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"Tonight was my first time back at Pandoras after a year off, it was great to see such a great atmosphere, also advice needed, when I’m at Pandora’s I always want to politely approach a lady and ask if I can do this & I get apprehensive about what the answer might be . How do I over come this situation ? also with wearing bags all the time due to a non functioning bladder , would that put ladies off ? I just want to be upfront. Any advice would be appreciated. " How would you approach a lady? What would you say? When you say be upfront, what do you mean?? | |||
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"Because I always have naughty things running through my mind but I always think you can’t just do things without permission. I love naughty things, the other thing is with wearing bags all all the time as my bladder doesn’t work all the time and I think what would a woman in a club think if she ever saw it. " You are quite right, you can't do anything without permission. Have you had girlfriends in the past? | |||
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"Yes but they haven’t worked out " Unfortunately that happens? If they all didn't work out, is there something that you think you might need to change? | |||
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"I don’t know , I admit it I love sexual fun more than a relationship , I know when you’re in a relationship the partner always wants the fella to wait , but how long do you wait ? weeks, months, years , i don’t want to come across as a sleaze bag but I do struggle with frustration in that area, is it so wrong to like sexual fun more than a relationship? " No it isn't wrong at all. Just be aware though that this site is brutal, you are very outnumbered by the sheer number of single guys on here looking for the same as you. A lot of guys get bitter and angry if they do not get the success they all think they deserve on here. If you are the type who will struggle to cope with the fact that you may not be selected, then this may not be the right place for you to look for sex. Do you have a lot of sexual experience outside of this site? | |||
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"I will be honest with you , I’ve used escorts in the past and I use the ones from the adult work page who work with clients with disabilities." Nothing wrong with that at all. Two things we would say about here: -Expect nothing, but hope for something. -If there is no success accept it gratefully, but most importantly do not take it personally and let it eat away at your self-esteem. | |||
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"Hi confident guy I am a bisexual cross dresser and attend Pandoras on a reasonably regular basis I would say the advice you have been given above is excellent The thing about clubs - as in life, is that different people are looking for different thing, and in my opinion, a club gives you a good chance to meet people with a similar interest As a CD - I do not appeal to a lot of people, so as advised above - when I go to a club, I always hope for some fun - but never expect it, or take it personally if it doesn’t happen I always try to chat to new people, and if it leads somewhere - then great - if it doesn’t - that’s fine too Remember, that just because someone chats to you - does not necessarily mean they want to have sex with you I enjoy watching others play, as well as joining in when invited I find the best approach is NOT to follow the flock of other single guys following potential playmates like they are hunting prey in the wild ! When you do get into a situation where you think there might be some fun to be had, or you are looking to play with others - rest assured - they will know you are close by and available - and if they / she wants you to join in their play - they will almost ALWAYS make it obvious and invite you to join in in some way or another. In my experience - if they do not invite you to join in - they are probably happy for you to be watching, but don’t want you to join in Remember - different people are looking for different things - some enjoy the exhibitionism - others enjoy people joining in and playing - some are looking to play only with couples - others are craving more cock and single guys - it’s the way it is - don’t take it personally I have spent many happy evenings at clubs, and have made new friends without playing - other evenings I have been lucky enough to be invited to play with a number of people throughout an evening Nothing puts others off more than pushy single guys - chill out and relax - have hope - be friendly - chat to others - it will happen Be prepared to invest time - clubs are not brothels Happy fabbing - I hope this helps " Thankyou for your advice | |||
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