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 I just wanted to know everyone thoughts on the following, as a single guy we get alot of bad press, alot of couples have huge sections on their profiles now about how ALL SINGLE GUYS WILL BE BLOCKED IF WE WANT ONE WE WILL FIND YOU!!! I just think its abit harsh if I message a couple or single lady and thet delete the message I never harass lol | |||
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"How plain can it be?......they don't want you to contact them...they say so on their profiles....yet you still don't get it?"  | |||
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"How plain can it be?......they don't want you to contact them...they say so on their profiles....yet you still don't get it? I was waiting for the sarky replies, I simply meant single guys get bad press but alot is unjustified, if someone hasn't blocked single men from messaging them then if I like a profile I will message if it gets deleted or blocked then so be it, alot of profiles say no single men however in their looking for part it says men, woman, couples etc" And they will find the ones they want not be inundated with ones they don't want  | |||
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"Its there choice though I do see profiles that contradicts itself as in won't meet single men then further down says likes mmf well that needs a man don't it ! So I do see both sides of the coin if a couple stick to what they say its their choice but when they contradict themselves I fully on the single men's side " And they will find the ones they want not be inundated with ones they don't want | |||
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"Its there choice though I do see profiles that contradicts itself as in won't meet single men then further down says likes mmf well that needs a man don't it ! So I do see both sides of the coin if a couple stick to what they say its their choice but when they contradict themselves I fully on the single men's side " That's what I was talking about, if a couple contradicts and they like mmf or vwe guys etc then it doesn't make much sense having no single males in their status | |||
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"Its there choice though I do see profiles that contradicts itself as in won't meet single men then further down says likes mmf well that needs a man don't it ! So I do see both sides of the coin if a couple stick to what they say its their choice but when they contradict themselves I fully on the single men's side That's what I was talking about, if a couple contradicts and they like mmf or vwe guys etc then it doesn't make much sense having no single males in their status" Maybe not to you, but, it does to them and it is their profile not yours. | |||
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"Hey people I just wanted to know everyone thoughts on the following, as a single guy we get alot of bad press, alot of couples have huge sections on their profiles now about how ALL SINGLE GUYS WILL BE BLOCKED IF WE WANT ONE WE WILL FIND YOU!!! I just think its abit harsh if I message a couple or single lady and thet delete the message I never harass lol "Some people like a whole song and dance and like to talk down to single males. If they didnt want you to contact them they would have single males blocked on their mail settings. The deleting of mail and blocking of people gives them some kind of power trip. Probably had difficult upbringings. Take no notice of them, there are lots of other lovely people out there to meet  | |||
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" Some people like a whole song and dance and like to talk down to single males. If they didnt want you to contact them they would have single males blocked on their mail settings. The deleting of mail and blocking of people gives them some kind of power trip. Probably had difficult upbringings. Take no notice of them, there are lots of other lovely people out there to meet " | |||
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"Hey people I just wanted to know everyone thoughts on the following, as a single guy we get alot of bad press, alot of couples have huge sections on their profiles now about how ALL SINGLE GUYS WILL BE BLOCKED IF WE WANT ONE WE WILL FIND YOU!!! I just think its abit harsh if I message a couple or single lady and thet delete the message I never harass lol
Some people like a whole song and dance and like to talk down to single males. If they didnt want you to contact them they would have single males blocked on their mail settings. The deleting of mail and blocking of people gives them some kind of power trip. Probably had difficult upbringings. Take no notice of them, there are lots of other lovely people out there to meet " | |||
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"This was all a much tamer responce to the OP than I expected.... but single fems and cpls have a singnificantly higher message rate than single guys....its just cpls trying to manage message loading....and your right...they can bloke messages from single guys.... but what if they do meet the odd single guy ?" Well you cant have your cake and eat it  | |||
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"This was all a much tamer responce to the OP than I expected.... but single fems and cpls have a singnificantly higher message rate than single guys....its just cpls trying to manage message loading....and your right...they can bloke messages from single guys.... but what if they do meet the odd single guy ? Well you cant have your cake and eat it "Thats just it....we can and do regulary. YES it may seem unfair or out off balance....but its simply a buyers market for fems weather single or in a cpl. Look at my verifys...I do meet single guys before U go on attack. | |||
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"This was all a much tamer responce to the OP than I expected.... but single fems and cpls have a singnificantly higher message rate than single guys....its just cpls trying to manage message loading....and your right...they can bloke messages from single guys.... but what if they do meet the odd single guy ? Well you cant have your cake and eat it
Thats just it....we can and do regulary. YES it may seem unfair or out off balance....but its simply a buyers market for fems weather single or in a cpl. Look at my verifys...I do meet single guys before U go on attack."I wasn't on the attack i assure you, i was only pointing out that people in general cant have their cake and eat it ie. not block single males on ones message settings and expect no messages from single males! Never gonna happen in a million years no matter how nicely they put it on their profile. | |||
