FabSwingers.com forum: Couple's attitude's towards single guys

By *FM LOVER OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

Just checked online for a meet tonight and contacted a local couple I have met before (who shall remain nameless). They said that they were looking for a 10 min fuck and go and when questioned further about the meet they said "We like to use guys and then fuck them off after 10 minutes!" I find this attitude shocking I have also previously heard single guys described as "ten a penny!" Has anyone else experienced something similar?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah loads, i have read a few times where couples think a single guy should have no say in what happens on a meet and if they meet the guy plays by their rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different when the guy wants to use the coup,e or the single fem if u don't like it move on to another cpl

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Thing is some single men are prepared to jump through any hoops couples have to empty their sacs.

I find it amusing when said couples then post, incredulous that some single men have said no to their charms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just checked online for a meet tonight and contacted a local couple I have met before (who shall remain nameless). They said that they were looking for a 10 min fuck and go and when questioned further about the meet they said "We like to use guys and then fuck them off after 10 minutes!" I find this attitude shocking I have also previously heard single guys described as "ten a penny!" Has anyone else experienced something similar?"

So many types on here, you are bound to get a few like that. Arrogant bees. We are not all like that though. We really enjoy getting to know other swingers, be it couples or single men or women, though we do mostly play with couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the same attitude from couples its all about what they want. Not a thought about me I just a sex toy to do as told and they wonder why I won't comply. well its coz I not here as a free prostitute

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

It`s their choice! If it`s not for you then move on! There`s bound to be someone out there who wants what you want too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh there are all kinds on here

I find most of what people shocking to be honest

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By *FM LOVER OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

"Thing is some single men are prepared to jump through any hoops couples have to empty their sacs.

I find it amusing when said couples then post, incredulous that some single men have said no to their charms.

I agree when I think of some of the distances I have been expected to travel for meets at very short notice when the couple would not even entertain the idea of travelling themselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me........ I like the whole getting to know you experience, if I was that desperate to empty my sac as its so put, I'd have a wank and be done with it.

I've met a few couples that have made me feel like a performing seal

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

f you dont like couples that want a quick fuck and go....dont meet them.

there are enough people on here that play in many many different ways and its what makes fab great.

there are times when i want a fuck and go, when a friends tells me to get a warm up fuck so he can wait outside and watch him leave then come fuck me, there are also times when i spend the whole day with someone, they cook dinner for us, we have some wine and a good few sessions

variety is the spice of life

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

that is the great thing.. its called CHOICE...

now... there were 2 difference choices here...

1) not bother answering... not for me... onto the next profile so to speak

2) answer the ad... give in to their demands... leg over...

the interesting thing is you knew the info, and still answered them....

see... people will get away with making demands as long as people still give in to them in the pursuit of getting the leg over...

if people didn't... no meets... attitudes would change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the main reason we don't meet couples.

Although I don't play we have met a few couples a long time ago that just wanted to play with Shaz but because of bad experiences we just stick with single guys now.

Tony

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

that is the great thing.. its called CHOICE...

now... there were 2 difference choices here...

1) not bother answering... not for me... onto the next profile so to speak

2) answer the ad... give in to their demands... leg over...

the interesting thing is you knew the info, and still answered them....

see... people will get away with making demands as long as people still give in to them in the pursuit of getting the leg over...

if people didn't... no meets... attitudes would change"

As I said Fab, some single men will jump through hoops. If they said no of course attitudes would change, but they don't so they won't!

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

It's the old single men must pay for a hotel and still play by the couples rules which is the height of arrogancs

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"It's the old single men must pay for a hotel and still play by the couples rules which is the height of arrogancs

simple answer... don't

if you have that little respect to give in to demands for the sake of sex, then i am not sure if the problem is the people asking.. or the people giving in...

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"It's the old single men must pay for a hotel and still play by the couples rules which is the height of arrogancs

simple answer... don't

if you have that little respect to give in to demands for the sake of sex, then i am not sure if the problem is the people asking.. or the people giving in..."

