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By *az080378 OP Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

Today I had to go to the supermarket, walking round wondering if today might be the day I contract the virus as I've left my house, then that leads to thinking about the worst case scenario and what would happen if I died,who would be there for my kids...

I'm wearing my 'little bit dramatic' t-shirt today so my obsessive thoughts were allowed

Anyway, how do people do this every day, anyone that still has to work but mostly all those who work in a medical environment,it must be so scary and I have endless admiration and respect for them.

Then on the flip side you just get people going out without giving a fuck, taking their kids down the beach and ignoring the lockdown.

How can people be so selfish?

Sorry, just a bit of a rant..

Does anyone else find themselves totally overwhelmed at times during this nightmare and how do you deal with it?

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

i have days like that and i could quite easily stay indoors till all this has passed but i wake each morning n push myself to get dressed then i think well we 1 day nearer normality which gives me that extra push .Dont know if that helps op but im here if you need to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm working in a quite a difficult environment at the moment where people aren't following the guidelines, for a number of reasons, none of them good enough ones. It does make me angry that people aren't following the rules even though they have been symptomatic.

My children are still going to school.

I'm trying to remain realistic about it. Mainly by accepting that I will probably get it but I will most likely be okay.

I have been very anxious about it but that has just made me feel very poorly and demotivated.

I don't know what the answer is other than to try and be hopeful.

These are hard times x

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Today I had to go to the supermarket, walking round wondering if today might be the day I contract the virus as I've left my house, then that leads to thinking about the worst case scenario and what would happen if I died,who would be there for my kids...

I'm wearing my 'little bit dramatic' t-shirt today so my obsessive thoughts were allowed

Anyway, how do people do this every day, anyone that still has to work but mostly all those who work in a medical environment,it must be so scary and I have endless admiration and respect for them.

Then on the flip side you just get people going out without giving a fuck, taking their kids down the beach and ignoring the lockdown.

How can people be so selfish?

Sorry, just a bit of a rant..

Does anyone else find themselves totally overwhelmed at times during this nightmare and how do you deal with it? "

Your feelings are perfectly normal in the situation, you wouldn't be human if it all didn't get to you at times. I hate going near a supermarket, I'm convinced that is where the virus is being transmitted.

All you can do is say 'this too will pass', wash your hands and shopping and love your kids all you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm wearing my 'little bit dramatic' t-shirt today so my obsessive thoughts were allowed

Anyway, how do people do this every day, anyone that still has to work but mostly all those who work in a medical environment,it must be so scary and I have endless admiration and respect for them.

Then on the flip side you just get people going out without giving a fuck, taking their kids down the beach and ignoring the lockdown.

How can people be so selfish?

Sorry, just a bit of a rant..

Does anyone else find themselves totally overwhelmed at times during this nightmare and how do you deal with it? "

Perhaps it is a life lesson for just how privileged we are when we think we are hard done by.

There are places in this world where people wonder if there will be a missile strike tonight, whether they will wake up in the morning. There are children in poor countries hoping they find a dry doorway to sleep in and find some food in a dustbin to survive. The list of human misery outside of our country is endless.

What we have been given is a small taste of what life is like for some people with no hope of things ever changing.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I keep repeating this because it resonated with me when I first saw it. We're going through a global trauma. There'll be a lot of PTSD coming out of this. We're suddenly helpless against an invisible and all encompassing enemy, our lives turned upside down.

Feeling overwhelmed is normal. Feeling numb or paralysed is normal. Out of control. Angry. Exhausted. Panicky. Shit sleep and eating patterns. Normal.

I think we have to get out of this before we can resolve it. But know you're not at all alone. We're in this together. Your feelings are a natural response. Take comfort in your community, help if it helps you feel solidarity. Find things you have power over. Practice self care rituals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am s front line worker and work within the care industry ! It’s very real and unfortunately our company aren’t protecting us! So basically if we haven’t got the correct equipment we don’t do the job! It’s as simple as that!

For me though because I’ve kept working the transfer from not working to working won’t effect me! I don’t have time to think about things too much so I don’t let it fester!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Bless you. I get that feeling most days and I'm sure lots of people do, it's the fear of the unknown. Just follow the guidelines, I'm sure you and your family will be ok. {{hugs}}

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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago

Oo err Devon

I have days where I find it harder to be positive and can feel overwhelmed with all the crazyness going on around me that out of my control... I have a kid and it's changed me dramatically from being quite relaxed to far more anxious.. About them rather than me...

