FabSwingers.com forum: Why wont ladies/couples meet Married males?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it so difficult to arrange a first meet? Happy to be a social coffee or full on voyeristic fun. The suns now out and want to meet ladies or couples for naughty mutual fun.

Love to hear your thoughts and see who would meet in the SE

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By *inkyCouple1927Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Your profile says you're honest. Would your wife agree?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

True

But the we all need fun and excitement.

Would you be happy with sex every 3 months?

Have been honest saying im married

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By *inkyCouple1927Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Unless I'm missing something, your profile doesn't mention that you're married. Not everyone uses the forum so you've left yourself the option of keeping that from a potential meet.

If you're not happy in your marriage then perhaps it's better to discuss what's wrong with your wife, instead of looking for it elsewhere?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There are loads of reasons why people won't meet married men (or women). We don't knowingly but some guys hide it well.

Neither of us is interested in why they're here because its none of our business unless they make it so.

There are quite a few very successful married guys on here without their partner. They usually don't complain about the people who won't meet them and they usually don't disrespect their wife any more than they already have by implicitly blaming her for their presence on a swinging site.

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By *ornytoonladMan
over a year ago

North East

This will sound harsher than it's meant but married guys on here without their wife's knowledge or permission are seen as cheats which is not what swinging is about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally because I would feel you were taking and unfair risk with your partners health.

Both mentally and physically.

But hey, we're all entitled to our own opinion.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

For me it was once every two years. Time to call it a day.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

The reason we won't knowingly meet attached people whose partners are unaware is respect.

If you don't respect your relationship enough to call it a day or discuss swinging then there'll be no respect of our relationship, no redirect during the meet, and we'll have no respect for the 'single' person.

Also we don't want to be the dirty evidence the wife finds.

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By *arlock69Man
over a year ago

Batley... (near Leeds)

I get loads who won't meet me coz I'm married even though my wife knows and is on here too.

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By *aznlouCouple
over a year ago

co durham

We won't knowingly meet married people playing away. If you can lie to your partner then you can lie to others on here just to get your end away. We enjoy the social aspect too, a married person playing away couldn't always do that.

We also wouldn't want a angry partner turning up at our door as unfortunately more times than enough the truth always gets out and no one likes a home wrecker.

Lou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We won't knowingly meet married people playing away. If you can lie to your partner then you can lie to others on here just to get your end away. We enjoy the social aspect too, a married person playing away couldn't always do that.

We also wouldn't want a angry partner turning up at our door as unfortunately more times than enough the truth always gets out and no one likes a home wrecker.

Lou"

Agree with all of the above, plus it's bad enough sorting out 3 diaries with a single guy, with someone attached who's only available at certain times it would be even harder.

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By *tongueMan
over a year ago

Holbeach

Is she swinging without you?

If its every 3 mths are you doing it the right way for her?

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"I get loads who won't meet me coz I'm married even though my wife knows and is on here too.

What's your wife's profile name will check her out

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By *tongueMan
over a year ago

Holbeach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly wouldn't meet a married man its a swinging site not a site for you to use a woman for sex

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Married is not for me...if you are unhappy talk about it to her. If you have both got that kind of marraige fatigue by be it could be sorted. If not split...life is too short

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"I certainly wouldn't meet a married man its a swinging site not a site for you to use a woman for sex"

We were contacted by a married guy on here recently looking for fun.

He told us that he was here to experiment but did not want to pay for it by the hour.

He seemed to think this site is called Instantshag.com.

The comments above are about right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they can't generally meet when we want to...they've tended to flake on us and are often clock watching and have to leave before we really get going...its just far easier to meet people with less complex life arrangements...this applies equally to married women...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love these threads. Always makes me laugh, Married women on here who don't have their hubbies permission or knowledge, never get the same vilification as men, certainly not to the same degree. I know plenty of Married women on here who's inboxes are filled daily by Men and Couples alike.

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By *ave40tMan
over a year ago

MK and travelling!

"Love these threads. Always makes me laugh, Married women on here who don't have their hubbies permission or knowledge, never get the same vilification as men, certainly not to the same degree. I know plenty of Married women on here who's inboxes are filled daily by Men and Couples alike. "

Very true. So why one opinion for them and another for us?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Very true. So why one opinion for them and another for us?"

I hold the same opinion for both sexes however, its married men that contact us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hold the same opinion for both sexes however, its married men that contact us"

This xx

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

Very true. So why one opinion for them and another for us?

I hold the same opinion for both sexes however, its married men that contact us"

Agreed, and mostly married men who put up posts like this on the Forum.

