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By *istyblue1967 OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

how soon will you meet again after lockdown rules are lifted ???.

i know clubs will take a long time to open again but private meets and parties will be going ahead no doubt ???

just curious x

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how soon will you meet again after lockdown rules are lifted ???.

i know clubs will take a long time to open again but private meets and parties will be going ahead no doubt ???

just curious x"

It rather depends on what you mean by lifted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once the government says it's safe to meet in groups again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ASA fucking P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once the government says it's safe to meet in groups again"

Then probably not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably not this year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once the government says it's safe to meet in groups again

Then probably not."

If it's not meant to be it's not meant to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once the government says it's safe to meet in groups again

Then probably not.

If it's not meant to be it's not meant to be"

The problem is I don't trust the government.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

The day the clubs open I'll be meeting. As soon as we can meet in smaller groups I will have to see about meeting a group of guys I know already for some group fun.. no idea how if it will.work for me as I mostly only do club meets.

I do have one or two people that if they said it was lifted at 2pm on one day.. I'd be there for spot on 2 for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't know when. Hard to say

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Whenever I feel that I am able to manage and assess the risk to an acceptable level for myself. I'm not gonna be reckless but I ain't gonna rely on the government to tell me when I can have sex and when I can't.

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By *exyCouple999Couple
over a year ago

South Bucks

The only current relevant rules that I am aware of;

- you are allowed out for exercise

- gatherings must be of no more than two people.

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By *icoleAndLisaTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port


"how soon will you meet again after lockdown rules are lifted ???.

i know clubs will take a long time to open again but private meets and parties will be going ahead no doubt ???

just curious x"

Right now, I'm not seeing anyone. I'm successfully self-isolating most of the time, only exposing myself to strangers when I go shopping, and even then, trying to keep my distance.

Soon enough, they're going to send everyone back to work. That means people shoved into each other's armpits on rush hour buses and trains across the country.

If you're expected to take your chances with 20 strangers within a 2 metre radius of you, I don't see you're taking a massive additional risk breaking the 2 metre rule with one other.

So at that point, I'll start meeting again. I will be favouring well ventilated areas and positions where we're not breathing in each other's faces. I doubt I'll be kissing until I have confirmed immunity.

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By *nderthesheetsCouple
over a year ago

Littlehampton

We will probably give it a few weeks after everyone else.... just to be sure it’s safe lol

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"The only current relevant rules that I am aware of;

- you are allowed out for exercise

- gatherings must be of no more than two people.

"
the two or more people currently must be from your own house hold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One to one meetings ASAP.

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By *en ukMan
over a year ago

harrow London

Now just took, make evening ready , after lockdown it's finish the first 2 weeks will be very busy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am not even sure will stay on fab when this is over.

At the moment it's nice to chat to a few old friends in the chat room but might be time to call it a day.

I don't think clubs will survive and will be a long time before new ones open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as things return to some sort of normality, and there is a relaxation in some social distancing, most people back to work etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me in reality probably next year. The first thing i am going to do once lockdown has been lifted is take sometime off work and have a week at home not having to get up just after midnight everyday just to go to work 6 days out of 7 and just relax, have lie ins and bake more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am not even sure will stay on fab when this is over.

At the moment it's nice to chat to a few old friends in the chat room but might be time to call it a day.

I don't think clubs will survive and will be a long time before new ones open

"

I tend to agree regarding the clubs, there is very little chance of them surviving, even if they do open this year there will be new rules ref social distancing that will make going to them pointless

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It depends how the year progresses, lockdown easing etc

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Probably once we have been vaccinated.

And as they don't yet have a vaccine, some time yet.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Can't see that we will meet with anyone before October at least.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Once the government says it's safe to meet in groups again"

Safe ?

Point missed

It wont be safe lol not for years

However it may not impact the NHS so severely when you catch it when they reduce lock down

I really cannot believe that people think it will be safe until they have had it the vulnerable are protected so they cant get it and a vaccine available

Lol @ both government and especially safe

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Straight away

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

Meets? Clubs? Sex? I've forgotten what it is.

Just when you start to have a bit of fun something comes along and throws a spanner in the works.

We still need the 4th horse of the Apocalypse to come along, the rapture and the asteroid.

Nah, not even thinkin about meets.

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By *istyblue1967 OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

very sensible answers here .

when you read some peoples status theyre saying cant wait for lockdown to end then i can go clubbing etc

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Tarka trail

In the song by Vera Lynn. I don't know where, don't know when. For I know we'll meet again some sunny day.

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By *itonmyfacebookMan
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Re positions: is doggy going to be the most popular? As it's probably the best to maintain distancing.

