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By *ove Bunnies2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

basingstoke

It seems the only businesses that will be making any money through out this dreadful time will be the funeral places. We think people that have died because of this horrific virus should have their funeral for next to nothing. Times are hard enough at the moment. Stay safe everyone. X

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Then all the undertakers go bankrupt? Then what would happen...mass burials, just thrown into a hole in the ground?

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By *ove Bunnies2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

basingstoke

Funerals are extortionate prices at the best of times, just think they should be less so at this time. X

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Funerals are extortionate prices at the best of times, just think they should be less so at this time. X"

Reduced prices maybe, yes. But undertakers need to make a some profit to keep their businesses going.

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By *aygnt2021Man
over a year ago

Kidderminster

My nans is 3and half grand and and only 10 people csn go and no flowers no wake

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

All due respect. It's not all that straight forward with funerals... a lot of work goes into them.

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By *ustKeepSwinging999Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

We found the cars / flowers / wake mounted up the costs as opposed to the funeral itself.

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By *astledking19TV/TS
over a year ago

buckingham

As an ex undertaker the price of a funeral is some what so involved just not the case of 5 old men sat around d the church drinking tea.

Looking at the price of a cremation will cost 33% of the total bill.

Flowers are at least £45 per letter.

Part 2 cremation paper at least £85 for an independent doctor to do the relevant paperwork for the cremation to go ahead.

Not included the orders of service,press release,buying of a burial plot.

The list goes on and on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the cost of a funeral has to go down due to the limitations on what you can do. All I see anyway.

I've been in the unfortunate position of having to arrange 3 family funerals in the past 5 months. There is definitely a cost to funerals but I couldn't help but feel in each case the funeral director saw my family coming.

You're still in a state of shock, there isn't much time to weigh up choices - you sign up for the easiest option to make the problem go away. By the third one, I was sick of it all.

I would like to think most funeral directors are good people and would be sensitive in their pricing and approach but I bet there are one or two who are rubbing their hands at the prospect of the coming months.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I don't think enough is known about arranging funerals or the process. I found I had very little idea when I arranged my Mums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jobs a job they deserve to be paid. Can’t give everyone a free bee

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By *astledking19TV/TS
over a year ago

buckingham

It’s always the little thing that add up in the cost.

Undertakers generally make considerable amounts on profit on coffins.

But also a fixed price to convey the deceased to hub branch.

£250 for a pick up within a 30mile round journey.

Anything over would have price added to £1.50 per running mile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s always the little thing that add up in the cost.

Undertakers generally make considerable amounts on profit on coffins.

But also a fixed price to convey the deceased to hub branch.

£250 for a pick up within a 30mile round journey.

Anything over would have price added to £1.50 per running mile"

Paying the council to dig the hole, the machines, picking your plot, headstone, venue etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think enough is known about arranging funerals or the process. I found I had very little idea when I arranged my Mums. "

Totally agree! Was in the same boat.

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By *ambsLad2Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

I thought that £105 to have the notice of my dad's death put in the local rag was a bit fucking steep.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Leeds Council have announced that all funerals must be cremations with no one present. Even the Chief Rabbi of Leeds had to have this last week. No Shiva and no burial as his faith requires.

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By *astledking19TV/TS
over a year ago

buckingham

£105 for a press notice....I’d would use email or as in the case of my late mother....I used face book and asked others to forward the message to those whom don’t use social media

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Leeds Council have announced that all funerals must be cremations with no one present. Even the Chief Rabbi of Leeds had to have this last week. No Shiva and no burial as his faith requires. "

Just read about this and the Council statement seems to suggest that only applies to cremations and not burials:

"In relation to burials and graveside services, burials will go ahead as planned.

The statement added: “In line with government guidance, we would advise that families consider restricting attendance at graveside services to close family and friends only, so to minimise the number of people gathering at the graveside.”

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Thanks for clarification

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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago

near ipswich


"As an ex undertaker the price of a funeral is some what so involved just not the case of 5 old men sat around d the church drinking tea.

Looking at the price of a cremation will cost 33% of the total bill.

Flowers are at least £45 per letter.

Part 2 cremation paper at least £85 for an independent doctor to do the relevant paperwork for the cremation to go ahead.

Not included the orders of service,press release,buying of a burial plot.

The list goes on and on.

"
They also have to recover the deceased either from the morgue a care home or family home a lot of the time these are at very un social hours or weekends.They then have to store the deceased in a chiller sometimes up to 3 or 4 weeks.The office staff have to arrange everything with the crematorium or church all this has to be paid for too.Its not just a case of digging a hole.

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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge

Government should cover the costs.

