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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Met a couple, got on great although the man seemed to be shall we say so laid back that i had to kick him to see if he was alive. So we meet in a hotel and have dinner, the wife who is the one supposedly who doesnt really know if she wants to swing is all over the wife in the loo and is right up for it.

The guy seems to be up for it but i had to check for a pulse before hand cause i am not sure if he had a brain bi-pass or not due to him saying nothing all night but " yeah im up for it".

So we go to the room and start playing and shes on me like a rash and grinding her crotch on me like it was someone sanding a bloody door down ( what is it with women who ride so bloody fast BTW) .

The guy starts playing with the wife and looking at his wife riding me and then shouts change and does his thing on her like a whirlwind and they both bugger off. Next day we had arranged to meet for breakfast but they had checked out and when we got home to say a polite thanks for the meet they had left the site lol. Doesnt give you too much confidence i can tell you

It appeared to us he got jellous and didnt like his wife messing with his shit but for gods sake you would expect people would have some clue before they start this stuff wouldnt you?.

Anyway thats one of our two bad meets what are yours?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they didn't know how they would react ...

Some people can handle it and some can't and shouldn't be judged for it

I actually applaud them for leaving the site and hope they are ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they didn't know how they would react ...

Some people can handle it and some can't and shouldn't be judged for it

I actually applaud them for leaving the site and hope they are ok "

I'd agree with that. However much you talk and fantasise about it, until you actually swing you can't tell how you'll react. If, and I agree it sounds as if he did fget jealous, he could have handled it a lot worse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

tis true what you say but it dosent make us feel any better. Maybe because we think of others too we found it not a nice way to go on,

Yes why the wife and i started we didnt know how to react but we also had get out words and such and would never of just buggered off and left the people feeling like dirt which they sure did to us.

Come on manners cost nothing and a simple its not for us would have been ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thought of him shouting"change" halfway through has creased me x

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

maybe he had forgot to get a parking ticket and was after change, might explain the need for a fast get away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met a couple, got on great although the man seemed to be shall we say so laid back that i had to kick him to see if he was alive. So we meet in a hotel and have dinner, the wife who is the one supposedly who doesnt really know if she wants to swing is all over the wife in the loo and is right up for it.

The guy seems to be up for it but i had to check for a pulse before hand cause i am not sure if he had a brain bi-pass or not due to him saying nothing all night but " yeah im up for it".

So we go to the room and start playing and shes on me like a rash and grinding her crotch on me like it was someone sanding a bloody door down ( what is it with women who ride so bloody fast BTW) .

The guy starts playing with the wife and looking at his wife riding me and then shouts change and does his thing on her like a whirlwind and they both bugger off. Next day we had arranged to meet for breakfast but they had checked out and when we got home to say a polite thanks for the meet they had left the site lol. Doesnt give you too much confidence i can tell you

It appeared to us he got jellous and didnt like his wife messing with his shit but for gods sake you would expect people would have some clue before they start this stuff wouldnt you?.

Anyway thats one of our two bad meets what are yours?"

Sounds like swinging wasn't for them, or at least one half! Could have been worse as mentioned above. My worst experience was getting lost in tesco when i was 3. Terrible. Cried and everything, mentally scared i was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tis true what you say but it dosent make us feel any better. Maybe because we think of others too we found it not a nice way to go on,

Yes why the wife and i started we didnt know how to react but we also had get out words and such and would never of just buggered off and left the people feeling like dirt which they sure did to us.

Come on manners cost nothing and a simple its not for us would have been ok"

Manners are subjective. Some may argue that starting a thread on here bitching about them is rude?

There were warning signs that the guy wasn't into it. What you have dismissed as "a brain bi-pass" was most likely nerves, did you check that they and he in particular were ok or just carry on regardless?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can rememeber once going on a vailla meet to connect this womans cooker , she was gonna get a non competant person to do it

i travelled all the way there , and she left me with some weirdo as i did then job and ran away ( something about picking her kid up)

i am glad i got out alive , and even better she is my fiance now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"tis true what you say but it dosent make us feel any better. Maybe because we think of others too we found it not a nice way to go on,

Yes why the wife and i started we didnt know how to react but we also had get out words and such and would never of just buggered off and left the people feeling like dirt which they sure did to us.

