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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does the elusive single fem really exist or are they really just like father xmas and unicorns lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the elusive single fem really exist or are they really just like father xmas and unicorns lol"

They exist and are in high demand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They exist! I know loads and they all search for the perfect couple to play with. I'd say its more like the elusive couple for a bi female thats in short supply. Yes plenty of couples but finding the ideal one is hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They exist! I know loads and they all search for the perfect couple to play with. I'd say its more like the elusive couple for a bi female thats in short supply. Yes plenty of couples but finding the ideal one is hard."

The more people involved, the less likely it is that there will be mutual attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh - they exist - two of them are some of my closest friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm happy to sit there with my popcorn or in an ideal world be tired up and forced to watch miss b and another lady pleasure each other whilst there's nothing I can do lol any takers ???

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"I'm happy to sit there with my popcorn or in an ideal world be tired up and forced to watch miss b and another lady pleasure each other whilst there's nothing I can do lol any takers ???"

And therein lies the problem for a lot of bi females. We are bi, we like involvement from both people if we are playing with a couple, or there is little point playing with 2 people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get quite a few messages from couples where the fem is bi and they're on here for her. I'm never comfortable with that situation. He either wants to play or he doesn't? If he does, then they're on here for both of them and not just for her. If he doesn't then why does he want/need to be involved? You're either in or your out. Half hearted doesn't work for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I tried to "sit out" I'd be in serious trouble....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I tried to "sit out" I'd be in serious trouble...."

I can understand that one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They exist! I know loads and they all search for the perfect couple to play with. I'd say its more like the elusive couple for a bi female thats in short supply. Yes plenty of couples but finding the ideal one is hard."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah totally get that what we are looking for isnt for everyone and totally respect that but surely there must be some bi fems who are up for what we are looking for

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By *ina75Woman
over a year ago

Stone

As has been said before on other threads.

To find the single woman. They're is far less on here than any other group.

Then they have to be genuinely bisexual. So that narrows the pool down.

Then they have to be within reasonable localish region. Narrowing the pool even further.

Finally for a meeting to be successful with both male and female participation, then all parties have to find everyone attractive enough. Much smaller pool of ladies.

You may have more success at a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I tried to "sit out" I'd be in serious trouble....

I can understand that one! "

Not gonna say it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As has been said before on other threads.

To find the single woman. They're is far less on here than any other group.

Then they have to be genuinely bisexual. So that narrows the pool down.

Then they have to be within reasonable localish region. Narrowing the pool even further.

Finally for a meeting to be successful with both male and female participation, then all parties have to find everyone attractive enough. Much smaller pool of ladies.

You may have more success at a club. "
yep spot on with this... its easier for the female of the couple to find someone they are attracted to first then hope the single fem likes the male...

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By *oving-lifeCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

It's extremely difficult to find a bi lady who will meet couples,, we've been trying for years. yes we have a select few couples that we play with and all get on very very well with, but would love to have just a fem for us both to spoil, but as has already been said,, distance, mutual attraction, timing etc are all major obstacles.

Living in hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They exist! I know loads and they all search for the perfect couple to play with. I'd say its more like the elusive couple for a bi female thats in short supply. Yes plenty of couples but finding the ideal one is hard."

True - so true.....!!!

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

I'm a bi female and play as a single on and off. Sometimes I just do girl on girl with husband watching or sometimes a full threesome.

I find it really really hard to find what I'm looking for. Quite often, the couple already has a fantasy or an agenda and lots of rules and I feel I'm entering into a negotiation. I feel pressure to live up to their expectations of their fantasy, especially if they are new to it.

More often, I feel like I'm a tool to their needs and my personal fantasy or agenda doesn't really come into play.

When I'm inviting a female to play with myself and my partner, I make sure it's solely about her fantasy and we cater to her. It's rare I find that when I'm speaking with couples as a single.

Don't misunderstand, I've met some lovely people out there and had some lovely times. But many conversations negotiating play with some couples really put my back up. I feel like I'm a free escort catering to their whims.

I understand people may interpret my username as being someone to be used but the amount of times I get messages from men and woman saying something along the lines of....

We are looking for a slut to use. I want you to pleasure my man. I want to play with you while my man watches. I want two girls to do as they are told.

My guess is that are plenty of single bi females willing to play but it's hard sometimes to communicate with couples. Playing in a club is much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely spot on sub_ilac

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Absolutely spot on sub_ilac "

Thanks. I was having a little bit of a rant there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely spot on sub_ilac "

Thanks sub_ilac - you said it just the way it is!