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By *londenewcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stafford


"Now just took, make evening ready , after lockdown it's finish the first 2 weeks will be very busy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I've been vaccinated.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Re positions: is doggy going to be the most popular? As it's probably the best to maintain distancing. "

And even better if you have a 2m cock??

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I think it's way too early to say when/if we will consider meeting after lockdown. It will depend on what happens once restrictions start being lifted and how hard the second wave hits. Restrictions being lifted won't mean the risks have suddenly miraculously decreased, the virus won't have gone anywhere.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Time it takes to get ready make up on and out the door!!!

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

FWB will be round as soon as they lift lockdown. We've missed each other. I want to get out to clubs as soon as possible to support the one's that I've always enjoyed going to but I can see them being too quiet with nothing much going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tomorrow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When there is a cure I will consider it. Not a chance before that though.

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By *itonmyfacebookMan
over a year ago

Burton on Trent


"Re positions: is doggy going to be the most popular? As it's probably the best to maintain distancing.

And even better if you have a 2m cock??"

Funny you should mention that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm well disappointed with doggy porn made it look 100 times more fun,

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

As soon as possible, with a casual disregard for possible covid infection

I'm not in any kind of high risk group. Ideally men under 40 will realise they are not high risk either and there will be a great selection on offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it will be ASAP for the single ppl that have been without for ages

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We hadn’t been meeting much anyway the last 12 months or so, we certainly won’t be meeting straight away after being given the green light on socialising because you just know give it a week and it will be Ooooops we got it wrong, do will give it time, see how things pan out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When there is a cure I will consider it. Not a chance before that though."
Might as well cancel your account on here then, they are still working on a vaccine for the Spanish flu of 1919 but it keeps changing.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Can't believe how irresponsible some of the replies are here.

Your all forgetting why lockdow came about... It was to give the NHS chance to build and organise the capacity to deal with the same problem which will be there tommorow as per was there 2 months ago... Only this time there is a far greater chance of a life support machine bring available for you to use... That's the only difference!

When lock down is relaxed to see how it goes.. It's along the lines of expanding your circles to maybe a few max other people outside yourhousehold and sticking to it... Meeting new and random people is ridiculously irresponsible and they danger is no less to the people you may well hurt around you.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


" We don't know when. Hard to say "

Same here.

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts


"Can't believe how irresponsible some of the replies are here.

Your all forgetting why lockdow came about... It was to give the NHS chance to build and organise the capacity to deal with the same problem which will be there tommorow as per was there 2 months ago... Only this time there is a far greater chance of a life support machine bring available for you to use... That's the only difference!

When lock down is relaxed to see how it goes.. It's along the lines of expanding your circles to maybe a few max other people outside yourhousehold and sticking to it... Meeting new and random people is ridiculously irresponsible and they danger is no less to the people you may well hurt around you. "

It's not going anywhere, nor is a vaccine appearing on the horizon. I'll take my 0'4% chance of dying.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Can't believe how irresponsible some of the replies are here.

Your all forgetting why lockdow came about... It was to give the NHS chance to build and organise the capacity to deal with the same problem which will be there tommorow as per was there 2 months ago... Only this time there is a far greater chance of a life support machine bring available for you to use... That's the only difference!

When lock down is relaxed to see how it goes.. It's along the lines of expanding your circles to maybe a few max other people outside yourhousehold and sticking to it... Meeting new and random people is ridiculously irresponsible and they danger is no less to the people you may well hurt around you.

It's not going anywhere, nor is a vaccine appearing on the horizon. I'll take my 0'4% chance of dying. "

It's not just about you... It's the people you come into contact with.. The innocent person in the shop.. Your taking chances with other people's lives

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"When there is a cure I will consider it. Not a chance before that though.Might as well cancel your account on here then, they are still working on a vaccine for the Spanish flu of 1919 but it keeps changing. "

Indeed

So all the 65 plus locked up with no visitors until their end

And no one ever meeting anyone new

Or else we are deemed

"Irresponsible "

Obviously as the inevitable sinks in attitudes and condemnation will shift

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place


"I'm well disappointed with doggy porn made it look 100 times more fun,"

Comma in wrong place hopefully...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder what people on dating sites are saying to this question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly a few weeks after the lockdown ends, if it does.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Whenever I feel that I am able to manage and assess the risk to an acceptable level for myself. I'm not gonna be reckless but I ain't gonna rely on the government to tell me when I can have sex and when I can't."

Carry a testing kit with you on meets then?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Can't believe how irresponsible some of the replies are here.

Your all forgetting why lockdow came about... It was to give the NHS chance to build and organise the capacity to deal with the same problem which will be there tommorow as per was there 2 months ago... Only this time there is a far greater chance of a life support machine bring available for you to use... That's the only difference!

