FabSwingers.com forum: desperation when lock down ends

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

desperation when lock down ends ...so im asking this question due to the amount of message saying i wont be so selective in who i meet when this is over as ill be so called desperate ??? ...... seeing it in the forums too guys saying they will be well in when this finishes.

so my question is to all women men couples will you lower your standards because your desperate or will you carry on as you did before ? .

for me / us it will be as before nothing will change in how we pick people infact there will be less to pick from due to the amount of guys added to blocklist who asked to meet during lockdown including some ive met before...

this is not a guy bashing post ive base it on how i meet and i only meet guys... so desperation or as normal ??

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've no intention of lowering my standards at all.

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

I will approach everything in the same way as I did before. I'm not the desperate type

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I’m never desperate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've no intention of lowering my standards at all. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I will approach everything in the same way as I did before. I'm not the desperate type "

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke

so my question is to all women men couples will you lower your standards because your desperate or will you carry on as you did before ? .

Absolutely will not lower our standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've no intention of lowering my standards at all. "

Same

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke

Also. There are two cures for desperation.

1. Play with your partner.

2. Masturbation.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

From what you read there's going to be gangbangs galore, but with single guys being hand picked and with over a 50% not turning up rate in the past it looks like the hand picked process will be relaxed. Can see a free for all until the thirst is quenched and then standards may then play a part. Can you imagine it in the clubs, barely an hello and you're dragged into a room or maybe on the spot just going for it.

Jest I jest.

Oh! The question. No, op, we'll remain the same picky selves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also. There are two cures for desperation.

1. Play with your partner.

2. Masturbation.

3. doxy wand .... mines on overtime

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

People might finally be able to get the gangbangs that never happen if they arrange them on here.

Seriously though most women probably have at least one regular who they meet, i know i already get past meets offering to meet (before the lockdown) again and i haven't been meeting for over a year now.

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By *ovestrapMan
over a year ago

London

I'm thinking the "desperate" may not be the correct word to use here.

We all agree there are time we are so horny that unusual things turn us on.

Maybe people will meet other that they wound not normlay after the lock down?

Rather than saying you will be desperate to meet someone.

You may meet someone that you would normally not be interisted in.

Just a thought.

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

No, I know the person I will see first.

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By *dsindyTV/TS
over a year ago

East Lancashire

No reason to lower any standards you may have....none at all

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I shall be applying my usual procedure of a written examination, followed by an interview panel, second interview to decide from the short list, and six month trial period

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are people gonna be that desperate really....no I shall keep the same things I look for in a potential meet the same but I bet the clubs n stuff will be better than ever cos people just wanna interact ...wether it be chatting or more ...some good vibes cumming

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm thinking the "desperate" may not be the correct word to use here.

We all agree there are time we are so horny that unusual things turn us on.

Maybe people will meet other that they wound not normlay after the lock down?

Rather than saying you will be desperate to meet someone.

You may meet someone that you would normally not be interisted in.

Just a thought.

if i was not interested before why would i change my mind ?? so no i wont .. ill stick to how ive always picked and desperation is not my word its what the guys are telling me /and what said in the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've no intention of lowering my standards at all. "

Exactly this.

I've been here on n off for around 9 years. I did go through a stage my horn went through the roof and I needed to scratch an itch. It probably lasted a year, two at the most, and during that stage there was a slight slippage of standards. Since then, I'm back to the "would rather use the wand" than settle. So my meets are far and few between (as well as a temporary break in 2018 when I met someone

I would dearly love to have a new partner in crime, but it takes time (and trust).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been desperate in my life and that isn't going to change! Just being a grown up human being and getting on with lots of stuff

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I shall be applying my usual procedure of a written examination, followed by an interview panel, second interview to decide from the short list, and six month trial period

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carry on as we were we aren’t desperate

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Nope, I'll still only fuck people I'm attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, def not going to drop them standard's.... My first meets won't be with someone new, will be with someone I've met before to clear the horn goggles first lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You lot ever here the term beggars can't be choosers

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I doubt the end of lockdown will alter my meets; I had none before, had none during so it is unlikely that I will get any offers afterwards!

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By *litterBombWoman
over a year ago

Whenever Wherever Whatever

Won't be lowering my standards. Never been desperate. Quality always before quantity

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

I’ve never been desperate either

Far to choosy for that

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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago

near ipswich

nope i have a regular couple but looking forward to seeing them when its all over.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"desperation when lock down ends ...so im asking this question due to the amount of message saying i wont be so selective in who i meet when this is over as ill be so called desperate ??? ...... seeing it in the forums too guys saying they will be well in when this finishes.

so my question is to all women men couples will you lower your standards because your desperate or will you carry on as you did before ? .

this is not a guy bashing post ive base it on how i meet and i only meet guys... so desperation or as normal ?? "

I don't understand why a guy would message a woman saying you won't be selective when it's safe to meet,

Women hold the ace card and with the amount of horny men post apocalypse the women can surely be even more choosy not less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I won't lower my standards. Going a few months without sex isn't going to kill anyone.