It's good to know that I'm not the only one who feels like that - with couples I always feel like an outsider who's expected to "fit in", and it's rarely a comfortable feeling.

I even gave up completely on couples for a while, just because of this - and will only meet ones now where I feel that I'm seen and valued as a person myself...

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By *emcrushWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"They exist! I know loads and they all search for the perfect couple to play with. I'd say its more like the elusive couple for a bi female thats in short supply. Yes plenty of couples but finding the ideal one is hard."

Exactly! it's just as frustrating being a single fem on here sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can totally understand where you ladies are coming from and appreciate it must make you feel like your being used to fulfil the couples fantasies which in all honesty is more than likely something they have talked about for a very long time when fantasising about this scenario and planned out to the last minute detail.

I have to confess of being guilty of that myself but when it actually came to it... we found it far more sensual and fulfilling pleasing and reading the bodies and responses we got and going with the flow rather than the mental script.

... we are still hoping this will happen with the right single bi-fem .

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I'm a bi female and play as a single on and off. Sometimes I just do girl on girl with husband watching or sometimes a full threesome.

I find it really really hard to find what I'm looking for. Quite often, the couple already has a fantasy or an agenda and lots of rules and I feel I'm entering into a negotiation. I feel pressure to live up to their expectations of their fantasy, especially if they are new to it.

More often, I feel like I'm a tool to their needs and my personal fantasy or agenda doesn't really come into play.

When I'm inviting a female to play with myself and my partner, I make sure it's solely about her fantasy and we cater to her. It's rare I find that when I'm speaking with couples as a single.

Don't misunderstand, I've met some lovely people out there and had some lovely times. But many conversations negotiating play with some couples really put my back up. I feel like I'm a free escort catering to their whims.

I understand people may interpret my username as being someone to be used but the amount of times I get messages from men and woman saying something along the lines of....

We are looking for a slut to use. I want you to pleasure my man. I want to play with you while my man watches. I want two girls to do as they are told.

My guess is that are plenty of single bi females willing to play but it's hard sometimes to communicate with couples. Playing in a club is much easier.

"

Completely agree with this..it can feel like you're being used than having a properly horny experience together!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to see it from single fems point of view must be very intimidating meeting a couple alone. The couple has each other to lean on if you know what I mean. we try to make it relaxed as possible and find it a much better experience if everyone involved gets what they are looking for out of it always nice to help someone indulge their fantasies x

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By *eaven17Man
over a year ago

Preston


"Does the elusive single fem really exist or are they really just like father xmas and unicorns lol"

Definately a mith. We get harrassed by couples, and yet still can't find a single females on here who isn't a time waster or a friend collector. It ain't facebook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the elusive single fem really exist or are they really just like father xmas and unicorns lol

Definately a mith. We get harrassed by couples, and yet still can't find a single females on here who isn't a time waster or a friend collector. It ain't facebook."

Is it any wonder! I'm here for a little fun - not a job interview. You've more rules and regulations than a Health and Safety guru.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok then what would make it easier, just meeting at clubs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a bi female and play as a single on and off. Sometimes I just do girl on girl with husband watching or sometimes a full threesome.

I find it really really hard to find what I'm looking for. Quite often, the couple already has a fantasy or an agenda and lots of rules and I feel I'm entering into a negotiation. I feel pressure to live up to their expectations of their fantasy, especially if they are new to it.

More often, I feel like I'm a tool to their needs and my personal fantasy or agenda doesn't really come into play.

When I'm inviting a female to play with myself and my partner, I make sure it's solely about her fantasy and we cater to her. It's rare I find that when I'm speaking with couples as a single.

Don't misunderstand, I've met some lovely people out there and had some lovely times. But many conversations negotiating play with some couples really put my back up. I feel like I'm a free escort catering to their whims.

I understand people may interpret my username as being someone to be used but the amount of times I get messages from men and woman saying something along the lines of....

We are looking for a slut to use. I want you to pleasure my man. I want to play with you while my man watches. I want two girls to do as they are told.

My guess is that are plenty of single bi females willing to play but it's hard sometimes to communicate with couples. Playing in a club is much easier.

"

We don't have a specific fantasises to act out or any hidden agenda and don't go out of our way to find a single bi female, we just enjoy playing with people we connect with, sometimes it's a group, sometimes a couple, sometimes a single bi female, all these people running about with the FFM fantasy stop and think, it's not about what you want, it's about all 3 of you having a shared experience

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Ok then what would make it easier, just meeting at clubs?"