Come on manners cost nothing and a simple its not for us would have been ok

Manners are subjective. Some may argue that starting a thread on here bitching about them is rude?

There were warning signs that the guy wasn't into it. What you have dismissed as "a brain bi-pass" was most likely nerves, did you check that they and he in particular were ok or just carry on regardless?"

Yes i even took him outside on my own and asked him if it was what he really wanted. God both myself and wife could not have done more. We never ever expect anything from a meet and we have had a meet or two where nothing has happened but we all left as mates and had a good time.

Its easy i guess to blame us as some have seemed to but one thing you should rememeber i have not given names or anything away to out them on here so your bitching about them being rude is not really valid.

We never ever carry on reguadless and sometimes people are quiet how in hell is anyone to know what someone is like normaly tell me that. You would expect a partner to say if they are being different form normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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There were warning signs that the guy wasn't into it. What you have dismissed as "a brain bi-pass" was most likely nerves, did you check that they and he in particular were ok or just carry on regardless?"

I agree. It's not nice the way the OP has been treated but TBH we would never have got to that stage with them. I'm not saying we'd have deduced exactly what the problem was, but if we don't all get on like a house on fire then our clothes stay firmly on. If the other bloke just sat there saying nowt we'd have pulled the plug on the basis that we just weren't "clicking".

It's a shame for them too. I can imagine given the apparent difference in enthusiasm you describe, that they might have some soul searching to do and he might have some confidence & jealousy issues going forwards.

Still not nice to be treated the way you have though, I agree.

Luckily, we've not had a bad clothes-off meet. We've not gone ahead with a few meets, but never had a bad one after deciding to get naked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

There were warning signs that the guy wasn't into it. What you have dismissed as "a brain bi-pass" was most likely nerves, did you check that they and he in particular were ok or just carry on regardless?

I agree. It's not nice the way the OP has been treated but TBH we would never have got to that stage with them. I'm not saying we'd have deduced exactly what the problem was, but if we don't all get on like a house on fire then our clothes stay firmly on. If the other bloke just sat there saying nowt we'd have pulled the plug on the basis that we just weren't "clicking".

It's a shame for them too. I can imagine given the apparent difference in enthusiasm you describe, that they might have some soul searching to do and he might have some confidence & jealousy issues going forwards.

Still not nice to be treated the way you have though, I agree.

Luckily, we've not had a bad clothes-off meet. We've not gone ahead with a few meets, but never had a bad one after deciding to get naked "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

There were warning signs that the guy wasn't into it. What you have dismissed as "a brain bi-pass" was most likely nerves, did you check that they and he in particular were ok or just carry on regardless?

I agree. It's not nice the way the OP has been treated but TBH we would never have got to that stage with them. I'm not saying we'd have deduced exactly what the problem was, but if we don't all get on like a house on fire then our clothes stay firmly on. If the other bloke just sat there saying nowt we'd have pulled the plug on the basis that we just weren't "clicking".

It's a shame for them too. I can imagine given the apparent difference in enthusiasm you describe, that they might have some soul searching to do and he might have some confidence & jealousy issues going forwards.

Still not nice to be treated the way you have though, I agree.

Luckily, we've not had a bad clothes-off meet. We've not gone ahead with a few meets, but never had a bad one after deciding to get naked "

yes this is why the wife went into the loo to ask the lady and i took the guy outside to be really sure. Seriously what more can we do than ask a point blank question and add it doesnt matter if your not sure about it.

Its sad in truth but it was sad for all concerned and almost stopped me and the wife swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope it hasn't done any lasting damage :o) Must knock your confidence a bit though!?!?!

Closest we had to weirdness was someone saying "Can I just check - we're all finished now, right?". It wasn't offensive or anything like that, but it's really quite funny looking back. They were perfectly fine otherwise - kept in touch for a wee while but eventually went separate ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

There were warning signs that the guy wasn't into it. What you have dismissed as "a brain bi-pass" was most likely nerves, did you check that they and he in particular were ok or just carry on regardless?

I agree. It's not nice the way the OP has been treated but TBH we would never have got to that stage with them. I'm not saying we'd have deduced exactly what the problem was, but if we don't all get on like a house on fire then our clothes stay firmly on. If the other bloke just sat there saying nowt we'd have pulled the plug on the basis that we just weren't "clicking".

