FabSwingers.com forum: Advice on a lady I have met

By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

Hi guys

Going through a stressful time at the min

I have met a lady - she has a partner

We have been messaging meeting fucking for 6 months . She is starting to become slightly less keen as she was before.

She always Called unreal and was so keen .

Last few weeks she has become a little distant and feels pressured to talk about us . All I want to know is what we are and what she feels and thinks

She can’t talk about it — gets upset and it’s causing her anxiety

We still speak all the time - but I am

Getting not as interested vibes -

We were fucking every week now it’s been once in 3

It’s horrible as she won’t talk and calls me needy

All I want to know is where I stand

It’s making me feel so upset as I love her

Any kind advice would be very very Welcome x

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By *aketaxibelfastMan
10 weeks ago

Belfast

Tell her how ya feel if that’s the case and how long it’s been

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By *iss DevilWoman
10 weeks ago

Bedford

OP, why do you need a label on this? What you are is two people who enjoy sex together, though it sounds like you need more. You said she has a partner, does he know about her meeting you or is it behind his back? If she is playing away, maybe her conscience is getting to her? Or the fact that you need to put the label on it is making her back off? Or maybe she caught feelings and is trying to distance herself?

I am in an open relationship, my partner knows I'm seeing other people and is fine with that (he's on here, too). However, if suddenly I found myself in a situation you described, when a guy I was seeing casually for no strings attached sex started to pressure me into putting a label on it and started to be hard work/needy, I'd end that arrangement, regardless how good the sex was.

I'd say have a good think, OP, why you behave in the way you behave and try to take the chill pill, let her do the chasing. Though she might be fed up by now.

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By *iss DevilWoman
10 weeks ago

Bedford

One more thing, again from my own experience. Women go through hormone fluctuations, much more than men do. That could be affecting libido. So maybe that's what's happening here, too.

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By *irkby coupleCouple
10 weeks ago

Kirkby

Sounds like someone had caught feelings.

Did you know she had a partner when you started to meet for sex? If so, if you wanted more why put yourself in this situation knowing she already had a partner?

Have you considered, she might just be meeting for sex and wants nothing more?

If you want more then sex, maybe you should stop all contact with her and find someone who isn’t already in a relationship.

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