It's just sex and my hand can scratch that itch.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I think using the term

Lowering standards could be seen as a little demeaning or putting people into a hierarchy

Generally it is suggested on fab that another is just

"Not your type " or "preference "

Not that the person is a low standard and you are above them in standard (see countless threads on leagues)

I would however perhaps add or note

Standards do exist

People with high or low standards of hygiene I think we could agree there that standards exist

However perhaps the op also could have meant would you consider broadening your range of preferences

For example I would not suggest hair colour is a standard high or low you may prefer blonds however with the horn dark hair may now be in the frame , same with height or locality

I'd suggest there are a number of "widening" options that would not mean a decent of the insulting term standards

I absolutely know I am only the preference of a very small minority of ladies .for those who are not attracted to me am I of a lower standard than your preference?

As it happens after all this my criteria for the ideal lady has narrowed but absolutely those who do not tempt me are of no lower standard , just different and not to my preference

Obviously I'm fully aware that lowering standards is just a metaphor

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

the desperate will remain desperate and the others will carry on as before..

Perhaps there will be more choice once 'normallity' resumes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I intend to be the same as before. I’ll only meet people I genuinely get along with and find attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think using the term

Lowering standards could be seen as a little demeaning or putting people into a hierarchy

Generally it is suggested on fab that another is just

"Not your type " or "preference "

Not that the person is a low standard and you are above them in standard (see countless threads on leagues)

I would however perhaps add or note

Standards do exist

People with high or low standards of hygiene I think we could agree there that standards exist

However perhaps the op also could have meant would you consider broadening your range of preferences

For example I would not suggest hair colour is a standard high or low you may prefer blonds however with the horn dark hair may now be in the frame , same with height or locality

I'd suggest there are a number of "widening" options that would not mean a decent of the insulting term standards

I absolutely know I am only the preference of a very small minority of ladies .for those who are not attracted to me am I of a lower standard than your preference?

As it happens after all this my criteria for the ideal lady has narrowed but absolutely those who do not tempt me are of no lower standard , just different and not to my preference

Obviously I'm fully aware that lowering standards is just a metaphor

You make valid points but yes it is just terminology.

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By *exyCouple999Couple
over a year ago

South Bucks

so my question is to all women men couples will you lower your standards because your desperate or will you carry on as you did before ? .

this is not a guy bashing post ive base it on how i meet and i only meet guys... so desperation or as normal ?? "

We never had any standards to start with ! lol

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

Why would anyone lower the standard of choice? If anything it should be raised as so many more desperate peeps are going to be out and about and therefore more to wade through to get the right one!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I think a lot of people will be reconnecting with fwb and fb before thinking about starting anything with anybody new, but I do understand what you mean and can see the request messages going mad as they try their luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No lowering of standards here....nor would i expect others to!

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Catching up with my friends and celebrating the birthdays that have happened during lockdown are my priorities.

Swinging meets will have even less priority than before and I'll be more selective than previously as I'll continue to be risk aware

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I intend to be the same as before. I’ll only meet people I genuinely get along with and find attractive "

Same here, but we do intend to create more opportunities

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

so my question is to all women men couples will you lower your standards because your desperate or will you carry on as you did before ? .

this is not a guy bashing post ive base it on how i meet and i only meet guys... so desperation or as normal ??

We never had any standards to start with ! lol "

Oh I bet you do !!!

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By *angbangFantasyWoman
over a year ago

London

so my question is to all women men couples will you lower your standards because your desperate or will you carry on as you did before ? .

this is not a guy bashing post ive base it on how i meet and i only meet guys... so desperation or as normal ?? "

Will stay the same. I have guys I already know and have met that I will meet first x

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By *merald Eyes XWoman
over a year ago

Can you find me….

"I've no intention of lowering my standards at all. "

As as.....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The same or higher, unless back with an ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not desperate at all. I got high standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might be tempted to a pint or 3 but not going mad...

Coffee out somewhere too,

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By *rimKardashianMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Tiny violins at the ready hehe ...

I don't get a sniff either way so back to the status quo when this is all over.

Course I get the relative excitement for this to all pass/lockdown to end, but in my mind you can't just go around sleeping with anyone for the sake of it.

That sounds overly mechanical/robotic rather than enjoyable!

Good luck to you all on the other side of this though. My luck my change?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so my question is to all women men couples will you lower your standards because your desperate or will you carry on as you did before ? .

this is not a guy bashing post ive base it on how i meet and i only meet guys... so desperation or as normal ?? "

I have no standards - I was always desperate

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By *anejohnkent6263Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

With so many guys wanting fun I may put my standards up ...yes up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"With so many guys wanting fun I may put my standards up ...yes up"

I can understand this as there has been a big influx of guys local to me too

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