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"It depends on the context. Some women love being called a slut in the bedroom but would hate to be called it in the street." when chris calls it me it makes me smile as i know theres no malice behind it x | |||
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"It depends on the context. Some women love being called a slut in the bedroom but would hate to be called it in the street." | |||
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"It depends on the context. Some women love being called a slut in the bedroom but would hate to be called it in the street. when chris calls it me it makes me smile as i know theres no malice behind it x" yup...kev calls me a dirty bitch and it makes me smile When Sir calls me a filthy slut, or used to refer to me as his slut it was because it excited me, and makes me react in a way he wants...words can be very powerful used well. | |||
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"i love calling a woman a dity fuck slut when im fucking her, 99% of the time women love it, i think most women are wanton sluts.hehe" i think at point u said this your fun would be over if it was me so clearly i am 1% that find it a completely turn off in any situation x | |||
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"i love calling a woman a dity fuck slut when im fucking her, 99% of the time women love it, i think most women are wanton sluts.hehe i think at point u said this your fun would be over if it was me so clearly i am 1% that find it a completely turn off in any situation x " It would be a turn off for m too, if a random meet spoke to me like that they would probably be singing soprano afterwards. | |||
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"i love calling a woman a dity fuck slut when im fucking her, 99% of the time women love it, i think most women are wanton sluts.hehe i think at point u said this your fun would be over if it was me so clearly i am 1% that find it a completely turn off in any situation x It would be a turn off for m too, if a random meet spoke to me like that they would probably be singing soprano afterwards." i think that maybe my reaction too extremely loud and not in a way they would like xx | |||
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"i love calling a woman a dity fuck slut when im fucking her, 99% of the time women love it, i think most women are wanton sluts.hehe i think at point u said this your fun would be over if it was me so clearly i am 1% that find it a completely turn off in any situation x It would be a turn off for m too, if a random meet spoke to me like that they would probably be singing soprano afterwards. i think that maybe my reaction too extremely loud and not in a way they would like xx" I saw his comment earlier and decided not to bother responding. I too am in the 1% that would be kicking his bits.... | |||
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"They only use them works in a offensive way because they cant comprehend being open to having the fun that you do. As long as you are having fun you have nothing to worry about." | |||
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"To be fair i used to be called "male slut" in my uni days. Didnt like it. its not something that a guy would get called in bedroom though unless he's being a sub. However Im very attracted to women who are liberal/open with sex. "slut" is used by people who still dont fully believe in equal rights." | |||
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"To be fair i used to be called "male slut" in my uni days. Didnt like it. its not something that a guy would get called in bedroom though unless he's being a sub. However Im very attracted to women who are liberal/open with sex. "slut" is used by people who still dont fully believe in equal rights." No, in your opinion it is...you admit you see the word as a bad thing, and for some reason about being sub, which is just hilarious... i know plenty of men who refer to themselves as male sluts, because they do not think it is a bad thing for a woman or a man to be. There would be equality when people like you didnt alut ahme by the back door. | |||
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"To be fair i used to be called "male slut" in my uni days. Didnt like it. its not something that a guy would get called in bedroom though unless he's being a sub. However Im very attracted to women who are liberal/open with sex. "slut" is used by people who still dont fully believe in equal rights." No, in your opinion it is...you admit you see the word as a bad thing, and for some reason about being sub, which is just hilarious... i know plenty of men who refer to themselves as male sluts, because they do not think it is a bad thing for a woman or a man to be. There would be equality when people like you didnt slut shame by the back door. | |||
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"I love all different kinds of fun, a fair few from the 'Interests' list on this site. (shock horror!) Sometimes people might say I'm 'dirty' or 'filthy' or that I'm a slut because I do this thing or that thing. But I really hate all those words. I just can't get my head round why any of it should be called 'dirty' or 'filthy'.... I enjoy it and it's lots of fun! A friend suggested that I shouldn't worry about being called a slut and just have fun doing 'slutty' things. I like thinking of it that way. (Just to clarify- I only hate the words, I love the dirty filthy slutty fun!!) What do you think about the words? Love them or hate them?! " I always think being broad minded starts with words but I know some struggle with certain words. I really think its more the context they are used in that matters though. | |||
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"I love it when mark calls me a filthy dirty slut,,, because im only a slut for him.. lol i'll do anything he wants whenever he wants... and that turns me on.. and he knows it! i don't see whats wrong with it.. i do some dirty things with him, and we love it! " | |||
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"To be fair i used to be called "male slut" in my uni days. Didnt like it. its not something that a guy would get called in bedroom though unless he's being a sub. However Im very attracted to women who are liberal/open with sex. "slut" is used by people who still dont fully believe in equal rights. No, in your opinion it is...you admit you see the word as a bad thing, and for some reason about being sub, which is just hilarious... i know plenty of men who refer to themselves as male sluts, because they do not think it is a bad thing for a woman or a man to be. There would be equality when people like you didnt slut shame by the back door." wtf are you on about? Were you d*unk when you tried to read my post? | |||