When lock down is relaxed to see how it goes.. It's along the lines of expanding your circles to maybe a few max other people outside yourhousehold and sticking to it... Meeting new and random people is ridiculously irresponsible and they danger is no less to the people you may well hurt around you. "

Did anyone mention meeting new people?

I will be meeting up with friends, some of whom I shag, all of which I trust to be honest with me about their status regarding coronavirus. Don't be so quick to assume everyone will be meeting strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight away when lockdown over can't wait

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By *iffler 2019Woman
over a year ago

Saltash aka Fraggle Rock


"Can't believe how irresponsible some of the replies are here.

Your all forgetting why lockdow came about... It was to give the NHS chance to build and organise the capacity to deal with the same problem which will be there tommorow as per was there 2 months ago... Only this time there is a far greater chance of a life support machine bring available for you to use... That's the only difference!

When lock down is relaxed to see how it goes.. It's along the lines of expanding your circles to maybe a few max other people outside yourhousehold and sticking to it... Meeting new and random people is ridiculously irresponsible and they danger is no less to the people you may well hurt around you.

Did anyone mention meeting new people?

I will be meeting up with friends, some of whom I shag, all of which I trust to be honest with me about their status regarding coronavirus. Don't be so quick to assume everyone will be meeting strangers. "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wonder what people on dating sites are saying to this question."

I raised that on another thread , there might never be a vaccine, so are single people supposed to just condemn themselves to a life alone

If people are responsible enough to already look after their sexual health i would imagine the are capable of weighing out their risks on their normal health too

I might take a bit more time chatting via phone to get to know people before i waste my time / take my chances across a table from them now, but i will definitely be returning to dating, with a high possibility that will lead to kissing etc

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Once the government says it's safe to meet in groups again

Then probably not.

If it's not meant to be it's not meant to be

The problem is I don't trust the government."

Then here's hoping you're some kind of biochemist!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in no rush to be meeting. As frustrating as it is, I'd rather focus on catching up with close family and friends. More than happy just keeping Fab meets virtual for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how soon will you meet again after lockdown rules are lifted ???.

i know clubs will take a long time to open again but private meets and parties will be going ahead no doubt ???

just curious x"

Soon I can hit a screen between us

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts


"Can't believe how irresponsible some of the replies are here.

Your all forgetting why lockdow came about... It was to give the NHS chance to build and organise the capacity to deal with the same problem which will be there tommorow as per was there 2 months ago... Only this time there is a far greater chance of a life support machine bring available for you to use... That's the only difference!

When lock down is relaxed to see how it goes.. It's along the lines of expanding your circles to maybe a few max other people outside yourhousehold and sticking to it... Meeting new and random people is ridiculously irresponsible and they danger is no less to the people you may well hurt around you.

It's not going anywhere, nor is a vaccine appearing on the horizon. I'll take my 0'4% chance of dying.

It's not just about you... It's the people you come into contact with.. The innocent person in the shop.. Your taking chances with other people's lives"

If they think they are vulnerable they can stay at home

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Can't believe how irresponsible some of the replies are here.

Your all forgetting why lockdow came about... It was to give the NHS chance to build and organise the capacity to deal with the same problem which will be there tommorow as per was there 2 months ago... Only this time there is a far greater chance of a life support machine bring available for you to use... That's the only difference!

When lock down is relaxed to see how it goes.. It's along the lines of expanding your circles to maybe a few max other people outside yourhousehold and sticking to it... Meeting new and random people is ridiculously irresponsible and they danger is no less to the people you may well hurt around you.

It's not going anywhere, nor is a vaccine appearing on the horizon. I'll take my 0'4% chance of dying.

It's not just about you... It's the people you come into contact with.. The innocent person in the shop.. Your taking chances with other people's lives

If they think they are vulnerable they can stay at home"

Yeh cos people fuckin randoms is the most important thing in the whole world for some on here. It amazes me people are even thinking that life will go back to how it was.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Once the government says it's safe to meet in groups again

Then probably not.

If it's not meant to be it's not meant to be

The problem is I don't trust the government."