But I'm still holding onto my rule of thinking of 3 things I have enjoyed every day before I go to bed. I believe it does help me wake up more positive. I also go to sleep listening to some positive thought training when I'm really struggling.

I am recovering from the virus and have to admit have had times of being quite scared about who my lil one would be safe with if I wasn't about... But these thoughts are natural... And during this time it has shown me how many lovely people I have in my life.. And who treasure my kid too

. So as much as I cannot stop worrying completely.. I feel less uneasy than I did x

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By *az080378 OP Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

Thanks guys, it is the not knowing and feeling vulnerable that's hard.

I totally agree that in some countries that vulnerable,scared feeling is there every day way before this virus started.

I think it's absolutely important like some of you said to remind yourself of all you are grateful for too.

Some days are just harder than others for all of us xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm working. I'm a carer. Everyday I fear catching this shite. I fear passing it on.

Today my company announced they want volunteers to join the covid response team. They want people willing to work directly with covid patients. And I'm that idiot that said OK.

I'm honestly shit scared of this crap. I could give it to my family. I could pass it to a client and kill them.

Every day is very emotional. I see the fear in the eyes of the people I care for as they know I could carry it in. I see the fear in my kids eyes (one child has a low immune system but not low enough to be considered NHS vulnerable)

I deal with it with a daft sense of humour. By facing it head on. By following guidelines.

And a fucking good cry in my car at the end of my working day

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Everyday is a gamble. You could be hit by a car tomorrow. I am a frontline worker who would not change my job for the world as caring for others is what i do best. Scarey times ahead but i just continue with life as usual and try not think about it too much. It is not good that we are working without the protective equipment we need but it is my choice to remain in the job i love.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm currently working from home, in not ideal environment, think about a sofa, a coffee table, keyboard on my knees, coupled with chronic back pain!

Yes I have my pain meds, but I am having to double up with ibuprofen just to keep myself sane and trying to handle the pain I am in.

I'm single, I live alone and I don't drive, so I can only shop for what I am able to carry at the time, so just now I am shopping maybe every 2 days, as I need to buy food that I could usually buy at work, so yes, I am putting myself at more risk than I should and yes I am feeling alone and isolated but feel I still need to meet deadlines etc and I have just indulged myself, in my first 'woe is me' cry! Which hasn't happened in a long time!

I'm usually a really strong person, but I think at times, we have to let go of our emotions and if needs must, just indulge and hopefully come out the other side feeling just that little bit better.

So I wish everyone else well, who just be feeling the same x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'm currently working from home, in not ideal environment, think about a sofa, a coffee table, keyboard on my knees, coupled with chronic back pain!

Yes I have my pain meds, but I am having to double up with ibuprofen just to keep myself sane and trying to handle the pain I am in.

I'm usually a really strong person, but I think at times, we have to let go of our emotions and if needs must, just indulge and hopefully come out the other side feeling just that little bit better.

So I wish everyone else well, who just be feeling the same x"

Big hugs to you xx

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

So I wish everyone else well, who just might be feeling the same x

Big hugs to you xx"

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm currently working from home, in not ideal environment, think about a sofa, a coffee table, keyboard on my knees, coupled with chronic back pain!

Yes I have my pain meds, but I am having to double up with ibuprofen just to keep myself sane and trying to handle the pain I am in.

I'm usually a really strong person, but I think at times, we have to let go of our emotions and if needs must, just indulge and hopefully come out the other side feeling just that little bit better.

So I wish everyone else well, who just be feeling the same x"

Big hugs from me, too.

I should be working, and tried, offered to help at a care home nearby (normally work at a day centre that is now shut). It was my first experience ever working with the elderly, and it was awful. I wasn't sure what exactly was required of me (was supposed to be doing activities, with no plan and very limited resources), I felt out of my depth, missed my team and my service users. But I would have got over those obstacles, eventually. Unfortunately, it was my knee that was not up to the challenge

. It did not like the fact that there was a lot of walking, including up and down the stairs, with barely any opportunity to sit down and rest. I lasted 4 days

. Currently trying to do some online training while awaiting further instructions from my manager regarding what she'd like me to be doing. Feeling guilty at times that there are people in need of care and support and I'm just sitting at home...

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I'm currently working from home, in not ideal environment, think about a sofa, a coffee table, keyboard on my knees, coupled with chronic back pain!

Yes I have my pain meds, but I am having to double up with ibuprofen just to keep myself sane and trying to handle the pain I am in.

I'm usually a really strong person, but I think at times, we have to let go of our emotions and if needs must, just indulge and hopefully come out the other side feeling just that little bit better.