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"I think these comments say more about the people that are saying them !. This whole thing , I Think !, is about getting away from reality of life. If you enjoy, on one's doing anything they dont want to, good for you. I like it when Rosie tells me what she likes and fancies ?????. To use the words you mention are disgrace to those concerned and if poss, the site should take action. Blimey this was going to be quick note lol R & J x" Why should the site take action???some people like being called names during the throws of passion...so why say its a disgrace....just cause you dont like them! | |||
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"I think these comments say more about the people that are saying them !. This whole thing , I Think !, is about getting away from reality of life. If you enjoy, on one's doing anything they dont want to, good for you. I like it when Rosie tells me what she likes and fancies ?????. To use the words you mention are disgrace to those concerned and if poss, the site should take action. Blimey this was going to be quick note lol R & J x" Blimey think you need to take a chill pill. You want the site to take action? What for!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |||
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"I think these comments say more about the people that are saying them !. This whole thing , I Think !, is about getting away from reality of life. If you enjoy, on one's doing anything they dont want to, good for you. I like it when Rosie tells me what she likes and fancies ?????. To use the words you mention are disgrace to those concerned and if poss, the site should take action. Blimey this was going to be quick note lol R & J x" You dont like something and so you want the site to stop others enjoying it,even though it affects you in no way at all... Wow i can actually still be surprised by the small mindedness of some swingers | |||
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"To be fair i used to be called "male slut" in my uni days. Didnt like it. its not something that a guy would get called in bedroom though unless he's being a sub. However Im very attracted to women who are liberal/open with sex. "slut" is used by people who still dont fully believe in equal rights. No, in your opinion it is...you admit you see the word as a bad thing, and for some reason about being sub, which is just hilarious... i know plenty of men who refer to themselves as male sluts, because they do not think it is a bad thing for a woman or a man to be. There would be equality when people like you didnt slut shame by the back door. wtf are you on about? Were you d*unk when you tried to read my post? " no... You see a slut as a bad and demeaning thing ot be, and so make claims about thsoe who use the word, either as a label for themselves, or during sex with others... It says everything about your attitude and i dont like being lectured on sexual equality by a boy who cannot see how patronising that is. | |||
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"To be fair i used to be called "male slut" in my uni days. Didnt like it. its not something that a guy would get called in bedroom though unless he's being a sub. However Im very attracted to women who are liberal/open with sex. "slut" is used by people who still dont fully believe in equal rights. No, in your opinion it is...you admit you see the word as a bad thing, and for some reason about being sub, which is just hilarious... i know plenty of men who refer to themselves as male sluts, because they do not think it is a bad thing for a woman or a man to be. There would be equality when people like you didnt slut shame by the back door. wtf are you on about? Were you d*unk when you tried to read my post? no... You see a slut as a bad and demeaning thing ot be, and so make claims about thsoe who use the word, either as a label for themselves, or during sex with others... It says everything about your attitude and i dont like being lectured on sexual equality by a boy who cannot see how patronising that is." Well said Jem | |||
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"I think these comments say more about the people that are saying them !. This whole thing , I Think !, is about getting away from reality of life. If you enjoy, on one's doing anything they dont want to, good for you. I like it when Rosie tells me what she likes and fancies ?????. To use the words you mention are disgrace to those concerned and if poss, the site should take action. Blimey this was going to be quick note lol R & J x" ROFL - hope this post was a joke ? | |||
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"Not just the word slut but "dirty talk" in general is all subjective. Some like it some dont, some like certain words some dont. The key is to discuss things before you meet. As far as being called a slut or any word sexual in a message would get someone a block if i didnt know them and what context it was being used. I have my "everyday" persona and my "bedroom" persona and never the twain shall meet" I agree! This site is about adults having fun, different people enjoying sex in different ways, I would imagine most people on here are adult enough to know that the word slut which is normally used in a derogatory way towards women has a powerful and positive effect when used by couples in their own privacy. It can be used in a submissive way, it can also be used in a way describing a woman who knows, loves and enjoys sex and certain sexual acts and is not afraid to be open and say so. I find it used in these positive ways a real turn on. But only in intimate private moments with consenting adults who also get a turn on from it. It is not for some to judge what turns others on. Each to their own. | |||
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"Not just the word slut but "dirty talk" in general is all subjective. Some like it some dont, some like certain words some dont. The key is to discuss things before you meet. As far as being called a slut or any word sexual in a message would get someone a block if i didnt know them and what context it was being used. I have my "everyday" persona and my "bedroom" persona and never the twain shall meet I agree! This site is about adults having fun, different people enjoying sex in different ways, I would imagine most people on here are adult enough to know that the word slut which is normally used in a derogatory way towards women has a powerful and positive effect when used by couples in their own privacy. It can be used in a submissive way, it can also be used in a way describing a woman who knows, loves and enjoys sex and certain sexual acts and is not afraid to be open and say so. I find it used in these positive ways a real turn on. But only in intimate private moments with consenting adults who also get a turn on from it. It is not for some to judge what turns others on. Each to their own. " | |||
