FabSwingers.com forum: How long did it take?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

From joining the Fab to having your first meet?

Did couples and women find it easier and single guys struggle?

I’m finding this site isn’t always good for the ego!

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By *eekcoupleforfunCouple
over a year ago

Right here

Easier when you are a couple

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By *atBottomGirlsWoman
over a year ago

St Austell-ish

"From joining the Fab to having your first meet?

Did couples and women find it easier and single guys struggle?

I’m finding this site isn’t always good for the ego! "

Days. Only because I didn't meet immediately.

Yes, it's different for women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From joining the Fab to having your first meet?

Did couples and women find it easier and single guys struggle?

I’m finding this site isn’t always good for the ego! "

Days here as well, you do get a lot of rejection but that’s to be expected. Be brave and look to engage with everyone just chat be yourself and the rest follows. No quick fix ... be prepared to do a lot of work

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By *ave1976XXXMan
over a year ago

newmarket

"From joining the Fab to having your first meet?

Did couples and women find it easier and single guys struggle?

I’m finding this site isn’t always good for the ego! "

Find meets as a single guy a struggle but first meet after joining was the same night. Takes a lot of work being single but get a meet every few weeks. Last was fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yooo you guys must be doing something right. When I first joined it took me forever to get a meet. I realised that you had to mix and mingle at parties and the rest of the meets become easier after a few people know you

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By *lackFun69Man
over a year ago

East Anglia

A few weeks, I chatted on the phone and had social meets which ended up being very hot times..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three and a half years...and that was just a social..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on here 12 years with 0 meets so far.

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By *entleman kinksterMan
over a year ago

london

A couple of months. Breakthrough was plucking up the courage to go to an organised social.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Wait what, people actually meet here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% of the people here are still waiting.....

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Easiest for women.

Next couples.

And then single guys.

Of course, that all depends what you are after, but it is generally accurate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had a meet. Since joining five months ago. No fault of my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First and only one so far was about 3 weeks ago (been on fab a few months and had an account before this one)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From joining the Fab to having your first meet?

Did couples and women find it easier and single guys struggle?

I’m finding this site isn’t always good for the ego! "

OP, get yourself down to your local swingers club and meet others for a social, this will increase your chances as you will meet new people who can verify you. Try not to expect straight Away, you will be left disappointed, be patient, will be worth the wait I’m sure

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Had a meet within a week as a single guy. Think I was incredibly lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 3 hours.

But it was a guy from here that I'd met previously from another site that I'd lost contact with.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Not had a meet. Since joining five months ago. No fault of my own "

Having checked your profile, I wouldn't be so sure you should not accept some of the fault!

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

About 6 months on first profile we could of met sooner was a confidence thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not had a meet. Since joining five months ago. No fault of my own

Having checked your profile, I wouldn't be so sure you should not accept some of the fault! "
if it happens it will happen

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Took us about 8 or 9 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple of months. Breakthrough was plucking up the courage to go to an organised social. "

^^ this. I recommend this to everyone.

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By *eardyBikerMan
over a year ago

nr stonehaven

A weekend , but I realise I was very fortunate in this regard

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Fours days, we were very lucky how things worked out. Was only meant to be a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 week

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

Had first meet long before joining

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Joined in Sept 13, first Social and veris meet in Oct 13, first play meet in Jan 14

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple of months. Breakthrough was plucking up the courage to go to an organised social.

^^ this. I recommend this to everyone."
no time to for big socials. I work on shifts

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Not long but we were going to clubs before we joined Fab so already in the lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

35 minutes was my record but I'm very competitive i plan to beat it

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By *_the_impalerMan
over a year ago

canterbury

A couple of weeks but I work shifts so a pain anyway posted when I was free and sent some messages

Remember you are still testing the water so don’t limit yourself and you will be fine

Clubs and parties are always good to get chatting and socialising with people and get some great advice

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By *entleman kinksterMan
over a year ago

london

"A couple of months. Breakthrough was plucking up the courage to go to an organised social.

^^ this. I recommend this to everyone."
us guys are still outnumbered so not easy to get noticed. That said. You are who you are and being true to yourself helps imho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple of months. Breakthrough was plucking up the courage to go to an organised social.

^^ this. I recommend this to everyone.no time to for big socials. I work on shifts "

Organised socials are once a month or less.

You can't manage one evening per month to attend to network and put yourself out there?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

2weeks but he stood me up

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I joined in 2012 and got a meet in the first week. Have been lucky since in that I can normally meet someone when the need is there. You get out of this place what you put in.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Can’t remember now, it’s been that long but last couple of years have been a struggle and harder to get meets, must be an age thing ?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"From joining the Fab to having your first meet?

Did couples and women find it easier and single guys struggle?

I’m finding this site isn’t always good for the ego! "

7 months... Wasn't a great meet.. Only lasted 40 seconds... I say no more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had a meet yet. Been on here about 2 months. ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on a bit more than a year now - nothing yet.

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By *edandLouCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Been on here 12 years with 0 meets so far."

Why are you still here if that isn't too rude a question.

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By *offee and KinksCouple
over a year ago

Notts/Derby

We are a couple but dont find fab that easy to arrange meets ... we have been stood up more times than not ... met one lovely man .. and one who wasnt for us ... thats in just under a year ... yes we are picky in that we like a social meet first and there has to be an attraction ..but still thats not great statistics

We do go to a club and have had lovely encounters there with single men/women/couples .. so thats our usual route these days but not totally given up on fab .. enjoy the forums and still hope it may lead to some lovely local encounters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got my first social in the first 3 weeks and first meet within 5 weeks. Which in the grand scheme of things isn't bad start.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"A couple of weeks but I work shifts so a pain anyway posted when I was free and sent some messages

Remember you are still testing the water so don’t limit yourself and you will be fine

Clubs and parties are always good to get chatting and socialising with people and get some great advice

I do double shifts and weekends so its impossible for me... Btw I'm off to Transylvania to see history of the ivan the impaler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From joining the Fab to having your first meet?

