FabSwingers.com forum: Can we not share timewasters and fakes in DMs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi everyone

I think we can't name and shame fakes and timewasters and rude profiles in public anymore but we can share their names on personal DMs, can't we ?

We are more than happy to share our experiences so other couples can be alert .

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I don't think it's against the rules to pm people about it, but I personally wouldn't bother.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What you do in your personal message is your own business isn't ?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why not put it behind you and carry on. We have all been let down at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one can stop you but I don't think it's worth the energy. Block and move on and don't waste a second longer

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not put it behind you and carry on. We have all been let down at some point. "

It's not about putting behind us or anyone ,I thought sharing may help making the site cleaner .

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Why not put it behind you and carry on. We have all been let down at some point.

It's not about putting behind us or anyone ,I thought sharing may help making the site cleaner .

I suppose it depends on your definition of time wasting and rudeness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No one can stop you but I don't think it's worth the energy. Block and move on and don't waste a second longer

xxx"

Offcourse we all do block assholes here and move on until someone gets stung by them. There are many newbies who may require assistance using this site.

Such steps may help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I suppose it depends on your definition of time wasting and rudeness."

Abusive

Arrogant

Obnoxious

Condescending

Fixing a meet and then not turning up

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

The couple in question - she likes those shoes doesn’t she?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The couple in question - she likes those shoes doesn’t she? "

You mean Rejection?

That's not the question here but general behavior and attitude or experiences, could be disaster meets etc

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I suppose it depends on your definition of time wasting and rudeness.

Abusive

Arrogant

Obnoxious

Condescending

Fixing a meet and then not turning up

The ones who don't turn up for a meet can be reported.

Everything else on your list seems rather subjective.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

It's not about putting behind us or anyone ,I thought sharing may help making the site cleaner .

Who will you share this information with??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The ones who don't turn up for a meet can be reported.

Everything else on your list seems rather subjective."

Still it's an issue ,isn't ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What someone seems like a time waster and fake to you may not seem the same to someone else. People are too quick to through the terms around without good reason.

If someone sent us a message slagging someone else - they'd be the ones going onto our block list.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Who will you share this information with??"

Well whosoever wants the info about prospective meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What someone seems like a time waster and fake to you may not seem the same to someone else. People are too quick to through the terms around without good reason.

If someone sent us a message slagging someone else - they'd be the ones going onto our block list.

Mrs"

Yes, them ones

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"The couple in question - she likes those shoes doesn’t she?

You mean Rejection?

That's not the question here but general behavior and attitude or experiences, could be disaster meets etc "

I was joking cos she has lots of pics of her shoes

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

You mentioned helping newbies...so people you don't really know? You could shoot yourself in the foot. People generally don't like being warned off others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What someone seems like a time waster and fake to you may not seem the same to someone else. People are too quick to through the terms around without good reason.

If someone sent us a message slagging someone else - they'd be the ones going onto our block list.

Mrs

Yes, them ones "

Let me clarify - if you sent us a message saying X and Y are time wasters, we would read it as you slagging them off.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You mentioned helping newbies...so people you don't really know? You could shoot yourself in the foot. People generally don't like being warned off others. "

Well we sought help from many people here in the past about meets by going through veris and other usual things .

And we do share the info in our meets too " Fab stories "

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By *wink loverMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I use fabguys much more than this site but tbh, I think I can spot a time waster a mile off. There's so many obvious red flags to look for.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

If someone sent us a message slagging someone else - they'd be the ones going onto our block list.

Mrs"

This

I would see the sender as trying to cause trouble regardless of their reasons for doing so

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What someone seems like a time waster and fake to you may not seem the same to someone else. People are too quick to through the terms around without good reason.

If someone sent us a message slagging someone else - they'd be the ones going onto our block list.

Mrs

Yes, them ones

Let me clarify - if you sent us a message saying X and Y are time wasters, we would read it as you slagging them off.

Mrs"

Slagging why ? We don't know them to slag about ,we can only share our experience.

I am just asking ,you may be right

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"You mentioned helping newbies...so people you don't really know? You could shoot yourself in the foot. People generally don't like being warned off others.

Well we sought help from many people here in the past about meets by going through veris and other usual things .

And we do share the info in our meets too " Fab stories "

You share details of your meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And we do share the info in our meets too " Fab stories "

That's just wonderful

Mrs

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land

"I use fabguys much more than this site but tbh, I think I can spot a time waster a mile off. There's so many obvious red flags to look for. "

Pretty much this (aside from the fact I’m not on Fab Guys) but the red flags do scream out easily.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And we do share the info in our meets too " Fab stories "

That's just wonderful

Mrs"

Thanks , everybody does by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And we do share the info in our meets too " Fab stories "

That's just wonderful

Mrs

Thanks , everybody does by the way "

I can assure you not everybody. We've been on the site for over 2 years with a little break in between - no stories about any other meets were shared by anybody.

Mrs

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By *iss ScherzzoWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I don’t share anything beyond verifications. Why would you share details? Do you use their names too?

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By *av501TV/TS
over a year ago

Mancetter?

"You mentioned helping newbies...so people you don't really know? You could shoot yourself in the foot. People generally don't like being warned off others.

Well we sought help from many people here in the past about meets by going through veris and other usual things .

And we do share the info in our meets too " Fab stories "

Your now getting into the realms of being indiscreet ????? I basically PM any unsavoury users tell THEM my reason for my upset then dont block ......gives them the opportunity to apologise, and take constructive critisism to help them be better...... go off with their tail between their arse cheeks or give me a torent of abuse .......which i laugh at and block them. Then i move on.......Lifes for Livin Not For Long xx

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