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Do you prefer social meets or just plain old fun?

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By *rad_ell12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

So I've been using the site on and off for a while, just come back, and got me wondering, do you precer social with a few for fun, or to just jump straight too it, I also notice a lot of people will only meet at clubs, which part of me gets, but at the same point for anyone that doesn't use them, can become frustrating haha!

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We like to do social 1st but it could lead to a play if it's going well

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Social every time for us.

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By *rad_ell12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

I've only had the pleasure of meeting someone once off here and it was social first, which I prefer, but I do much prefer the whole chatting on here first than clubs, I feel like clubs for a single guy is a lot of pressure to do most of the chasing so to speak and even then I do feel like single guys get painted with the same brush a lot of the times, which is a shame lol, but such is the way!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I prefer a social,then to meet for fun if there's attraction and a connection.

My best meets always followed socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social with no expectations or designs on "fun". However when a social does go really well anything could happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a social and a bit of flirting more fun than just jumping into bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just sex.

I use FAB to satisfy that need only, I now prefer a few regular guys, then one offs. I socialise with my rl friends. Don’t get me wrong, these chatting, drinks and laughter, but the aim is sex xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meets with teasing ,flirting etc love them in

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By *rad_ell12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighouse


"I prefer a social,then to meet for fun if there's attraction and a connection.

My best meets always followed socials.

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Got to agree with that, I think there needs to be some kind of connection first, flirting etc

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By *rad_ell12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighouse


"Love a social and a bit of flirting more fun than just jumping into bed. "

Definitely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think you can beat a social meet. Lots of chat and lots of flirting and teasing. If the attraction is there fun to follow another day.

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border

Plain old fun for me

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By *rad_ell12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighouse


"I don’t think you can beat a social meet. Lots of chat and lots of flirting and teasing. If the attraction is there fun to follow another day. "

Im of that opinion, always better

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Any would be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only do a social of the guy wants it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love a good social, it's a fun night out in its own right, and if there's a connection, it can be the catalyst for something much steamier

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

Always social first. If it develops into more (usually a future date, occasionally later that night ) then great...if not, I've made a new friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d opt for the fun straight away, we can do the social stuff anytime

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By *rad_ell12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighouse

See what I'm noticing is, most, and not everyone but majority, of women and couples always say social first, which is the same as my thoughts on the whole thing really, to add too that then, so meets in general, do you organise them on the site? Because especiay near me, i see very little people chatting nevermind actually being active so to speak

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By *ildatheart6969Couple
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I've only had the pleasure of meeting someone once off here and it was social first, which I prefer, but I do much prefer the whole chatting on here first than clubs, I feel like clubs for a single guy is a lot of pressure to do most of the chasing so to speak and even then I do feel like single guys get painted with the same brush a lot of the times, which is a shame lol, but such is the way!"

Why take things so personal? As with most things in life nothing is ever easy whether it's a business, getting a job or seeking a gf.

It's not a free for all for anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See what I'm noticing is, most, and not everyone but majority, of women and couples always say social first, which is the same as my thoughts on the whole thing really, to add too that then, so meets in general, do you organise them on the site? Because especiay near me, i see very little people chatting nevermind actually being active so to speak"

I suspect the vast majority of meets are arranged via private messages, and not on the public forum.

We certainly wouldn't publish dates and locations on a public thread!

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman
over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS

Always a social first.

No cold hearted person here

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By *rad_ell12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighouse


"I've only had the pleasure of meeting someone once off here and it was social first, which I prefer, but I do much prefer the whole chatting on here first than clubs, I feel like clubs for a single guy is a lot of pressure to do most of the chasing so to speak and even then I do feel like single guys get painted with the same brush a lot of the times, which is a shame lol, but such is the way!

Why take things so personal? As with most things in life nothing is ever easy whether it's a business, getting a job or seeking a gf.

It's not a free for all for anyone"

Sorry I dont mean for this to come across as a moody rant! At all, I'm just making a post here, as I stated, its just an opinion, and one that tends to be true, no matter which way you look at it, not that I ever feel personally hard done by, just is what it is

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

The plan is always a social only meet 1st. Plans are only a plan though

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By *rad_ell12 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighouse


"See what I'm noticing is, most, and not everyone but majority, of women and couples always say social first, which is the same as my thoughts on the whole thing really, to add too that then, so meets in general, do you organise them on the site? Because especiay near me, i see very little people chatting nevermind actually being active so to speak

I suspect the vast majority of meets are arranged via private messages, and not on the public forum.

We certainly wouldn't publish dates and locations on a public thread! "

Of course! Thats more what I meant, not through the forums! As you say, dont want random folk turning up when you post details on here!

