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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I had a meet today, was looking forward to a fun filled hour or so.

Less than 30 minutes in and my hard on had all but vanished.

I felt like the plastic prop in someone's fantasy. No sense of shared enjoyment.

Totally bummed as it was my first meet in absolutely ages...

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Oh well. Onwards and upwards.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

forest of Dean

Sorry OP

Damn thought it was about heading into London.

Wouldn’t be going if it was.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh well. Onwards and upwards. "

For sure. One dud meet does not make them all bad.

It just takes ages to get to that stage as a single guy on this site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry OP

Damn thought it was about heading into London.

Wouldn’t be going if it was."

Ta M&M, I had to travel for work and had a bit of extra time on the trip. So not a complete wasted journey.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

forest of Dean


"Sorry OP

Damn thought it was about heading into London.

Wouldn’t be going if it was.

Ta M&M, I had to travel for work and had a bit of extra time on the trip. So not a complete wasted journey."

Think we have all been there at some point

As the other poster said, onwards and upwards.

We learn from our mistakes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your kindness ladies, you have restored my faith in fellow Fabbers. Although my new rule is no fun meet without a proper social meet first. There must be a decent face to face spark, not just a messenger click.

Lesson learned, the hard way as usual.

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By *hippy57Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

M & m,smashing legs,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh well. Onwards and upwards. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soooooo your saying you didn't fancy her and therefore it was her fault?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Soooooo your saying you didn't fancy her and therefore it was her fault?! "

No, I am not saying that at all.

On this occasion I was from the moment of arrival treated like a puppet. ie: stand here, put your cock here, lie down like so, lick me here. I was at no time made to feel like I was there to share in the experience. I was literally treated like a robot/mannequin.

At a basic level, we all swing to share in our pleasure, to not just give but to receive. We try to create moments and memories to rem_mber, even treasure. Very intimate and very much shared between the parties involved.

In this instance the physical attraction quickly paled and faded away in the vacuum left by the total absence of the smallest person to person mental connection. There was no talking, no communication of any worth. Just grunted instructions of how I was expected to be.

I made a bad judgment call and am lamenting that fact.

I am the type of person who likes to communicate with my partners, to engage on as many levels as possible, not just go poke-poke-squirt-goodbye.

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

That sounds rubbish OP I also can't imagine it being great for the other person, these things work better with a connection I find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to every guy at some point you like got yourself to worked up if you hadn't had a meet in ages

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

This us one of the reasons why I absolutely always insist on at least one social meet to see if there's some sort of connection first

Sorry it didnt go as you hoped OP, certainly doesn't sound like much fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That sounds rubbish OP I also can't imagine it being great for the other person, these things work better with a connection I find."

Thanks Ember. I agree, and the last line of your profile says it perfectly too...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This us one of the reasons why I absolutely always insist on at least one social meet to see if there's some sort of connection first

Sorry it didnt go as you hoped OP, certainly doesn't sound like much fun"

Thanks JSM,

Next thing I'll be sounding like an electrician, asking people for sparks!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It happens to every guy at some point you like got yourself to worked up if you hadn't had a meet in ages "

Possibly, but that's not really like me, I'm too much of a realist.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It happens to every guy at some point you like got yourself to worked up if you hadn't had a meet in ages "

Possibly, but that's not really like me, I'm too much of a realist.

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By *m A FuckerMan
over a year ago

kingswood,surrey/leysdown kent


"It happens to every guy at some point you like got yourself to worked up if you hadn't had a meet in ages

Possibly, but that's not really like me, I'm too much of a realist."
believe it or not for me there has to be a connection,hard to find

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"believe it or not for me there has to be a connection,hard to find "

Ain't that the truth.

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire


"Sorry OP

Damn thought it was about heading into London.

Wouldn’t be going if it was.

Ta M&M, I had to travel for work and had a bit of extra time on the trip. So not a complete wasted journey.

Think we have all been there at some point

As the other poster said, onwards and upwards.

We learn from our mistakes. "
agree most of us have been there at some point, I feel you

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By *aughty Lovers 69Man
over a year ago

Wallasey

It happens OP, there are other ways to pleasure, don't feel bad, there are plenty more opportunities I'm sure. The pressure for guys is huge to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was it a sudden request? Or some kind of conducive lead in that significantly changed when you got there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soooooo your saying you didn't fancy her and therefore it was her fault?!

No, I am not saying that at all.

On this occasion I was from the moment of arrival treated like a puppet. ie: stand here, put your cock here, lie down like so, lick me here. I was at no time made to feel like I was there to share in the experience. I was literally treated like a robot/mannequin.

At a basic level, we all swing to share in our pleasure, to not just give but to receive. We try to create moments and memories to rem_mber, even treasure. Very intimate and very much shared between the parties involved.

In this instance the physical attraction quickly paled and faded away in the vacuum left by the total absence of the smallest person to person mental connection. There was no talking, no communication of any worth. Just grunted instructions of how I was expected to be.

I made a bad judgment call and am lamenting that fact.

I am the type of person who likes to communicate with my partners, to engage on as many levels as possible, not just go poke-poke-squirt-goodbye."

I would have left immediately!

Sounds like a porn star made to perform on command. Unbearable to even think about.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


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Totally bummed "

Literally ?

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By *olinOfBathMan
over a year ago

Corsham


"Totally bummed

Literally ?"

I like the way you think...

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"That sounds rubbish OP I also can't imagine it being great for the other person, these things work better with a connection I find.

Thanks Ember. I agree, and the last line of your profile says it perfectly too... "

Is never really thought it applying to men as well but yes, nobody wants to feel objectified (without consent )

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Sounds awful !

A social is always best first before moving on to a play date . However meets can still go wrong even after an initial social !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Everyone,

Thank you for hearing me out on my moan-post.

I appreciate all the understanding and support.

I'm back on my bicycle and ready to roll again.

Hope you all had a great start to the week.

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