I meet most couples at clubs. Its more relaxed and you can tell about attraction instantly and if you get on after a nice chat. Then you can decide whether to meet up again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What exactly are u looking for?? We are bi couple. But find most want me n not hub. Which isnt really fair x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find clubs work best. Because theres plenty of couples. Singles, and like it was said before u can tell instant chemistry or looks/banter. I have played with people that if i had only gone off profile and pics i would never have bothered. But had a surprise to find sometimes the ones who are drop dead gorgeous can't perform and other have given me the time of my life. So never judge a book n all that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok then what would make it easier, just meeting at clubs?

I meet most couples at clubs. Its more relaxed and you can tell about attraction instantly and if you get on after a nice chat. Then you can decide whether to meet up again."
yes true it does make things a lot easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a bi female and play as a single on and off. Sometimes I just do girl on girl with husband watching or sometimes a full threesome.

I find it really really hard to find what I'm looking for. Quite often, the couple already has a fantasy or an agenda and lots of rules and I feel I'm entering into a negotiation. I feel pressure to live up to their expectations of their fantasy, especially if they are new to it.

More often, I feel like I'm a tool to their needs and my personal fantasy or agenda doesn't really come into play.

When I'm inviting a female to play with myself and my partner, I make sure it's solely about her fantasy and we cater to her. It's rare I find that when I'm speaking with couples as a single.

Don't misunderstand, I've met some lovely people out there and had some lovely times. But many conversations negotiating play with some couples really put my back up. I feel like I'm a free escort catering to their whims.

I understand people may interpret my username as being someone to be used but the amount of times I get messages from men and woman saying something along the lines of....

We are looking for a slut to use. I want you to pleasure my man. I want to play with you while my man watches. I want two girls to do as they are told.

My guess is that are plenty of single bi females willing to play but it's hard sometimes to communicate with couples. Playing in a club is much easier.

We don't have a specific fantasises to act out or any hidden agenda and don't go out of our way to find a single bi female, we just enjoy playing with people we connect with, sometimes it's a group, sometimes a couple, sometimes a single bi female, all these people running about with the FFM fantasy stop and think, it's not about what you want, it's about all 3 of you having a shared experience"

we exist but this kind of pick up happens to often, can be a scary thing walking into a established couple

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"I'm a bi female and play as a single on and off. Sometimes I just do girl on girl with husband watching or sometimes a full threesome.

I find it really really hard to find what I'm looking for. Quite often, the couple already has a fantasy or an agenda and lots of rules and I feel I'm entering into a negotiation. I feel pressure to live up to their expectations of their fantasy, especially if they are new to it.

More often, I feel like I'm a tool to their needs and my personal fantasy or agenda doesn't really come into play.

When I'm inviting a female to play with myself and my partner, I make sure it's solely about her fantasy and we cater to her. It's rare I find that when I'm speaking with couples as a single.

Don't misunderstand, I've met some lovely people out there and had some lovely times. But many conversations negotiating play with some couples really put my back up. I feel like I'm a free escort catering to their whims.

I understand people may interpret my username as being someone to be used but the amount of times I get messages from men and woman saying something along the lines of....

We are looking for a slut to use. I want you to pleasure my man. I want to play with you while my man watches. I want two girls to do as they are told.

My guess is that are plenty of single bi females willing to play but it's hard sometimes to communicate with couples. Playing in a club is much easier.

We don't have a specific fantasises to act out or any hidden agenda and don't go out of our way to find a single bi female, we just enjoy playing with people we connect with, sometimes it's a group, sometimes a couple, sometimes a single bi female, all these people running about with the FFM fantasy stop and think, it's not about what you want, it's about all 3 of you having a shared experience"

We think you are absolutely right. Although many couples and singles have an agenda, sometimes not hidden too well, we get on best with those who, like us, are more concerned with everyone having a good time and getting something out of the encounter, whether there are three or seven in the group. We don't have preconceived ideas of how an encounter should progress, so we and our playmates are rarely disappointed.

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon


"I'm happy to sit there with my popcorn or in an ideal world be tired up and forced to watch miss b and another lady pleasure each other whilst there's nothing I can do lol any takers ???

And therein lies the problem for a lot of bi females. We are bi, we like involvement from both people if we are playing with a couple, or there is little point playing with 2 people.

"

Totally agree! If I play with a couple I want to play with both parts of the couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the elusive single fem really exist or are they really just like father xmas and unicorns lol

Definately a mith. We get harrassed by couples, and yet still can't find a single females on here who isn't a time waster or a friend collector. It ain't facebook.