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

Social meet first, but only with the people we're interested in. Feel that people who insist on meeting in a club scenario are selfishly hedging their bets!

A good social meet can turn straight into fun too, why lose the chemistry of the moment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd love to have more socials, a pub meet, a few drinks to relax everybody, a lot of flirting.

It doesnt necessarily have to lead to sex the first time for at any time really, as long as everybody has fun, is comfortable and ends up a little bit hornier

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I will always have a social first and if the attraction is there then the next meet will for more.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

All of ours socials have been great, the naughty fun when it happens is a great bonus

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Fun only. I don't have a whole lot of time to socialize with my actual friends so if I have the time to meet up with a guy it's for fuckery fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The social side is really important to me. I love the flirting, banter, teasing whilst out for drinks, foods etc. Sex in risky places is always fun! I find connection sexually appealing not just looks. Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think you can beat a social meet. Lots of chat and lots of flirting and teasing. If the attraction is there fun to follow another day.

Im of that opinion, always better"

I think it all builds up to a great meet

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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Fun for me as I don't have a lot of time to socialise as it is and I basically just want guys for sex, so for me let's get down to it striaght away when I'm free..

Althou I do like lots of messages and phone calls before we meet and i do have regular guys I see that our 'friends' that I trust...

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By *aked_magicMan
over a year ago

the gutter looking at the stars (UAE)

Socail first for me without question. I have to get to know somebody a little first before any fun can happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we meet,we are meeting to play.

Yes with people we haven't met before,we get to know them a little,there must be some spark,but generally we are meeting to have sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first, it's essential.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Definitely a social to make sure we all get on and are all on same page...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social first for me!

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a socialite

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I'm like a vintage car, I need warming up and a social can do this.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I always ask for a social meet first, and leave the option of play on the first meet open. You know within the first five minutes whether anything is going to happen afterwards

I hear what you are saying about the club scene OP, and agree it can be pretty soul-destroying to be a single guy in one. I prefer private meets where I feel I’m an equal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been using the site on and off for a while, just come back, and got me wondering, do you precer social with a few for fun, or to just jump straight too it, I also notice a lot of people will only meet at clubs, which part of me gets, but at the same point for anyone that doesn't use them, can become frustrating haha!"

Social every time

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"So I've been using the site on and off for a while, just come back, and got me wondering, do you precer social with a few for fun, or to just jump straight too it, I also notice a lot of people will only meet at clubs, which part of me gets, but at the same point for anyone that doesn't use them, can become frustrating haha!"

Really depends on the chemistry with the guy i am with. There's no straightforward sinple answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a meet to get straight to it, but there will have been lots of commutation before the meet so you know that the conversation can flow and if you have the same sort of humour. I don’t mean rip each other’s clothes off as soon as the door opens, there’s at least 20 mins of chat over a a glass of wine first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been using the site on and off for a while, just come back, and got me wondering, do you precer social with a few for fun, or to just jump straight too it, I also notice a lot of people will only meet at clubs, which part of me gets, but at the same point for anyone that doesn't use them, can become frustrating haha!

Really depends on the chemistry with the guy i am with. There's no straightforward sinple answer"
sin... ple love it

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Social, lots flirting, banter, go with the flow us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social, lots flirting, banter, go with the flow us"
I'd flow with your go

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Social, lots flirting, banter, go with the flow usI'd flow with your go "

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"We like to do social 1st but it could lead to a play if it's going well"

We only meet if there’s definite attraction so arranging a social with an option to play afterwards works well, but never any pressure or assumptions. Sometimes it isn’t possible so will do a social first but the first option is our preference. Either meeting close to our or there’s when one could can accom, or holiday / weekend away meets where the trip and hotel is already booked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been using the site on and off for a while, just come back, and got me wondering, do you precer social with a few for fun, or to just jump straight too it, I also notice a lot of people will only meet at clubs, which part of me gets, but at the same point for anyone that doesn't use them, can become frustrating haha!"

you can have a social at a club and if the single guy does not show (like many do not) then there are others to talk to and socialize with which can lead to play and it is a safe enviroment.

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

We tend to always social first

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We have socials with our vanilla friends. We're here to fulfill our sexual fantasies, one of which is sex with total strangers. Clubs provide us with the ideal and safe environment to play out our fantasies and so far they have served us very well and we have had some great spontaneous sex with fellow clubbers. That isn't to say we haven't made friends through swinging too.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I would never agree to sex with someone i had not met socially first. Parties and clubs suit me best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always up for a social, but I have to say one of my best meets was very out of the blue and spontaneous. No social, just a couple of messages.

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

A bit of both is always good

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