FabSwingers.com forum: Anyone else stuck in a sexiness, lifeless marriage and loath their partner?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don’t know where to turn…stuck in a rut.

Sexless now for 4 years, sleep in separate rooms and only here for the kids.

‘Can’t you talk it out’ I hear people say? No we don’t talk, don’t communicate…. If fact live separate lives.

Only thing which connects us is the kids and finances. It can’t go on.

Now I have plenty of sex, but it costs me dearly if you know what I mean. It’s the only way I see pussy and ass.

How do I get out of this?? Think divorce is the only way but don’t want the kids impact.

We’ve both nearing 50, so chances of second chances are really limited. Don’t want another marriage, just to be wanted and loved.

Sorry for brining the tone down. but appreciate different views.

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By *ntrigued888Woman
over a year ago

Beds

If your wife turned around and said she's leaving you, hand on heart how would you feel?

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By *ntrigued888Woman
over a year ago

Beds

But you've got pics of your wife on your profile!!!!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

The kids will be better off you separating. Don't think for one minute they don't know x

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By *ojo2joWoman
over a year ago

Penclawdd

"Don’t know where to turn…stuck in a rut.

Sexless now for 4 years, sleep in separate rooms and only here for the kids.

‘Can’t you talk it out’ I hear people say? No we don’t talk, don’t communicate…. If fact live separate lives.

Only thing which connects us is the kids and finances. It can’t go on.

Now I have plenty of sex, but it costs me dearly if you know what I mean. It’s the only way I see pussy and ass.

How do I get out of this?? Think divorce is the only way but don’t want the kids impact.

We’ve both nearing 50, so chances of second chances are really limited. Don’t want another marriage, just to be wanted and loved.

Sorry for brining the tone down. but appreciate different views. "

but it says on your profile she’s the woman of your dreams and you want to show her off?

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By *awty_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Near Maidstone

Another attention seeker, can’t believe a word he says

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If your wife turned around and said she's leaving you, hand on heart how would you feel?"

I’d be glad tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Showing her off is one thing, not having any relationship at all is another.

Listen, I asked a question for some genuine advice. That’s all

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By *oward777Man
over a year ago

Truro

i am in a sexless marriage have not fuck the Wife for 6years I came a C. D and i get fuck and fuck a nice arse still would like to find a nice tight pussy to fuck as well as I am up for anything now Love to fuck a woman, age, 75 to 85 years, old, slim

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

How old are your children?

If you're genuinely at the end of your tether separation might be the best way forward. The problem there is always money. It's expensive to live alone, is it feasible for you? Could you negotiate an arrangement with your wife where you live completely separate lives in the same house, like a house share?

I don't know what else to tell you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Also if you did separate you might feel freer to seek out a loving relationship.

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By *urgyeMan
over a year ago

southampton and ealing

Depending on how old your children are but try NOT to split the home up as that could well upset your children VERY much, so stick to the current situation for as long as you can for their sakes.

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By *ardnhorny4U30Man
over a year ago

Northfield

Yes that's why I left her !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your advice.

Money is not an issue, as we’re fairly well off. Thing is I want some happiness back in the life, without impacting unhappiness in my kids live and I’m only getting happiness through paying for it.

I’m trying to stay the course but it’s really difficult.

Anyway thank you again to those who gave some proper advice and not the usual unhelpful bile some provide.

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By *nobbytime2Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Does anyone know of any dogging spots in Wolverhampton???

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks for your advice.

I’m trying to stay the course but it’s really difficult.

Anyway thank you again to those who gave some proper advice and not the usual unhelpful bile some provide.

don't underestimate the impact on children of witnessing an unhappy marriage. Would you want them to stick with a relationship they're desperately unhappy in?

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By *yselfAndHerCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

"Don’t know where to turn…stuck in a rut.

Sexless now for 4 years, sleep in separate rooms and only here for the kids.

‘Can’t you talk it out’ I hear people say? No we don’t talk, don’t communicate…. If fact live separate lives.

Only thing which connects us is the kids and finances. It can’t go on.

Now I have plenty of sex, but it costs me dearly if you know what I mean. It’s the only way I see pussy and ass.

How do I get out of this?? Think divorce is the only way but don’t want the kids impact.

We’ve both nearing 50, so chances of second chances are really limited. Don’t want another marriage, just to be wanted and loved.