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"very sensible answers here .

when you read some peoples status theyre saying cant wait for lockdown to end then i can go clubbing etc "
I've not put it as a status but I am definitely waiting for just this. Its having such a detrimental effect on my mental well being. As I'm one of those that only met in clubs for well over 18 years... I've popped into them socially many many times.. and have met my friends in them every weekend for years and years with few exceptions.. for one time I took time out. I filled it with my other big part of my lifestyle...motorsport which is currently all stopped too. So leaves the third bit my work... ohhh that's stopped... so yes I am anxiously awaiting clubs open and tracks etc..and will be there the day they are allowed to be open. Not just for sex..and to be fair its likely to be quite an emotional day for people like me when they all reopen..but for my friends and my lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"very sensible answers here .

when you read some peoples status theyre saying cant wait for lockdown to end then i can go clubbing etc I've not put it as a status but I am definitely waiting for just this. Its having such a detrimental effect on my mental well being. As I'm one of those that only met in clubs for well over 18 years... I've popped into them socially many many times.. and have met my friends in them every weekend for years and years with few exceptions.. for one time I took time out. I filled it with my other big part of my lifestyle...motorsport which is currently all stopped too. So leaves the third bit my work... ohhh that's stopped... so yes I am anxiously awaiting clubs open and tracks etc..and will be there the day they are allowed to be open. Not just for sex..and to be fair its likely to be quite an emotional day for people like me when they all reopen..but for my friends and my lifestyle "

I think for your own good you might have to start reshaping your mindset that realistically you will have to make other arrangements to spend social time with these friends you normally meet in clubs , if it is impacting your mental health not being able to do these social events its unfortunate that they are not likely to be back in place for quite a lengthy period so maybe reach out via text and have coffee and a chat over zoom etc

And without being too condescending if actually its about the sex i think thats needs a reshape too , i am not trying to be harsh but if your mental health and happiness depends on shagging strangers then i don’t think its actually that healthy or happy to begin with and this lockdown might be the perfect opportunity to try find other avenues that bring you some joy

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By *eddy and legsCouple
over a year ago

the wetlands


"very sensible answers here .

when you read some peoples status theyre saying cant wait for lockdown to end then i can go clubbing etc I've not put it as a status but I am definitely waiting for just this. Its having such a detrimental effect on my mental well being. As I'm one of those that only met in clubs for well over 18 years... I've popped into them socially many many times.. and have met my friends in them every weekend for years and years with few exceptions.. for one time I took time out. I filled it with my other big part of my lifestyle...motorsport which is currently all stopped too. So leaves the third bit my work... ohhh that's stopped... so yes I am anxiously awaiting clubs open and tracks etc..and will be there the day they are allowed to be open. Not just for sex..and to be fair its likely to be quite an emotional day for people like me when they all reopen..but for my friends and my lifestyle "

Private parties ? With people we know and trust ?

If we wanted to, and it's something we don't, but we would soon after restrictions are lifted.

We are learning a lot every day of infection paths and will have a fair idea of how many people were and are infected and how easily we can avoid infection with adequate precautions within maybe six months. When we do have that sort of information will be the time that WE will decide whether to meet with strangers in what could be a higher risk environment and if our trip to playa del ingles in December goes ahead

We were in playa del ingles just before the lockdown, we were in bars and swinger clubs every night. We were aware obviously that there were some risks and if anyone coughed we ran a mile.

Fortunately I grew up before common sense was banned in schools so I consider myself smart enough to make an informed decision.

At present my informed decision is stay away from as many people as possible and obey the government direction, that's unlikely to change for a month.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Can't believe how irresponsible some of the replies are here.

Your all forgetting why lockdow came about... It was to give the NHS chance to build and organise the capacity to deal with the same problem which will be there tommorow as per was there 2 months ago... Only this time there is a far greater chance of a life support machine bring available for you to use... That's the only difference!

When lock down is relaxed to see how it goes.. It's along the lines of expanding your circles to maybe a few max other people outside yourhousehold and sticking to it... Meeting new and random people is ridiculously irresponsible and they danger is no less to the people you may well hurt around you.

It's not going anywhere, nor is a vaccine appearing on the horizon. I'll take my 0'4% chance of dying.

It's not just about you... It's the people you come into contact with.. The innocent person in the shop.. Your taking chances with other people's lives

If they think they are vulnerable they can stay at home

Yeh cos people fuckin randoms is the most important thing in the whole world for some on here. It amazes me people are even thinking that life will go back to how it was. "

Nobody said they will fuck randoms

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"very sensible answers here .

when you read some peoples status theyre saying cant wait for lockdown to end then i can go clubbing etc I've not put it as a status but I am definitely waiting for just this. Its having such a detrimental effect on my mental well being. As I'm one of those that only met in clubs for well over 18 years... I've popped into them socially many many times.. and have met my friends in them every weekend for years and years with few exceptions.. for one time I took time out. I filled it with my other big part of my lifestyle...motorsport which is currently all stopped too. So leaves the third bit my work... ohhh that's stopped... so yes I am anxiously awaiting clubs open and tracks etc..and will be there the day they are allowed to be open. Not just for sex..and to be fair its likely to be quite an emotional day for people like me when they all reopen..but for my friends and my lifestyle

I think for your own good you might have to start reshaping your mindset that realistically you will have to make other arrangements to spend social time with these friends you normally meet in clubs , if it is impacting your mental health not being able to do these social events its unfortunate that they are not likely to be back in place for quite a lengthy period so maybe reach out via text and have coffee and a chat over zoom etc

And without being too condescending if actually its about the sex i think thats needs a reshape too , i am not trying to be harsh but if your mental health and happiness depends on shagging strangers then i don’t think its actually that healthy or happy to begin with and this lockdown might be the perfect opportunity to try find other avenues that bring you some joy "
judgement much.. no I've said if you bother to read it that I've had my entire lifestyle ripped from under me... everything I do has been taken pretty much. I play in an orchestra.. stopped.

