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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I’m sat in a pub, having arranged a social with a seemingly nice lady from Fab.

We arranged to meet at 15:15

It’s now almost 15:45

I’ve messaged here to say I’ve arrived in case she’s running later but she’s not been on for over an hour.

How long is long enough to accept I’ve probably been stood up?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You've been stood up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m sat in a pub, having arranged a social with a seemingly nice lady from Fab.

We arranged to meet at 15:15

It’s now almost 15:45

I’ve messaged here to say I’ve arrived in case she’s running later but she’s not been on for over an hour.

How long is long enough to accept I’ve probably been stood up?"

If it's a decent pub I'd be in no rush to leave regardless. Just stay and get bladdered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put the name of the pub up and invite any other folk that are at a loose end to join you.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"So I’m sat in a pub, having arranged a social with a seemingly nice lady from Fab.

We arranged to meet at 15:15

It’s now almost 15:45

I’ve messaged here to say I’ve arrived in case she’s running later but she’s not been on for over an hour.

How long is long enough to accept I’ve probably been stood up?"

Is she verified? She "might" be running late but bad form to not let you know...so leave.

Is she non verified? You've been had.

Eitherway..report.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless she's in a tunnel and cant msg you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You've been stood up."

I think you’re right.

I don’t understand why people do this.

Why string someone along?

If you don’t want to meet just say?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it's a decent pub I'd be in no rush to leave regardless. Just stay and get bladdered."

Nice idea, but it’s 45 mins from where I live so I’ve got the car.

Think I’ll give it until 4pm and then push off

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

If you haven't seen her on cam I'd wager it was a guy posing as a female. That's why we never meet anyone we haven't seen on cam first. Report the account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s shitty mate - sounds like a stitch up

If so, don’t be afraid to name.... people just love to waste other people’s time

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I wait until I've finished my drink.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"So I’m sat in a pub, having arranged a social with a seemingly nice lady from Fab.

We arranged to meet at 15:15

It’s now almost 15:45

I’ve messaged here to say I’ve arrived in case she’s running later but she’s not been on for over an hour.

How long is long enough to accept I’ve probably been stood up?"

She's not coming.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She’s got a veri from someone I have spoke with so innocently assumed all was above board.

I’ve just messaged them to ask about the social they had with her.

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By *nlyIfItsWorthItMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Probably just a guy and the verification is probably his real account.

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By *atBottomGirlsWoman
over a year ago

St Austell-ish

I wait half hour, unless I'm really enjoying being out on my own.

I generally see a first meet up as a potential time to spend on my own.

It sucks to be stood up. Stand at the bar and enjoy a chat with someone else! Bet you're looking good and sure to catch someone else's attention!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"She’s got a veri from someone I have spoke with so innocently assumed all was above board.

I’ve just messaged them to ask about the social they had with her."

I think the best thing is to leave it, don’t message her veri’s. You’ve been stood up, it happens to most of us OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sincerely hope you didn't drop half a viagra an hour before

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lesson learned.

I’m offski

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m sat in a pub, having arranged a social with a seemingly nice lady from Fab.

We arranged to meet at 15:15

It’s now almost 15:45

I’ve messaged here to say I’ve arrived in case she’s running later but she’s not been on for over an hour.

How long is long enough to accept I’ve probably been stood up?

She's not coming."

Neither is he x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"So I’m sat in a pub, having arranged a social with a seemingly nice lady from Fab.

We arranged to meet at 15:15

It’s now almost 15:45

I’ve messaged here to say I’ve arrived in case she’s running later but she’s not been on for over an hour.

How long is long enough to accept I’ve probably been stood up?

She's not coming.

Neither is he x "

Xxx

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I sincerely hope you didn't drop half a viagra an hour before "

That would have been presumptuous?

A good reason for filters!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"She’s got a veri from someone I have spoke with so innocently assumed all was above board.

I’ve just messaged them to ask about the social they had with her."

From today?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry this happened to you, op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would give up and leave or just stay and chat to someone

I have been stood up 4 times out of 4 since being on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She’s got a veri from someone I have spoke with so innocently assumed all was above board.

I’ve just messaged them to ask about the social they had with her.

From today?"

No. It was from a couple of weeks ago.

But their locations are showing the same distance from me.