Sorry for brining the tone down. but appreciate different views. "

Get divorced.

The kids will be better off without a dad who hates their mum.

You say what you want, but what about what she deserves? A man who respects her.

She must be a good sort to let you post her photos, or have you done it without her permission??

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By *untimesforme2021Woman
over a year ago

lostwithiel

Feel ur pain...know exactly how u feel!

Still here for my kid too and unhappy..

It's finding what will make you happy and if ur anything like me will of had enough and def want out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she know you are on fab and her pictures are on here? What does she think about you cheating? It’s not all about you! Your best off leaving tbh. The kids will know something is not right

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By *ilybethWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I lived in a sexless marriage for years. I tried to communicate with him but he wouldn’t talk about anything. I stayed longer than I should because I was worried about ‘breaking up the family home’ Ultimately I realised that I needed to leave before I had a breakdown, and that it’s my responsibility to show my children what a healthy relationship looks like.

I’ve been single since I left because although I want to be loved, I’m not going to settle again. I’d rather be alone than unhappy.

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By *ilybethWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Depending on how old your children are but try NOT to split the home up as that could well upset your children VERY much, so stick to the current situation for as long as you can for their sakes."

It’s much more damaging for children to live in a home with two unhappy parents than it is to go through divorce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's been over 17 years, without sex in any shape or form. I don't loathe or hate but I have know sexual desire for her any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depending on how old your children are but try NOT to split the home up as that could well upset your children VERY much, so stick to the current situation for as long as you can for their sakes."

Is it really better? All that does is teach them how to have a dysfunctional relationship. Better two happy parents living apart than two miserable ones living together 'for the sake of the kids'.

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Just tell her you’ve put naked pics and videos of her without her consent a swingers site where you’re here to cheat. Instant divorce. Problem solved (for her).

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

^^ people who've parents have split up often say it was for the best. I think that unless the split is handled very carefully from the children's point of view they'll be affected. Whether the effect is less than the parents staying together probably depends on the individual situation.

That Larkin poem probably sums it up very well

'they fuck you up your mum and dad

They may not mean to

But they do'

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By *awty_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Near Maidstone

I still don’t get it, has no one else read his profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Showing her off is one thing, not having any relationship at all is another."

Hang on, baaaaaaack up.

Did you have her explicit permission to upload those pictures?

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Is anyone from admin going to address the fact that this person has openly posted someone else’s nudes online without their consent? I reported them but yet, profile still up, pics still available. Does the admin behind this site care about protecting women in the slightest?

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

Doing an image search on the OPs first picture shows it is across many porn sites, so he is either posting her photo on many places or it came from somewhere else.

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"Doing an image search on the OPs first picture shows it is across many porn sites, so he is either posting her photo on many places or it came from somewhere else.

I mean both are distinctly possible

Fab is one of the main reasons I will never ever settle down with someone!

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By *igharryMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Is anyone from admin going to address the fact that this person has openly posted someone else’s nudes online without their consent? I reported them but yet, profile still up, pics still available. Does the admin behind this site care about protecting women in the slightest?"

Hes posted a status complaining about not be able to post in forums or contact admin and wanting a refund on his membership… lol

Regarding advice, id agree with the above poster that recommended showing her your fab profile and pics. Theres your divorce right there.

Otherwise id recommend rather than asking fab what to do, try discuss it with her? Tell her how you feel about the marriage being a waste and it might be better off being alone. See what she says. She may turn around and start putting in effort if she realises the marriage is about to fail. Or you may finally reach a conclusion and agree to seperate. Either way it sounds like itd be a win situation for you.

And for the kids it sounds like they’d be better off with divorced parents. Seeing you sleep in different rooms and never being intimate will effect them. Not only make them upset right now but long term they wont know how to show love to their partners when they get married so your loveless marriage ends up being the reason they become divorcees.

Goodluck to you and i hope it works out for the good.

And yeah dont post pictures online without the persons permission. Thats an immoral invasion of her privacy. She probably let you take those pictures so only you can see, not for me to look at!

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By *igharryMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Oh and also stop paying for services. Not only disgusting but most of those women are forced into it. Protect them by not participating!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still don’t get it, has no one else read his profile?"

And followed the green arrow ??

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By *awty_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Near Maidstone

Exactly this

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