I attend a lot of motorsport events.. stopped.

I marshal .. stopped

My clubs and yes sex with strangers and friends that I normally partake in 3 or more times a week stopped...

My weekly help groups that I support.. stopped.

Taking my car for a good back road blast... that's almost stopped but I have found ways to get around that thankfully.

Why do I need to adjust my outlook because I like sex with strangers... it's a swinging site.. you know. Where people meet for all sorts of sexual activities.. just because its not your thing..dont judge. My mental health isnt suffering because if anyone thing. Its suffering because like many others I'm under high stress and no outlets.

We are seeing people with no previous history of depression or mental health having issues. And while I dont have any real issues except when I lost my father.. I am still finding the prospect of losing a very big part of my life distressing.

Yea I can see some of my social circle privately but I enjoy group sex.. and yes for the short term I'll plan around it. But I'd rather wait till I can play the way I'm happy to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"very sensible answers here .

when you read some peoples status theyre saying cant wait for lockdown to end then i can go clubbing etc I've not put it as a status but I am definitely waiting for just this. Its having such a detrimental effect on my mental well being. As I'm one of those that only met in clubs for well over 18 years... I've popped into them socially many many times.. and have met my friends in them every weekend for years and years with few exceptions.. for one time I took time out. I filled it with my other big part of my lifestyle...motorsport which is currently all stopped too. So leaves the third bit my work... ohhh that's stopped... so yes I am anxiously awaiting clubs open and tracks etc..and will be there the day they are allowed to be open. Not just for sex..and to be fair its likely to be quite an emotional day for people like me when they all reopen..but for my friends and my lifestyle

I think for your own good you might have to start reshaping your mindset that realistically you will have to make other arrangements to spend social time with these friends you normally meet in clubs , if it is impacting your mental health not being able to do these social events its unfortunate that they are not likely to be back in place for quite a lengthy period so maybe reach out via text and have coffee and a chat over zoom etc

And without being too condescending if actually its about the sex i think thats needs a reshape too , i am not trying to be harsh but if your mental health and happiness depends on shagging strangers then i don’t think its actually that healthy or happy to begin with and this lockdown might be the perfect opportunity to try find other avenues that bring you some joy judgement much.. no I've said if you bother to read it that I've had my entire lifestyle ripped from under me... everything I do has been taken pretty much. I play in an orchestra.. stopped.

I attend a lot of motorsport events.. stopped.

I marshal .. stopped

My clubs and yes sex with strangers and friends that I normally partake in 3 or more times a week stopped...

My weekly help groups that I support.. stopped.

Taking my car for a good back road blast... that's almost stopped but I have found ways to get around that thankfully.

Why do I need to adjust my outlook because I like sex with strangers... it's a swinging site.. you know. Where people meet for all sorts of sexual activities.. just because its not your thing..dont judge. My mental health isnt suffering because if anyone thing. Its suffering because like many others I'm under high stress and no outlets.

We are seeing people with no previous history of depression or mental health having issues. And while I dont have any real issues except when I lost my father.. I am still finding the prospect of losing a very big part of my life distressing.

Yea I can see some of my social circle privately but I enjoy group sex.. and yes for the short term I'll plan around it. But I'd rather wait till I can play the way I'm happy to.

"

I can only respond to what you post i dont know all your personal circumstances and on a specific comment about clubs being closed you said “ . Its having such a detrimental effect on my mental well being.”

I think you have taken a bit too much offence at a bit of advice thats basically saying if something being missing from your life is causing you that much detriment and its clear that specific thing won’t return for a long time, its sensible to look at other avenues in the meantime

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Meeting is just not something that is even on my radar. It doesn’t feature in my thoughts at all.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I see some profiles with statuses like "as soon as lockdown is over I'm having the biggest gangbang ever".... Which is exactly how to have a second spike in cases.

In all likelihood the restrictions will be lifted bit by bit, with permission to meet a small number of existing friends and family. I'll be meeting my regular partner then and my wife hers. That'll be about it. The virus is spread by people travelling and meeting others. A relaxing of the new rules doesn't mean its safe to have a gangbang or they the government wants to decide who you have sex with.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I thought people on fab were non judgemental. Obviously not with the replies on here.