They can find money to bail out companies, they would have paid to keep that person at home so why not divert for funeral costs.

Would toll be so high if they locked down sooner and also the underground?

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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago

near ipswich


"Government should cover the costs.

They can find money to bail out companies, they would have paid to keep that person at home so why not divert for funeral costs.

Would toll be so high if they locked down sooner and also the underground?"
You do realize the government dont pay for anything? we all do in out taxes and future generations will be paying too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you donate your body to medical science then it's free. They hold services once or twice a year for family too.

Just contact your local hospital/mortuary and they will give you the info and forms.

Know it's not everyone's cup of tea but an arm alone for med students to practice on costs around £5000.

By donating your body you can save lives with organ donation and provide training for future surgeons and doctors plus your family won't be left with a bill for a funeral xx

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

My parents have both done this. They contacted the Medical Department at the local University. The only thing to avoid is dying on Christmas Day as they won't collect you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My parents have both done this. They contacted the Medical Department at the local University. The only thing to avoid is dying on Christmas Day as they won't collect you. "

I'll bear that in mind or at least make sure my freezers empty Christmas Eve lol.

But good for them ,took a while to convince my husband he wasn't keen on me doing it untill I explained there would be no funeral costs ha ha

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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago

near ipswich


"My parents have both done this. They contacted the Medical Department at the local University. The only thing to avoid is dying on Christmas Day as they won't collect you.

I'll bear that in mind or at least make sure my freezers empty Christmas Eve lol.

But good for them ,took a while to convince my husband he wasn't keen on me doing it untill I explained there would be no funeral costs ha ha "
Well you would have taken the turkey out to defrost so that should make a bit of room.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I am Greek Orthodox and in London there is a Greek funeral company who have a advert in Greek newspaper sold in London.They are expensive but they will arrange the funeral with regards to our beliefs as well as flowers , cars etc .About 2 years ago I bought a plot for two it cost £7995 I guess with land at a premium they can charge what they want.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

There is quite a lot involved in an undertaker/funeral director's job that we don't necessarily see. It's not simply a case of getting the body & putting it in a coffin. Most funeral directors do have budget options & given the restrictions on numbers attending etc under current circumstances, I would imagine that most people are opting for a very basic service.

Keep in mind also that funeral directors are front line workers who have been given little to no guidance on use of PPE when handling the bodies of covid19 patients (can't exactly transfer a body into a coffin from 2 metres away!)

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By *astledking19TV/TS
over a year ago

buckingham


"There is quite a lot involved in an undertaker/funeral director's job that we don't necessarily see. It's not simply a case of getting the body & putting it in a coffin. Most funeral directors do have budget options & given the restrictions on numbers attending etc under current circumstances, I would imagine that most people are opting for a very basic service.

Keep in mind also that funeral directors are front line workers who have been given little to no guidance on use of PPE when handling the bodies of covid19 patients (can't exactly transfer a body into a coffin from 2 metres away!) "

Hopefully the deceased would be In a body bag at the hospital. And stored in an infection fridge.

Then I’d would also double bag the deceased and seal the bag with witnesses .signed and dated and labels up as infectious.

Then the risk of infection would be somewhat limited to other co workers.

But we still don’t know if the deceased would still be infectious after the time of death.

Unlike TB which is another kettle of fish.

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By *astledking19TV/TS
over a year ago

buckingham


"If you donate your body to medical science then it's free. They hold services once or twice a year for family too.

Just contact your local hospital/mortuary and they will give you the info and forms.

Know it's not everyone's cup of tea but an arm alone for med students to practice on costs around £5000.

By donating your body you can save lives with organ donation and provide training for future surgeons and doctors plus your family won't be left with a bill for a funeral xx"

Certain universities will only take fresh deceased and also with clauses .

My local university will only accept no infected or diseased deceased.

Bit of an eye opener behind the scenes.

That’s where I’m going when o shuffle off this mortal coil.

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By *oojCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

If everyone told their loved ones what they wanted and researched the options available, then funerals can be to a certain extent be geared to the budget available.

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"If everyone told their loved ones what they wanted and researched the options available, then funerals can be to a certain extent be geared to the budget available."
our funerals will be quick and simple, nothing expensive as waste of money. Family flowers donations if they want. No church service, ashes scatted in Blackpool

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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago

near ipswich


"There is quite a lot involved in an undertaker/funeral director's job that we don't necessarily see. It's not simply a case of getting the body & putting it in a coffin. Most funeral directors do have budget options & given the restrictions on numbers attending etc under current circumstances, I would imagine that most people are opting for a very basic service.

