distances you must not hug

This I think is reasonable and safe

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"Honestly, kind of disappointed with the outcome of the announcement today.

Lockdown has been really taxing on my mental health and I was really holding out for being able to see a friend or something.

To hear there will be no more changes other than sitting in a park for the next 3 weeks is quite disappointing

According to BBC

You can see frends and family in an open space . You must maintain 2 m distances you must not hug

This I think is reasonable and safe

What would be the difference in seeing themin somebody's garden, is it just that the temptation to make a cup of tea or use the toilet is too easy. I just would have thought there was less cross-contamination as less people would have sat on the bench etc

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