FabSwingers.com forum: ‘Playing Alone’

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fabbers, give us your thoughts. We are a happily in love swinging couple who respect each other’s freedom to create solo meets as long as our partner is kept in the loop.

As wonderfully free as this sounds, we still often get the idea that people (mainly women) are very uncomfortable setting up solo meets with partnered men.

We state that we are happy to meet solo on our profile and are happy to verify this for people so that no feels uncomfortable that they might upset someone.

Any ideas how to further put people at ease either in the profile or between messages?

I’m sure there are people on here doing the wrong thing behind someone’s back but it’s certainly not us.

*Just positive answers and constructive suggestions please. Negative forum trolls will be ignored.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

It is hard to try and arrange meets with single fems for Mr. We have never done it outside a club environment as people are wary. Fakes have spoilt it really. So clubs, get to know them and they will see you are genuine. We have given up with it on here tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'd be looking to meet socially with both so I can assess first hand how comfortable the woman feels about the arrangement.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah we love the clubs, everything much easier there. Xstasia is my personal favourite.

We just don’t live that close to any of them unfortunately.

Thanks for the reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the reply, it makes sense but that’s just makes things complicated logistically. Not to say we wouldn’t do that, of course we would but it’s a bit of pain for the person that’s not even gonna be involved.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

As said above, clubs initially, keeps things in the open.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Speaking for myself, I’d want to meet them together for a social to make sure she a) exists and b) is onboard with it. Too many “couples” I talk to the woman is never available for a social and in the end it just seems like she’s not even aware, and it’s just a deception by the man. In my view anyone can say what they like on a profile but the reader has no way of knowing if it’s true.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Speaking for myself, I’d want to meet them together for a social to make sure she a) exists and b) is onboard with it. Too many “couples” I talk to the woman is never available for a social and in the end it just seems like she’s not even aware, and it’s just a deception by the man. In my view anyone can say what they like on a profile but the reader has no way of knowing if it’s true."

Although having said all that, I have a rule that I won’t meet one half of a couple alone. If I met a couple and liked them both enough then I’d be willing to consider meeting one of them on their own, but not for a first meet.

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By *rs RavensongWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham, Gloucestershire

I would find a joint WhatsApp conversation or something like that reassuring. If people want confirmation that you're both happy with how things are progressing, maybe a phone call or something like a personalised photo might help - similar to being photo verified on here.

I think it's really down to individuals, I generally take things on face value until someone gives me reason not to believe them, or red flags start to appear.

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