Keep in mind also that funeral directors are front line workers who have been given little to no guidance on use of PPE when handling the bodies of covid19 patients (can't exactly transfer a body into a coffin from 2 metres away!)

Hopefully the deceased would be In a body bag at the hospital. And stored in an infection fridge.

Then I’d would also double bag the deceased and seal the bag with witnesses .signed and dated and labels up as infectious.

Then the risk of infection would be somewhat limited to other co workers.

But we still don’t know if the deceased would still be infectious after the time of death.

Unlike TB which is another kettle of fish."
Bodies are picked up from care homes and family homes too so the risks are not limited there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funerals are extortionate prices at the best of times, just think they should be less so at this time. X"

Buy online, no different really for all the extras. Coffins and urns dont need to come from the funeral home. You'll save hundreds, that can be used elsewhere.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"If everyone told their loved ones what they wanted and researched the options available, then funerals can be to a certain extent be geared to the budget available. our funerals will be quick and simple, nothing expensive as waste of money. Family flowers donations if they want. No church service, ashes scatted in Blackpool "

We scattered Mums where she often sat with a latte and watched the sea. We can go and have a lovely walk and say hello to Nanny Pat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems the only businesses that will be making any money through out this dreadful time will be the funeral places. We think people that have died because of this horrific virus should have their funeral for next to nothing. Times are hard enough at the moment. Stay safe everyone. X"

have had a funeral plan in place for 3 years now, my daughters will not need to pay out for funeral as it is already in place

co-op gold plan £4000 (it may have gone up now)

Cemetery grave plot £745

only thing that has not been arranged as of yet is headstone

but a good burden removed from daughters

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By *ove Bunnies2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

basingstoke


"It seems the only businesses that will be making any money through out this dreadful time will be the funeral places. We think people that have died because of this horrific virus should have their funeral for next to nothing. Times are hard enough at the moment. Stay safe everyone. X

have had a funeral plan in place for 3 years now, my daughters will not need to pay out for funeral as it is already in place

co-op gold plan £4000 (it may have gone up now)

Cemetery grave plot £745

only thing that has not been arranged as of yet is headstone

but a good burden removed from daughters"

Costs a fortune to die. X

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral


"As an ex undertaker the price of a funeral is some what so involved just not the case of 5 old men sat around d the church drinking tea.

Looking at the price of a cremation will cost 33% of the total bill.

Flowers are at least £45 per letter.

Part 2 cremation paper at least £85 for an independent doctor to do the relevant paperwork for the cremation to go ahead.

Not included the orders of service,press release,buying of a burial plot.

The list goes on and on.

"
Like bookmakers you never see a poor one

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By *ove Bunnies2019 OP   Couple
over a year ago

basingstoke


"As an ex undertaker the price of a funeral is some what so involved just not the case of 5 old men sat around d the church drinking tea.

Looking at the price of a cremation will cost 33% of the total bill.

Flowers are at least £45 per letter.

Part 2 cremation paper at least £85 for an independent doctor to do the relevant paperwork for the cremation to go ahead.

Not included the orders of service,press release,buying of a burial plot.

The list goes on and on.

Like bookmakers you never see a poor one"

Exactly

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

When my dad found out his cancer was terminal he wanted to spend a day going round all the local undertakers haggling for the best deal. Sadly my stepmum wouldn't let him - pity as he'd have been in hog heaven!

I learned from the cost of his funeral. Slots at our local crem vary depending on time of day - 9.30am seemed to be the cheapest. I've made my wishes clear to my nearest and dearest, no viewing at any funeral home, lid firmly closed on the cheapest available casket, cheapest slot at the crem, shortest possible service, no wake, one bunch of brightly coloured flowers that's to be taken to the hospice afterwards, no plaque, no marker, ashes to be disposed of by the crem.

If they want to mark my passing then do some good in the community - donate to a charity, plant something that'll attract wildlife, give time to someone who needs it.

As it is my estate will more than cover the cost of my disposal, and if my mum dies before me it's all split between my favourite charities anyway, so keeping it as cheap as possible does more good for them.

I think people don't talk about this stuff enough, so when you're arranging the funeral of a loved one you want to honour them and it becomes easy to go for all the bells and whistles and let the costs spiral. I don't blame any of the funeral directors, they are guided by the family in my experience.

A frank conversation up-front may seem morbid but it tells you what is important to your relatives and lets you do what they would want with a bit more peace of mind - a million decisions lifted from your shoulders at a time when you're grieving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fortunately I have all this covered due to my past employment.

It is a worry the expense of it all on top of the fact youve lost someone you cared about.

Difficult time

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