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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Greetings to anybody reading.

Hope all is well with you.

I've been on Fab for about 3–4 months now, and the results I've been seeing on this website have been ebb-and-flow, forever fluctuating; from getting frequent replies in a day, to none at all for days.

I'm starting to wonder if there's something in my profile that's off-putting.

There's messages I've sent, which, to me, I'd consider worthy of response, but I get that women's inboxes are jam-packed.

I have verifications and am a genuine guy.

I thought I'd just drop a post here — as there's nothing to lose — and see if I get any consensual word from a handful of people, as to where I may be going wrong (putting aside the general 'Women get too many messages', 'Not interested', etc.), so I can gauge whether it's ME or if it's just the usual reason why a woman would delete or leave on read.

Hope there's not too much confusion here.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

+ just wondered, since I'm starting to question if I'm wasting my time here, or where I can improve to boost my chances, you see.*

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

You're a single guy and single guy profiles make up the largest membership chunk of the site. There's nothing inherently wrong with your profile, you're just playing a numbers game.

Take a good look on the forums and you'll see a post like yours every other hour from a single guy saying they find it hard to get meets etc etc.

Single fems have their pick of whoever and get hammered with messages and not all couples accounts want to meet single guys and even with those who do, we tend to get a lot of requests as well.

You can keep going or give up, your call but patience is a virtue and you'll get a meet sooner or later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I’d say the same I’ve been here a while too, I send messages out but while she’s reading mine there’s another 100 or so messages pilled up in her inbox guaranteed so don’t beat yourself up, just pretend your playing a primitive 90s online virtual swinging game, who knows, someday we might get a result,

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"+ just wondered, since I'm starting to question if I'm wasting my time here, or where I can improve to boost my chances, you see.*"

Your user name might put some off.

Your photos....some are great, but maybe have less cock pics. It can be interpreted that you think your cock is the most important thing....ladies don't choose who to meet just by the size of the cock.

Your profile concentrates on what you are looking for . If ladies are looking at profiles, it's to see what they can get...not, oh goodie, I am what that chap is looking for.

So try and think about what you offer that makes you more inviting and interesting than other fellas.

Think of it from the ladies point of view

Hope that makes sense .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Gotcha. Makes sense. I was thinking it was me, you see (not in a 'taking it personal' way). Appreciate the feedback

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I hear that, dude. Really is a numbers thing, I suppose. Thanks for your response.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's a shame I can't change the username.

But yeah, the dick pics I only put up as public again just yesterday – I've been back and forth about whether or not the ladies are attracted to the nudity, as I thought my face pics might be a bit too "sweet" and not sexually appealing or enticing to draw attraction, you see. I can understand how they're alarming though.

I'll take your advice about considering the 'What the women wants' — which I have done — it's just that, are they even attracted by men who say what they want to hear (genuine or disingenuous), and what is it that they want; do they even know themselves, sometimes?

Thanks, darling.

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