Why not just go about it quietly if you have to at all?

After all, that is what married women do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very true. So why one opinion for them and another for us?

I hold the same opinion for both sexes however, its married men that contact us

Agreed, and mostly married men who put up posts like this on the Forum.

Why not just go about it quietly if you have to at all?

After all, that is what married women do."

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By *bwitchedWoman
over a year ago

Batley, West Yorkshire

"I get loads who won't meet me coz I'm married even though my wife knows and is on here too.

What's your wife's profile name will check her out "

I'm warlock's wife x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband and I both have profiles on here and neither of us are willing to meet people who are married or in relationships where their spouse/partner doesn't know and consent.

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By *uddy and hollyCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

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By *uddy and hollyCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"True

But the we all need fun and excitement.

Would you be happy with sex every 3 months?

Have been honest saying im married"
3 months would be a blessing 2years since I buddy had sex where I penetrate anyone I can't? get full hard-on now days so be happy yours still works

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By *eepndarkMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Unless I'm missing something, your profile doesn't mention that you're married. Not everyone uses the forum so you've left yourself the option of keeping that from a potential meet.

If you're not happy in your marriage then perhaps it's better to discuss what's wrong with your wife, instead of looking for it elsewhere?"

It's not always that simple. Some people have incompatible sex drives. All the emotions are there but they just need sex/ more sex or at the very least more thrills. If you have an open minded, adventurous and highly sex driven partner it maybe difficult to see how this could occur. Sex once or twice every 6/8 weeks in a marriage is not uncommon.

Hence a booming "massage" industry.

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By *otsMan
over a year ago

Higham

Well I'm married and on this site obviously. My wife has a long term illness and can't play anymore on here. I have her blessing. I have had the odd meet on here with couples no singles I think some think it's a dating site let's face it it's not!

I have to say I have met very few in the last year or two things have certainly slowed down.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"The reason we won't knowingly meet attached people whose partners are unaware is respect.

Also we don't want to be the dirty evidence the wife finds."

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it so difficult to arrange a first meet? Happy to be a social coffee or full on voyeristic fun. The suns now out and want to meet ladies or couples for naughty mutual fun.

Love to hear your thoughts and see who would meet in the SE "

How would you feel if your wife was cheating on you?

But each to their own, there's loads of categorised people on here, coloured, beards overweight it's endless. When I had a single profile years ago was told by a couple they don't meet people who wear glasses wtf.

In plain terms you give people a easy get out clause being married

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Unless I'm missing something, your profile doesn't mention that you're married. Not everyone uses the forum so you've left yourself the option of keeping that from a potential meet.

If you're not happy in your marriage then perhaps it's better to discuss what's wrong with your wife, instead of looking for it elsewhere?

Hence a booming "massage" industry."

But, are you honest with your wife about being in here ? I think that is the issue for many of us who do not want to meet married/atrached people.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

When there are so many men on the site, I'd imagine that many women would opt for the single ones, even if they didn't have a huge problem with married guys (and some don't).

I think most people realise there can be problems in marriages etc and may feel a certain sympathy. It's still more fraught with difficulties though e.g. is the story about no sex true? does the wife really know he's on here?

Tbh, I'm surprised men are surprised married men have a tough time.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

They opted for a vanilla relationship...went along in it, wife still thinks thats the case. Then oh dear no sex or boring sex. Your choice folks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oddly, Steve had a strange experience of a woman who wanted to meet, knowing he was married but then when she went back to his personal profile saw I knew then she cancelled saying it was weird I knew! There are ladies in here looking to be the "other" woman rather than understanding about swinging. This isn't a free or cheaper dating site for married people.

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By *evonmail41Man
over a year ago

Yeovil

For me it's 2 years and counting that it's been since I had sex with my wife.

We have talked, we have used toys, we have spoken about swinging. She just doesn't like sex. Even from the start it was like that. Been married for over 29 yrs and the love is still there it's just a person male or female has needs and quite frankly porn and wanking gets a bit boring after a while.

I came here to find like minded people but every time I approach people I get ignored too.

Being a photographer too I think it might be nice to do some erotic photography to get my sexual needs satisfied but that get ignored too.

So where do people like me go?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"For me it's 2 years and counting that it's been since I had sex with my wife.

I came here to find like minded people but every time I approach people I get ignored too.

Being a photographer too I think it might be nice to do some erotic photography to get my sexual needs satisfied but that get ignored too.

So where do people like me go? "

No idea to be honest but, you are up against some hot single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This will sound harsher than it's meant but married guys on here without their wife's knowledge or permission are seen as cheats which is not what swinging is about"

spot on

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