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By *eil_e_c OP   Man
over a year ago

London

So I know what your thinking... Another idiot moaning that his carefully crafted messages are not being acknowledged by his target audience. In the spirit of transparency yes that could be a gripe, but I will rise above that and ask you dear reader to put yourself in the position of a genuine Swinging single male trying to make it on this site.

Firstly the rules of engagement are undefined. Yes I have followed the basics, I've read the profile, I've noted common interests, I've thought about a suitably but non creepy headline to try and stand out from the crowd. I've given the receiver plenty of time to respond rather than machine gunning chaser mails. I've ensured my profile is clear and filled out and informative with pictures. All this dear ready to no avail.

My argument is potentially floored but I still want you to understand that some guys do go through an enormous amount of effort to get you to notice them. Sure I get you've already received more mail since starting to read my prose than I'll get in a year but surely you are clever enough to spot and delete the one liners, the guys with just cock pictures, the text speak, the cut and paste merchants. Surely you dear reader with your embarrassment of riches have the pick of the bunch. All I ask is that you use your judgement to reward the effort rather than the chancers with their scatter gun approach.

Semi Rant over, do let me know what you think

Neil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're obviously not what people are looking for,regardless of you thinking you are. Something is putting them off you or you would be having more sex than you could ever imagine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're obviously not what people are looking for,regardless of you thinking you are. Something is putting them off you or you would be having more sex than you could ever imagine "

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

Shel thinks your profile is fine, it shows you have intelligence and a fair bit of style, which the photos also reflect.

Have you tried Forum socials or going to clubs ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Shel thinks your profile is fine, it shows you have intelligence and a fair bit of style, which the photos also reflect.

Have you tried Forum socials or going to clubs ?"

I'd follow this? There's far worse quality profiles than yours that get somewhere, not all obviously, keep plugging away and be respectful but flirty and I'm sure you'll get there. If you don't, it's no big deal - plenty more than fabswingers in the wide world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're obviously not what people are looking for,regardless of you thinking you are. Something is putting them off you or you would be having more sex than you could ever imagine "

Yes the op being one of thousands of single guys to every one women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like everything else in life you don't get rewarded for the amount of effort you put in, no matter how much you want that or feel you deserve it.

Yeah we do get a lot of mail, i've only got 60+ right now that i'm gonna deal with when i can be bothered, but ultimately people don't have to use manners. They don't have to acknowledge anyone if they don't want to do that, for whatever reason or no reason at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And to give you a clue, 23 of those messages have just been deleted, unread, for being crap and nothing to reply to or they are out of my ranges so shouldn't have messaged me.

Most of the rest are gonna get knock backs coz they aren't what i'm looking for, but i have time to reply to them otherwise most of these would be deleted too.

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By *gNeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

Ignore the haters pal. It's just the way it is in a buyers market.

Just be content in the knowledge that those who don't reply are ignorant and rude, and whilst they may get the amount of cock they desire through this site they most likely are not living fulfilling lives.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"So I know what your thinking... Another idiot moaning that his carefully crafted messages are not being acknowledged by his target audience. In the spirit of transparency yes that could be a gripe, but I will rise above that and ask you dear reader to put yourself in the position of a genuine Swinging single male trying to make it on this site.

Firstly the rules of engagement are undefined. Yes I have followed the basics, I've read the profile, I've noted common interests, I've thought about a suitably but non creepy headline to try and stand out from the crowd. I've given the receiver plenty of time to respond rather than machine gunning chaser mails. I've ensured my profile is clear and filled out and informative with pictures. All this dear ready to no avail.

My argument is potentially floored but I still want you to understand that some guys do go through an enormous amount of effort to get you to notice them. Sure I get you've already received more mail since starting to read my prose than I'll get in a year but surely you are clever enough to spot and delete the one liners, the guys with just cock pictures, the text speak, the cut and paste merchants. Surely you dear reader with your embarrassment of riches have the pick of the bunch. All I ask is that you use your judgement to reward the effort rather than the chancers with their scatter gun approach.

Semi Rant over, do let me know what you think

Neil "
. As you have six verifications , I am not quite sure what your point is . You have good pictires and a reasonable amount of information on your profile .

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By *gNeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

I appreciate you are not asking for tips, and I'm certainly not the one to be giving them. il offer a thought though, delete all the disclaimers on your profile. It looks like a huge load of boring text and may be off putting to some, then they don't bother with reading the good stuff. Those disclaimers have literally no bearing legally and are just a waste of space.

Section 8 of the Human Rights Act is actually about privacy, and you'd struggle to get a conviction through that when you have knowingly displayed your pictures in a public domain. Besides you're better covered through the new revenge porn legislation, and that doesn't require any disclaimers!!

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By *hiterabbit69Man
over a year ago

Romford

I can only agree with the op, it can be rather trying at times to attract attention.

Gone are the days of taking time to write a targeted mail to the individual. It's just shitty to spend time on something and receive nothing in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cannot accommodate may be going against you. Perhaps consider referring to why you cannot.

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By *eil_e_c OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Thanks for your insight cupcake, I hadn't considered that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ignore the haters pal. It's just the way it is in a buyers market."

I'm all for a bullish market

My correspondence has quadrupled since changing my title and status - people love a good Game of Thrones reference...

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By *eil_e_c OP   Man
over a year ago

London

Great tip, keep it topical.

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By *jxxxxCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We try to reply to most single guys (as long as they don't just write.....great tits love to cum on em).....We accept some guys put a fair effort into an email and attach pics. Still this doesn't happen all the time. We still get about 5 one liner emails a day and just find it ridiculous guys think we'll be interested when they clearly can't be bothered.

Keep writing interesting fair and honest messages, attach good pics and you'll find similar people to connect with. Some of the advice offered above is good. We would question why a single guy couldn't accommodate. We also question why veris are hidden or why people been on site a long time without. .....go to a social and build them up.....The site opens up with veris.

Oh and finally from me (the guy) I take an instant dislike to any email only addressing my wife, however interesting and charming it is. We are a couple and when a guy fails to realise that and just writes as though he is writing to a single fem it passes me off. We are here for our fantasies (the three of us) not just 2. We both love it when the guy kind of writes to me talking about how great my wife is and how lucky I am allowing the guy to be a bit sleazy and bloke but without upsetting anyone.....this is a great start and would be how I'd suggest you start an email to a couple it really works for us anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flawed...not floored...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know exactly what you mean.

I've tried to display my profile as me....not as someone who I think the fab society will go for. I don't believe in being false to yourself.

I don't think I have ever sent a message saying "alright luv, fancy a shag".....like you I've read the profile, commented on a note worthy segment or a common interest. I'll send face/body/cock shots as specified on their profile.

I've been told before I write like a married man....but how that is, I couldnt say. Id like to think I write like a divorced man.

All I can say and suggest....is do what I am doing and keep plugging away. There will be a couple/woman out there.....somewhere (but I called dibs first so hands off )

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