I wouldn't it's my choice if I want to pay for a hotel - it's just an example of arrogance in my opinion

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By *aff-truckerMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Spend hours on here , studying couples profiles ! When I finally find 1 I think there is a chance with I mail or wink at ! 1 In about 20 only ever reply !

( then some put on there p

e that they get let down ! How does that work ? So hard for single guys I no , but a polite no thanks would be nice

Kev xxx

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By *idlifecrisis40Man
over a year ago

Manchester (North)

"yeah loads, i have read a few times where couples think a single guy should have no say in what happens on a meet and if they meet the guy plays by their rules

I've met a few couples and of course I play by their rules. They are a couple, they will have boundaries that they will have discussed with each other that they don't want to cross, fantasies they want to fulfil. If I can play a part in their joint fantasy then that is very flattering and not something I take lightly.

I don't know, maybe I'm more flexible in what I enjoy than most or maybe I just haven't got around enough to have encountered all these people with unreasonable rules yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's one of the reasons I won't play with an couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

here here,very true.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"It's the old single men must pay for a hotel and still play by the couples rules which is the height of arrogancs

you miht want to re-word that, it sounds like if you pay for the hotel you expect to be running the show

i get what you are saying though, couples who expect the single men to do whatever they want, including playin for the whole of the hotel bill are incredibly arrognat in my view.

there are even single fems who demand dinner or gifts!!

btw, i pay half and dont expect gifts guys

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

Hang on have I slipped into a parallel universe - a thread about couples instead of single guys

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Hang on have I slipped into a parallel universe - a thread about couples instead of single guys

shhhhhhh dont spook it - you might frighten it away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if a single guy wanted a quick fuck would he be classed as arrogant ?

If he wanted intimacy , a meal , some drinks and flirting and then if the chemistry was right a shag then surely meeting a couple would not necessarily be the right choice !

We have met quite a few single guys and although a ten minute fuck is never something we have wanted , a couple of hours is the norm for us. And we don't really want to make new best buddies , just enjoy the fun and move on .

So if a ten minute fuck and go is what they want , that's their choice and yours if it floats your boat - some of us know what we want and it's not arrogance it's just the way it is !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

There are some awful attitudes to single guys on here that make me cringe with embarrassment sometimes

But then there are just as many awful attitudes from guys,couples and females

Some of the problem is from people coming across as so desparate to get a shag that they allow those with the arrogant "you will do what we want,your opinion counts for nothing" attitudes to keep on having them!

No-one on here should be treated as a commodity just there to please another person

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"Hang on have I slipped into a parallel universe - a thread about couples instead of single guys

shhhhhhh dont spook it - you might frighten it away

Don't worry there will be a thread about single guys soon and all will be well in the world

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

this is slowly turning into a couples bashing thread that the normal single bashing .... but the result is going to be the same...

you are going to turn off potential playing partners.....

the choices are there on both sides.... and as i said, it takes two... those demanding, those giving in.... don't have one without the other....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some awful attitudes to single guys on here that make me cringe with embarrassment sometimes

But then there are just as many awful attitudes from guys,couples and females

No-one on here should be treated as a commodity just there to please another person

aaaaaannnddddd another one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One couple I was chatting to, and was looking likely to meet said that they would choose a suitable hotel, ok I thought not expecting the next bombshell, not only was the rack rate nearly £200 but they expected me to have my own room and I was going to pick up the bill for both.............me think not!

On the flip side tho, I have met several couples and single fems where costs have been shared, or I have chosen to pay a bill, been much more civilised

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"this is slowly turning into a couples bashing thread that the normal single bashing .... but the result is going to be the same...

you are going to turn off potential playing partners.....

the choices are there on both sides.... and as i said, it takes two... those demanding, those giving in.... don't have one without the other...."

its not turning INTO a couples bashing thread it was STARTED as a couple bashing thread

and if i turn off potential playing partners that think i should be grateul they chose me and that as a single i should put more effort into it or be bossed around then guess what.....no great loss to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing is some single men are prepared to jump through any hoops couples have to empty their sacs.

I find it amusing when said couples then post, incredulous that some single men have said no to their charms.