So I wish everyone else well, who just be feeling the same x

Big hugs from me, too.

. It did not like the fact that there was a lot of walking, including up and down the stairs, with barely any opportunity to sit down and rest. I lasted 4 days

I understand how you are feeling, especially with the guilt aspect of it all and my heart does go out to you, as I know having limitations piss us off at times but unfortunately there is nothing we can do about it, and you have to understand there is not much you can do about it than manage your own pain restrictions and how to deal with them.

I have daily 10 minute calls with my team and whilst they say all the right things, like 'take as many breaks as you need', nobody who has better working conditions than I have, has offered to take on some of my workload. But seeing as I work in accounts and it is our year end, the deadlines haven't shifted, and I feel obligated to carry my weight but I am off on Friday, so that is helping me get through this week, so all I am thinking is 'little steps' at this time, so I hope you can find some resolution xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm currently working from home, in not ideal environment, think about a sofa, a coffee table, keyboard on my knees, coupled with chronic back pain!

Yes I have my pain meds, but I am having to double up with ibuprofen just to keep myself sane and trying to handle the pain I am in.

I'm usually a really strong person, but I think at times, we have to let go of our emotions and if needs must, just indulge and hopefully come out the other side feeling just that little bit better.

So I wish everyone else well, who just be feeling the same x

Big hugs from me, too.

. It did not like the fact that there was a lot of walking, including up and down the stairs, with barely any opportunity to sit down and rest. I lasted 4 days

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I'm wearing my 'little bit dramatic' t-shirt today so my obsessive thoughts were allowed

Anyway, how do people do this every day, anyone that still has to work but mostly all those who work in a medical environment,it must be so scary and I have endless admiration and respect for them.

Then on the flip side you just get people going out without giving a fuck, taking their kids down the beach and ignoring the lockdown.

How can people be so selfish?

Sorry, just a bit of a rant..

Does anyone else find themselves totally overwhelmed at times during this nightmare and how do you deal with it? "

I've only been to the shop twice since the lockdown, both times I've come home and scrubbed my hands, door handles, door lock, anything I may have touched and the milk bottles I bought from the shop. I'm not scared of dying, I'm scared of leaving my daughter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP totally understand the feeling. I haven't been to the supermarket for three weeks. Kept putting it off. Felt terrified if I'm honest. I rang my brother this morning, my 'Big Brov'

he put my mind at rest, gave me advice and made me laugh, bless him. Felt really uneasy walking around the supermarket. Could quite easily have burst into tears. Then I got to the checkout and could tell the cashier was nervous and really didn't want to be there. So I tried my best to make her laugh and thanked her. I drove home with a huge sigh of relief that I had finally done the shopping, and gratitude for those putting themselves out there every day.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I hear you OP. I've had a bad couple of days trying to get my head around it all again. I was actually thinking I'll go to the supermarket today so I'm more likely to get it because my children will be better off with their dad.

I posted something similar on fb and a lot of people feel the same, it's comforting to know my extreme thoughts are normal!

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Probally the most surreal event I've ever known.deseryed streets,queues at supermarkets,social distancing,people walking around in masks.

Feels like a bad dream sometimes and shows how fragile society can be.

Scary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP totally understand the feeling. I haven't been to the supermarket for three weeks. Kept putting it off. Felt terrified if I'm honest. I rang my brother this morning, my 'Big Brov'

Mrs N works in grocery retail. Every day she goes out I wonder if this is the day we get it or got it. I'm hoping we are the 80% ers as it's almost inevitable we will. Best not to dwell on it. What will be will be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gorgeous supportive post guys

A good way to reduce stress is to stay away from the news. Get your daily dose at 5pm if needed but then keep away from it as much as you can.

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

I'm wearing my 'little bit dramatic' t-shirt today so my obsessive thoughts were allowed

Anyway, how do people do this every day, anyone that still has to work but mostly all those who work in a medical environment,it must be so scary and I have endless admiration and respect for them.

Then on the flip side you just get people going out without giving a fuck, taking their kids down the beach and ignoring the lockdown.

How can people be so selfish?

Sorry, just a bit of a rant..

Does anyone else find themselves totally overwhelmed at times during this nightmare and how do you deal with it? "
I feel the same,went to supermarket yesterday it was stressfull,do not plan to go for a few weeks now I hipe

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By *candiumWoman
over a year ago

oban

Bizzarely it doesn't scare me and social distancing has made little difference to my life.

Yes going round the supermarket is a little stressful but that's to do with not having someone with me to help and reduce the pain and being scared of breaking the rules and getting shouted at.