If people don't want to meet immediately after lock down, fine, carry on as you are.

If lock down and social distancing rules are removed and people want to meet strangers for sex than that's fine to.

I'm in the latter section and will be meeting as soon as I can when it's allowed. I consider myself a reasonable person, I understand the risk and will take a decision depending on circumstances at the time.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

To be honest I’m more interested in seeing my family before I even think about meets on here

Some things are more important right now

Xxxx

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"

I can only respond to what you post i dont know all your personal circumstances and on a specific comment about clubs being closed you said “ . Its having such a detrimental effect on my mental well being.”

I think you have taken a bit too much offence at a bit of advice thats basically saying if something being missing from your life is causing you that much detriment and its clear that specific thing won’t return for a long time, its sensible to look at other avenues in the meantime"
no it was the implied that I have nothing more in my life than sex with strangers. For me swinging is a lifestyle choice.. in may I will have been swinging with mostly groups for 24 years. It has always been a part of my life that helps me deal with the other side of my life which is high stress and to be fair has been my saving grace. But clubs are not about the sex side.. for instance the end of month parties at the attic or the bbw bash at chams. That is all about seeing friends and catching up.. I've gone many many times and not played at all.

I'm keeping in touch with my close friends but I miss like most will be the physical presence.. yes I miss the sex and as a registered sex addict the fact I'm managing to keep it to just the vanilla fwb ( who I moved in) I'm quite impressed with myself. But for me the opening of clubs is more about the social side.. and yes.. I will be straight to my favourite clubs if they reopen the day they open.

As let's face It they arent going to open till its deemed reasonably safe... same as I'm missing my motor racing . First event they need me for I'll be there..

Orchestra.. cinema.. support groups I counsel for... I'm missing them all. If it was just the clubs that I couldn't go too I'd be fine... if I could go see my mates or go marshal. Nip to the movies or organise a group session at a good friends place... yup.. all good but its everything.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We will be more interested in getting back to sailing and travelling than fab meeting to be honest.

Thought of the day....

The decisions and choices we make in the moment will ripple through the rest of time, be the best you can be for those you Iove if not yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure how soon we’ll meet, don’t know where

But I know we'll meet again some sunny day

Keep smiling through

Just like you always do

'Till the blue skies drive the dark clouds far away

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"We will be more interested in getting back to sailing and travelling than fab meeting to be honest.

Thought of the day....

The decisions and choices we make in the moment will ripple through the rest of time, be the best you can be for those you Iove if not yourself x "

Surely travelling is just as risky as you won’t know anyone that you will come into contact with?

Plus is there anything or anywhere that will have the same appeal after this?

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

It's not just lockdown it has to be when there is no need for social distancing at all. Sadly that could be only once a vaccine is found

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"We will be more interested in getting back to sailing and travelling than fab meeting to be honest.

Thought of the day....

The decisions and choices we make in the moment will ripple through the rest of time, be the best you can be for those you Iove if not yourself x

Surely travelling is just as risky as you won’t know anyone that you will come into contact with?

Plus is there anything or anywhere that will have the same appeal after this? "

Sorry, I didn’t mean we would be jumping straight into doing it as soon as lockdown was over, I just meant that is what we are missing the most and would like to get back to before arranging fab meets.

We have both lost most of our family at young ages, all of which can be heredity so already live with fear of dying young, this is another worry of course and will try to be as sensible as possible to avoid risk but we do want some life back at some point.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"We will be more interested in getting back to sailing and travelling than fab meeting to be honest.

Thought of the day....

The decisions and choices we make in the moment will ripple through the rest of time, be the best you can be for those you Iove if not yourself x

Surely travelling is just as risky as you won’t know anyone that you will come into contact with?

Plus is there anything or anywhere that will have the same appeal after this?

Sorry, I didn’t mean we would be jumping straight into doing it as soon as lockdown was over, I just meant that is what we are missing the most and would like to get back to before arranging fab meets.

We have both lost most of our family at young ages, all of which can be heredity so already live with fear of dying young, this is another worry of course and will try to be as sensible as possible to avoid risk but we do want some life back at some point.

"

Agreed and apologies, it wasn’t a snipe, just a thought.

Fingers crossed we get some form of “normal” back at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the idea of general meeting lots of people should be out of everyone's mind. Saying that, the idea of contact tracing is very very easy on fab.... and less so in the general population.

It'd be easier if there was mutual trust and one person had a FWB with one other.... at least until the percentage vaccinated or infected has hit 80%+.