It's a shame for them too. I can imagine given the apparent difference in enthusiasm you describe, that they might have some soul searching to do and he might have some confidence & jealousy issues going forwards.

Still not nice to be treated the way you have though, I agree.

Luckily, we've not had a bad clothes-off meet. We've not gone ahead with a few meets, but never had a bad one after deciding to get naked

yes this is why the wife went into the loo to ask the lady and i took the guy outside to be really sure. Seriously what more can we do than ask a point blank question and add it doesnt matter if your not sure about it.

Its sad in truth but it was sad for all concerned and almost stopped me and the wife swinging"

I'm glad you didn't let it stop you. You can't be held responsible for other peoples actions and feelings. We've had similar and it's why we no-longer play with newbies. xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

There were warning signs that the guy wasn't into it. What you have dismissed as "a brain bi-pass" was most likely nerves, did you check that they and he in particular were ok or just carry on regardless?

I agree. It's not nice the way the OP has been treated but TBH we would never have got to that stage with them. I'm not saying we'd have deduced exactly what the problem was, but if we don't all get on like a house on fire then our clothes stay firmly on. If the other bloke just sat there saying nowt we'd have pulled the plug on the basis that we just weren't "clicking".

It's a shame for them too. I can imagine given the apparent difference in enthusiasm you describe, that they might have some soul searching to do and he might have some confidence & jealousy issues going forwards.

Still not nice to be treated the way you have though, I agree.

Luckily, we've not had a bad clothes-off meet. We've not gone ahead with a few meets, but never had a bad one after deciding to get naked

yes this is why the wife went into the loo to ask the lady and i took the guy outside to be really sure. Seriously what more can we do than ask a point blank question and add it doesnt matter if your not sure about it.

Its sad in truth but it was sad for all concerned and almost stopped me and the wife swinging

I'm glad you didn't let it stop you. You can't be held responsible for other peoples actions and feelings. We've had similar and it's why we no-longer play with newbies. xxxx "

Thanks its nice someone else understands XXX

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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago

southampton

It sounds to me as if the OP's tried their best to make the experience as comfortable for the other couple as possible. It also sounds to me as if the other couple had an alterior motive ie he wanted to watch her with another guy/gal etc. Soon as this had happened, their/his/her fantasy had been fulfilled, he shouts 'change,' he/they then get off on it quick as he/she/they can, then they both bugger off PDQ. If I'd been in the OP's position, I'd have been bloody baffled too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mine was on a similar sort of vain to yours also although in a slightly different way we had a wonderful evening good food good chat good quality wine then back to our room was in the highlands in a castle so big room four poster bed and we all mixed it up moans groans sweat all was fine until the guy stood up walked over to his trousers put them on called his partner a ******b***h and walked out it turns out he only agreed to doing it as a birthday gift to her and then got mad because first my then partner and the myself gave her multiple orgasms we locked the door and carried on blissfully unaware that he had gone to his room packed his stuff and left ....bloody 350 mile detor to take her home didnt even give petrol money although she did come to us as a single a few times after even staying for two months once needless to say i felt bad for them splitting as he could never get the image of me and the ex enjoying her .

although she was a true ginger so wasnt all bad heaven two ginger soft trimmed pussys in bed at the same time ...slightly obsessed with ginger hair natural that is...and while im on the subject wheres all the true ginger on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"mine was on a similar sort of vain to yours also although in a slightly different way we had a wonderful evening good food good chat good quality wine then back to our room was in the highlands in a castle so big room four poster bed and we all mixed it up moans groans sweat all was fine until the guy stood up walked over to his trousers put them on called his partner a ******b***h and walked out it turns out he only agreed to doing it as a birthday gift to her and then got mad because first my then partner and the myself gave her multiple orgasms we locked the door and carried on blissfully unaware that he had gone to his room packed his stuff and left ....bloody 350 mile detor to take her home didnt even give petrol money although she did come to us as a single a few times after even staying for two months once needless to say i felt bad for them splitting as he could never get the image of me and the ex enjoying her .

although she was a true ginger so wasnt all bad heaven two ginger soft trimmed pussys in bed at the same time ...slightly obsessed with ginger hair natural that is...and while im on the subject wheres all the true ginger on here "

Thanks you made me feel so much better about it :P

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