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By *adBod84 OP Man
48 weeks ago

Lydney

Hey beautiful people

My partner has approached me with her desire to be “collared” - She really wants a Dom/Sub relationship which in all fairness suits our personalities fairly well.

I am not experienced in the ways of BDSM at all and even though I have quite a lot of info regarding what she wants daily living and sexually from BDSM checklists and instructions for contracts I would love to talk to other couples with this kind of arrangement

As is with everything I do I love to be educated and be great at what I do.

Be great if there were people local to myself to show me the ropes! Excuse the pun! Haha

Thanks guys

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By *J_OuizziCouple
47 weeks ago

Nottingham

Collaring a submissive is a big step, and also a very big responsibility.

If you are inexperienced in the D/s scene then I would suggest taking it slowly - rushing could damage both your relationship and those involved.

You need to spend a good chunk of time talking to each other, discussing and agreeing what the boundaries of the D/s dynamic are between you, and then carry on talking to check in on whether it is working for you both, and what changes you might need to make to keep it working.

The input of both partners is key - it's not just a case of the Dominant saying "do this, do that".

Good luck.

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By *utterfly manMan
47 weeks ago

Ringwood Hampshire

Suggtions

Where to get a Coller

Not pets at home..please…

Sex shop maybe…

Any big stores sell anything that can be turned

Into a submissive Coller

Thanks

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By *J_SpiceyCouple
47 weeks ago

Kinky Kings Lynn

There are specific kink sites to assist those interested in the alternative lifestyle if wishing to be educated and obtain knowledge.

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By *onicZMan
46 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire

Depending on what you are going to be doing, if it's something big then perhaps also look into after care. It's something that's majorly overlooked by lots to begin with.

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By *ellsuitedMan
41 weeks ago

Elstree

That is a big step….some say more intimate and complex than marriage…

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By *ames JaneCouple
41 weeks ago

Bury St Edmunds

It’s a very very big step.

When James collard me it felt natural and he hand made it for me.

Honestly with or without the collar the connection, trust has to be there.

When he does put the collar on me or a couple times I have surprise him with it already on. OMFG feels amazing to see that look in his eyes.

Do read up, ultimately though it’s about what it means to both of you alone

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By *tace 309TV/TS
41 weeks ago

durham

I am collared. Mine says "owned" in big jewelled letters. I wear mine all the time when I go out and I am proud to wear it and show it off

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By *inkyguyUKMan
41 weeks ago

worcester

There is a difference to being collared and people who wear them for sex although they often get used for that!. I have to say the whole getting collared thing is a bit annoying as I have collars for my subs and like to use them for servitude training and sometimes they think I am wanting to collar them

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