Betting it’s one and the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry this happened to you, op. "

Thankyou.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Sorry this happened to you, op.

Thankyou."

Poor you but you are not alone. It has happened 2x to me and to loads of others. It makes me so angry that folk waste peoples time as time is the most precious thing that we all have.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Profile reported after seeing her on here a number of times since.

I messaged to see if they’d had second thoughts or if something had cropped up.

Read but ignored.

Not sure if I’m allowed to name the profile here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s awful when this happens. I’ve been in this situation a few times. Chatting for days, plan & agree to meet, then nothing . It’s just how some people are I’m afraid best thing to do is report & warm others

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

If they hadn't been on even 5 minutes before we were due to meet, I'd assume I/we had been stood-up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you finished your pint yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wait for at least 6 hours she might have got stuck in the queue for toilet rolls at B&Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Profile reported after seeing her on here a number of times since.

I messaged to see if they’d had second thoughts or if something had cropped up.

Read but ignored.

Not sure if I’m allowed to name the profile here"

No, don't name them here or you’ll get a forum ban.

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Personally I only would wait 15mins without any contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've been stood up."

^this. She (or he) ain't coming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m sat in a pub, having arranged a social with a seemingly nice lady from Fab.

We arranged to meet at 15:15

It’s now almost 15:45

I’ve messaged here to say I’ve arrived in case she’s running later but she’s not been on for over an hour.

How long is long enough to accept I’ve probably been stood up?"

I've been stood up loads

You'll live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That’s shitty mate - sounds like a stitch up

If so, don’t be afraid to name.... people just love to waste other people’s time "

Naming and shaming is against site rules. If you wish to flount the rules, that's your call, but don't encourage others to do things that could land them on the naughty step

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.


"You've been stood up.

I think you’re right.

I don’t understand why people do this.

Why string someone along?

If you don’t want to meet just say?"

I think they do it as it gives them some kind of power trip, it's a horrible thing o happen but most of us have experience d it on here at at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had loads let me down in the past and paid for accom and travel costs it is a rotten feeling but its part of life, some people are not honourable

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By *tag and HellcatCouple
over a year ago

Notts/Derby

As a couple we have been let down so often we are almost surprised when folks do turn up ... i dont understand why anyone would go to the bother of arranging a meet to then not show .. for this reason we would only meet local to us and enjoy a drink .. the meet would be an added extra ..

Its a shame as we are completely genuine and if we arrange a meet bar emergencies would be there .. and cancel as soon as we could if an emergency did occur

Vixen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a couple we have been let down so often we are almost surprised when folks do turn up ... i dont understand why anyone would go to the bother of arranging a meet to then not show .. for this reason we would only meet local to us and enjoy a drink .. the meet would be an added extra ..

Its a shame as we are completely genuine and if we arrange a meet bar emergencies would be there .. and cancel as soon as we could if an emergency did occur

Vixen "
omg you're genuine, i do love genuine are you professional too?

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

Wouldnt go unless i had shared contact numbers so all parties can keep updated should there ever be an problems..

Touch wood.......never been any problems...

If not willing to share numbers then no meet......

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I’ve waited longer for a piss (think my prostrate is playing up) than half an hour.. if she ain’t there in another 2 minutes, write it off and get d*unk

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve waited longer for a piss (think my prostrate is playing up) than half an hour.. if she ain’t there in another 2 minutes, write it off and get d*unk "

You know this was last week??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's no message to say they'll be late (before the arranged time) we'll wait 10 minutes. After that we're gone.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you haven't seen her on cam I'd wager it was a guy posing as a female. That's why we never meet anyone we haven't seen on cam first. Report the account."

This 200%

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Until last orders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to give my excuses well in advance, low and behold instant block. You can't win either way sometimes on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had to give my excuses well in advance, low and behold instant block. You can't win either way sometimes on here lol"

It’s just numbers ultimately. Smile and redial as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never wait longer than 15 minutes unless they had made contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never wait longer than 15 minutes unless they had made contact. "
really.... even for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you actually spoken to the person or seen on cam. If none then it more than likely you have been timewaste.

Report the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve waited longer for a piss (think my prostrate is playing up) than half an hour.. if she ain’t there in another 2 minutes, write it off and get d*unk

You know this was last week?? "
and you're still waiting for him........... sorry i meant her

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