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"we have a seperate joint profile purely for single guys to contact us on as our couples one was inundated we dont wish to block them but when we post meets we only ever seem to get one or two couples message us but shed loads of single guys so our way of dealing with this is to keep a seperate profile for them." I never considered a 2nd profile...but you have me pondering it x  | |||
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"Its there choice though I do see profiles that contradicts itself as in won't meet single men then further down says likes mmf well that needs a man don't it ! So I do see both sides of the coin if a couple stick to what they say its their choice but when they contradict themselves I fully on the single men's side That's what I was talking about, if a couple contradicts and they like mmf or vwe guys etc then it doesn't make much sense having no single males in their status" makes perfect sense to me, and your psot explains why some choose to do it... lack of respect is a big problem...you just added to it  | |||
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"we don't meet single guys, but there are some single guys on here we chat to, who we have met at socials, clubs and have chatted to in chat rooms, who we like to keep in touch with. By blocking single men messages that would stop them from mailing us, which is a bit crap really. On this website we simply haven't ticked the looking for males box, but we still get men chancing their hand. Other websites don't have those check boxes so we put in the profile for single men not to message, we will find you if we need one, and we still get messages from single guys chancing their arm. We just ignore them, and if they try and try again we report. On here there are too many blocks, it stops you from messaging if outside some people age range, it stops you from messaging if your a single guy/woman or can be set to stop messages from couples... the problem with that is, we have found that people we have met at a club - and then see on here - we cant message, because we don't fit their profile settings on here lol"
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"A question for the ladies on the thread then....has the OP increased or decreased his chances off a meet with the ladies...here reading this ?????" do you need to ask...entitltment issues? check, lack of respect ? check inappropriate use of lol ? check Another example of why we should have a forum posts button on profiles? Oh yes | |||
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"we don't meet single guys, but there are some single guys on here we chat to, who we have met at socials, clubs and have chatted to in chat rooms, who we like to keep in touch with. By blocking single men messages that would stop them from mailing us, which is a bit crap really. On this website we simply haven't ticked the looking for males box, but we still get men chancing their hand. Other websites don't have those check boxes so we put in the profile for single men not to message, we will find you if we need one, and we still get messages from single guys chancing their arm. We just ignore them, and if they try and try again we report. On here there are too many blocks, it stops you from messaging if outside some people age range, it stops you from messaging if your a single guy/woman or can be set to stop messages from couples... the problem with that is, we have found that people we have met at a club - and then see on here - we cant message, because we don't fit their profile settings on here lol" But cant you initiate the messaging with the single guy even though single males are blocked? Likewise the couple you met at the club, cant they initiate a message conversation with you? That way you can reply even though you are out of their age limits. I thought this would be the case but im not entirely sure how the whole blocking system works  | |||
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"we don't meet single guys, but there are some single guys on here we chat to, who we have met at socials, clubs and have chatted to in chat rooms, who we like to keep in touch with. By blocking single men messages that would stop them from mailing us, which is a bit crap really. On this website we simply haven't ticked the looking for males box, but we still get men chancing their hand. Other websites don't have those check boxes so we put in the profile for single men not to message, we will find you if we need one, and we still get messages from single guys chancing their arm. We just ignore them, and if they try and try again we report. On here there are too many blocks, it stops you from messaging if outside some people age range, it stops you from messaging if your a single guy/woman or can be set to stop messages from couples... the problem with that is, we have found that people we have met at a club - and then see on here - we cant message, because we don't fit their profile settings on here lol But cant you initiate the messaging with the single guy even though single males are blocked? Likewise the couple you met at the club, cant they initiate a message conversation with you? That way you can reply even though you are out of their age limits. I thought this would be the case but im not entirely sure how the whole blocking system works "Just cause we recognise their profile, doesn't mean they'd recognise ours lol. And what if a guy we know wants/needs to message us first... | |||
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"we don't meet single guys, but there are some single guys on here we chat to, who we have met at socials, clubs and have chatted to in chat rooms, who we like to keep in touch with. By blocking single men messages that would stop them from mailing us, which is a bit crap really. On this website we simply haven't ticked the looking for males box, but we still get men chancing their hand. Other websites don't have those check boxes so we put in the profile for single men not to message, we will find you if we need one, and we still get messages from single guys chancing their arm. We just ignore them, and if they try and try again we report. On here there are too many blocks, it stops you from messaging if outside some people age range, it stops you from messaging if your a single guy/woman or can be set to stop messages from couples... the problem with that is, we have found that people we have met at a club - and then see on here - we cant message, because we don't fit their profile settings on here lol But cant you initiate the messaging with the single guy even though single males are blocked? Likewise the couple you met at the club, cant they initiate a message conversation with you? That way you can reply even though you are out of their age limits. I thought this would be the case but im not entirely sure how the whole blocking system works
Just cause we recognise their profile, doesn't mean they'd recognise ours lol.
