FabSwingers.com forum: Discreet Bi Men in Clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

From my experience most of the men I meet in clubs wait for their chance with any of the women, but on quiet nights (most nights) the men get tired watching the straight porn in the main TV room, and one by one they venture into the playrooms to jack off, and pretty soon there is a group (including me) in there and we make a night of it together. I wouldn't say every guy, but a large number of the guys who stay up late are bi, but they don't drop any hints or make any moves until they are convinced that no more women will be coming in. Anyone know why they don't make their move earlier? Is there a stigma against bi men in clubs? There was a guy who sucked me off in the main TV room, but every time a straight guy came in, he stopped sucking, and tried to 'act natural' and waited for his moment again. I thought to myself 'this is absurd'. Why are bi men so shy about their sexuality? I like an audience watching.

By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

Embarrassment and shame, they don't want people to know their true selves.

A couple of reasons not all though

•Being told it's wrong to enjoy homosexual acts

•There's still a stigma about bisexual people even in the gay scene

•That they don't care who it's with any holes a goal mentality, the only thing that concerns them is their own pleasure, the person is seen as an object no women about then the next best thing will do and being caught they have pangs of guilt because they objectified a person.

•Being caught as a straight person doing homosexual acts end up labeled as no longer straight

Pleasure is pleasure where ever it is found. If there's no attraction to a person and it's only a means to an end I wouldn't say the person was anything other than straight but what they would be is a opportunistic objectifying self indulgent person. The person they use regardless of gender is no more than an object to them so their gender means nothing.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks. That was a fascinating insight. The most noticeable difference I found is that the straight men and women are perfectly sociable before and after we have had fun, and they stay around afterwards and we resume our friendly chat, but the bi men will say very little before, and afterwards they just get up and leave immediately without even saying cheerio. There was one guy and after we had our fun, he just left as fast as he could, and when I went down to the reception area where the lockers are, I met him just as he was going out, and I said 'safe journey' and he did not even acknowledge me, and just rushed out the door. It almost feels like they are simply at swingers clubs out of impulse, and once they've relieved themselves, they come to their senses and leave as fast as they can. When I go, I make a night of it. Takes me about 20 minutes to 'refill' and then I'm ready to go again for some more fun and I head up stairs again. I'm usually one of the last people there, and sometimes help the staff tidy up.