Spot on couldn't agree more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find some guys are here for the wrong reasons ,they are not into the same as us, had one guy say I'm bored in my hotel room do you wanna bring ur mrs over for a fuck, the answer back was get ur self a escort.most guys should be on a singles site or face book women always will have the last say on sex and always will so guys stop whining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is slowly turning into a couples bashing thread that the normal single bashing .... but the result is going to be the same...

you are going to turn off potential playing partners.....

the choices are there on both sides.... and as i said, it takes two... those demanding, those giving in.... don't have one without the other....

its not turning INTO a couples bashing thread it was STARTED as a couple bashing thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the old single men must pay for a hotel and still play by the couples rules which is the height of arrogancs

simple answer... don't

if you have that little respect to give in to demands for the sake of sex, then i am not sure if the problem is the people asking.. or the people giving in..."

Your right. The playing field is created as much by the guys as the couples.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"this is slowly turning into a couples bashing thread that the normal single bashing .... but the result is going to be the same...

you are going to turn off potential playing partners.....

the choices are there on both sides.... and as i said, it takes two... those demanding, those giving in.... don't have one without the other....

its not turning INTO a couples bashing thread it was STARTED as a couple bashing thread

thanks for not listening to the last bit i put in.. not normally like you so i am disappointed...

"the choices are there on both sides.... and as i said, it takes two... those demanding, those giving in.... don't have one without the other...."

both are equally culpable.. if enough people said no to the demands... it wouldn't happen...

just as if people didn't answer your profile you would change it...

but as you said in this or another thread... they do... so you don't...

the power goes both ways...

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By *partan_dMan
over a year ago

????

10minutes and then leave sounds reasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We find some guys are here for the wrong reasons ,they are not into the same as us, had one guy say I'm bored in my hotel room do you wanna bring ur mrs over for a fuck, the answer back was get ur self a escort.most guys should be on a singles site or face book women always will have the last say on sex and always will so guys stop whining "

Disagree with you. Women don't 'always' have the last say on sex with me. It's a shared 'say' or it doesn't happen. Desperation is not my master.

I have been lucky enough to meet some wonderful couples on here. I hope this thread is not giving the impression that all couples are arrogant and make unreasonable demands, because that simply is not true. In my experience the overwhelming majority are decent people with reasonable 'wants'.

There is unfortunately a vocal small minority who do try and take advantage.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"There are some awful attitudes to single guys on here that make me cringe with embarrassment sometimes

But then there are just as many awful attitudes from guys,couples and females

No-one on here should be treated as a commodity just there to please another person

Very well said

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Disagree with you. Women don't 'always' have the last say on sex with me. It's a shared 'say' or it doesn't happen. Desperation is not my master.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely right there.... they're all as bad sometimes!

Basic respect and a pinch of tact woudn't go amiss sometimes... Yes you may want a spare cock, fanny or whatever, but at least don't treat the person attached as fodder or unspecial when what you want from them is special

Wolf

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By *horleytwoCouple
over a year ago

chorley

So the OP has contacted a couple with a meet today icon on, they have been honest and upfront about what they wanted but he feels the need to start a thread complaining about them?

Its their meet and up to them what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disagree with you. Women don't 'always' have the last say on sex with me. It's a shared 'say' or it doesn't happen. Desperation is not my master.

well said, really good attitude to have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the OP has contacted a couple with a meet today icon on, they have been honest and upfront about what they wanted but he feels the need to start a thread complaining about them?

Its their meet and up to them what they want."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think its a bad thing.. all my meets know that the meet will not be a long one.. and sometimes we are looking for a quickie in and out.. no real chatting.. just in.. fuck ( well actually normally oral only) and go..

I think as long as its made clear what a couple wants...and it matches what the guy is looking for.. then where is the harm.

I never have long meets, its usually in, strip off.. play, and then they go... and I have not had a problem with it...

Of course its not for all.. but same as not everyone wants long, lingering sensual meets..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely right there.... they're all as bad sometimes!