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

Trust is good. Sadly you may not even know you have it if your asymptomatic and have no symptoms but could infect others. As far as I know me and wife are OK, but staying home apart from shopping and walking dogs or her doing her horses, neither of us can work, both on furlough so keeping our heads down. Lost family in Midlands to it so would not wish this on anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We may just look for an exclusive regular couple if we can once it's safe to do so, the clubs won't be open so we could still have fun but minimise the risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its shocking to read peoples messages on this site at times.

People are literally gagging to meet people to have sex!

When the ban is lifted, things wont go back to normal. The virus isnt going to pull a magic trick and disappear.

There is no current vaccine. None. Probably won't be for 1-2 years. So I may not meet people for that long really. Well in the sexual sense anyway.

People play games with their life for a meaningless orgasm because they cannot control their urges.

People will get the virus again. Go the hospital. Get treatments, all whilst risking it for the hard working NHS staff simply because they wanted a fuck.

I've had family members who are frontline workers. Yes had. 3 recently from people who had violated the lockdown rules.

Myself being a key worker reading everywhere on here people dying to meet people.

Once their own loved ones have died, then its "serious" for them.

People do not surprise me and reading on here, I can see people for their there true colours.

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire

I will very unlikely meet anyone For the rest of the year.

Rather not risk it.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Once the government says it's safe to meet in groups again"

Can’t see the government ever saying like that.

We’ll meet friends as soon as lockdown begins to lift and we can legally travel for non essential reasons

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Its shocking to read peoples messages on this site at times.

People are literally gagging to meet people to have sex!

When the ban is lifted, things wont go back to normal. The virus isnt going to pull a magic trick and disappear.

There is no current vaccine. None. Probably won't be for 1-2 years. So I may not meet people for that long really. Well in the sexual sense anyway.

People play games with their life for a meaningless orgasm because they cannot control their urges.

People will get the virus again. Go the hospital. Get treatments, all whilst risking it for the hard working NHS staff simply because they wanted a fuck.

I've had family members who are frontline workers. Yes had. 3 recently from people who had violated the lockdown rules.

Myself being a key worker reading everywhere on here people dying to meet people.

Once their own loved ones have died, then its "serious" for them.

People do not surprise me and reading on here, I can see people for their there true colours."

No ones forcing you or anyone else to go near the “unclean”, just keep your mask and gloves on and cross over the road when we approach

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By *heorgasmaddictMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Not until next year. People can't even be trusted to wash their hands without being told by the government.

I've been offered five meets in the last two weeks. People are still meeting. One guy told me he was at a party on Friday night - he got home at 5.30am, had sex with his GF and then she went to work SHE'S A CHILDREN'S NURSE!

No wonder 40,000 people are dead in a few weeks.

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By *oldswarriorMan
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Not until next year. People can't even be trusted to wash their hands without being told by the government.

I've been offered five meets in the last two weeks. People are still meeting. One guy told me he was at a party on Friday night - he got home at 5.30am, had sex with his GF and then she went to work SHE'S A CHILDREN'S NURSE!

No wonder 40,000 people are dead in a few weeks.

"

One guy told you this

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By *heorgasmaddictMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"very sensible answers here .

when you read some peoples status theyre saying cant wait for lockdown to end then i can go clubbing etc I've not put it as a status but I am definitely waiting for just this. Its having such a detrimental effect on my mental well being. As I'm one of those that only met in clubs for well over 18 years... I've popped into them socially many many times.. and have met my friends in them every weekend for years and years with few exceptions.. for one time I took time out. I filled it with my other big part of my lifestyle...motorsport which is currently all stopped too. So leaves the third bit my work... ohhh that's stopped... so yes I am anxiously awaiting clubs open and tracks etc..and will be there the day they are allowed to be open. Not just for sex..and to be fair its likely to be quite an emotional day for people like me when they all reopen..but for my friends and my lifestyle "

I'll be amazed if clubs open this year.

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By *heorgasmaddictMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Not until next year. People can't even be trusted to wash their hands without being told by the government.

I've been offered five meets in the last two weeks. People are still meeting. One guy told me he was at a party on Friday night - he got home at 5.30am, had sex with his GF and then she went to work SHE'S A CHILDREN'S NURSE!

No wonder 40,000 people are dead in a few weeks.

One guy told you this "

Yes, one guy - what's your point? Should i just not believe anything anyone tells me?

Nice eye roll.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its shocking to read peoples messages on this site at times.

People are literally gagging to meet people to have sex!

When the ban is lifted, things wont go back to normal. The virus isnt going to pull a magic trick and disappear.

There is no current vaccine. None. Probably won't be for 1-2 years. So I may not meet people for that long really. Well in the sexual sense anyway.

People play games with their life for a meaningless orgasm because they cannot control their urges.

People will get the virus again. Go the hospital. Get treatments, all whilst risking it for the hard working NHS staff simply because they wanted a fuck.

