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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am on the dating scene as well, Pof, Tinder and so on. I have now come across three women recently in the chat who have said they have either been to a club or tried swinging if at least just watching. I am not fully convinced as the chat fizzles out later when all the information is out. Ladies do you think those women might be information gathering as they all seem to say been there done that and had my fair share so let's move on. That is unacceptable for me and think it is total bull. Guys have you had similar experience, and ladies you might have had that from guys too? Any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find once iv meet the guy the the messages stop.

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By *sianMancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I've met females from fab on pof who are there like me to date but even thought they would shag a fab member wouldn't date one and want to keep both sides of their lives private from any pof date.

That turned me off.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

From what I've read on here there seem to be a lot of people who think that if you are a swinger you are undateable which is pretty sad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I put two and two together. They could either be lying to see if I will ride with the conversation or they have swung before and realise that they are not genuine and don't want anyone who is interested in the scene either? It is a bit like tempting with a stick and carrot to get to a decision point based on the insincere conversation with possible deceit.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"From what I've read on here there seem to be a lot of people who think that if you are a swinger you are undateable which is pretty sad."

There's a TV show in there somewhere just waiting to be made.

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By *ightowlingWoman
over a year ago

Near Taunton


"I put two and two together. They could either be lying to see if I will ride with the conversation or they have swung before and realise that they are not genuine and don't want anyone who is interested in the scene either? It is a bit like tempting with a stick and carrot to get to a decision point based on the insincere conversation with possible deceit. "

I'm not following what you are saying but I sometimes do online dating and tbh I think it's probably a conversation to be had waaay after meeting. In fact I probably wouldn't mention it until I'd been dating someone for quite a while, if at all. I would never talk about fab in the messaging phase with a guy as I want him to like and want to meet ME not think 'hello, guaranteed sex!'

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By *ightowlingWoman
over a year ago

Near Taunton


"From what I've read on here there seem to be a lot of people who think that if you are a swinger you are undateable which is pretty sad."

I would have thought the same until I spent some time on here

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Are you saying that they don't want to date swingers ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I put two and two together. They could either be lying to see if I will ride with the conversation or they have swung before and realise that they are not genuine and don't want anyone who is interested in the scene either? It is a bit like tempting with a stick and carrot to get to a decision point based on the insincere conversation with possible deceit.

I'm not following what you are saying but I sometimes do online dating and tbh I think it's probably a conversation to be had waaay after meeting. In fact I probably wouldn't mention it until I'd been dating someone for quite a while, if at all. I would never talk about fab in the messaging phase with a guy as I want him to like and want to meet ME not think 'hello, guaranteed sex!' "

I hear what you are saying but the topic just seems to come up in the chat. Things like have you ticked any things off the bucket list or things to do? This makes me think the last one maybe did go to the club to view only and basically to be nosey, realising it was something she did not approve of and and brought it up to tease more info.. Just a thought.

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By *ightowlingWoman
over a year ago

Near Taunton

I'm not sure how sex can accidentally come up in conversation. Basically if you seriously want to meet / date someone, save the sex chat til you are better acquainted. Just my opinion of course.

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By *ightowlingWoman
over a year ago

Near Taunton


"I put two and two together. They could either be lying to see if I will ride with the conversation or they have swung before and realise that they are not genuine and don't want anyone who is interested in the scene either? It is a bit like tempting with a stick and carrot to get to a decision point based on the insincere conversation with possible deceit.

I'm not following what you are saying but I sometimes do online dating and tbh I think it's probably a conversation to be had waaay after meeting. In fact I probably wouldn't mention it until I'd been dating someone for quite a while, if at all. I would never talk about fab in the messaging phase with a guy as I want him to like and want to meet ME not think 'hello, guaranteed sex!'

I hear what you are saying but the topic just seems to come up in the chat. Things like have you ticked any things off the bucket list or things to do? This makes me think the last one maybe did go to the club to view only and basically to be nosey, realising it was something she did not approve of and and brought it up to tease more info.. Just a thought. "

Haha, it must be you - I've never had a chat from online dating accidentally diverge into swinging and sex clubs territory.

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By *heshire-cat74Woman
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent


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Haha, it must be you - I've never had a chat from online dating accidentally diverge into swinging and sex clubs territory. "

I have he recognised me from here

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By *ilkyladyWoman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Yet, had a nice time with someone from club, having a drink socially. Then he moaned about the lack of 'nice' women on sites like pof, but realised I didn't count as I was just a swing shag. He said as much too, I was taken aback a bit, but didn't say anything. Are women undateable too if they are swingers?

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By *ensousladyWoman
over a year ago

Naughtyville


"I am on the dating scene as well, Pof, Tinder and so on. I have now come across three women recently in the chat who have said they have either been to a club or tried swinging if at least just watching. I am not fully convinced as the chat fizzles out later when all the information is out. Ladies do you think those women might be information gathering as they all seem to say been there done that and had my fair share so let's move on. That is unacceptable for me and think it is total bull. Guys have you had similar experience, and ladies you might have had that from guys too? Any thoughts? "

I'm on Pof & have been for a month, most of the guys who message at first are quite open minded... until I come back at them about "their experiences" lol

They're not genuine swingers & are just chancing it in the hope of a quick fxxx!

As for the ladies, probably testing you

As for me, I want the best of both & not willing to give up my sexual freedom, so needs to be lifestyle orientated!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am on the dating scene as well, Pof, Tinder and so on. I have now come across three women recently in the chat who have said they have either been to a club or tried swinging if at least just watching. I am not fully convinced as the chat fizzles out later when all the information is out. Ladies do you think those women might be information gathering as they all seem to say been there done that and had my fair share so let's move on. That is unacceptable for me and think it is total bull. Guys have you had similar experience, and ladies you might have had that from guys too? Any thoughts?

I'm on Pof & have been for a month, most of the guys who message at first are quite open minded... until I come back at them about "their experiences" lol

They're not genuine swingers & are just chancing it in the hope of a quick fxxx!

As for the ladies, probably testing you

As for me, I want the best of both & not willing to give up my sexual freedom, so needs to be lifestyle orientated! "

My type of lady.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

When i'm on dating sites i look for mutuality but don't want to focus on just the sexual aspect of a relationship or only talk about that because a relationship would be about more than that and i often stop talking to guys who only focus on fetish or sexual chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When i'm on dating sites i look for mutuality but don't want to focus on just the sexual aspect of a relationship or only talk about that because a relationship would be about more than that and i often stop talking to guys who only focus on fetish or sexual chat."

Good point and think I have experienced this before on dating sites. Some of us guys do think that swinging women just love it and do it all the time hahaha.

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