Is it any wonder! I'm here for a little fun - not a job interview. You've more rules and regulations than a Health and Safety guru. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also play as a couple, my wife is hot, I'm pretty fit too, the single women that are worthy of a meet are so in demand that they actually become so confident it portrays arrogance, so im guessing unless you find a new, hot, female, who hasn't been put on a pedastal so high, that no one can reach her, then just pay for an escort is the best option, haha, xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does the bi fem have to be single? I play solo, but I don't actively search for couples to play with alone. In the past it's just happened, off the cuff. I'm not a fan of planning out every sordid detail for a meet, which many do. Takes the spontaneity away. I like to go with the flow. I agree with sub_ilac though, the few times I have searched, it always borders on the free escort vibe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the elusive single fem really exist or are they really just like father xmas and unicorns lol

Definately a mith. We get harrassed by couples, and yet still can't find a single females on here who isn't a time waster or a friend collector. It ain't facebook.

Is it any wonder! I'm here for a little fun - not a job interview. You've more rules and regulations than a Health and Safety guru. "

There shouldn't be any rules other than anything one of those involved WON'T do - other than that just let it evolve!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the elusive single fem really exist or are they really just like father xmas and unicorns lol

Definately a mith. We get harrassed by couples, and yet still can't find a single females on here who isn't a time waster or a friend collector. It ain't facebook.

Is it any wonder! I'm here for a little fun - not a job interview. You've more rules and regulations than a Health and Safety guru.

"

that profile is actually terrifying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the elusive single fem really exist or are they really just like father xmas and unicorns lol

Definately a mith. We get harrassed by couples, and yet still can't find a single females on here who isn't a time waster or a friend collector. It ain't facebook.

Is it any wonder! I'm here for a little fun - not a job interview. You've more rules and regulations than a Health and Safety guru.

that profile is actually terrifying."

I concur!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the elusive single fem really exist or are they really just like father xmas and unicorns lol

Definately a mith. We get harrassed by couples, and yet still can't find a single females on here who isn't a time waster or a friend collector. It ain't facebook.

Is it any wonder! I'm here for a little fun - not a job interview. You've more rules and regulations than a Health and Safety guru.

that profile is actually terrifying."

Not a rarity on here though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the elusive single fem really exist or are they really just like father xmas and unicorns lol

Definately a mith. We get harrassed by couples, and yet still can't find a single females on here who isn't a time waster or a friend collector. It ain't facebook.

Is it any wonder! I'm here for a little fun - not a job interview. You've more rules and regulations than a Health and Safety guru.

that profile is actually terrifying.

I concur! "

& this profile hides themselves away, ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a bi female and play as a single on and off. Sometimes I just do girl on girl with husband watching or sometimes a full threesome.

I find it really really hard to find what I'm looking for. Quite often, the couple already has a fantasy or an agenda and lots of rules and I feel I'm entering into a negotiation. I feel pressure to live up to their expectations of their fantasy, especially if they are new to it.

More often, I feel like I'm a tool to their needs and my personal fantasy or agenda doesn't really come into play.

When I'm inviting a female to play with myself and my partner, I make sure it's solely about her fantasy and we cater to her. It's rare I find that when I'm speaking with couples as a single.

Don't misunderstand, I've met some lovely people out there and had some lovely times. But many conversations negotiating play with some couples really put my back up. I feel like I'm a free escort catering to their whims.

I understand people may interpret my username as being someone to be used but the amount of times I get messages from men and woman saying something along the lines of....

We are looking for a slut to use. I want you to pleasure my man. I want to play with you while my man watches. I want two girls to do as they are told.

My guess is that are plenty of single bi females willing to play but it's hard sometimes to communicate with couples. Playing in a club is much easier.

We don't have a specific fantasises to act out or any hidden agenda and don't go out of our way to find a single bi female, we just enjoy playing with people we connect with, sometimes it's a group, sometimes a couple, sometimes a single bi female, all these people running about with the FFM fantasy stop and think, it's not about what you want, it's about all 3 of you having a shared experience

we exist but this kind of pick up happens to often, can be a scary thing walking into a established couple "

Then get yourself a f/b or a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do exist, we have met a few from here, but have met more in clubs. Alot on here are fakes or timewasters but a few have proved to be genuine. It just takes time and chemistry. We have more trouble than most because of our age difference and dom, switch dynamic. We wrote a very long scenario, and profile but find some people don't read it, or don't read it properly and think our scenario has to happen as written, lol. We also find going on cam helps, with lots of chatting talking getting to know each others likes and dislikes, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They exist! I know loads and they all search for the perfect couple to play with. I'd say its more like the elusive couple for a bi female thats in short supply. Yes plenty of couples but finding the ideal one is hard."

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