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" This site is about adults having fun, different people enjoying sex in different ways, I would imagine most people on here are adult enough to know that the word slut which is normally used in a derogatory way towards women has a powerful and positive effect when used by couples in their own privacy. It can be used in a submissive way, it can also be used in a way describing a woman who knows, loves and enjoys sex and certain sexual acts and is not afraid to be open and say so. I find it used in these positive ways a real turn on. But only in intimate private moments with consenting adults who also get a turn on from it. It is not for some to judge what turns others on. Each to their own. " I absolutely agree and I have no concern whatsoever about what consenting adults do in the privacy of their own relationship. My personal dislike is the fact that some people do not use the term in the privacy of a relationship, as you describe, but publicly as a way to describe their behaviour. Other people then see it being used, think its perfectly acceptable to call women sluts, and think because if women call themselves sluts then it must be ok for them to do it. For some women that may be acceptable, but for other women it is not. I would love to think that men would take time and make the effort to determine whether the person they are calling a slut thinks that is acceptable or not. The number of status updates 'Looking for sluts' suggests to me that this isnt the case. But absolutely agree - 'each to their own' | |||
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"One of the reasons I started this post was because I wanted to get over my 'word phobia'. I totally understand how 'slut' or 'dirty' etc can be horny, powerful words. I don't like feeling bad (who does lol) about things. It has actually helped me by reading everyone's responses. It's all about context, and being brave enough to say that actually I don't like it, so don't call me that unless we're.hard at it. Oooh group hug everyone!!! " It's always the context that counts ie smile when you call me that ? Personally I don't like the word slut but I might be persuaded to use it in the right place | |||
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"Somebody once asked me would I mind if they called me a 'Fat Slut' while they fucked me..... Needless to say I said yes and hit the block button " Before they met you in person? that's disrespectful and dreadful | |||
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"Was watching a documentary about the impact of porn which argued the case that porn gives guys an unrealistic view of woman, which effects the way they treat them, and to some extent believe this is true with some inexperienced men" Those guys don't have a proper distinction between reality and fantasy and should be avoided at the best of times... | |||
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"Those guys don't have a proper distinction between reality and fantasy and should be avoided at the best of times..." Very true, but a lot of the kids nowadays are watching this stuff on the internet and thinking that that's how women 'like it'. I'm in the camp that doesn't like being called names, as I see it as being derogatory and disrespectful. Sentences like 'you like that, don't you you dirty bitch' or 'dirty slut' has me stop play immediately and walking away, as it's a complete turn off. | |||
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"context is everything...i am a proud slut, i see it as a word that was used to attack women for behaving in a way that was acceptable for men. Rather as the organisors of the slut walks did i have taken it as a word that is only negative if you believe being sexual is negative for a woman. However if in a sexual situation the use of certain words decreases rather than increases your pleasure then dont use them or allow others too. There is no rule that says everyone is turned on by the same thing..." well said! | |||
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" No, in your opinion it is...you admit you see the word as a bad thing, and for some reason about being sub, which is just hilarious... You see a slut as a bad and demeaning thing ot be " do i? how did you work that one out? " and so make claims about thsoe who use the word, " could you please highlight where i did that, cos i think i must have missed what i wrote... " It says everything about your attitude" your ability to understand what people write, instead of just thinking with your own opinions says alot about your attitude " and i dont like being lectured" sorry, was i late for the lesson, who was lecturing? "on sexual equality by a boy" Hmmm... so you are strongly against sexual inequality, yet you have no issue with being ageist? "who cannot see how patronising that is" and your use of the word boy there is not patronising at all... | |||
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" No, in your opinion it is...you admit you see the word as a bad thing, and for some reason about being sub, which is just hilarious... You see a slut as a bad and demeaning thing ot be do i? how did you work that one out? and so make claims about thsoe who use the word, could you please highlight where i did that, cos i think i must have missed what i wrote... It says everything about your attitude your ability to understand what people write, instead of just thinking with your own opinions says alot about your attitude and i dont like being lectured sorry, was i late for the lesson, who was lecturing? on sexual equality by a boy Hmmm... so you are strongly against sexual inequality, yet you have no issue with being ageist? who cannot see how patronising that is and your use of the word boy there is not patronising at all... " "To be fair i used to be called "male slut" in my uni days. Didnt like " You presumably didnt like it for a reason, rather than seeing it as a descriptor of your sexual behaviour. " its not something that a guy would get called in bedroom though unless he's being a sub. " and so make claims about thsoe who use the word, could you please highlight where i did that, cos i think i must have missed what i wrote... You claimed men who use the word slut were subs i know plenty of men who are not sub but are sluts, Sir describes himself as a slut. He see's it as a term without derogatory overtones and simply a way of referring to sexual behaviour. And here you lecture, However Im very attracted to women who are liberal/open with sex. "slut" is used by people who still dont fully believe in equal rights. yes you are immature, so i used the word boy, or perhaps i might have asked you to google the term mansplaining...dont tell me what you think sexual equality is...accepting women and the fact they are also sexual beings who may not want to be patronized is at the heart of equality. If i enjoy in certain situations being called, or referring to myself as a slut, then i dont need you to tell me that it is not my right as a woman to do so. | |||
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