Did couples and women find it easier and single guys struggle?

I’m finding this site isn’t always good for the ego!

7 months... Wasn't a great meet.. Only lasted 40 seconds... I say no more

This is a good example of the persons profile being better than the person himself I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on here 12 years with 0 meets so far.

Why are you still here if that isn't too rude a question. "

The forums maybe?

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"From joining the Fab to having your first meet?

Did couples and women find it easier and single guys struggle?

I’m finding this site isn’t always good for the ego! "

We had meet before we were on Fab but Fab is hard on you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got offered meets within the first minute of joining

(fab standard idiotic wana meet for sex now messages)

It took me about a month before I found someone I wanted to meet.

Then didn't have sex with him until the second time we met.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

The opposite way round for us. We played in clubs first, with singles and couples, then joined fab to stay in touch with people we had met

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Had lots of offers from single guys, women and couples less so.

My life is a bit complex just now and work is manic, so I can see how they find that frustrating when trying to organise meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coupled months for me with lady in leeds mmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 2 weeks. Probably could have gotten a meet within minutes had the guys not all been the type that bombard women when they join

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We took about 8 months but that's mostly because we were living a long way apart. Now it's still a long time between meets because Hannah works abroad a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About 2 weeks. Probably could have gotten a meet within minutes had the guys not all been the type that bombard women when they join"
this is why I don't message newbies as its unfair, as They get hit n overwhelm with

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

About 2 months as a single guy 8 months as a couple. If you take it seriously then it will do your head in. No expectations then you will enjoy it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends what you're looking for I think. I'm in a couple but looking to meet bi/gay women 1-1. Only had 2 meets. I've attended socials and clubs with no success.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took a few months. Primarily because of time wasters and those that simply cant deliver what they spent so much time talking about. But as with all good things... patience was the virtue... and all worked out in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 2 years. But that with a bloke. It took four years to meet a woman

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By *he Little Fuck MachineMan
over a year ago

Co.Antrim

I was wondering the same as I know I need to be patient but at the same time I’m wondering when it’s time to accept the fact it may be futile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From joining the Fab to having your first meet?

Did couples and women find it easier and single guys struggle?

I’m finding this site isn’t always good for the ego! "

I’d have said about a fortnight the first time I joined or I’d have got bored and left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We joined Fan because a lot of our meets were already members and suggested we joined. After a while we gave up and joined

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I've been in here for so long now, I can't actually remember? Think it was a couple of months, and that was mainly because of my nervousness about the scene

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"From joining the Fab to having your first meet?

Did couples and women find it easier and single guys struggle?

I’m finding this site isn’t always good for the ego!

7 months... Wasn't a great meet.. Only lasted 40 seconds... I say no more

This is a good example of the persons profile being better than the person himself I guess. "

OR my technique too good for the youngster... All i know i walked away disappointed and hoping to meet a real stud

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By *ow Solo and SeekingCouple
over a year ago

ST9

On this couples account begging to think a meet is impossible, on my single account within the first week, lou x

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By *E_13Couple
over a year ago

Burton on trent

About 24hrs

We prefer to actually meet rather than just chatting rubbish on messages for days, not got the patience for it lol

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By *ow Solo and SeekingCouple
over a year ago

ST9

"About 24hrs

We prefer to actually meet rather than just chatting rubbish on messages for days, not got the patience for it lol"

Totally agree ,it drives me bonkers, think its taking us so long to get a meet as H only wants females , lou x

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By *E_13Couple
over a year ago

Burton on trent

"About 24hrs

We prefer to actually meet rather than just chatting rubbish on messages for days, not got the patience for it lol

Totally agree ,it drives me bonkers, think its taking us so long to get a meet as H only wants females , lou x"

I would say that's the problem, it's much easier to meet couples or single guys than it is single ladies. Not sure why but just seems to be the way it is

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By *oupleseekingCouple
over a year ago

nearby…..

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By *ow Solo and SeekingCouple
over a year ago

ST9

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By *ow Solo and SeekingCouple
over a year ago

ST9

"About 24hrs

We prefer to actually meet rather than just chatting rubbish on messages for days, not got the patience for it lol

Totally agree ,it drives me bonkers, think its taking us so long to get a meet as H only wants females , lou x

Cheers thanks for feedback much appreciated, lou x

I would say that's the problem, it's much easier to meet couples or single guys than it is single ladies. Not sure why but just seems to be the way it is

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By *pecialK88Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

About 3 weeks but was incredibly lucky as turned out we had so much in common. Still friends to this day.

I think for a single guy it's down to timing, location and luck. You can get a meet in a few days in the bigger cities.

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By *orovoyeurMan
over a year ago

Cumbria

I was really lucky tbh.

Within about two weeks of joining the site I was approached by a lovely lady a bit older than myself. Had our first meet within days and then became long term fuck buddies thereafter.

If only it was always as easy as that...

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By *ingerie whoreTV/TS
over a year ago

kirk hammerton

Not long at all for me it was a case of sorting time wasters out

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By *inkykernow39Woman
over a year ago

down west

A few days

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