And what if a guy we know wants/needs to message us first..."If he was in such high regard he'd have your number | |||
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"A question for the ladies on the thread then....has the OP increased or decreased his chances off a meet with the ladies...here reading this ????? do you need to ask...entitltment issues? check, lack of respect ? check inappropriate use of lol ? check Another example of why we should have a forum posts button on profiles? Oh yes "Oh no the spelling police are online  | |||
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"A question for the ladies on the thread then....has the OP increased or decreased his chances off a meet with the ladies...here reading this ?????" see this is the kind of narrow minded mentality ruining this site | |||
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"A question for the ladies on the thread then....has the OP increased or decreased his chances off a meet with the ladies...here reading this ????? see this is the kind of narrow minded mentality ruining this site" it only appears to be ruining it for you..it's a reasonable question | |||
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"A question for the ladies on the thread then....has the OP increased or decreased his chances off a meet with the ladies...here reading this ????? see this is the kind of narrow minded mentality ruining this site" No, I think it's the sense of entitlement and lack of respect exhibited by SOME single men that make some couples block ALL of them which in turn frustrates their fellow single man!  | |||
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"A question for the ladies on the thread then....has the OP increased or decreased his chances off a meet with the ladies...here reading this ????? see this is the kind of narrow minded mentality ruining this site it only appears to be ruining it for you..it's a reasonable question" | |||
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"A question for the ladies on the thread then....has the OP increased or decreased his chances off a meet with the ladies...here reading this ????? see this is the kind of narrow minded mentality ruining this site" Im not narrow minded in the least ! I tried to delicatly pose a question...to prompt some thought and discussion...in the hope that responces from females would enlighten the males in relation to this subject. I suggest u re-read all my posts on this thread and ponder that comment | |||
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"we don't meet single guys, but there are some single guys on here we chat to, who we have met at socials, clubs and have chatted to in chat rooms, who we like to keep in touch with. By blocking single men messages that would stop them from mailing us, which is a bit crap really. On this website we simply haven't ticked the looking for males box, but we still get men chancing their hand. Other websites don't have those check boxes so we put in the profile for single men not to message, we will find you if we need one, and we still get messages from single guys chancing their arm. We just ignore them, and if they try and try again we report. On here there are too many blocks, it stops you from messaging if outside some people age range, it stops you from messaging if your a single guy/woman or can be set to stop messages from couples... the problem with that is, we have found that people we have met at a club - and then see on here - we cant message, because we don't fit their profile settings on here lol But cant you initiate the messaging with the single guy even though single males are blocked? Likewise the couple you met at the club, cant they initiate a message conversation with you? That way you can reply even though you are out of their age limits. I thought this would be the case but im not entirely sure how the whole blocking system works
Just cause we recognise their profile, doesn't mean they'd recognise ours lol.
And what if a guy we know wants/needs to message us first...
If he was in such high regard he'd have your number "We don't always carry the "fun" phone around, but can log on discretely on our own mobiles whenever, but your being awfully pedantic . | |||
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"A question for the ladies on the thread then....has the OP increased or decreased his chances off a meet with the ladies...here reading this ????? see this is the kind of narrow minded mentality ruining this site it only appears to be ruining it for you..it's a reasonable question "Why the
You started a thread moaning about people who don't want to be contacted initially by single men. Your energies would be better used by contacting people who are happy for you to do so. Now I may be wrong but that seems like a bit of a no brainer. Whether someone has single men blocked or not isn't really your concern. It's their profile and manage it as they seem fit | |||
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"Maybe its my kind of profile thats confusing. I am not meeting anyone new at the moment, but not hiding my profile so that friends can message me. I think I have made that clear at the top of my profile, but I haven't deleted all the text below as I can't be bothered retyping when I am able to meet. I am still getting the occasional 'wanna chat' message though." friends, in fact anyone, can still message you if you hide your profile. | |||
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"How plain can it be?......they don't want you to contact them...they say so on their profiles....yet you still don't get it?" This. Why goesn't the OP understand this? | |||
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"Maybe its my kind of profile thats confusing. I am not meeting anyone new at the moment, but not hiding my profile so that friends can message me. I think I have made that clear at the top of my profile, but I haven't deleted all the text below as I can't be bothered retyping when I am able to meet. I am still getting the occasional 'wanna chat' message though. friends, in fact anyone, can still message you if you hide your profile." Now I didn't know that. Thanks for the info x | |||
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