I guess I see it statistically...Even the worst version I've seen of the numbers has 80% having nothing worse than major flu. So even I do catch it in Lidl, the chances are that's all I'll have.

I appreciate that if you are immunosuppressed or have respiratory issues the numbers skew and shopping is more risky though.

Where I live I could walk to a beach barbeque and be 50m away from everyone the entire journey so I see that as less risky than Tesco.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

This is a fabulous response Swing.

Those of you who skip through, READ THIS:

"I keep repeating this because it resonated with me when I first saw it. We're going through a global trauma. There'll be a lot of PTSD coming out of this. We're suddenly helpless against an invisible and all encompassing enemy, our lives turned upside down.

Feeling overwhelmed is normal. Feeling numb or paralysed is normal. Out of control. Angry. Exhausted. Panicky. Shit sleep and eating patterns. Normal.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"This is a fabulous response Swing.

Those of you who skip through, READ THIS:

Feeling overwhelmed is normal. Feeling numb or paralysed is normal. Out of control. Angry. Exhausted. Panicky. Shit sleep and eating patterns. Normal.

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By *az080378 OP Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

"This is a fabulous response Swing.

Those of you who skip through, READ THIS:

Feeling overwhelmed is normal. Feeling numb or paralysed is normal. Out of control. Angry. Exhausted. Panicky. Shit sleep and eating patterns. Normal.

Swing always has the best responses, true words of wisdom

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By *az080378 OP Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

Again,thanks for everyone's responses, it's rubbish that so many of us feel this way but as has already been said we are not alone which is the most important thing.

My inbox is always open if anyone ever needs to rant, or is worried or just wants to chat.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone else find themselves totally overwhelmed at times during this nightmare and how do you deal with it? "

I rationalise it, and think that out of every 10,000 people in the UK, 9,999 haven't died from Covid-19. Then I think of things I do, or have done (e.g. I smoked for 18 years), and I realise my chances of dying from them were unbelievably high by comparison (e.g. 1 in 3 smokers die from their habit). And I think, it's so fucked up that I worry about Covid-19, yet I never gave a second thought to smoking.

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By *candiumWoman
over a year ago

oban

this. Humans have a very interesting understanding of risk and probability. Flying is the safest way of travel yet people worry about getting on planes. You're more likely to be hit by lightening yet people still by lottery tickets.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I'm just cracking on with life while sticking to the necessary restrictions. I'm sure most of us have or had relatives who this time 76 years ago were doing their final training exercises before being sent to fight their way inland in France against the mighty Wehrmacht knowing that they probably wouldn't come home, that must have been far more terrifying than sitting at home for a few weeks to avoid a flu virus. I'm missing seeing friends and family and hope vulnerable people are keeping safe, but personally I'm more concerned about the enormous recession that will follow than I am about the virus itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm just cracking on with life while sticking to the necessary restrictions. I'm sure most of us have or had relatives who this time 76 years ago were doing their final training exercises before being sent to fight their way inland in France against the mighty Wehrmacht knowing that they probably wouldn't come home, that must have been far more terrifying than sitting at home for a few weeks to avoid a flu virus. I'm missing seeing friends and family and hope vulnerable people are keeping safe, but personally I'm more concerned about the enormous recession that will follow than I am about the virus itself."

Yeah you are right mate. This is the way to out it in perspective. It is exactly what my Mum would say were she still alive and she lived through V1s and V2s etc in Kent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a key worker with a child and taking my chances, I'm more likely to die in a car accident on the way somewhere then coronavirus.

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

Support my campaigng any one who thinks the virus is serious they dont think they will need the NHS when it is full Ban them from being able to use it for anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember you're more likely to survive the virus. The figures for recovery far far over weigh the ones that don't. You may be ill but if you are fit and healthy you'll be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the sentiment that your chances of survival are pretty high but........ drowning in your own mucus doesn't sound too good a way to go and it's pretty considerate not to pass it onto loved ones who may not be as lucky as you.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

It’s a stressful and worrying time for most and is obviously consuming most people’s thoughts and lives, I’d just be careful as you can when you go out and remember most people who contract it recover so try not to think about the worst that can happen, normal life is still happening alongside this, I lost two people on Monday one family and one I’ve known all my life, not through the virus so not a great time at the moment without the virus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My anxiety is through the roof!

I've only left the house twice in the past 4 weeks, both times for essentials from the local shop.

I'm high risk due to severe asthma and find the whole thing quite frightening tbh.

My other half is 2000 miles away too which is just perfect!

Yeah...I'm not enjoying lockdown.

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