I've had family members who are frontline workers. Yes had. 3 recently from people who had violated the lockdown rules.

Myself being a key worker reading everywhere on here people dying to meet people.

Once their own loved ones have died, then its "serious" for them.

People do not surprise me and reading on here, I can see people for their there true colours.

No ones forcing you or anyone else to go near the “unclean”, just keep your mask and gloves on and cross over the road when we approach "

I never said I was forced.

I never mentioned not leaving my house when the ban is lifted.

I am talking about intimate bodily contact mate.

I didnt talk about "unclean" you've just quoted yourself for some reason.

Plus I wont be crossing the road if you or anyone else approaches. What I will be doing is pull people up when they disregard the severity of the situation.

If you want to go out with your Mrs and meet every Tom dick and harry which I'm sure you will, have a thought for someone who'll be working in that hospital to take care of you because you couldn't keep that pecker in your trousers.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich


"how soon will you meet again after lockdown rules are lifted ???.

i know clubs will take a long time to open again but private meets and parties will be going ahead no doubt ???

just curious x"

I will be concentrating on meeting my friends and family. Plus my fwb. I may consider a few social meets towards the end of the year.

We all do actually need to spread the virus in the end, it’s the only way we will achieve herd immunity. We just need to limit the numbers of people that get it at the same time.

I had only recently started going to clubs, so they can wait. I totally understand that those that already have regular friends there would want to get back to seeing them again soon as possible though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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People will get the virus again. Go the hospital. Get treatments, all whilst risking it for the hard working NHS staff simply because they wanted a fuck."

Ermmm.. I know 2 paramedic fuck buddies who are regularly meeting up for sex and then going home to their families. No one here is saying they are jumping straight back in, a lot have said when they feel it's safe for 'them' to do so, not you.

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By *mcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Warrington


"Can't believe how irresponsible some of the replies are here.

Your all forgetting why lockdow came about... It was to give the NHS chance to build and organise the capacity to deal with the same problem which will be there tommorow as per was there 2 months ago... Only this time there is a far greater chance of a life support machine bring available for you to use... That's the only difference!

When lock down is relaxed to see how it goes.. It's along the lines of expanding your circles to maybe a few max other people outside yourhousehold and sticking to it... Meeting new and random people is ridiculously irresponsible and they danger is no less to the people you may well hurt around you.

It's not going anywhere, nor is a vaccine appearing on the horizon. I'll take my 0'4% chance of dying. "

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"We will be more interested in getting back to sailing and travelling than fab meeting to be honest.

Thought of the day....

The decisions and choices we make in the moment will ripple through the rest of time, be the best you can be for those you Iove if not yourself x

Surely travelling is just as risky as you won’t know anyone that you will come into contact with?

Plus is there anything or anywhere that will have the same appeal after this?

Sorry, I didn’t mean we would be jumping straight into doing it as soon as lockdown was over, I just meant that is what we are missing the most and would like to get back to before arranging fab meets.

We have both lost most of our family at young ages, all of which can be heredity so already live with fear of dying young, this is another worry of course and will try to be as sensible as possible to avoid risk but we do want some life back at some point.

Agreed and apologies, it wasn’t a snipe, just a thought.

Fingers crossed we get some form of “normal” back at some point. "

There’s no need to apologise but thank you, I just wanted to explain what I meant, sometimes I see the big picture in my head and not put it all into words so perhaps doesn’t come across in the right way lol

Got everything crossed for that x

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon


"very sensible answers here .

when you read some peoples status theyre saying cant wait for lockdown to end then i can go clubbing etc I've not put it as a status but I am definitely waiting for just this. Its having such a detrimental effect on my mental well being. As I'm one of those that only met in clubs for well over 18 years... I've popped into them socially many many times.. and have met my friends in them every weekend for years and years with few exceptions.. for one time I took time out. I filled it with my other big part of my lifestyle...motorsport which is currently all stopped too. So leaves the third bit my work... ohhh that's stopped... so yes I am anxiously awaiting clubs open and tracks etc..and will be there the day they are allowed to be open. Not just for sex..and to be fair its likely to be quite an emotional day for people like me when they all reopen..but for my friends and my lifestyle

I'll be amazed if clubs open this year. "
similar. No work. Motorsports all gone. Take car to shows, that's hanging in the balance, club side has got a lot less for us over the last year so not a biggy, we have each other. On a brighter note my cars never looked this clean, even underneath, just a shame it does not even move now. To better days we hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you go back to the 80s and read some of the mail papers was receiving, like I'm only young and meeting men in clubs is my life, as a gay my sex love or ever love life is over forever. This is how gays felt when thousands was dying from AIDS, things change there's aways hope.

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