Basic respect and a pinch of tact wouldn't go amiss sometimes... Yes you may want a spare cock, fanny or whatever, but at least don't treat the person attached as fodder or unspecial when what you want from them is special

Wolf

+i couldn't agree more i have had it happen to myself once where i was given a set of virtual instructions or orders on what i was to do at a play meet . Well i stopped taking orders when i left the army and after getting the orders i simply declined and left for home politely giving my reasons which was accepted if when discussed prior to the meet then anyone can make an informed adult choice ...to play or not to play that is the question

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Its their fantasy...one i also indulge in, it no more shows their attitude towards single men or believing they are ten a penny than Sir's attitude towards women is shown by him calling me a dirty little cunt....

nameless, no chit chat fucking carries its own thrill.

There are those who are dismissive of single men...however exploring a particular fantasy doesnt mean you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"......women always will have the last say on sex and always will so guys stop whining "

Absolute nonsense. Men have as much as a say as the women, they have as much right to say no to you or me as we have to them. It's 'we're better than singles' attitudes like yours that put me off ever wanting to play with couples.

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By *FM LOVER OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands

"So the OP has contacted a couple with a meet today icon on, they have been honest and upfront about what they wanted but he feels the need to start a thread complaining about them?

Its their meet and up to them what they want.

I am not questioning the length of the meet or what they are looking for it was the phrase "use them and fuck them off after 10 minutes!"

If you were invited round to a single guys house and afterwards you knew they had that attitude towards you would you be impressed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"......women always will have the last say on sex and always will so guys stop whining

I've said no on numerous occasions, and have said during a social meet that maybe I wasn't for them and vice versa, so we both have equal chances to say yes or no to it going further, be polite and honest

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"So the OP has contacted a couple with a meet today icon on, they have been honest and upfront about what they wanted but he feels the need to start a thread complaining about them?

Its their meet and up to them what they want.

I am not questioning the length of the meet or what they are looking for it was the phrase "use them and fuck them off after 10 minutes!"

If you were invited round to a single guys house and afterwards you knew they had that attitude towards you would you be impressed!"

depends on what i was looking for....as i said before its not a sign of any particular attitude but of a particular way they want to play today...

And they didnt tell u afterwards...they were clear and honest in their desire...which oddly seems to have upset you

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

but if you are looking for something specific then surely spelling it out first is fine?

we want a single guy, but only for oral.

the amount of guys that question this is wonderous.

you would think a bloke would be happy to get something than sit on the internet having a wank lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the OP has contacted a couple with a meet today icon on, they have been honest and upfront about what they wanted but he feels the need to start a thread complaining about them?

Its their meet and up to them what they want.

surely it's mutual?

Otherwise your treating the other side like a paid prostitute just without the money. This is just a lack of respect and another point to add to my list of reasons I don't meet couples.

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By *horleytwoCouple
over a year ago

chorley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As its been said many times comes down to choice. we have had good and bad meets with both cpls and single guys.swinging in our opinion is a huge learning curve and as time goes by you eventually find out whats best for you. However that doesn't mean it will suit everyone..... it also means you learn to spot the profiles that you know are not for you.... we just smile and move on if we find anyone demanding as no one is putting a gun to our head to meet. We decide who we meet, so in our opinion it a case of oh well, and move on !!!!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Ten a penny??!!! Have a quid here... Woohoo gonna have a good night!

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By *horleytwoCouple
over a year ago

chorley

If we put a icon up and tell guys what we are looking for then where is the problem? They are armed with the info before they decide if they are coming round or not. Most do and we allways get requests for a repeat visit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the OP has contacted a couple with a meet today icon on, they have been honest and upfront about what they wanted but he feels the need to start a thread complaining about them?

Its their meet and up to them what they want.

surely it's mutual?

Otherwise your treating the other side like a paid prostitute just without the money. This is just a lack of respect and another point to add to my list of reasons I don't meet couples."

It's a lack of respect if not discussed before any meet may take place, there will be some out there very happy for this kind of meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just couples, it's everyone who displays such an arrogant attitude.

But as it was highlighted here earlier, there will always be people here to do their bidding.

Personally, if someone can't meet me halfway in making plans then I immediately class it as a sign of selfishness.

If that's the case, I'm out!

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